Questions tagged [gifts]

For questions regarding the giving, receiving or selection of gifts between anybody. To be used with the tag of classification of the class of people the question applies to e.g. [tag:friends], also use culturally specific information and age group.

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How to stop family members from giving me pictures of their children? [duplicate]

I want to know how to politely ask family members to not give me pictures of their children. Every year I try to find suitable presents for my family members only to receive the exact same present ...
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How can I again be on friendly terms with a girl I have a crush on since she's avoiding me after I gave her a small gift?

I've met a girl in my department at university, and although I wasn't initially interested in her, she would often laugh at my dumbest jokes and flash me unwarranted smiles, so I thought perhaps she ...
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Is it common courtesy to leave a gift behind someone's door?

My landlord always gives me a birthday gift. He is too kind I know, but he never delivers the gift by himself, instead he leaves it in the common kitchen. Sometimes he also gives us a piece of cake ...
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How to determine which gesture of appreciation will be the most effective?

Recently, I decided to learn more about Love languages. According to this website, here is a list of the various way people can show appreciation for someone: Physical touch Gift giving Words of ...
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How to make a friend I secretly love feel special on Valentine’s Day

I’m thinking about mailing flowers and perhaps some tasty snacks— anonymously of course. This friend is often uncomfortable with romantic situations, particularly ones where reciprocity is of ...
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(How) can I ask gifts be in cash/check instead of more restrictive instruments?

When close family members give me gifts, it's often in the form of gift cards or pre-paid debit cards. I appreciate their generosity, and I spend the balances eventually, but I think both giver and ...
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How to make my girl buy me gifts without sounding needy?

I've been with this girl for 2 years now. Got to say it's been great for me because I actually love her and I have a feeling she does reciprocate those same sentiments. We moved in together at the end ...
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Is it better to ask parents of a kid if they are OK with a gift I buy for their child?

I don't come from a western culture and I am not sure what the norms of western culture are. In western countries, when you plan on buying a gift for a kid who is not yours, do you consult with ...
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How to add personal money to a gift without seeming ungrateful?

Let's consider the following situation: a family member has offered to buy me a given object as a gift, for example a table, with a given budget, for example 500€ (random object and amount of money). ...
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How can I convey to my dad that I like that he buys me things, but sometimes they are just not my taste?

I'm an adult male in his late 20's and have been living on my own for several years with a good job. My dad every so often will go to garage sales or the store and see something interesting he thinks ...
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How do I send money as wedding gift [closed]

My cousin is getting married. She is considerably younger in age and we live in different parts of the country. I would not be attending the wedding. I know how much I would like to gift. But how can ...
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Friend keeps gifting exipred items. How to politely bring it up?

Background info: the couple of times I have been in China and tried to buy some food from shops, I have noticed that all the things on sale were already past their expiry date. When discussing this ...
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How/whether to let people know I don't like receiving flowers?

My husband and I have never liked cut flowers, although we always accepted them graciously when they were given to us. It seemed a shame for people to spend money on something we don't like, but we ...
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What is the typical expectation for a gift to a male neighbour on his 60th birthday? [closed]

Apologies if it's a silly question but I am from a different country and therefore culture and so would be keen to learn about British gifts etiquette if there is one. In particular, a nice middle-...
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How to imply that the gift is meant for the two of us

The birthday of a friend is coming up. A month after that, there is a concert we both would like to see. So giving those concert tickets would be a great gift. If I just gift her two tickets, she ...
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What kind of birthday gift is appropriate for a recent friend? [closed]

A friend of mine has a birthday coming up and I want to give them a gift. Given my history of poor gift giving, I am trying to put more thought into this. However, we've only recently started talking (...
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How to get rid of an unwanted gift from in-laws without hurting feelings?

A few months ago, my wife's father and his girlfriend told us they wanted to get us a big leather chair for Christmas. We didn't really want a leather chair, nor did we have anywhere to put it, so we ...
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How can I ask a friend what his address is without raising suspicion about a gift I'll send them?

I have a birthday gift for my friend who lives in another country. I know what his address is, but I want to make sure he can receive packages or see if he moved or something. I also don't want to ...
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How to tell whether someone would like to have my painting, without imposing a gift on them?

I paint as a hobby. Made few hi-bye friends at office because of this. I would be happy to give my painting to someone who truly appreciates it from the bottom of their heart. Usually when a painting ...
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Friend wants rare vinyl record collection back after 7 years

About seven (7) years ago an older friend of mine, Craig, was having living and financial problems. I think he was getting some type of public assistance after he had to move out of his old family ...
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Politely paying back a loan that turned into a gift?

My partner and I have lived together for the last few years and during that time we have occasionally asked her father if we could borrow money, ranging from $500 to $5000 (roughly). The reason for ...
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How do I clarify that the gift someone gave me is mine when they are asking for it back?

I have a friend - let's call her Jane. Jane's a nice gal. We get along, meetup from time to time (when she doesn't decide to cancel at the last hour) and is someone I actually like hanging out with. ...
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How can I give a friend a present I brought her some time after her birthday? [closed]

I recently moved to a foreign country and I made a small group of friends using a Whatsapp group chat. I also happened to have birthday next month after I moved here and invited them all. Since I am ...
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Gift giving avoidance when individual has been avoiding me [closed]

Context I bought a gift for my friend who I also have a crush on, he is not aware of this fact. I purchased the gift that he chose 8 months ago, since then he has made no effort to meet me in order ...
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How can I communicate to friends and family that I don't want a specific type of birthday gift?

Disclaimer: It is not really a sock. It is an everyday, non-consumable article that I have way too much of. My birthday is in a few months, and every single year several people give me socks. It is ...
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How can I find out what surprise my wife wants?

My wife never gives any hints about what she wants for her birthday (even after extensive direct questioning), but is sometimes disappointed that I didn’t get her the right thing. This time, it ...
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Refusing gifts from an estranged relative

Background: I am estranged from my sister. The last time I had a substantial conversation with her was ~4 months ago, and her response the last time I initiated contact, via text about ~3 months ago, ...
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How do you choose holiday gifts for relatives [closed]

I am laughably bad at choosing gifts for people. It’s very, very hard for me to come up with gift ideas, even for people I know well (most relatives, including my wife.) It’s almost like a form of ...
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A friend gifted me a relatively expensive present, what present is appropriate for me to give him back [closed]

I've been given a smart-watch as New Year present by a friend. I didn't expect it and didn't think our presents are going to be in that higher price range. Now I'm conflicted about what to do. I hate ...
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How soon after Christmas should I give a gift? [closed]

I postponed buying my brother and his girlfriend a (specific) Christmas gift because I wanted to check if they have already bought it. Then I forgot about it. When I remembered, the stores selling ...
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How to apologize for not sending gifts to every member of the family this Christmas

My mom and I have kept in touch with my ex's parents, mostly his mom "Suzanne" and grandma. So we wanted and decided to send a Christmas card. My mom also wanted to make something for Suzanne, which ...
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How to ask to pay for products from a friend's shop rather than accepting them as gifts without being rude?

Little bit of background: a few weeks ago, my friend/coworker's sister, we'll call her Lila, opened up a shop with her boyfriend, let's call him Mark, about things that generally interest me. I've ...
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How to talk to a person not sticking to the rules of a secret santa and disappointing the receiver of their gift?

Time for a holiday-themed question. I lead a small online group in an MMORPG. For the holidays, we decided to exchange gifts ala Secret Santa. As leader, I took it upon myself to organize the whole ...
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How can I convince my girlfriend not to worry about gifts I give her?

Our Background My girlfriend was born in Laos and is currently living with her family in France. Money has always been a problem for her and her family. Her parents both don't earn a lot and ...
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How to find out if a party received your gift if it hasn't been somehow acknowledged?

This past winter, a pair of neighbors dug me out of a snowstorm*. I was incredibly grateful, as it was very deep and it would have taken me days to do what they did together in about two hours. I ...
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Is a move-in gift a good idea?

One of my coworkers is moving out of their parents' house this weekend to get an apartment of their own. I think it would be a nice gesture to get a small "move-in present." I'm on friendly terms ...
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I gave a “gift” back to a friend after he asked for it back, and now he is trying to tax me for using it [closed]

I'm usually good at this sort of stuff but I don't know how to handle this situation. I'll start from the beginning. Backstory About 2-3 years ago, a good friend of mine, Henry, stole a grinder from ...
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When to open a gift / present given in person

Question: When given a token gift in person (say a housewarming present or a thank you card), is it generally expected that it will be opened immediately in the presence of the giver and discussed, or ...
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Can I give flowers to a feminist as a present for hosting a party? [closed]

My wife and I are going to a social event to the house of a (not so close but still) friend who is a self-declared and active feminist (e.g. she blogs about it). For such social events, we normally ...
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Received a large monetary gift from an estranged grandparent - now what?

This afternoon my parents visited me. It was all pretty normal until just before they left, they told me that my estranged grandfather apparently suddenly felt the need to donate a large gift of money ...
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Am I expected to bring a wedding gift if only invited to the evening reception?

A work colleague invited me and my partner (we live in London) to her wedding evening reception (starting at 7pm). We are French and this will be our first English wedding. We are not invited to the ...
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How can I tell a friend to bring something I actually enjoy eating if they will bring something anyway?

My boyfriend's brother-in-law (Bob) visits my boyfriend from time to time. Because he owns a bakery he always brings us a bag full of goodies. The bag almost always includes the following :a ...
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Should I monetarily reward the person who found my phone? [closed]

I just lost my mobile phone in the bus on my way to work (left it on the seat). I called from another phone, and someone answered me, telling me that indeed I had left my phone in the bus seat. We are ...
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Asking family members to not send gifts

Note: This is similar to How do I effectively forestall gifts for my birthday?, but this is specifically about family members, and isn't in the context of a party. I want a specific person to stop ...
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How to ensure that I will see my friend on her birthday?

Background: I am from Hong Kong, studying in a university. My friend's birthday is coming and I prepared a gift for her. In order to actually give her the gift, I have to meet her somewhere on her ...
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How do I effectively forestall gifts for my birthday?

I have a milestone birthday coming up, and a friend insists on giving me a party. But please, no presents! I don't like stuff to begin with, I have everything I need or want already, and am in de-...
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Can I buy my friend a gift I am also going to buy a copy for myself? [closed]

My friend's birthday is next week. While I was shopping for her, I saw a nifty cat toy that would help keep her cat entertained while she was at work. I then realized that my cats would also enjoy a ...