Questions tagged [helping]

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How do I politely refuse doing a favor for a friend?

I have a friend who doesn't speak English very well. She once asked me to help her with a small text that had just about two paragraphs and I helped her, correcting the mistakes that she made. After ...
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Warning someone that they have been suckered into a scam

A friend of mine (let's call her Anne) was recently drawn into attending life-coaching sessions, through an organization which is a scam based on the Lifespring model (tl;dr they give you a ...
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How to ask if I can mow my neighbor's lawn

My neighbor and I share a lawn. It isn't clear where the property line is without looking it up in an official resource since there are no physical barriers between us. His house is quite a bit nicer ...
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How to stop someone from helping you?

Today, I had some difficulties with an Excel function so, after a meeting, I asked two of my coworkers if they knew how to solve my issue (since I thought it was an easy problem and they have more ...
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How do you maintain relations after you've received help from an acquaintance?

I'm not talking about workplaces. I'm talking about friends outside the workplace. Maybe you have a friend and got introduced to his friend (X) sometime. Then after a couple of years you needed help ...
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Friend attempts suicide, but is now acting perfectly fine. What can I do?

I am a college student. My friend (who I have known for almost 3 years now) attempted suicide 4 days ago by overdosing on sleeping pills, but not taking a sufficiently high dosage. I only learnt about ...
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What is “holding space” and how do I do it?

I recently came across an article titled A Man's Guide To "Holding Space", which was linked in an answer to this question. I had never heard the term before, but recognised some of my own patterns of ...
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How to help a friend through a rough breakup when his actions are testing the limits of my patience?

One of my close friends, who is 25, has recently broken up with his girlfriend of 10-11 months. Naturally, he has turned to me and other people close to him for help and support. My friend is, by ...
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How do I make my criticism constructive?

Occasionally, I will find myself in a position where I believe I have some insight as to how someone could improve. I have been thinking about how to give good constructive criticism and although ...
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How to help a friend who has faced several personal, related problems in a short timespan

For what it's worth, this friend (I'll call him Jon) has Asperger's. The problems Lately, Jon's life has been a rollercoaster of emotions. It all started when his mom (I'll call her Jane), after ...
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How can I tell a friend that their self-published book needs editing?

Background An acquaintance of mine and his wife just self-published a very short book. Unfortunately, it has scores of grammatical mistakes on most pages. My friend and his wife have a great message ...
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As a PhD student, how can I politely tell Masters students that I don't have time to help them

About myself: I am a PhD students currently in fifth year of the program. I have a lot of work to finish within a few months to wrap up my work and submit my thesis before the start of the sixth year(...
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How can I politely refuse to help classmates with their work?

I am the smart guy at school and people always want my help. I don't want to be rude, but they pester me and I try to escape but I can't -- I end up spending a lot of time helping them to do a ...
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How to deal with people who are aggressive when providing/denying help with problems?

I do programming and web development as a hobby, and I have experience building computers, and have fixed computers in the past, so naturally I'm going to seem like a good fit for solving most people'...
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How to say no to people asking for charity without feeling bad about it? [closed]

Now don't get me wrong, I know the title of the question can feel a little awkward, but I am a person who chooses his "battles" very carefully, therefore helping those in need is something that I don'...
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How best to offer practical assistance?

This question begins with a story from earlier today. An elderly lady sat in the marketplace when I overheard her telling the security guard that her house didn't have heating or electricity. I ...
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How to Disengage From Complaining Co-Worker [closed]

I need advice on how to deal with this co-worker that complains VERY ferociously about issues, with almost all of them being minor issues. If I do not cut her off she seems to go on forever. Once I ...
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My friend doesn't realise he's fallen for a multi-level marketing scheme. How can I help? [closed]

A friend of mine (originally my personal trainer, I don't see him any more, but we keep in contact) is caught up in a MLM scheme. This is a well known scheme and there is a lot of info out there about ...
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How can I help my partner with her body image without offending her?

I have been together with my girlfriend (let's call her Alice) for about one and a half years, with most part of it being long-distance due to her father working in another country and bringing the ...
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How to politely handle support requests which lack some basic understanding?

So as a free software developer, I'm fond that there are users of my projects. However, from time to time, it happens that some people who are definitely not in the target audience for a piece of ...
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How to constructively engage a female friend with possible body image problems?

A few months ago, I happened to reconnect with one of my friends, and noticed she was thinner than I remember. She had always been a thin girl, but now she looked even more so. Just yesterday I saw ...
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Ask for support with weight loss, without sounding tedious

My question is sort-of related to this one but has the roles reversed. I've been overweight for at least 10 years, and obese for approximately 6. Last February, I decided to better my life. I've ...
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How to efficiently and effectively decline help, being somewhat rude if necessary

As a person who is what is euphemistically called a "senior citizen" I occasionally receive offers of "help" that I do not need and do not want. Maybe in 10 years I will, but not now. I cannot figure ...
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How to overcome the anxiety occuring when one wants to ask for help? [closed]

Very often, when I need someone's help (be it a little advice or the need of an item, be it at the work or among friends, and so on) a feeling of stress comes over my mind. I found out it has various ...