Questions tagged [how-to-help]

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How to deal with a family member who does not care about anything in life?

TL;DR How to help/support a close person with no long-term goals in life who shies away from everything that is not immediately rewarding. My brother seems to be completely unmotivated. The only ...
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How to ask someone how their diet is going

A bunch of my coworkers started a diet as part of their New Year's resolutions. I don't have much in common with most of them, and often have trouble finding topics for small talk. Since dieting is ...
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How to help someone who threatens self-harm over the internet? [closed]

I'm not sure if it belongs here but I'm at a loss. There's a woman in South Africa who doesn't have anyone to turn to. I'm trying to help talk her out of harming herself. She says she's lost ...
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How would I help a person who is bored of everything to start being a little more productive? [closed]

I have a friend who is literally bored of everything (Male, in his twenties, student). The individual is studying a very interesting subject, Computing Science. He is an average student. He is in his ...
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How to help a mate overcome being kicked out of university?

I've got a new friend of mine, call her Sue. Sue got kicked out of university today. We haven't known each other for a long time, but I do feel like helping her. I want to help her prevent/overcome ...
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How to encourage a relative to follow their initial will to try therapy?

The elder sister of my boyfriend is in a situation I would not envy: being in her 50s, jobless and no qualification, married to someone she doesn't really love and controlling her finance tightly, ...
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My boyfriend blocked me, I would like to make up with him

Background: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost four years. We are a long distance couple. Basically my boyfriend blocked me on all social media because I have overreacted on him. That was two ...
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Can't get through to someone who needs help

I've known someone through a social activity group for about a year. At first he seemed a bit odd, but more or less harmless. He's a smart and funny guy and it can be good talking with him in short ...
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How to support people who feel something mistakenly without invalidating their feelings

A few times recently I've found myself trying to offer support to people that are unhappy because they feel something that I think is false. For example, my girlfriend sometimes says "I feel so ...
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Relationship with alcoholic cross country? [closed]

I am struggling to figure out how to have a productive relationship with a friend struggling with alcoholism cross country. We were both part of a large and strong friend group in college. After ...
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How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity

I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. She is very intelligent and has a warm, caring personality. However, one thing I noticed is that she is somewhat reluctant to have her own opinions on a lot ...
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What type of support should I offer my partner who clearly hates his job?

Background I'm a 22-year-old and have a long-time partner, who I have been with since we met at university. We both live in the Midwest in the United States, and have been planning to move into an ...
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How to get close to a old friend, who dosen't look that good now

I had a really good friend (let's call him X). We were the kind of friends which teachers would call inseparable. We went to the same school, the same private tuition and then hung out for some time. ...
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Disproving false beliefs of an acquaintance which may be dangerous or affect our relationships [duplicate]

There is a similar question here: How to tell someone believing in pseudoscience & conspiracy theories is wrong without making them feel stupid/upset? My question has a different setting: I'm ...
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Should I tell someone exactly what to say?

This question came about because of a comment someone made about an answer I posted recently. I'm aware that this site deals in specifics but I do feel that the question itself is specific while it ...
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How to talk to a friend about her concerning social media posts?

Recently one of my friends has been writing concerning posts on her social media. She said something like "my life has always been so hard", and "what's the point of living if there is so much ...
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How to deal with brother-in-law drinking and smoking way too much? [closed]

Story I'm 25 years old - my GF is 24 -, her brother is 20. He is a very kind and easy-going person, we both have sympathy and consideration for each other. However I noticed that during family meeting ...
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How can I get through to my close-minded elderly relatives?

My InLaws are very predisposed towards dismissing new ideas, I find it very difficult to discuss new ideas or suggestions with them. A suggestion is usually met with stubbornness, refusal, sometimes ...
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How do I comfort someone I love after their dad died? [closed]

The dad of the girl that I love died some days ago. And I just want to make her feel better but I don't know the words, if I need to let her vent. I'm so cold talking with people about love because it'...
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How to help a friend in doubt about staying with his family or moving to the USA and what type of life suits him the best?

There is a friend of mine. He has planned to move to the USA to study, which is going to take 5 years. He is doubtful about whether he is going to have a good life being far from family (it's not ...
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How to respond to a flat-earther? [closed]

I wanted to provide evidence for a friend who recently shocked me with her views that the Elon Musk car in space was a fake. My answer to her that I trust people who specialize in the field to know ...
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How do I help my "online" friend who suffers from depression and anxiety? [closed]

How I met her: She's a friend of my EX with whom I was in a long distance relationship (countries apart) and when my EX broke up with me, she offered me help, support and listened to me complaining ...

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