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How to make mom understand about my phobia

It might sound funny to some people but for me its the most horrifying thing ever. For any answers/comments don't use the word "li......" it just makes me feel like yuck. Please refer to it as "IT" ...
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I'm in marketing in a team whose name sounds too much like mine. What to do when introducing myself?

Let's say I'm in a small team called Adhyan, and my name is Adhyan. (I've changed the names for privacy.) There's no correlation, and I happened to join this team because I wanted to learn a topic ...
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My wife wants to support her parents far more than me (mainly financially)

I have been married to the daughter of my father's cousin for 1+ years. My father has a very friendly relationship with this cousin. Following are my observations about my wife's and her parents' ...
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How to say 'NO', When someone offer you better opportunity with better salary?

I am a professional Magento Developer, and I have completed my one year and continue my next one year bond. When someone offers you a better opportunity with a better salary but you have to continue ...
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Getting back in touch with an ex- colleague

I have worked at an office as a contractor and got relieved a few weeks ago. I had fun while working there and at the same time my manager developed negative notion towards me for reasons best known ...
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What is the etiquette around greetings in online communication in India?

Background I work with people from a rather diverse set of cultures. We are spread across several cities, so most of our communication takes place on Slack. I have several co-workers who are from ...
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How to talk about things I'm ashamed of, without showing this shame through non-verbal-communication?

I had a terrible undergraduate academic record. I have worked in the industry for past many years, and grown a lot since then, intellectually and skill-wise. However, whenever telling someone about my ...
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How to explain to roommate from India if I'm with a guest it's not a good time to discuss roommate issues?

I live in a shared house in the US. Generally speaking it's very nice and the people I share it with are nice. There's a young lady from India who I noticed has very different views than I do. She ...
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An Unusual Gratitude

A few years back as a student in an Indian university, my affair with a girl (call her A) and the subsequent break-up became a public affair. A had no role in this publicity and she had already ...
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How to greet Teachers and Staffs?

I am in the final year of my Engineering degree but still find greeting my teachers difficult. It happens whenever I am on my way to college, when I have to walk from the Hostel to Campus, which ...
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How to negotiate about drying clothes with someone from a culture who isn't used to it?

I live in a shared house. Recently someone from India moved in. Though we have an electric clothes dryer, some of my clothes are not suitable to put inside. For example, a few dress pants, swimsuit, ...
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New roommate from India does something to make bathroom smell really bad

Where I live I share the bathroom with one other person. The person who I share it with recently changed and someone from India moved in. He said he's new to the country and just arrived recently. I ...
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How to make a group of friends when in a completely residential Indian university hostel? [closed]

I am twenty-four and will be joining a completely residential Indian university for post-graduation. I generally don't fall apart while making a first friend in my school or college life. However, I ...
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Having been highly praised for my professionalism, am I expected to return the praise?

At work we have a tool, which you can use to send coworkers an appreciation, basically sending them a message that expresses what you appreciate and a text field to enter a message why you send this ...
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How to manage healthy relationship with traditional parents who do not like your partner?

I am from India, living in Germany for a long time now. I have liberal views, and most of my ideas align with the political left, here, in Europe. My parents, though, are from a traditional Indian ...
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How to avoid my friend tracking my lifestyle

Some friends are way too interested in our lifestyle and want us to share our whole lifestyle with them. I tell you my story, that I am one of the meritorious students of my institute, and 2 friends ...
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Effectively communicating that I am not withholding information

I am a twenty-four old man and I live with my mother. I have never been in any romantic relationship with anyone all my life. I wanted to take up a job and move out as soon as I graduated but my ...
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How do I socialise with a guy in the gym and in my hostel that I want to become friends with?

I am a 20 year old male living in India. Most probably, I am bi, but I am not out yet. My problem is a mixture of shyness, attraction, and confusion. So I live in a college in a hostel (hall) of 400 ...
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How to communicate to my wife the same thing which I already repeated her 100 times? [closed]

To give the cultural context, I am from South India and married for 15+ years. Ever since the beginning of our marriage, I keep saying the following items repeatedly to her ( let's call her Mohini). ...
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How do I effectively explain to my boss that I don't want to wear a t-shirt for our office video shoot?

I work in a tiny startup, digital marketing agency in India. I've always lived a very simple life. My way of life style is still very much influenced by the way it was in my childhood. The thing is, ...
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How can I get my wife to be less spendthrift?

I am married for 15+ years and working at an Indian technology company. These days, layoffs have been so frequent in my industry; for instance at my company they happened twice in the last three ...
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Politely declining a request to use my railway card to get a ticket when the person has to stand in the queue

Background: I'm from India. In our railways, we have multiple ways of booking tickets, one of them being the regular way (stand in the queue) and the other, a card which lets you get your ticket ...
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What I need to say to other team members while inviting an almost outlier for group tour?

I have a team of almost ten people, allotted by an institution (college). A person from the team (say PS) always used to stay with another team and is almost disconnected from us. Remaining nine ...
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How would one greet a person on his/her birthday today, especially when his/her father died yesterday?

How would one greet a person on his/her birthday today, (at least some sort of greeting to acknowledge his/her birthday) especially when his/her father died yesterday. I am from Sri Lanka and he is ...
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How to respond to someone who wants to know my dark side and wild things that I have done? [closed]

I met a person online. Both of us 35. After some conversation, I asked him the kind of books he prefers. He told me that he reads dark books which I won't like. I guessed "crime/ghosts", he said no. ...
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Friend keeps making jokes about my ethnicity which are not funny

My parents are from India, but I was born and raised in the Netherlands (which is where I still live). I am in university and a friend keeps making jokes about the fact that I am of Indian descent. ...
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Etiquette of sharing food at workplace?

I spend most of the time in my lab and do my work. I prepare food for myself everyday and want to eat it in the lab when hungry. I generally prepare limited food only for me and hence I want to eat ...
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How to handle situations which demands odd behavior [closed]

Consider the following 2 scenarios: After entering either a big shopping complex or high rated restaurant, there will be a queue and have to wait till our turn and buy/order items and then exit after ...
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How to switch conversations in mother tongue/native language to English at office

I am an Indian citizen residing in India. I am exposed to quite a few regional/native languages, few of which I am fluent in. My preferred language for verbal communication is English at the office. ...
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How to tell a lady that she is doing wrong by inviting/feeding street dogs?

We, people of a multi-story apartment complex are fed up with this lady who calls herself a dog lover. She never takes steps to sterilize, vaccinate them, or arrange for their shelter or food. She ...
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How can I have a conversation with my wife to be ensured of her faithfulness?

I am living in India and I married a beautiful wife recently (this was an arranged marriage). I am working in office from 9AM to 5PM, she is a housemaker. We are living in a building where most of the ...
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How to deal with a friend mocking my family? [closed]

I am 21 years old and have these friends who went to school with me. They were my classmates back then. We were close during our school days, but departed in our own ways once the school was over. We ...
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How to handle the person touching repeatedly after multiple warnings?

South girls from India are conservative compared to north and I am a conservative girl. I feel very uncomfortable if any guy(male) touches me. One guy from my batch usually stays with north girls, ...
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Does over smiling falls under girlish in India? [closed]

While staying with a group of friends, colleagues or with a single individual, is it okay to have smiling face always during normal conversations or while wishing others such as good morning etc., ...
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How to rebuff probing questions when introducing my girlfriend to acquaintances as a friend?

I come from India, where the culture is a little more conservative than in the West. I am a woman dating a woman (Let's call her D), currently in the US. My girlfriend's roommate's parents recently ...
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How to shut down regionalist remarks from coworkers and friends without being rude?

I come from a land where regionalism is at its peaks. The moment I tell them that I am from a particular region, stereotyping and judgement begins. Mocking, sarcasm etc are all part of it. This is ...
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Friend of a friend trying to coerce me to quit smoking

I play badminton with my roommate Scott regularly in a nearby court. Sometimes he brings his office colleagues to play. One of his friend Amy joins us from time to time. I would say I don't know her ...
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How can I explain to my parents my decision to live in co-ed housing next year?

I'm male, 20, and going to university in the USA. My family is of Indian heritage, but lives in the U.S. They pay for most of my tuition and housing costs. In my particular cultural segment, it's ...
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How can I be more assertive when telling my family that I don't want to marry?

I am a 29 year old South Indian, been living abroad for sometime now, born into a conservative family that's religious and is society influenced/fearing in that what the society thinks matters a great ...
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How to bring back the old friendships, after I could not keep in touch with friends for a few years?

It's been a long time since I have been in touch with my group of friends. I had been very busy for a couple of years due to my academic commitments, and could not keep in touch with my friends. I now ...
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How do I effectively explain to my colleagues that they should wish me a happy birthday on a different date?

I'm about 26 years old. I don't know my day of birth. I just know I was born in 1992 in either October or November, because I know the birth date of my cousin who is around 1 month younger than me. My ...
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Tact and Diplomacy when speaking about religious beliefs

Disclaimer: I hope I am not offending anyone's religious beliefs We all face tough times and abnormal situations. Now, I asked God to come into our lives and fix our problems. Really, I don't know ...
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How to tactfully refuse to provide academic help?

As an undergraduate student(and a so-called nerd), I have had friends who requested academic help a day or two before exams. Now, I don't have much problem with helping them and I try my best to do ...
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How to contact to partner after breakup who does not want to talk [closed]

My partner broke up with me few days ago and it is very surprising and devastating for me. For last 6 months we were in a great relationship and everything was going good. So, a little bit about the ...
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How to tell whether someone would like to have my painting, without imposing a gift on them?

I paint as a hobby. Made few hi-bye friends at office because of this. I would be happy to give my painting to someone who truly appreciates it from the bottom of their heart. Usually when a painting ...
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How To Respond to Rude Cashier? [closed]

Once in a while I get coffee from a nearby shop. Lot of times, the ladies at the counter are rude; especially to me, because I look like a soft target. Really, I am not confrontational unless I am at ...
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How can I decline an invitation from someone who is only asking because she feels sorry for me?

Long story short, I never had friends, and didn't know how to make any. I'm 2nd generation Indian, raised in the USA, if that's relevant. Only recently I have few hi-bye friends from office (who ...
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How to deal with depression privately and how to let my family know about it? [closed]

First of all, I come from India, from a place where depression is not at all recognized as a disease. I have never met or heard a person from my place even mention the word "depression" Anyway, ...
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How do I become closer with my brother? He feels like a complete stranger

Growing up, I didn't get along very well with my elder brother. In addition to the usual sibling rivalry (fights and insults), I was always compared to him by everyone including teachers (we went to ...
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How to tactfully refuse outsiders to stay in your home [closed]

I am in USA (2nd generation Indian American, if that is relevant) and have witnessed situations where person A let person B (A's wife's distant relative) stay in their apartment, but they overstayed ...