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How to deal with depression privately and how to let my family know about it? [closed]

First of all, I come from India, from a place where depression is not at all recognized as a disease. I have never met or heard a person from my place even mention the word "depression" Anyway, ...
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How do I become closer with my brother? He feels like a complete stranger

Growing up, I didn't get along very well with my elder brother. In addition to the usual sibling rivalry (fights and insults), I was always compared to him by everyone including teachers (we went to ...
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How to tactfully refuse outsiders to stay in your home [closed]

I am in USA (2nd generation Indian American, if that is relevant) and have witnessed situations where person A let person B (A's wife's distant relative) stay in their apartment, but they overstayed ...
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How to ask someone on a date when dating isn't usual in your culture?

Background One similar question is How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?, but here my situation is noticeably different. I am from India and many girls don't even ...
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Always put down

I am always put down by my family members whenever a situation arises when there's a decision making time. Recently a cousin of mine had an affair with someone, there were many discussions which went ...
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What to do when a friend's close relative dies? [duplicate]

As a 17 years old, I have never had to face this unfortunate and sad situation before. My friend's grandad just died, what can I do to support him? I live in Delhi, India . My friend comes from a ...
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Dealing with colleagues who think single women as being always available

I am an Indian woman, residing in India and single. And the latter brings a lot of unwanted attention to myself, from both genders. Females make fun of me stating that I need to get married and start ...
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How to ask for a wish from a woman?

For context, I am a twenty-four-year-old man. Recently I made the acquaintance of a woman who is twelve years older than myself. I was instantly struck by her extreme beauty and made efforts to form a ...
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Giving a solution when I am the least expected one

There is a certain behavior that I have observed during conversations with my work mates, or sometimes during casual conversations with extended family members. A person will talk about a certain ...
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How to prevent misunderstandings about food with hungry people?

Yesterday, a group of families whom I've known for a while along with mine went out for dinner together. The families are united in their common language and culture, and we often go out together. ...
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Flatmate stresses me, how do I deal with him? [closed]

I have a roommate, and it seems to me that despite being friendly, he is out for his own, and will gladly use my printer and household machines. One time he tried to screw on a plastic coat hanger on ...
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Convincing superstitious people

My mother believes in astrology (not the scientific astronomy, but the apparent effect of stars on human lives). She recently found out that there's something weird in store for me this year after ...
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How to communicate feelings and then stop communication with distant girlfriend? [closed]

So we have been together for the past 3 years 9 months. Of course before our relationship we knew each other and did spend a couple of months before giving our friendship the "relationship" tag. We ...
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How to adjust to a new country and its culture when people make you feel like an outsider [closed]

I'll be honest here, I've had a weird childhood. I was born to a German mother and an Indian father. I have a German citizenship, but as I moved to India when I was 2, I know the Indian culture much ...
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How to elicit a response from a colleague about his feelings for me without affecting work environment?

I am a 21-year-old student. I work with another 21-year-old boy in the same club. We've been texting each other since May 2017 related to work. Recently, there's been an uptick in the number of texts ...
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How do I ask my fiancée if she likes oral sex?

Today I read How do I communicate to my husband that I don't like oral sex?. I am also from India and I really like receiving oral sex. But I have not done it with my girlfriend, since in our ...
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How can I convincingly communicate to a friend that I don't have a 'personal' mobile number?

I dislike telephone communication in general, compared to face-to-face interactions. I am not interested in communicating with anybody with mobile phone, for socialising or professional purposes. I ...
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How to explain that it upsets me to see people kill insects?

I feel like most humans have judged value of life by size since beginning of the universe, but I tend to not share that same viewpoint. For example, when something sweet is left in my kitchen, ...
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How to tell a co-worker that I feel sorry for something I did

I am a 25-year-old male and I work for a corporate IT firm. Part of my job involves auditing (quality checking) other people's work and providing feedback. Recently, I listened to a recorded call, ...
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How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle

So I have a water bottle in my office and to fill it every time is a tiring business. I need to walk to a different floor than I sit and then I need to wait till other people fill their bottles. Then ...
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How do I say my goodbye to a female coworker?

I will be leaving the company I work for currently in a couple of weeks. I have decided to invite a few of my colleagues that I have worked with and interacted on a daily basis to tea individually to ...
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How to clearly express an idea in a group without confusing listeners?

I find it difficult to express an idea effectively. When I put my thoughts into sentences, it becomes very complex and people get bored. For example, recently, when my colleagues and I having coffee, ...
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My girlfriend told me that she has some feeling for her colleague. What should I do? [closed]

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years now. We met each other during our undergraduate studies. We've a great time over the past 4 years. After graduating, I went for higher ...
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How do I communicate to my husband that I don't like oral sex?

I am newly married 27 year-old lady from India. My husband really likes oral sex, but I hate it... It is really uncomfortable for me and I feel like it is disgusting and I don't know that it is ...
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How do I constructively address my co-worker's accusation that I don't see her as a “real person?”

Although I have added the India tag for cultural context, I consider this to be a question on a universal theme, and therefore welcome responses from members all over the world. Since mid-September I ...
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How to stop someone from complaining about a third person in front of you without sounding rude?

I have been in situation where person X start telling me personal stuff about person Y and judging them for those things. It's plain complaining behind someone's back and I don't even know how much ...
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How to get a close relative to stop disrespecting LGBT people in random conversations without starting any argument/fight?

I have a close immediate relative who has a habit of making derogatory/sarcastic/rude remark about LGBT people. He doesn't say this to their face but behind their back or makes remarks about LGBT ...
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How to respond to questions that make one uncomfortable?

I am a 24 year old Indian girl. A few days before, I got this message from one of my school friends in Facebook after a long long time. Back in school we were not that good friends or anything just ...
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How do I approach the issue of someone reading what's on my phone when I'm on public transportation with them?

This is a problem which I face when I travel using public transportation. I have a habit of checking my messages, call data or Stack Exchange stuff that I missed and other social media stuff while I'...
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Is it rude to wear a sari as a westerner to a wedding in India?

I am a Canadian woman and I will be attending a wedding in India in January. There will be Indian and Canadian people in attendance. I was wondering if it is rude (or expected) to wear a sari to the ...
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How to cut-off my sister-in-law from me and my fiancée? [closed]

I am an 27 year old woman. I will be getting married soon. I have a sister-in-law who is 3.5 years younger than me. I somehow do not like my sister-in-law at all. I have disliked her since the first ...
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What is the smartest way to wave-off a compliment and not look arrogant

Sometimes, when you're least expecting it, you get complimented... That happened to me today... In my class, I was busy solving questions, when my teacher suddenly said "There's also some people in ...
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How to reject a proposal from a close friend?

I have been friends with a girl at work for more than a year. I have always seen her as a friend and I am pretty sure I never did anything to lead her on. I am going to switch jobs in a couple of ...
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How can I convince my close friend that he should listen to his mother and take a chance with arranged marriage?

This question carries the India tag but is really about how to deal with some people's reluctance to enter into relationships, so I welcome answers from members all over the world! This is about the ...
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How to converse with the CEO during lunch?

Twice the CEO of our company sat next to me (also across from me) during lunch in the company. He asked some general informal questions which I answered but didn't ask him anything in return. I want ...
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Should I apologize for not acknowledging a colleague in office? [closed]

At my new office, I got to know a few people and among them is a woman ("Alice" for simplicity). I could call all of them acquaintances including Alice. I usually greet Alice outside of work, with ...
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How to ask my classmates to stop talking to me in class?

I know that a similar question has been asked before, but the culture and location is different, and so is the context, to some extent. My classmates keep talking to me in class, and I have a strong ...
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How can I convince my 'cousin sister' that the man she loves is of 'bad character?'

I did use the India tag as a matter of course, but as always welcome answers from members all over the world. Why? Because some of the most helpful answers to my previous India-tagged questions came ...
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How to deal with a religious relative who keeps assuming that I am similarly religious?

I know a very similar question was asked only recently by @Bradley Wilson, and another similar question was asked by @Beofett over a week ago, but the specific situation and also the cultural context ...
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A server in a restaurant got offended when we addressed him as “Uncle”

I am from India and my experience is that addressing a serviceman in a restaurant as "waiter" is not taken positively. So depending on their age, we usually call them "brother" or "uncle". A few years ...
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How to deal with condescension?

I am a software developer. We are a small team of 13 people. This is my first job and I have been with this team for the past one year. I am quite an introvert and don't speak much. My problem is ...
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Who do you say Thanks, Thank You and Thank You Very Much to?

Situation: It's my birthday today and I am getting calls and messages from my friends and relatives for wishes. Some of them are close friends and some relatives are younger than me while others are ...
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How can my cousin restore harmony between his Indian mother and American mother-in-law?

Someone asked me in a comment, what is my role in all this? Good question. I am not at all close with Aunt but I am close with my cousin (son of Aunt) and he needs help to keep his mother and mother-...
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How to ask a female colleague to spend time with me?

Background I met this colleague (let's call her Alice) at my new job that I started recently. We work in different teams, so I don't get to meet Alice every day, although I do see her in the corridor ...
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How to get more co-operation from a teacher who discourages a student from asking questions to clear his confusion?

Kindly excuse the long question because you need a lot of background details in order to provide good answers here. I did add the India tag but feel that this is not necessarily a culture-specific ...
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Should I thank my private teacher after qualifying and ask for having my books back? [closed]

I had a personal home-tuition teacher who used to coach me since I was in 9th grade. At first, he was a very sincere teacher, who always gave me sufficient homework, gave me extra practise questions, ...
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How to deal with a colleague who tries to undermine me? [closed]

It's been 4 months since I joined my new company. There is a colleague (let's call him Bob) who joined with me. Bob and I were colleagues in my previous company and we both accepted interviews from ...
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Is it right to ask someone to keep the curtains drawn if we're claustrophobic? If so, how?

In my classroom, there's a student who wants to keep the curtains closed/drawn all the time. When the sun starts peeping in through the windows, she draws the curtains, keeping the sun out. As an ...
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Is it possible for my friend to resume communication with his unofficial sister without earning her husband's mistrust?

Note: this question may have a strong Indian context, but I am looking for inputs from members all over the world. Eight years ago a close friend of mine, aged 30 at the time, met an 18-year-old girl ...
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How can I make sure my friends keep secrets?

I told my friends some secrets today... I'm not sure I meant what I even said, as the secret was about a person I did not like very much, and it was rather unpleasant. My friends had asked me why I ...