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How to talk with my co-worker to prevent a fight? [closed]

I currently have a conflict with a coworker (just call him Bob). Now he is challenging me to a fight. I am actually a violence free men: I think a fist fight is useless. I tried to convince him that ...
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How to convince a group of friends to drop a topic that's making the group uncomfortable?

My close friend is a very dominant (DISC) person. Last time, he bashed my ex-high school when we hang out with some friends. He had valid points, and I had admitted it, but nevertheless, I asked him ...
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How can I encourage a handicapped person to be as independent as possible?

This is a follow-up to How to approach the owner's handicapped son about him distracting our work? After a couple more weeks with him around, we agreed that he is likely being too protected by ...
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How to refuse someone asking for additional help “while you're at it”?

A while ago, I was visiting an acquaintance to help her with something. After I finished fixing the problem, she asked me to do another thing "while you're at it". Let's say I'm done sweeping the ...
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How to approach the owner's handicapped son about him distracting our work?

For the last two weeks, our owner's son has been coming to our office daily to "work". However, he can't work. There's no work that can be assigned to him, and he is constantly distracting us by ...
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?

Note: I should mention that this may be a cultural thing in Indonesia to broadcast or share "helpful news/article" in a group chat, or broadcast it to all contacts in BBM (not group. Broadcast is the ...
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How to handle first encounter with a disabled person?

By first encounter, I mean meeting the person in an event, such a meetup in a cafe, or a seminar, or such. The event is to be expected, but is not planned by us; we are invited to join the event, if ...
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When is replying a chat with “thanks”, “OK”, appropriate?

Sometimes when I request an information from a colleague, I must wait a bit before I get the answer. This usually ranges from 1 hour to 24 hours (more or less). [10.44] Me : Do you have Bob's ...
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How do I say “no” to an ill friend who wants to leave hospital?

A friend of mine (20-30) was recently admitted into hospital for minor surgery. When we visited him a few days later he was certainly better, but then the next day he told me that he was in pain and ...
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How to communicate in a training to ensure small details done?

I've been asked to train "customer service" in a local charity group. I've never met the trainees, and I only know one or two people there. One of the procedure includes small details that I feel ...
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Is it okay to point out someone's keeping quiet in a discussion/meeting? [closed]

After reading a related question, I am rethinking about various discussion/meeting where I, and most other leaders/moderators in the discussion/meeting, call out someone for being quiet and not ...
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How to start a conversation with an important person?

My previous employer invited me to have dinner with him. Unexpectedly (by me), he was also inviting the chief police of the area to have dinner with us. After we got ourselves introduced, my ex-boss ...
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How to break bad news about the death of a family member to the family?

This is my other question, and you can find the background of this question there. When my grandmother was admitted to hospital, we (the whole family in town) are taking turns staying at the hospital....
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How to console grandmother who is sick because of age?

I never thought I would ask this here, but I really don't know what to say to my grandmother right now. This year, she's been admitted to hospital several times. Most of these because of seemingly ...
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Invited to a wedding, but didn't get an invitation, what should I do? [closed]

A while back ago, my friend married. I was sent an invitation when no one was at home, so it got recalled and sent back to the sender (my friend, at a nearby town). A little background on this friend:...
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How to say “I'm an adult now” to my parents?

I have an issue with my parents meddling in my personal choices. Let's say they are neutral habits, which means you can't say it's good or bad, like shaking my feet when I'm idle - note that this does ...
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How to politely deal with a friend who asks for a favor and brings up favors I asked previously?

A friend of my friend (which makes her a kind of "distant friend") went into an argument with me today. In this argument, she brought up favors she did for me previously (yes, there were one or two ...
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How to address a friend's misunderstanding of an intention?

One of my friends often misunderstands many friendly gestures. One of them is an offer of mint candy is taken as we are suggesting he has bad breath. It seems he suspects such gestures have a hidden ...
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How to help a friend that is suddenly socially withdrawn?

I have a friend who is usually has no issue with social life but suddenly decided to refuse any social activity, including their close friends. They are still meeting with close relatives and friends,...
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How can I explain my reduced social activity when depression is stigmatised?

I lost my job a few months ago, and was struggling to find a new one with no success. This led me to becoming less motivated each day, until the point that suicide slipped into my mind - which I ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?

I'm a shy person, and tend to be the last to speak in a discussion or meeting. But I noticed that in my group (a hobby group), most people are quiet too, and also passive when taking turns in ...