Questions tagged [introverts]

A person who is energized by spending time alone. One who can turn inward or in upon itself. The word "Introvert" can sometimes have negative connotations, because many people are "extroverts".

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How can I deal with uncomfortable silence from my partner?

First of all, I want to say that I'm talking about when my girlfriend is silent, it's not 'silent treatment'. I don't feel like she has cruel intentions, or is intentionally trying to hurt me in any ...
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How to talk to people at a singles mixer when you are an introvert? [closed]

I am going to a singles mixer in a few days. I'm an introvert and find it hard to make small talk with people I don't know. How do I make the most of a singles mixer (that is, meet people and have ...
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How to turn down a promotion in new job? [closed]

I'm a software developer with 4+ years of experience. I'm moving out of my current company and get a better offer (both in pay and role) from another company. I'm socially awkward and try to avoid ...
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How to calmly respond to friendly peer-pressure when it's a major pet-peeve?

Every so often I find myself in a situation where a friend or coworker asks if I want to do something social, and I don't want to for some non-committal reasons. By "non-committal" reasons, I'm ...
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How can I (an introvert) convey to extroverts that I need time to rest/recover after talking?

I'm a really introverted person and conversations can quickly feel quite exhausting and mentally draining for me. Of course I like to have a social life and enjoy it to have nice chitchats with ...
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Deal with an introvert person [closed]

I'm a 24 year old girl and a few months ago a guy wrote to me by chat answering a question, I was happy because I "know" him a little in social media and he seems to me a interesting person. The ...
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How can I get my mom to accept me being introverted?

I'm 21 years-old and still live at my parents' house. Like my dad, I'm pretty introverted. And we mainly like to do our own thing throughout the day. For me, that's playing video games, writing code, ...
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What can someone with introversion and/or social anxiety do to maximise the benefits of attending networking events? [closed]

I am profoundly shy, strongly introverted and have some social anxiety. I find socialising with strangers in social settings to be extremely stressful: socialising in professional settings – such as ...
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How can I say I want to be left alone without having to explain myself or lie about it?

In all my jobs so far I have had coworkers who spent their lunch breaks together. At my current job there are a lot of restaurants close and everyone goes there during their break. I'm a very ...
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How can I tell someone who's in a vulnerable state the truth?

A very close friend of mine, let's call him David, in his mid-thirties has just (1 year and a half) recovered from a very hard and horrifying for his environment state of drug abuse and isolation that ...
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How to convince my parents I'm happy with my social life?

Context I'm 19 years old and I live with my mother. I completed an apprenticeship in software engineering earlier this year. I'm now working full time at the company where I finished my ...
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Colleague thinks that he is too slow

Background I am frequently working with a colleague who is a little bit junior to me (but not particularly "fresh" - he has been in the company for over 10 years in a lead developer/expert role for ...
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How do I tell my guests that I need time alone?

My husband and I live alone and are very introverted. We have very little social interaction apart from each other and often will go days without talking to anyone else because we work from home. As ...
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Do I need to force myself into social interactions [closed]

I am 18 year old male, and I have PDDNOS (a form of autism). I don't feel comfortable with most social interactions around strangers. I am struggling with the choice of forcing myself in social ...
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I'm very introverted and only have one friend, do I ask too much of him? [closed]

I'm a male college student and I've really only got one friend. I never know how to interact with other people. I'm quite good at programming but that's probably the only thing I'm particularly good ...
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Love Confession by Personally Handing Over Handwritten Letter

There is a person I've met at the workplace who I've become interested in since I was introduced to on my first day at work. The development of our relationship was slow due to being in a different ...
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How to have a casual conversation with new colleagues?

I've recently started working with a new company, and it's great. Every few months, they'll organise for everyone to meet-up in a pub after work for drinks. There's a meet-up coming soon which I'm ...
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Introvert needs help to avoid giving unintended offense [closed]

I am an INTJ and pretty far on the scale of introversion. I am frequently approached by others to either ask questions or obtain my help. I do enjoy helping others, particularly with computers or ...
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How do I continue to be quiet without being rude?

I'm a man of few words, very introverted, and prefer to work in silence where possible (my own silence, music is a must have but I normally wear headphones to avoid bothering others). It's not that I ...
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How to approach a strategy game against a 5-10 year old child you don't know?

I saw a related question on Parenting, but this one is different, since it's a) about older children and b) not your own child. Disclaimer: This is based on the experience of a friend - I will call ...
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What's the difference between being introvert and being shy?

I noticed some people in chat saying there's a big difference between shyness and being introvert: I am both extremely outgoing and extremely introverted. shyness definitely isn't the same thing as ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?

I'm a shy person, and tend to be the last to speak in a discussion or meeting. But I noticed that in my group (a hobby group), most people are quiet too, and also passive when taking turns in ...
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Will interacting on an electronic forum, tend to improve or deteriorate my real life interpersonal skills? [closed]

I spend a lot of time interacting with people online and only a small amounts of time interacting with only a few people in real life. Before the internet (I am an older introvert) I did not ...
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What methods help to avoid “that awkward silence”? [closed]

Introverted people tend to become embarrassed either when approaching someone or when a certain topic in a conversation runs out. It is often followed by apparently "losing the ability to find a new ...