Questions tagged [lgbt+]
Use this tag when issues specific to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or other sexual/gender minorities impact the interpersonal interaction in the question. Don't use it when a member of the LGBT+ community is involved, but them being LGBT+ isn't relevant to the question.
68
questions
11
votes
2
answers
1k
views
What are the practical ways to minimize dead-naming of someone behind their back?
I see from social media that a former colleague "A" (whom I'm not close to and haven't spoken to in years) now has a differently-gendered name, look, and pronouns from what they had when I ...
- 261
2
votes
0
answers
369
views
How to express to a friend that someone outed their HIV status to me and that they should be aware who they share it with? [duplicate]
One of my gay friends told me that another friend of ours is HIV+ and that I should therefore avoid him. I told him is HIV status doesn't matter to me and that he should never have to tell me. And ...
- 2,274
5
votes
1
answer
413
views
How to express that you are here to listen without missleading them about your feelings?
In a social network group (Twitter), there is a boy who shows signs of loneliness and needs for a partner but with immaturity. This group is made of know unknown people and I know him less. And his ...
- 2,274
2
votes
3
answers
1k
views
How can I ask my crush if he’s part of the LGBTQ+ community?
I’m a 14 year old pansexual (or bisexual, I'm not 100% sure) girl. I've been talking to this guy for quite some time, who lives a bit further down my street and is 15. I’ve grown to like him as my ...
- 39
10
votes
1
answer
1k
views
I suspect my wife is transgender. How can I talk best talk to them, and handle the possibilty if they are? [closed]
I've been with my wife for 10 years (married 2). I am a CIS male, and have suspected my partner (female sex, but agender) may be trans for a while now. They share a lot of similarities I've heard ...
- 101
6
votes
2
answers
661
views
How to better understand the experience of transgender people? [closed]
I completely respect and support transgender rights from a rational perspective. I can see that it is something that 1) doesn't significantly affect other people so other people shouldn't be able to ...
- 69
9
votes
1
answer
2k
views
How to tell (presumably) straight men who are flirting with me that I'm male, but GNC without "miseducating" them?
CW: potential transphobia
I'm a cisgender bi male, but I identify as broadly speaking gender non-conforming (GNC) and often dress in more effeminate men's or often outright femme-presenting outfits. I ...
- 59
19
votes
1
answer
1k
views
How to respond to challenges about using the women's restroom as a trans woman
I'm a transgender woman, and I'm getting to the point in my transition where I'm starting to use the women's restroom. However, given the recent climate around transgender people using the appropriate ...
- 2,889
67
votes
4
answers
16k
views
How can I tell my date that one of her close friends outed her to me as trans?
TLDR:
The person I started dating is/might be trans, but never told me and I'm not supposed to know.
How can I approach the matter with her?
What is the best way to do it without causing her ...
- 755
1
vote
1
answer
3k
views
Girlfriend indicated that she wants to pleasure me orally, which startled me, now things are stifled
My girlfriend and I have been having sex for a while now, but I guess she wants to start experimenting in bed.
I'm not sure if it's because she's bored or if it's because she just wants to let me ...
- 229
5
votes
2
answers
948
views
How to stay as the well-wisher/friend without escalating her feeling for me?
I used to have a transwoman friend who was waiting to become financially strong before thinking about transitioning. I was going through some stressful times and we used to discuss our issues. She was ...
- 2,274
96
votes
5
answers
14k
views
How to help a male-presenting person shop for women's clothes?
I'm a new store manager for a women's clothing store and I have been receiving male-presenting customers that are looking for women's clothes for themselves. I want to give them the best, supportive ...
- 781
16
votes
4
answers
4k
views
How do I reconnect with a friend after they tried once and I failed to respond
Background
I've been out of college for about 4 years now, and during that time I've lost contact with one of my best friends. After I graduated college, I took a job in another city and moved about ...
- 9,052
29
votes
5
answers
9k
views
How to initiate a conversation with a person who recently had transition but you were not in touch with them?
I had a family friend/classmate/neighbor who I have not been in touch with for more than a decade and we were never friends but on friendly terms in childhood. Two years back I got to know that she ...
- 2,274
15
votes
3
answers
2k
views
How do I determine my boss's position on transgender rights?
I am a transwoman. I am in the closet. I am starting to transition so staying in the closet long-term isn't an option. Before I come out of the closet I would like to gauge how I think people are ...
- 1,697
4
votes
0
answers
363
views
How do I bring up with my parents that I'm transgender? [closed]
I want to come out to my parents that I'm transgender so I can start with my Hormone Replacement Therapy. I'm an adult, so I don't need their consent but then I would be sneaking it behind their backs ...
- 41
-4
votes
1
answer
611
views
Seeking clarification on the use of "They/Them/Their" as a personal gender pronoun [closed]
We currently exist in a time of macro-evolution changes to our interpretation of gender and sex. The classical binary system of the Christian based Western cultures (and others) is being challenged ...
- 113
17
votes
2
answers
1k
views
How to inform my family of my child's new gender identity?
As an extension to this question, my daughter was very relieved when I offered to talk to my family for her. My husband thought of having a brunch with our kids not in attendance. I thought of doing ...
- 1,690
46
votes
5
answers
11k
views
How to ask my office to remove the pride decorations without appearing anti-LGBTQ?
First, for clarification, I am not anti-LGBTQ.
My office has taken part in the Pride Month, which is celebrated throughout the UK in June every year. The month celebrations end in a large Pride ...
- 429
21
votes
1
answer
2k
views
How to help my child come out as a trans woman to extended family?
My daughter was brave enough to come out to us that she is a woman. That story is on Parenting SE.
My daughter would like to come out to the extended family well before the holidays so that people ...
- 1,690
12
votes
2
answers
1k
views
How should I address a person who offers a choice of personal pronouns
I've recently seen a number of people who, when listing their personal pronouns, appear to be offering a choice.
In particular, I have seen folks say
"she" or "they"
In situations where asking ...
- 933
19
votes
3
answers
3k
views
How can I talk with my friend/co-worker about that fact that learning about his relationship upset me?
Background
I am a male in my mid 20s. For about 10 years now I have been struggling with life and severe depression. I never had any friends, my family hates me and treats me pretty bad, my social ...
- 193
10
votes
2
answers
1k
views
Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name
I don't like my name, I never had. Recently, I found myself a new name that I really love and I have started using it online.
Now, the thing is that I just received a (nice) mug with my "new name" on ...
- 17.4k
22
votes
2
answers
2k
views
How to have an honest discussion, when all outcomes are undesirable
Background:
My partner and I have been together for 9 years, beginning in high school. Around year three we went through a rough patch where my partner emotionally abused me into consenting to sex, ...
- 223
6
votes
3
answers
2k
views
Untangling the intersections of transphobia, fetishization, and reality
This is an issue that I've been running into quite a bit in the last year or so, primarily on an online image/meme sharing site. It usually pops up in the context of cosplayers' or animes' depictions ...
- 54.9k
32
votes
2
answers
4k
views
How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?
My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi.
My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
- 423
12
votes
5
answers
1k
views
How to avoid having always the same debates with a friend of mine?
I have a friend, let's call him Jack, who likes to debate and who takes any chance to try and turn the topic of a conversation into the one he prefers.
Last time it happened, I had posted a news on ...
user22124
12
votes
2
answers
2k
views
Tactfully declining a family Thanksgiving invitation
That time of year is approaching once again. Tis' the season for social obligation, and my cousin has already started in about Thanksgiving via text messages. This year has brought a bit of a twist in ...
- 54.9k
5
votes
2
answers
2k
views
How to tell a new guy I misunderstood my open relationship rules
I know there are a lot of "how to tell a guy I am not interested" posts but this is slightly different due to:
I am interested
I want to keep going to the cafe he works at
I am in an open ...
- 61
12
votes
3
answers
3k
views
Finding out if my crush is gay
I am a middle aged man living in western Europe. I have a crush on a female colleague who recently joined the company where I am working, but in a different department from me.
Today by random chance ...
- 131
38
votes
3
answers
12k
views
How can I handle a bisexual friend whom I think is attracted to me?
As some background, I go to a co-ed boarding high school. I have a girlfriend back home and am straight. My wing in the dorms is filled with a large collection of my friends. We're close- we play ...
- 331
44
votes
5
answers
15k
views
How can I help a close friend get over me?
I have this friend, I could easily call her my best friend. We see each other at least twice a week usually, have travelled together etc. About 6 months ago she confessed that she has feelings for me, ...
- 541
36
votes
7
answers
11k
views
Encouraging bystanders to step up
I ran into a rather nasty one this past weekend. I was out with a close friend at a party and could very clearly hear people making exceptionally nasty homophobic and transphobic comments, up to and ...
- 54.9k
4
votes
0
answers
394
views
Should I try to react to behind-the-back insults in my partner's minority outreach program? [closed]
Relevant identity context, I'm white, my partner can be reasonably seen to a stranger as white, and both of us are genderqueer and LGBTQ+ identifying.
I work at a college in Boston, and my partner (...
- 51
72
votes
6
answers
30k
views
How can I try to get my coworkers to stop their jokes on LGBTQ+ people
Context
I have been in this company for 5 months now and I'm sharing an office with four men (35 to 55 y.o.). They all are white, heterosexual cis men. For the record I'm a white, 22 y.o., ...
- 14.3k
1
vote
1
answer
505
views
How to react to a conversation where a friend is indirectly revealed as trans/fluid [closed]
I was in a conversation with a friend who revealed they identified as "trans/fluid". It wasn't said as a declaration, rather it was said in such a way as if I already knew about it. I hid my surprise ...
- 31
20
votes
3
answers
9k
views
Requesting time off to attend a Pride event
For those that are unfamiliar June is Pride month.
The month of June was chosen for LGBT Pride Month to commemorate the Stonewall riots, which occurred at the end of June 1969. As a result, many ...
- 54.9k
11
votes
4
answers
3k
views
Discussing misuse of my partner's pronouns with their best friend?
For nearly half a year now my partner, "Jane", has taken to using non-binary gender pronouns (they/them) and has asked those around them to respect this decision.
The problem is that their closest ...
- 22.7k
12
votes
1
answer
1k
views
How to rebuff probing questions when introducing my girlfriend to acquaintances as a friend?
I come from India, where the culture is a little more conservative than in the West. I am a woman dating a woman (Let's call her D), currently in the US. My girlfriend's roommate's parents recently ...
anon
63
votes
11
answers
23k
views
How to quickly remove yourself from a homophobic conversation?
My problem arises with the fact that I grew up in a very homophobic environment. I'm personally bi (so most people just take me as straight). Yet, I have homosexual friends with whom I'm very close, ...
- 941
9
votes
1
answer
2k
views
How can I explain to my parents my decision to live in co-ed housing next year?
I'm male, 20, and going to university in the USA. My family is of Indian heritage, but lives in the U.S. They pay for most of my tuition and housing costs. In my particular cultural segment, it's ...
- 1,763
32
votes
11
answers
19k
views
How can I effectively tell people that their defensiveness over me bringing up an issue is part of the issue?
Seems like it would be kind of self evident, but it's something that I encounter fairly often when talking to some folks about issues of discrimination and bias that drives me crazy...
When someone ...
- 54.9k
39
votes
6
answers
14k
views
How do I communicate gracefully to coworkers that they are accidentally misgendering me?
I am a transwoman about 7 months in my real life phase and not a week goes by that I am not accidentally misgendered by my some of my coworkers. That is, they use the wrong pronouns to refer to me or, ...
- 1,956
11
votes
4
answers
4k
views
How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office
One of my co-workers transitioned a year ago and she's really happy to be a woman, to finally being herself.
However, she's putting too short skirt and short... I know that she's going through a ...
- 121
52
votes
4
answers
19k
views
How to tell a trans couple that their overly romantic behaviour makes you uncomfortable, without coming across transphobic?
Intro:
We all have seen a couple who are so in love they have lengthy kisses in public, always display affection, call each other cute names and wherever they go or sit, they always appear to cuddle. ...
- 1,511
16
votes
5
answers
3k
views
Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria
My partner is gender-fluid and occasionally experiences dysphoria. Most often it seems to be caused by societal pressure to conform to their assigned gender, but occasionally they seem to have some ...
- 54.9k
4
votes
2
answers
839
views
Communicating my (one-sided) exclusivity without pressuring
Context: London, UK, dealing with same-sex male relationships.
I have a recurring issue whenever I date someone new, and all the IPS solutions I have tried to come up with have failed in the past in ...
- 211
4
votes
0
answers
1k
views
How to respond to co-worker who suggest you may be gay? [closed]
In group conversations, certain co-workers would make offensive remarks to suggest I may be gay. I am a male gay and am not out of the closet.
Examples of such remarks:
"Would you prefer an ...
- 49
18
votes
1
answer
2k
views
How to deal with a teacher who bullies me?
Cultural Background:
I come from a highly conservative country which follows Islam. According to cultural and I think religious perceptions, being transgender is not okay at all! Having to do ...
user12433
15
votes
4
answers
2k
views
How do I tell my parents I don't enjoy their company?
I moved to a new country (Canada) for university about a year ago. I am doing well in my studies. I'm not so well mentally but that's always been an issue even back home.
My parents often come to ...
- 151