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Questions tagged [making-friends]

Situations where the end goal is to gain someone's friendship or to strengthen it.

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how do I stop attracting wrong friend? [closed]

I have never been to a party or going out with friends and I usually stay at home for studying. (I know it sounds odd, but I am a homebody) I am also working as an engineer in a fairly big company. ...
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How to casually invite a particular colleague for an afterwork?

I work with three colleagues in a small open space. We're developers. We've been colleagues for almost a year and got to know each decently. I'm a shy, socially anxious person that doesn't have many ...
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How can I ask my opposite-sex acquaintance to go to a museum with me?

I recently moved to a new city and there is a girl who I am interested in having a friendship with. I see her everyday besides weekends in orchestra where I usually make some mild chatter with her, ...
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How do I convince women that my intentions are pure? [closed]

I have decided to do my once per year attempt to not die alone this week that has passed. I decided to ask this nice looking lady that I know for coffee. The problem I have is that for some reason I ...
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How to socialize at pubs/bars when you are alone?

Near my town there's a nice pub which is the only place in a big radius which offers live rock, metal and acoustic music (other venues offers DJs which puts reggaeton, hip hop, trap and EDM) and a ...
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Forming new friendships as a 35 year old? [closed]

I will try and keep this succinct as I could type pages upon pages. In short, I underwent a radical change in my life 4 years ago where I had to walk away from almost my total family (all but one ...
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How do I start a conversation with a friend I had a crush on in junior high?

Backstory: I met the person when I went to tuitions during my high school junior year. We didn't explicitly talk to each other as I was really shy but had some small talk here and there. As I didn't ...
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How to make a group of friends when in a completely residential Indian university hostel? [closed]

I am twenty-four and will be joining a completely residential Indian university for post-graduation. I generally don't fall apart while making a first friend in my school or college life. However, I ...
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How to avoid my friend tracking my lifestyle

Some friends are way too interested in our lifestyle and want us to share our whole lifestyle with them. I tell you my story, that I am one of the meritorious students of my institute, and 2 friends ...
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How to contact and spend more time with the friends of my best friend?

Around a year back I met who I'd now definitely consider to be my best friend. She's always there and looks out for me. We are both busy but we see each other a few times a month and always have a ...
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How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them?

I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the ...
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How to befriend someone who doesn't like to talk?

Background: I’m a 22-year-old woman, my brother is a 25-year-old man. We were close growing up, but around high school we drifted apart. As of now I wouldn’t say there’s much friendship between us at ...
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How do I socialise with a guy in the gym and in my hostel that I want to become friends with?

I am a 20 year old male living in India. Most probably, I am bi, but I am not out yet. My problem is a mixture of shyness, attraction, and confusion. So I live in a college in a hostel (hall) of 400 ...
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How do I talk to someone I've had issues with before?

Last year a girl I go to school with found me annoying. She didn't have any grudges, it was just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I have been tring ...
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What can I do to help conversational skills? [closed]

I have never been on a date. I have 2 friends. And I have 0 connection to anyone, family or otherwise(meaning, I can go years/forever with no contact and be totally "happy"), so being alone actually "...
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How can I effectively use social media to become closer friends with people I don't see often? [closed]

There are some people who I want to get to know better, mainly childhood friends I've grown apart from, former co-workers and children of my parents' friends. I'm connected to them on Facebook but don'...
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Asking people to meet outside of work/gym/etc

Lately I feel like all the people I meet only get and stay acquaintances to mine. I don't have a huge friend group and would enjoy forming new friendships, going out more with people, etc. If often ...
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Dealing with language barrier in social gatherings

I moved to a new country last year for the end of my studies. The local language is English, which I can read, write, speak and understand without too much effort... at work. I have absolutely no ...
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Where do adults make friends outside of work? [closed]

Outside of work it seems like some adults have no social life. Can someone tell me where and how adults make friends outside of their work place?
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How to remind people who forgot to reply?

I have anxiety and depression, and difficulty making friends. I texted two ex-coworkers who I considered friends (not great friends - we never hung out outside of work, but definitely more than ...
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How can I offer to take care of the dog of a stranger when he/she is not home?

I live in an apartment building and I can often hear a dog whining in the apartment above mine, presumably because the owner is not home. The noise is only a slight bother, I more so feel bad for the ...
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What is an alternative to brutal honesty that doesn't involve lying?

I have been criticised on more than one occasion by friends and romantic partners for being "too honest". An example of this might be someone asking me if a dress looks good, and I will say if I think ...
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How can I pursue a friendship by sending a reply to a mass email without having my intentions misinterpreted? [closed]

I recently got a very general “Happy Holidays” mass email from an acquaintance’s work email -- imagine a mail merge with “Dear MERGIE, Happy Holidays from everyone here at Acme Widget Co.” I am ...
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How to signify to a coworker I'd like to become friends?

TL;DR I'd like to befriend a coworker with similar hobbies and values but I'm afraid I'd either sound awkward or flirty. How can I make him understand I'd like to become friends? Situation I've ...
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How to start a conversation with an ex with whom the relationship ended in bad terms?

I am genuinely worried and would like to know how an old ex-girlfriend is doing. But it's been well over 2 years since she and I last talked and when we broke up, it wasn't on good terms. I DON'T ...
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How to get a friend with Asperger's to engage in more of a mutual conversation

So I've known this girl as a stranger for years and this past week we actually interacted and chatted for an hour. She told me a lot about herself, and expressed interest in hanging out the next time ...
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How to get to know people who don’t respond to greetings the way I would expect them to

Not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but here we go. In my college I like talking to people and making connections. I think I am an extrovert. Sometimes when I talk with other ...
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How do I politely/non-awkwardly get to know/give my number to a woman on a bus, in a non-intrusive manner?

So the title already gives some major details, but I’d like to evaluate further, to explain the situation better. I’m currently working on a short-term job, ending next week. The commute to this ...
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Social interactions at work and shyness [closed]

So a bit of backstory real quick. Back in school I was really shy and pretty socially awkward but mostly with people I didn't know really well or wasn't friends with them. Among friends, I was really ...
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How to approach a random person that appears to be interested in you?

A lot of the time (3-5 times a month) when I'm walking in the street or sitting on the public transit random strangers will make eye contact with me for more than 3 seconds and also smile at me in a ...
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How do I make it known to a group of friends that I need a little more patience to communicate with?

I am the kind of person that is quiet until I feel welcomed in a group of people, and even then, I still am relatively quiet until spoken to. Important information to consider: I am deaf with ...
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Deal with an introvert person [closed]

I'm a 24 year old girl and a few months ago a guy wrote to me by chat answering a question, I was happy because I "know" him a little in social media and he seems to me a interesting person. The ...
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How to develop friendship without money? [closed]

I have a dilemma, I'm living in USA and I'm from Latin America (I'm learning to speak English too) so I'm trying to make some friends, I've already found a girl that is very nice, and she wants to ...
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Getting along with group of friends after quitting smoking hookah?

Some information upfront: I'm 21, our group of friends is between 18-21, we're all from Germany. Problem is, all of my friends and I meet up frequently to smoke a hookah (pretty common here in ...
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Making brand new friends without coming across as needy [closed]

I live in a large city on the west coast of North America. There is a reputation for people here to be unfriendly. I'm trying to make new friends or even a new group of friends. The reason I am doing ...
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How to Approach Platonic Crush?

Context I have a platonic crush on a person I first met through a group interview for voluntary work at an organisation. In the interview, I found out their name and after knowing a little more about ...
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How to be friendly with new team members

I am in US local government organization. Most of my team are middle-age men who are busy with their families, and are looking towards retirements. They are nice folks to collaborate, talk to at work, ...
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How to tell a person who is interested in me that a relationship is not an option?

I have this workmate for almost 2-months now, who is an all-out person. I mean, she's not afraid to tell any of her feelings towards another person. Now, she told me she likes me. I told her, which I ...
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How to know whether or not to say hi to someone? [closed]

So Im a pretty introverted person, but when I moved out to study about a year ago I initially met a lot of new people. Mostly at parties and other social events arranged for students to get to know ...
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How to discuss why someone suddenly made plans without me?

I'm male, in my twenties and my definition of friendship is extremely strict. In fact, my friends are what most people would consider their "best friends". As such, I have very few of them. I think I'...
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How do I make my friend feel that I care for her? [closed]

I have a friend, the only one in my office. She is more than a friend, she is a sister to me. I am more of an introvert, with a very minimal number of friends. Basically, I have trust issues, meaning ...
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How to make friends in an online math community (AoPS)

I am from a school in a city in Dallas, Texas and an math olympiad enthusiast, but unfortunately no friend of mine in my school/city is really interested in maths. And going to any math club is not ...
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How do you know if you're worthy of friendship? [closed]

This probably sounds like an odd question, but I'm an odd guy. I believe friendship is established when two (or more) people are able to exchange ideas or emotions in a way which benefits all involved....
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How to get our families and friends to get in better contact with us or cope with the situation [closed]

My spouse and I left our hometowns more than 10 years ago and got to know each other in the city where we are living now. The distance to our hometowns is about a 3 and a half hours drive in opposite ...
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Balance between caring and clinginess [closed]

Context: I was afraid of allowing people in my life. Actually, I was not even looking for friendships and was pretty happy without any (So many things to do, so little time). I met someone about two ...
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How to get to know someone who doesn't use social media frequently?

I am really interested in this guy. I told him I like him and he said he thought I was cute but he was in a mono relationship right now and would still like to talk to me and get to know me. I still ...
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How to Build a Friendship with a Private Instructor

Background: I'm a twenty something male who takes guitar and foreign language from two private instructors. Both are master's level university students giving lessons as a source of side income. Both ...
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How to Invite shy acquaintance to a talk without her friend?

Around 2 weeks ago, I began talking regularly to somebody at school (let's call her Judith) who I only knew on a "face-level". She is a friend of one of my friends , who I'll call Emily. While I have ...
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How to invite a coworker I'm romantically interested in to a dinner party without sounding like I have an agenda?

There is a nice new guy at my job who I have been getting to know more lately and I think he might like me. He sits at the desk next to mine so we often talk when we are alone in the room. We share ...
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself [closed]

I've been criticized for being too reserved and guarded. I've spent time considering how to be more open and 'authentic' with others, but my experiences have only confirmed the necessity of keeping ...