Questions tagged [making-friends]

Situations where the end goal is to gain someone's friendship or to strengthen it.

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How to befriend someone who doesn't like to talk?

Background: I’m a 22-year-old woman, my brother is a 25-year-old man. We were close growing up, but around high school we drifted apart. As of now I wouldn’t say there’s much friendship between us at ...
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How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them?

I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the ...
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Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?

I grew up in a pretty religious (evangelical) family. Naturally, I believed what I was taught: the actual religious stuff like love your neighbors and enemies, be humble and kind, and so on. But also ...
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As an American abroad, how do I know when cheek-kissing is an appropriate way to say goodbye?

The generic question Traveling abroad as an American, especially in Europe, how can I know when I'm expected to cheek-kiss someone as a parting gesture? Is the rule different for men and women? How ...
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself [closed]

I've been criticized for being too reserved and guarded. I've spent time considering how to be more open and 'authentic' with others, but my experiences have only confirmed the necessity of keeping ...
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As an intern, how do I make friends with full timers?

I am doing my internship right now. My office has a large number of full timers. They are also much older than me, therefore our age group is not the same. Our job duties are also different, therefore ...
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Does Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" actually help us find people more interesting?

I'd bought Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People at a used book store years ago and later read it. The message I took away from it was that if we lead people to believe that we find ...
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How do I make it known to a group of friends that I need a little more patience to communicate with?

I am the kind of person that is quiet until I feel welcomed in a group of people, and even then, I still am relatively quiet until spoken to. Important information to consider: I am deaf with ...
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How to socialize at pubs/bars when you are alone?

Near my town there's a nice pub which is the only place in a big radius which offers live rock, metal and acoustic music (other venues offers DJs which puts reggaeton, hip hop, trap and EDM) and a ...
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What is an alternative to brutal honesty that doesn't involve lying?

I have been criticised on more than one occasion by friends and romantic partners for being "too honest". An example of this might be someone asking me if a dress looks good, and I will say if I think ...
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How can I offer to take care of the dog of a stranger when he/she is not home?

I live in an apartment building and I can often hear a dog whining in the apartment above mine, presumably because the owner is not home. The noise is only a slight bother, I more so feel bad for the ...
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How to signify to a coworker I'd like to become friends?

TL;DR I'd like to befriend a coworker with similar hobbies and values but I'm afraid I'd either sound awkward or flirty. How can I make him understand I'd like to become friends? Situation I've ...
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How do I make friends with service staff at restaurants/bars?

There are people at my local brewery I enjoy chatting with casually during down time. We've had some good conversation and things have gone great. My problem is how do I go about inviting them to ...
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Asking people to meet outside of work/gym/etc

Lately I feel like all the people I meet only get and stay acquaintances to mine. I don't have a huge friend group and would enjoy forming new friendships, going out more with people, etc. If often ...
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How to invite a coworker I'm romantically interested in to a dinner party without sounding like I have an agenda?

There is a nice new guy at my job who I have been getting to know more lately and I think he might like me. He sits at the desk next to mine so we often talk when we are alone in the room. We share ...
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How can I ask my opposite-sex acquaintance to go to a museum with me?

I recently moved to a new city and there is a girl who I am interested in having a friendship with. I see her everyday besides weekends in orchestra where I usually make some mild chatter with her, ...
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How do I politely/non-awkwardly get to know/give my number to a woman on a bus, in a non-intrusive manner?

So the title already gives some major details, but I’d like to evaluate further, to explain the situation better. I’m currently working on a short-term job, ending next week. The commute to this ...
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How to tell a person who is interested in me that a relationship is not an option?

I have this workmate for almost 2-months now, who is an all-out person. I mean, she's not afraid to tell any of her feelings towards another person. Now, she told me she likes me. I told her, which I ...
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How do I talk to someone I've had issues with before?

Last year a girl I go to school with found me annoying. She didn't have any grudges, it was just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I have been tring ...
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Where do adults make friends outside of work? [closed]

Outside of work it seems like some adults have no social life. Can someone tell me where and how adults make friends outside of their work place?
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How to get to know someone who doesn't use social media frequently?

I am really interested in this guy. I told him I like him and he said he thought I was cute but he was in a mono relationship right now and would still like to talk to me and get to know me. I still ...
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How to know whether or not to say hi to someone? [closed]

So Im a pretty introverted person, but when I moved out to study about a year ago I initially met a lot of new people. Mostly at parties and other social events arranged for students to get to know ...
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How to develop friendship without money? [closed]

I have a dilemma, I'm living in USA and I'm from Latin America (I'm learning to speak English too) so I'm trying to make some friends, I've already found a girl that is very nice, and she wants to ...
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How to start a conversation with an ex with whom the relationship ended in bad terms?

I am genuinely worried and would like to know how an old ex-girlfriend is doing. But it's been well over 2 years since she and I last talked and when we broke up, it wasn't on good terms. I DON'T ...
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How to get to know people who don’t respond to greetings the way I would expect them to

Not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but here we go. In my college I like talking to people and making connections. I think I am an extrovert. Sometimes when I talk with other ...
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How to contact and spend more time with the friends of my best friend?

Around a year back I met who I'd now definitely consider to be my best friend. She's always there and looks out for me. We are both busy but we see each other a few times a month and always have a ...
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How to get a friend with Asperger's to engage in more of a mutual conversation

So I've known this girl as a stranger for years and this past week we actually interacted and chatted for an hour. She told me a lot about herself, and expressed interest in hanging out the next time ...
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How to discuss why someone suddenly made plans without me?

I'm male, in my twenties and my definition of friendship is extremely strict. In fact, my friends are what most people would consider their "best friends". As such, I have very few of them. I think I'...
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How to casually invite a particular colleague for an afterwork?

I work with three colleagues in a small open space. We're developers. We've been colleagues for almost a year and got to know each decently. I'm a shy, socially anxious person that doesn't have many ...
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Helping daughter deal with overwhelming 'friend'

My step-daughter is very tolerant of other people, and kind-hearted. She is also quite mature for her age (11) and is not emotionally volatile like some of the other children in her class. I don't for ...
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Being a people pleaser vs trying to be more likeable same thing? [closed]

Being a people pleaser obviously has negative connotation. Is trying to be more likeable the same thing as people pleasing or is it something that one should strive for? Just trying to figure out if ...
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How to maintain friendships with women, while discouraging romantic feelings? [closed]

I have a recurring problem in my life. I try, but I can't have female friends. It is hard for me because I love to have conversations with them and I have problems with guys because they act like ...
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Dealing with language barrier in social gatherings

I moved to a new country last year for the end of my studies. The local language is English, which I can read, write, speak and understand without too much effort... at work. I have absolutely no ...
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How to try to make new friends? // How to get through a long ski season if I'm not able to Make any new friends? [closed]

I'm 14 years old and I'm doing competitive ski racing. This year, I moved up into an older ski group (U16). All my friends from the past year either quit ski racing to get a job, or they didn't move ...
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How do you know if you're worthy of friendship? [closed]

This probably sounds like an odd question, but I'm an odd guy. I believe friendship is established when two (or more) people are able to exchange ideas or emotions in a way which benefits all involved....
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Should I pursue a friendship with a classmate or let it be?

I started talking to this guy in one of my classes, and he asked me out for a date a couple weeks ago. After that our communication sort of stalled, and I figured he wasn't interested anymore. But ...
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How to be friendly with new team members

I am in US local government organization. Most of my team are middle-age men who are busy with their families, and are looking towards retirements. They are nice folks to collaborate, talk to at work, ...
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How to Approach Platonic Crush?

Context I have a platonic crush on a person I first met through a group interview for voluntary work at an organisation. In the interview, I found out their name and after knowing a little more about ...
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How do I socialise with a guy in the gym and in my hostel that I want to become friends with?

I am a 20 year old male living in India. Most probably, I am bi, but I am not out yet. My problem is a mixture of shyness, attraction, and confusion. So I live in a college in a hostel (hall) of 400 ...
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How to Build a Friendship with a Private Instructor

Background: I'm a twenty something male who takes guitar and foreign language from two private instructors. Both are master's level university students giving lessons as a source of side income. Both ...
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How to convey interest after I've declined multiple invitations?

My neighbor who lives across the hall from me in my apartment building is clearly trying to extend an olive branch of friendship. We met at a community gathering for residents a little over a month ...
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How to get our families and friends to get in better contact with us or cope with the situation [closed]

My spouse and I left our hometowns more than 10 years ago and got to know each other in the city where we are living now. The distance to our hometowns is about a 3 and a half hours drive in opposite ...
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How to approach a random person that appears to be interested in you?

A lot of the time (3-5 times a month) when I'm walking in the street or sitting on the public transit random strangers will make eye contact with me for more than 3 seconds and also smile at me in a ...
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How to keep offering support to someone in grief

A bit of history to explain our current relationship: I met a person recently over a dating app, talked a bit and then met for a date which ended just as a friendly chat, and due to distancing there ...
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How do I start a conversation with a friend I had a crush on in junior high?

Backstory: I met the person when I went to tuitions during my high school junior year. We didn't explicitly talk to each other as I was really shy but had some small talk here and there. As I didn't ...
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Where to stand after night out with "crush" [closed]

My problem is, cannot wrap my head around this. Through the internet I got to know a woman also living in my town, actually just 10 min per foot away. We wrote a few days and met a few times. The ...
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How can I effectively use social media to become closer friends with people I don't see often? [closed]

There are some people who I want to get to know better, mainly childhood friends I've grown apart from, former co-workers and children of my parents' friends. I'm connected to them on Facebook but don'...
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How do I follow up with new acquaintances to develop a friendship? [closed]

I think this Sarah Scribbles' strip illustrated the question in a nutshell: Sometimes when at meetups, or at miscellaneous networking events I would meet people I could click with and become friends -...
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How do I convince women that my intentions are pure? [closed]

I have decided to do my once per year attempt to not die alone this week that has passed. I decided to ask this nice looking lady that I know for coffee. The problem I have is that for some reason I ...
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Getting along with group of friends after quitting smoking hookah?

Some information upfront: I'm 21, our group of friends is between 18-21, we're all from Germany. Problem is, all of my friends and I meet up frequently to smoke a hookah (pretty common here in ...
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