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Questions tagged [marriage]

For situations that concern married partners: interactions between the couple or external factors that affect their relationship.

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How to tell my violin teacher who's interested in me that I'm actually married after I sent positive signals back for months? [closed]

I'm a 30 year old male and I've been married for 10 years. I work in an all-male environment. I don't have female friends. I have no male-female relationship experience outside of my marriage. In ...
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How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?

My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi. My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
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Communicating with spouse more clearly across cultural boundaries [closed]

My wife is Chinese, with an intermediate grasp of English. I am British, and fluent in English (I speak Mandarin, but not very well). We've been married 4 years. When my wife asks me for help with ...
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How do I help my wife control her irritablness and anger so she doesn't induce me to a rage? [closed]

My wife is very irritable. The slightest annoyance can make her stern, change the way she speaks, and cause her to increase the volume and pitch of her voice, and essentially hammer her point to ...
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How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd [closed]

I know that people have their own points of views according to different religions, cultures etc. and so on, but how can I deal with people who outwardly come to you and find it wrong or a problem or ...
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How can I tell my husband I need time for myself without work?

I studied Computer Science and now work full-time as a developer. When I come home from work, I want to spend some time with my husband and the kid until bed time, and then play video games or crochet ...
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How to re-build intimacy with romantic partner

Me and my wife have been married for almost 5 years and together for 7. We are both relatively young, she is still in her twenties. The past year or so, I have not acknowledged her very much. I have ...
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How can I say “No” to a best friend asking for Marriage?

TL;DR My one childhood friend asking me for marriage. He is my very good friend. I want to say him 'No' for marriage. Background Few months before, I have seen a guy on Facebook in recommended ...
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How should I discuss on which side of the family to spend Christmas with?

This year I suggested that we make the 19 hour drive to go see my family. Travel Saturday and Sunday, and then travel back the next weekend. My wife seems to be on board with it, however, she still ...
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Dealing with double standards from my wife [closed]

My wife and I have known each other and been good friends for around ten years, but only got together four years ago. Fast forward to today we are married, have our own place and a 2.5 year old son. ...
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How to resolve conflict when neither spouse concedes?

For reference, my significant other and I are in our early twenties. We have been married for less than a year. We argue frequently- nothing too toxic, no swearing (which is offensive in our culture),...
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How do I talk to my wife about her minor scheming?

Starting about a year or two ago, my wife (let's call her Sally) has been rather dishonest about some of the activities we've been apart of. Most of the time I don't notice, but my friend notices far ...
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How do I insist my wife gets rid of her recently bought pet spider, given that I'm arachnophobic?

The title summarizes the issue quite well: I'm arachnophobic and my wife wants a pet spider. She knows I'm terrified by all kinds of bugs, and she wants to buy it anyway. I know phobias are not good.....
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How can I get my partner to keep up with her chores? [duplicate]

My partner is bad about keeping up with small chores, like putting away the dishes after eating, which results in them piling up and turning into big chores, which then turns into a big problem for ...
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How can I ask my wife to share more of our responsibilities?

I feel like too much of the responsibilities of being an adult fall on my shoulders, and that my wife does a lot more taking than giving in that regard. I would like our relationship to be more of an ...
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How do I convince my sister that her boyfriend who helped her a lot is not good as a life partner? [closed]

My sister, 27, who is 2 years older than me, found her boyfriend on a dating app. My sister was in depression during those days and it was her boyfriend who provided her with emotional support. Now ...
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How to tell my wife about a (possibly romantic) relationship with another woman?

I am happily married male, mid-thirties, Central Europe, two nice kids. With my wife, we have a great relationship and no big issues, just the normal ones (if she only didn't burn the meal that often :...
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How to talk to my brother-in-law about my concerns about his intent to propose to his girlfriend?

I was born and raised in Italy and got married to a wonderful girl from Spain whom I met in the UK. A year ago my brother-in-law has met a nice girl from Italy and held a long distance relationship ...
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How can my wife have her cake if I won't eat it too? [closed]

My wife's birthday is coming up next week, and I'm looking to get her a cake - she rarely ever has gotten her very own birthday cake, and I want to get her something she will really appreciate. She ...
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How to get my wife to remember to say “please”

We've been married for over five years now, have two little kids and our relationship is as good as can be. We both value harmony very highly and thus tend to avoid an open conflict whenever possible -...
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How to convince my wife that my best friend and I are just friends?

I have a friend (a woman), who I met around 8 months ago. Since then, she has become my best friend and we are extremely close. Understandably, my wife is envious of the relationship and even ...
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Asking a girl you love (without being rude) to be your girlfriend when you're married [closed]

I know a girl from the internet (we both live in Germany), and looks like everything is fine between us (we are talking every some hours, smiling, flirting ..etc). I am currently married, but, as my ...
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How can I have a conversation with my wife to be ensured of her faithfulness?

I am living in India and I married a beautiful wife recently (this was an arranged marriage). I am working in office from 9AM to 5PM, she is a housemaker. We are living in a building where most of the ...
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Coping with different spending philosophies in a marriage [closed]

I am British, in my mid-twenties, and in a pretty well paying job. My wife is Chinese, a few years older than me, and while having a moderately well paying job previously is currently is a student. We'...
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Not having to explain my reasons for wanting to keep my last name

As a female in the UK, I'm expected to drop my last name and take my (male) partners' name when we get married - there's no law against me keeping my last name, though it's generally frowned upon. ...
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Are there any ways to avoid unwanted approaches when not wearing a wedding ring?

I am happily married man and have no interest in engaging in a relationship outside of it. I have heard that wearing a wedding ring alerts women to the fact that I'm married and not looking for ...
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How do I politely decline a request for a contract marriage?

I am a recent graduate from a school in the United States that has a large number of international students. During my time there, I became friends with someone who I will refer to as "Suzy." Suzy and ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible “emotional affair”

Background: My wife and I have been together for about 8 years now (married for 6) and we have two gorgeous children. My wife, unfortunately, has been suffering from mild depression for quite a while,...
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Maintaining honesty while being comforting in response to insecurity about relationship?

My wife and I are happily married and have a great relationship, but my wife is on occasion plagued by feelings of insecurity and concern that I am unhappy and want to leave the relationship. These ...
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How to deal with a friend who is “throwing” online games

I have a friend with whom I have been playing a certain online game for many years. I also play with his wife. I have been friends with both of them for over three decades, first individually, and ...
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Wife does not work but wants “own” money/allowance

My wife and I have been married 4 years (United States). We had a baby 6 months ago and 8 months ago my wife quit working, it started to be to much on her physically and now we both like that our ...
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How can I tell my wife that her fears and mistrust are hurting us?

I've been married now for few years (around 2 years), and everything is ok between my wife and me. Before me, she was married (for around 8 months) to a husband who cheated on her with her sister (...
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How can one stop dubious advances of a married former partner without hurting them a lot?

I am sorry if this is a duplicate, the closest situation I could find here is this one. This is a bit long but given that I am not entirely sure if there was any advance to be concerned about in the ...
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How do I tactfully approach both polyamorous partners to talk about their expectations about the future? [closed]

I have 2 girlfriends in a polyamorous relationship. I have been dating the first one for a couple of years and I recently started dating the second one for 8 months. They are friends with each other ...
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Asking an ex-girlfriend out to coffee, now that she's married and has a child

One of my closest girl friends that I dated for a while - and then remained close friends with even after we decided to just be friends - got married over the past two years and also just had a baby. ...
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How do I ask my fiancée if she likes oral sex?

Today I read How do I communicate to my husband that I don't like oral sex?. I am also from India and I really like receiving oral sex. But I have not done it with my girlfriend, since in our ...
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How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary?

Background I married my wife 2 years ago after we dated for about a year. There has been ongoing conflicts between my wife and my family, which I will elaborate below. My wife is Korean, I am ...
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How do I caution my brother about getting married two weeks after meeting someone?

My older brother met a girl 10 days ago. Yesterday he announced to the family that they are engaged, and today we were told that they would be getting married sometime next week. The whole family is ...
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Should I object to my best friend's wedding? [closed]

I'm the best man at my best friend's Floridian destination wedding. We've been friends since middle school, and in general, we can confide in each other just about anything. Over the course of the ...
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How can I convince my close friend that he should listen to his mother and take a chance with arranged marriage?

This question carries the India tag but is really about how to deal with some people's reluctance to enter into relationships, so I welcome answers from members all over the world! This is about the ...
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How to approach my spouse about their weight gain?

My spouse is and has always been quite overweight. From the beginning it was no problem for me, I just don't mind. Yet, since we've been living together, my spouse somehow put on a lot of weight (...
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How can I convince my 'cousin sister' that the man she loves is of 'bad character?'

I did use the India tag as a matter of course, but as always welcome answers from members all over the world. Why? Because some of the most helpful answers to my previous India-tagged questions came ...
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How to get spouse to empathetically listen to problems instead of (or at least before!) offering solutions?

My spouse and I have a recurring problem. I will try to talk about my day, which may include a tough problem that has been frustrating me. Before I've even had a chance to explain what is going on, he ...
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How to respond to “When are you getting married”?

My question is similar to: How can I respond when someone asks me when I'm going to get married to my girlfriend? But my case is pretty different. I am a teacher and hence can't avoid public and ...
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Can you help someone become more self aware?

The TL:DR is the actual heading. The rest is all backstory on why I am asking. I am asking if I can (or maybe even should try) to assist my spouse on becoming more self aware. My husband and I were ...