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Questions tagged [mental-health]

For questions about interpersonal skills where mental health issues play a significant role, and that do not require professional help to resolve.

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How to deal with my mom's insistence that eight people are harassing her, even though there's no actual evidence? [on hold]

I'm 26, female, moved back in with mom and dad in April after a breakup with my ex-girlfriend (the relationship ended as she got a job elsewhere... I couldn't afford to live in NYC, but she could). I ...
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Dealing with mom's split personality and her not remembering her behavior afterward? [closed]

I'm 26, female, and have moved back in with my parents in March after my relationship with my girlfriend didn't work out; she had to move to Los Angeles for work and the relationship had ended anyway (...
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What techniques I can use in conversations with my schizophrenic friend?

I have a friend who I've known for over forty years. Early on in our friendship, my friend was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has been on medication and psychiatric care ever since. There ...
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Telling my mother that I have anorexia without panicking her

I have a lot of (mental) health issues and I know my mother is often worried about me. One of the things that worry her is how poorly I eat (I told her that I basically eat the same thing at every ...
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How to reassure my boyfriend

My boyfriend and I have been together 4 months and my anxiety is ruining our relationship. When we have a slight clash of opinions/different viewpoints it triggers my anxiety and it will turn into a ...
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Asking a coworker to chitchat somewhere else

Background I work in an open space and people there chitchat fairly often. I do it, my coworkers do it and everyone is fine with that (even if it can be a bit annoying IMO). Today, one of my ...
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How to tell a girl with anxiety and OCD I'd like to date her without triggering her?

Background: I'm a college student currently at home on summer vacation. A few weeks before I left school, I was approached by a girl who knew me through a mutual friend. She suggested we hang out and ...
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How do I talk to my wife about unrealistic expectations?

I have been married less than a year and we are both quite young, which is partly why I'm posting on here for advice. My wife has recently been 'complaining' that she finds it difficult that she can'...
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On what to compliment someone with anorexia in order to improve their body image?

I'm in an online support group for people with anxiety, depression and these kinds of things (I already talked about it in this question). The other day, someone with anorexia (her words) posted a ...
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How to deal with racist sexist friend

I have a childhood friend of 40 years, who is steadily becoming more intolerant of anyone who is not a white anglo male. In the last year alone, he has ranted to me over email (we live on different ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to seek professional help

Background My now ex-girlfriend and I have dated for nearly three years (both nearly in our 30s). Up until some months ago, our relationship was the perfect one everybody is looking for. In short, we ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to delete nude pictures of us that she took?

An ex-girlfriend whom I used to date around two years ago is in town. We had broken up amicably and have kept in touch somewhat. We are planning to meet this week to catch up. Back when we were ...
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How can I help talk a close friend out of religiously radicalizing? [closed]

I have a close friend that I grew up with that has begun to show signs of radicalizing in his religion. I do not share this religion but we are close friends. He has many friends, very educated, a ...
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Acknowledge there is a problem without making the other person more worried

A little about me: I'm on the autism spectrum; I have tiredness issues and other related problems. I'm currently working full time and this plus my tiredness makes it really difficult for me to eat ...
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Asking a retired soldier about their experiences

I know an elderly guy through a volunteering program that helps charities. He seems rather kind but I don’t talk to him often. I know when he was younger, he served on the American forces and helped ...
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How to ask a possibly depressed, not-so-close friend if they need help

Context: Western European country, people involved are in their late 20's I was at a party at a friends house, where I met a mutual acquaintance, whom I have met only a few times in the past. We had ...
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Being told to get into a relationship despite state of mental health, how to ask why?

In spite of my current mental health, friends, family, and health care professionals* often tell me to consider getting into a relationship without telling me why I should get into one. As a ...
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Worried about girlfriend lifestyle changes

My girlfriend has been experimenting with different lifestyle changes lately, which I think is not only amazing, but an important element in growth. I would like to support her through all these ...
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How to stop friends giving me burnout at social events?

I care about my friends, and I believe its mutual, but I've noticed a trend over the past couple of years. Nowadays we generally tend to visit eachother's homes rather than go out to bars/restaurants....
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Telling my boss that I have tiredness issues

I'm a junior IT engineer who was recently hired by a company. I'm from France and my probation isn't over yet (two to four months left to go). I'm also on the autism spectrum (the people at my work ...
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How can I avoid asking leading question when inquiring for someone well being?

Some time ago, I read an article where someone with Alzheimer explained that, when someone asked her "Do you remember?" she felt pressured to say "yes" even when she didn't. So, from this I was ...
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How can I talk about my problems without having people exaggerate their gravity

Note: this is not a call for help or anything, I'm doing fine :) I want to open up and talk about my problems, anxieties and depressive periods. The thing is, I'm used to it and it's often not as big ...
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How to announce to our relatives that our daughter has dementia?

We are a couple, 36/M, and 38/F, with a 13-year-old daughter, who was diagnosed with dementia on Saturday. We're from Vancouver, British Columbia in Canada. Over the past few weeks she'd been ...
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How can I tell my friend to take her medication?

I have a friend who takes medication for anxiety and depression. When she forgets to take her medication she has very specific behaviors, some of which include tantrums, panic attacks, and ...
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Talking to a parent about their mental health

I am worried I have a parent who exhibits signs of Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI), and I would like them to see a clinician. How can I bring up my concerns without running into the stigma around ...
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How can I show my brother that he did something wrong, without seeming angry, so that he doesn't feel afraid to make a mistake

Brief summary about myself. I work in IT and often enough people ask me to help them with their IT related issues, most often it's someone from the family or relatives. In my every day work I do a lot ...
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How to confront a friend who lies about relationship and popularity?

This is all going to sound very judgemental to my friend, but trust me, it's not. I think I know how she feels and I understand why she would do it and I want to help her. My whole friend group does. ...
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How can I explain a phobia when travelling to a non-English speaking country?

I considered putting this question into the Travel stackexchange but this issue feels like it's more to do with interpersonal skills and communication than actually travelling. I'm happy for it to be ...
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How to communicate to my girlfriend that I'd like to talk more without coming across as desperate, needy, or clingy [closed]

First, a little background My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 8 months now, and I have to say that this is the happiest relationship I think I've ever been in. I'm 23 going on 24 ...
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How can I properly refuse my mother's help?

I'm living in a theocratic country, where people have to study religion in schools and universities extensively, no matter the field of study. And holding different views from the mainstream religion ...
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How to throw out the group mentor in a proper way?

I am a part of an activity group of 10 members (in our case: theatre). We mostly get along pretty well, know each other for quite some years already, but have worked as such a group only for a year by ...
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How can I tell my girlfriend to deal with her anxiety? [closed]

My girlfriend of 9 months has nearly crippling anxiety, which has gone untreated until the middle of last year. She started taking a new medication a few months ago, and it doesn't seem to be working. ...
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How to tell my girlfriend, my friends and relatives that I might have alexithymia, without making it sound like an excuse?

Context: I'm a 25 years old, Brazilian, programmer, living alone for 5 years now. I acknowledge some bad traits that I have such as excessive laziness, huge need for hours of sleep, very connected to ...
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How can I help a close person that is toxic seek professional help?

The person I'm talking about is my own mother. She has depression and she's seeing a doctor. It is a little rough talking about your own kind like this, but as rough as it is, it's the truth. My ...
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Very moody gf not helping in household

My GF and I split the cost of our rent with the promise that she pays less and does the household instead. She only works 80%, I do 100%, thus we decided that I pay 60% and she 40% of the rent and she ...
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How to politely deflect questions about awkward scars?

Content warning: Self-harm Due to some issues I had a few years ago with self harming (related to mental health issues which I no longer have - hurrah!), I'm left with a lot of awkward scars on my ...
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How do I tell therapist that something is a big issue to me, even though culturally it's not? [closed]

Something relationship/sex -related happened to me half a year ago, and since I still haven't recovered, I have decided to seek professional help. I have very different background than people in this ...
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How to voice my concerns to a friend with mental health issues?

I'm looking for advice on how to deal with a complicated situation I'm going through. This is my last semester at college, and the only course I have left consists of developing a single, final ...
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How to tell partner we need boundaries?

I have been with my partner for about a year now, we are not married. In the past 8 months I have felt that my partner does not respect when I say no to certain things. We are both in university, I ...
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How do I tell my parents I don't enjoy their company?

I moved to a new country (Canada) for university about a year ago. I am doing well in my studies. I'm not so well mentally but that's always been an issue even back home. My parents often come to ...
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How can I discuss payment for therapy with my mother without discussing the specifics of my mental health?

I am a college student who no longer lives with my parents, but lives in the same town, going to college. I see my parents a lot and have a good relationship with them, and they help me pay my rent, ...
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How can I convince my teacher that I'm still suffering from mental illness, despite him insisting I'm over it? [closed]

I'm 17 years old and live in Austria. I currently attend the 4th grade at my "Highschool". Since I was 4 years old, I have problems with depression and other mental illness-stuff. In my second year I ...
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How to handle a close but unhealthy friendship that cannot be ended? [closed]

Alice and I met when we were both nine year old. We had a very close and intense friendship for years. However, due in part to mental health issues from both of us, this friendship is now very ...
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Friend smokes too much weed [closed]

A friend of mine, actually my best friend whom I've known for 5 years now is a very emotionally driven person. He is 19 years old, attends Engineering school in which he really struggles, and he even ...
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How best to comfort someone who is worried about an upcoming medical procedure?

My girlfriend is soon to undergo key-hole surgery on her knee. She is constantly very anxious about the operation, which then brings her mood down, because it's all she can think about. Personally, ...
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How should I respond to verbal abuse when not directed at me?

Background I recently met this couple through my boyfriend. The husband is from southern Europe (Bob) and his wife is from Tibet (Lisa). Bob met Lisa in Nepal during a trip to India some 20 years ago,...
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Bringing up mental illness to dates?

I have bipolar disorder. It is under control, but I read that my children might inherit it and my medicines might affect unborn children. But, I'd like to get married and have children. After ...