Questions tagged [misunderstandings]

Used in situations where someone's motives, actions or words have either been wrongly interpreted or they haven't been properly conveyed.

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How can I tactfully point out that someone misunderstood me?

Yesterday at work I had the same misunderstanding with two different co-workers. I'm working on a website with both an English and Spanish version. I explained over Slack that I found the resource ...
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How do I deal with the problem of people who aren't listening to what I'm actually saying?

The problem I've spent many years gauging my interactions with other people, and a commonly reoccurring theme is the other person already has presumed what I'm saying or going to say, or has drawn up ...
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How can I reassure others that I'm not offended by their teasing?

I have a group of friends who I sit with on the bus. Usually, they have fun talking while I watch and listen, which I'm perfectly fine with. From time to time I join in to their conversation, which ...
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I'm literal; how can I understand what is meant? [closed]

Well I'm not literally literal. But I interpret communication relatively literally. Specifically I usually take definitions literally. This leads to misinterpretations. Others have called me ...
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Maintaining honesty while being comforting in response to insecurity about relationship?

My wife and I are happily married and have a great relationship, but my wife is on occasion plagued by feelings of insecurity and concern that I am unhappy and want to leave the relationship. These ...
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How can I let my girlfriend know that her insults are hurting my feelings and ask her to stop?

Some background about me and my girlfriend: We are in a long distance relationship for more than four years, so we only see each other on weekends (unfortunately not every weekend), but this is about ...
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How to deal with a huge misunderstanding and an angry ex-girlfriend?

A few weeks ago, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up. It was a peaceful ending, with no tears, or fights - we simply accepted that was better for us to move on. We were living in the same place, until I ...
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How to tell a date I really enjoyed our dates so far and I would like to go on another, when I might have offended her? [closed]

Here's the setting: Blake and I met while in graduate school, taking a couple of classes together. She had this quiet intelligence about her that was really attractive, and on one wintry night, I ...
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Means of expressing sympathy and understanding without saying “I know”

Recently I have been in a position where a friend of mine has been going through difficult times and has come to me as a shoulder to cry on and/or for emotional support. During these times I find ...
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How could I determine if one simply could not or also would not like to go on a date? [closed]

I am not particularly good at picking up on social cues, and, regardless, a question of what cues might indicate the answer to my question would be more opinion-based. For context, I am an 18-year-...
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How to respond when someone tells you about their failure

I tend to be relatively successful (I'm a student) compared to my friends, so many times, when my friends tell me about their failures (did poorly on a test, got rejected by a college, etc.), I'm not ...
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How to deal with person offloading their indecision on their host under guise of kindness?

Hard to come up with a succinct title for this question, but a few sentences should clarify: My partner and I are hosting a relative of my partner for a 2 week visit. There's a reoccurring issue ...
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How to ask a friend to remove/not post photos of me on social media?

We recently attended a friend's birthday party where some pictures were taken. I had no problem with it, as long as these photos were not put online and shared. The majority of my friends (I'd say ...
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How can I tell a friend they need to help with what they promised because what they promised can't wait?

Situation My boyfriend, John, has a female cat. He's had her for a long time. He also happens to have a friend, Lily, who loves cats. Over time, Lily went from being a cat lover to being a cat ...
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Dealing with a wait-and-see situation when you have a time constraint

Short Version: I have a budding friendship with a coworker, but recently said something incredibly stupid that has left them feeling justifiably hurt. While I think it would be best to give them ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?

It seems to me that it's sometimes difficult to both stay within the social protocol and also communicate your intentions clearly. As an example of this, I once asked a girl I knew out to see a ...
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How can I explain to people that a programmer isn't a computer technician?

In Italy, a lot of people keep thinking that programmers are computer technicians. A programmer does completely different things, and in a company, I'm not the guy who should assemble your computer ...
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How to deal with an employer's backhanded compliments?

This is no longer a problem, as he has moved on and I have retired, but I still don't know how it could/should have been handled. I'll write it in the present tense, though. My employer in the ...
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What to do when someone serves chicken after you told them you are vegetarian? [closed]

This question opens a broad spectrum of sub-questions such as religious standards (halal, kosher); health-related (gluten intolerance); and lifestyle/ethical questions (vegetarian). Therefore, I will ...