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Questions tagged [money]

Questions involving money, either the giving of or or the receiving of it, or how to handle money as a group.

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How to politely ask for money for groceries back from my girfriend? [on hold]

I bought some groceries for me, and my girlfriend was with me. I also paid for her shopping and she said "let me know how much...". I told her the amount, but nothing has happened for three days. How ...
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How to reply to “don't you trust me?” when asking to see bill?

I live in a shared house where the utilities are under the lease holders name (Bob). I have a written agreement with Bob where he said I can see the original bills for utilities. I don't know why, but ...
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How to help a familiar financially without making them less responsable? [closed]

Last month, I got my first job, I started to earn a great amount of money, more than I need for my expenses, so, I decided to set aside part of my income to charity. Talking with my mother about what ...
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How to insist roommate provides me with proof of utilities bill?

I live in a shared house with several other people. One of them (call him Bob) signed the master lease with the owner and his name is on all the utilities. I pay Bob rent and my utilities. I have a ...
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Leaseholder suddenly increased everyone's rent, saying when he renewed lease with owner, they increased it

I live in a shared household. One person signed the lease with the owner and we pay him money for rent. He gave postdated checks to the owner. The lease recently was up for renewal and the owner ...
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How to tell brother that not returning money when he has it is not cool

I lent my brother over 700€ more than a year ago because he needed it more than me (I needed it to because I was going to get married), he told me he was going to return them as soon as possible, a ...
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How do I talk to my girlfriend about pitching in financially when we go out? [closed]

We have been together for 6 months. We are far away. We meet on the weekends. I have been to paying, but now I think it's time to share. We also talk about living together. How can I discuss this ...
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Thanks to friend's deal I saved some money, I would like to thank him [closed]

I have a friend who does financial advices and arranges certain deals. Thanks to him I was able to make a deal on which I saved a good amount of money. Since we're not that good friends, we usually ...
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Leaseholder rented out storageroom and I was under impression money from it would be divided evenly

I live as a roommate in a house shared with several other people. We had agreed to let an additional person stay here for several months for $x amount of dollars (technically I never agreed to this ...
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How to repay someone for a favour when it was their fault they had to do it in the first place? [closed]

This happened to a friend of mine (I framed the question differently to make it shorter). She told me about this and I'm wondering if she did the right thing given the situation. Background: My ...
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Group Date Split Check

My wife and I would like to ask another couple to a group date at a local restaurant. I'm fine with this, but I'm unsure as to whether a "group date" implies that the check will be split between the ...
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(How) can I ask gifts be in cash/check instead of more restrictive instruments?

When close family members give me gifts, it's often in the form of gift cards or pre-paid debit cards. I appreciate their generosity, and I spend the balances eventually, but I think both giver and ...
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How to approach the topic of splitting a vacation rental bill by ability to pay?

I'm planning a trip with friends and I'd like to rent a house for the weekend. The bill for such rental, housing 8-10 people, is $800-1,000. I don't want to pay the whole cost myself, but I am happy ...
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How can I communicate to my girlfriend that I'm uncomfortable paying most bills without ruining the relationship?

My girlfriend is an immigrant and will soon have a job for a year. After that job she'll need to go to school to continue staying in the US. Our current situation She technically lives with me after ...
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Making an acquaintance of a bank manager

I'm currently reading "Get a Financial Life" by Beth Kobliner after hearing it praised so much over on Money.SE. In the section on Banking, Kobliner says: Why it pays to know your bank manager ...
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How do I give money for the tickets to the girl that I'm seeing?

I've been out with this girl a couple of times already, we're going out again soon and once more after that to a concert. I couldn't buy the tickets online, so she did. I've been brought up in a way ...
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How can I ask for money return from friends without sounding selfish? [duplicate]

My 2 close friends borrowed a handsome amount from me without mentioning any deadline and that time I've had enough so I gave the amount, it's been 5 months when I gave the amount but now I need my ...
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Roommate demanding security deposit before leaving the room

I signed the lease for a small 2 bedroom apartment. I have had four roommates in the span of three years. The three previous roommates left because they moved out of town. The current roommate started ...
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How to deal with the fact my dad raised money for charity, then spent the cash on himself? [closed]

I'm 26, female, living at home with my parents for now (boyfriend left me to get a job abroad, said the relationship was effectively over), and over the past few months my dad was fundraising £40,000 ...
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How to reveal debt to longtime boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. We have never lived together in the same place, but have spent time together at each other's places. We're pretty serious now and I have ...
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How to tell my parents I want to live in another city and ask them for their support

Background My parents want me and my fiance to move in city A My fiance and I want to live in city B I'm financially dependent on my parents, so they have the upper hand. Not totally dependent, but I ...
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How can I refuse my brother's plan for an expensive trip?

I live in a developing country. My wife and I make US$32,000 yearly. My brother and his wife live and work in a developed country and make much more than us, probably 3 times more. Recently, some of ...
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How to response to double standards elder relatives/acquaintance about my saving for a new PC without looking like an arrogant/disrespectful person?

Background I've been saving for new PC for a while and should be enough in a couple of months, soon be building it. The PC's components have already been chosen and should be working for both my job ...
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How to turn roommate down politely?

My potential roommate and I planned to lease a flat for the last of our university time. However he plans to live in the flat even between semesters (not returning home) so that he can get a job to ...
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How to tell the leaseholder I won't cover a kicked-out roommates rent

Last month I moved into a shared house. There are 6 people living here. The primary leaseholder told me he had told another tenant to move out because he was always late on the rent. I never met this ...
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How to deal with confrontational contractor who does not adequately do their job?

I hired a contractor to redo my backyard. The ensuing project was a battle every step of the way. The work needed to be checked nightly; he cut every possible corner; he took 2 months to complete a ...
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How to add personal money to a gift without seeming ungrateful?

Let's consider the following situation: a family member has offered to buy me a given object as a gift, for example a table, with a given budget, for example 500€ (random object and amount of money). ...
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How to deal with aunt harassing my 15-year-old daughter for money?

I'm uncertain how to deal with a family issue. My 15-year-old daughter is being hounded by her aunt for $8,000, for no good reason, and she's kept phoning her cellphone morning, noon and night. She ...
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How not to get dismissed in a negotiations

My example will be salary negotiations specific but I'd like to know how not to let other person dismiss you easily from negotiations. In a few days I'm planning to renegotiate my salary with boss of ...
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How can I initiate a talk of money with my friend about his business idea?

This is kind of a follow up to How to decline additional help when friend won't take no for an answer My friend has a business idea that he wants me to build an app for. I'm still deciding my ...
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How can I ask an acquaintance to make no offers on an apartment we are both interested in?

TL;DR An acquaintance of mine wants to buy the same apartment as me, and neither of us is willing to back down. Background In short, we discovered before going to the showing that were both very ...
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How can I remain friends with my sponsor child without continually funding them?

Asking for my wife: My wife has been sponsoring a child in Africa for 15 years. They regularly exchanged letters through the sponsorship program. No direct contact occurred, the letters were being ...
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Family constantly bets when playing games

Background: My siblings are used to spending money without a care in the world and it has leaked into the board games we play. When we play games they always want to bet. When I ask them if we can ...
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How can I stress to my brother the importance of saving when he relies on me as a safety net?

My younger brother has a wife and two daughters and has habit of spending money. For example, he likes going to movies often, eating out often, and buying name brand clothes. I also have a wife and ...
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Neighbor is responsible for additional costs to construction of our house; how to convince them to pay?

Situation My girlfriend and I are in the process of building a house to start a family. We have hired a contractor that will arrange everything from start to finish to deliver a habitable house. The ...
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My roommate is making me pay too much for rent. How should I confront him?

I just moved to a new city for my master studies. I met a man via a social website who is already living here and he offered to rent me his two room apartment for a year while he was studying abroad, ...
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How to tell someone they should honour their bid on my item?

I am selling used textbooks online in a Facebook buy and sell group. Two people contacted me within a minute apart to buy the same book, which I had listed for $50 OBO ("or best offer"). I messaged ...
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How to involve the law with minimizing feelings of threatening

Basically I have to give someone I live with notice I will start legal action against them. A roommate's dog will not stop barking. I told her it affects my ability to work and sleep and she said ...
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How can I deal with a discrepancy in financial situations between friends/family and myself?

About a year ago I landed a great job in a field that I've been trying to get into. The problem is that most of my friends make much less than I do. Their jobs are near entry level and they don't make ...
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Helping a friend who will likely die without help, but refuses help? [closed]

So I have a friend who's suffering from a condition known as cirrhosis that will likely take their life anytime between several months from now and several years from now. The thing is, this ...
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How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?

Some Background My girlfriend's family moved to the US about 2 years ago to escape their home country (which is going through political and economic turmoil) to start over. Her mom sells insurance, ...
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I got a job, how should I pay for my girlfriend? [closed]

I've been dating with my girlfriend since almost 4 years. In the beginning, I was paying for both of us when we went out, so all of the couple-related expenses were covered by me. For example, if we ...
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How to develop friendship without money? [closed]

I have a dilemma, I'm living in USA and I'm from Latin America (I'm learning to speak English too) so I'm trying to make some friends, I've already found a girl that is very nice, and she wants to ...
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How can I tell my parents I'd like to help them financially after getting a very well paid job?

My parents have been supportive of my education for my entire life. I lucked out and the field of interest to me just so happens to be a very high paying field. I recently finished my formal ...
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Friend owes me money - not giving it back [closed]

I lend my friend about 95$. I considered him a relatively close friend. I've always been a little forgetful, so after I lend him the money, it took some time for me to contact him about the exact ...
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How to tell my roommates that I want to move out ASAP when they say they rely on my rent?

I recently graduated from college, out of state from my hometown, and got a job here. A friend of mine and her husband offered to let me stay with them for very little rent until I could find a place ...
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How to ask my SO if they are ok with me paying for their flight?

Background I've been in a relationship for 8+ months now, and the trip I'm referencing will be past our 1 year date. These numbers don't matter to me any more (as opposed to 1-2 months into the ...
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How to handle wife wanting inheritance when I have none [closed]

We live in a large and expensive city with really high real-estate costs. Both me and my wife are around 30 years of age. It's been over Four years into my marriage now. My wife is constantly worried ...
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Close relative refuses to acknowledge being deeply in debt

Note: the text uses "they" when talking about the person in question to preserve anonymity. A few years ago I was living with a close relative of mine and their parents, and I became aware that the ...
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Relationship - dealing with different views about spending money (who should pay for what)

My girlfriend and I are dating for about 6 months now. We recently started talking about moving together. I really adore my girlfriend, but there are some patterns in her behavior (mostly related to ...