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Questions tagged [money]

Questions involving money, either the giving of or or the receiving of it, or how to handle money as a group.

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How not to get dismissed in a negotiations

My example will be salary negotiations specific but I'd like to know how not to let other person dismiss you easily from negotiations. In a few days I'm planning to renegotiate my salary with boss of ...
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How can I initiate a talk of money with my friend about his business idea?

This is kind of a follow up to How to decline additional help when friend won't take no for an answer My friend has a business idea that he wants me to build an app for. I'm still deciding my ...
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How can I ask an acquaintance to make no offers on an apartment we are both interested in?

TL;DR An acquaintance of mine wants to buy the same apartment as me, and neither of us is willing to back down. Background In short, we discovered before going to the showing that were both very ...
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How can I remain friends with my sponsor child without continually funding them?

Asking for my wife: My wife has been sponsoring a child in Africa for 15 years. They regularly exchanged letters through the sponsorship program. No direct contact occurred, the letters were being ...
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Family constantly bets when playing games

Background: My siblings are used to spending money without a care in the world and it has leaked into the board games we play. When we play games they always want to bet. When I ask them if we can ...
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How can I stress to my brother the importance of saving when he relies on me as a safety net?

My younger brother has a wife and two daughters and has habit of spending money. For example, he likes going to movies often, eating out often, and buying name brand clothes. I also have a wife and ...
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Neighbor is responsible for additional costs to construction of our house; how to convince them to pay?

Situation My girlfriend and I are in the process of building a house to start a family. We have hired a contractor that will arrange everything from start to finish to deliver a habitable house. The ...
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My roommate is making me pay too much for rent. How should I confront him?

I just moved to a new city for my master studies. I met a man via a social website who is already living here and he offered to rent me his two room apartment for a year while he was studying abroad, ...
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How to tell someone they should honour their bid on my item?

I am selling used textbooks online in a Facebook buy and sell group. Two people contacted me within a minute apart to buy the same book, which I had listed for $50 OBO ("or best offer"). I messaged ...
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How to involve the law with minimizing feelings of threatening

Basically I have to give someone I live with notice I will start legal action against them. A roommate's dog will not stop barking. I told her it affects my ability to work and sleep and she said ...
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How can I deal with a discrepancy in financial situations between friends/family and myself?

About a year ago I landed a great job in a field that I've been trying to get into. The problem is that most of my friends make much less than I do. Their jobs are near entry level and they don't make ...
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Helping a friend who will likely die without help, but refuses help? [closed]

So I have a friend who's suffering from a condition known as cirrhosis that will likely take their life anytime between several months from now and several years from now. The thing is, this ...
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How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?

Some Background My girlfriend's family moved to the US about 2 years ago to escape their home country (which is going through political and economic turmoil) to start over. Her mom sells insurance, ...
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I got a job, how should I pay for my girlfriend? [closed]

I've been dating with my girlfriend since almost 4 years. In the beginning, I was paying for both of us when we went out, so all of the couple-related expenses were covered by me. For example, if we ...
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How to develop friendship without money?

I have a dilemma, I'm living in USA and I'm from Latin America (I'm learning to speak English too) so I'm trying to make some friends, I've already found a girl that is very nice, and she wants to ...
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How can I tell my parents I'd like to help them financially after getting a very well paid job?

My parents have been supportive of my education for my entire life. I lucked out and the field of interest to me just so happens to be a very high paying field. I recently finished my formal ...
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Friend owes me money - not giving it back [closed]

I lend my friend about 95$. I considered him a relatively close friend. I've always been a little forgetful, so after I lend him the money, it took some time for me to contact him about the exact ...
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How to tell my roommates that I want to move out ASAP when they say they rely on my rent?

I recently graduated from college, out of state from my hometown, and got a job here. A friend of mine and her husband offered to let me stay with them for very little rent until I could find a place ...
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How to ask my SO if they are ok with me paying for their flight?

Background I've been in a relationship for 8+ months now, and the trip I'm referencing will be past our 1 year date. These numbers don't matter to me any more (as opposed to 1-2 months into the ...
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How to handle wife wanting inheritance when I have none [closed]

We live in a large and expensive city with really high real-estate costs. Both me and my wife are around 30 years of age. It's been over Four years into my marriage now. My wife is constantly worried ...
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Close relative refuses to acknowledge being deeply in debt

Note: the text uses "they" when talking about the person in question to preserve anonymity. A few years ago I was living with a close relative of mine and their parents, and I became aware that the ...
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Relationship - dealing with different views about spending money (who should pay for what)

My girlfriend and I are dating for about 6 months now. We recently started talking about moving together. I really adore my girlfriend, but there are some patterns in her behavior (mostly related to ...
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How to ask a willing but flaky friend to contribute to a project [closed]

There is a project I'm working on. Previously, I've worked on different project not related to this one. I usually work on my projects independently, and if I need help, I'll pay someone for that ...
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How to politely pay back money? [closed]

Background: Me and my school days friend [we did our school till graduation together, we are the best study buddies, project buddies] are very good friends and make it a point we meet each other at ...
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How to let friends know they still owe me money but don't have to pay me without guilting them into actually paying me? [closed]

TL;DR: I took my friends on a trip two months ago. I fronted the costs of the tickets with intent on being paid back from my friends. Two of my friends haven't paid me back for those tickets, but ...
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Coping with different spending philosophies in a marriage [closed]

I am British, in my mid-twenties, and in a pretty well paying job. My wife is Chinese, a few years older than me, and while having a moderately well paying job previously is currently is a student. We'...
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How to handle unexpected expenses during a road trip?

I took part in a 10 day road trip across several European countries, with a group of friends and acquaintances. We traveled with several cars, and were sharing the fuel costs. I took part several ...
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How to politely request we don't eat out for lunch on my first day at new job?

Tomorrow I start work as a software developer -- my first full time job. Four of my close friends work at the same company. They usually eat lunch in the break room, but for everyone's interviews and ...
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How should I ask a roommate who's planning to move out before their lease is up to continue paying their portion of the utilities?

I have two roommates, both of whom are moving out this month, though our lease is up at the end of July. We split the rent/utilities three ways, and Roommate A, without being asked, told me he'd ...
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How to convey seriousness in conditions when giving money to brother

TL;DR: I want to give my brother some money with a few conditions on how it is spent but believe he is unlikely to realise that I seriously plan to enforce those conditions. How can I convey my ...
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How can I accommodate my in-laws in a hotel without making them feel uncomfortable about me paying for the room?

I want to invite my in-laws, who live in another country, to visit me and my wife. However, we do not have enough space in our apartment for so many people, so I would like to accommodate them in a ...
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How to maximise the chance an ex will return money I leant her

About seven years ago a five-year, live-in relationship of mine ended. We stayed friends and, though I now live in a different country, we still keep in touch, albeit casually and not often. In real ...
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How to ask if people are gambling for “real money” with leaving possibility not to join?

I don't normally gamble. On the rare occasion, if asked by a group of friends, I may consider it if it's not for much money. (for example it's possible everyone is given chips for free and return them ...
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How to talk to family member about their spending?

My grandparents have a caravan at the Baltic see where they basically spend all summer. This, in my view, is good for them. They get to be in nature, which should be good for their health, and they ...
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Friend wants rare vinyl record collection back after 7 years

About seven (7) years ago an older friend of mine, Craig, was having living and financial problems. I think he was getting some type of public assistance after he had to move out of his old family ...
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How to Approach Friends about Vacation Costs

I’m currently on a vacation with two of my friends - as would be expected, we’re trying to keep costs as equally spread out as possible. When I originally planned the trip, I was planning on going ...
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Politely paying back a loan that turned into a gift?

My partner and I have lived together for the last few years and during that time we have occasionally asked her father if we could borrow money, ranging from $500 to $5000 (roughly). The reason for ...
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How to respond to a person asking for payment after they were non-responsive for 6 months? [closed]

Approximately 6 months ago, I placed an order with a friend of a friend for laser engraved dog tags to distribute at as a keepsake at an event I attend. We agreed on a price, I provided art, and they ...
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Wife does not work but wants “own” money/allowance

My wife and I have been married 4 years (United States). We had a baby 6 months ago and 8 months ago my wife quit working, it started to be to much on her physically and now we both like that our ...
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How can I convince my significant other that $1000 per night is too much for a hotel?

Recently, my significant other and I decided to travel to the Caribbean Sea. We already bought the airplane tickets and reserved the first hotel in one of the major cities. However, the last 4 days ...
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My mom won't let me handle my money, what can I say?

Background I'm 18 and I live with my parents, I also have two younger sisters. Ever since I was younger until now nothing changed in terms of their parenting with me. I have to go to bed at X hours ...
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How to handle my girlfriend's parents' attitude to asking her for money?

I'm asking this question on behalf of my girlfriend because she's asking me for help but I'm not sure on how to handle this situation. A little bit of background: My girlfriend's parents moved from ...
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How to make clear that somebody has to take the first step in asking for money

Me and my girlfriend (Let’s call her Alice) had a small misunderstanding; We both have an own house in different cities, but most of the time we are together in one of the houses. This weekend I had ...
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Waitresse accidentally charged me extra for someone who left, should I have insisted on correct bill? [closed]

I was at a pub with a group of people. I had ordered a couple drinks. The waitress made a mistake and got one of my beers switched with a more expensive one the person beside me had ordered (he had ...
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How to communicate that offered reward is not quite fair [closed]

My background: I (18 year old guy) am currently studying computer science in a combined study program (between the semesters I work at a company that in turn pays me salary and my college fees). I ...
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How do I treat my friends to something without it being awkward?

There are some things I love doing with my friends that I know they cannot afford to do on a regular basis. In particular, I love going out for a big sushi dinner every once in a while. This type of ...
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How do I ask my Dad to finance my computer?

Firstly I'm not sure is this the right place to ask so please tell me if not. I'm a 16 year old male and I need some help with talking about money and borrowing with my parents. The Context: ...
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How to convince my girlfriend to let me pay for her?

My girlfriend's parents won't pay for outside school classes she wants to take (like singing, for example) and I really want to be able to give it to her. There is something I can afford, but she won'...
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How do I approach telling my date that I won't lend her money?

I've started dating (i.e. having meals and drinks) with a school friend who I haven't seen in a while. In that time, my life has worked out quite well (home-owner, stable job, good health etc.) ...
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How do my wife and I get her mother to stop buying stuff for us?

For years, my mother-in-law has purchased a huge number of holiday gifts for us. This is frustrating because at other points in the year, she'll ask for small loans ($500-$1000 or so) to pay for ...