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Questions involving money, either the giving of or or the receiving of it, or how to handle money as a group.

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Ethics of unexpected charity request [closed]

The story Couple of times I've got a call from representatives of some local charity organizations. First time they were raising money for operation for some kid. When I asked where did they get my ...
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How to politely refuse money from someone who is insistent?

This question is based in the UK, with no specific religious or cultural preferences Often after doing a favour, some people will offer me money to say "thank you" or as some form of compensation, ...
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Politely paying back a loan that turned into a gift?

My partner and I have lived together for the last few years and during that time we have occasionally asked her father if we could borrow money, ranging from $500 to $5000 (roughly). The reason for ...
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Avoiding condescension in gift giving

When I was shoveling snow recently, my neighbor made the stereotypical "how much to do mine?" joke. After chatting for a few minutes, it became very clear that she could not afford a shovel ...
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My mom won't let me handle my money, what can I say?

Background I'm 18 and I live with my parents, I also have two younger sisters. Ever since I was younger until now nothing changed in terms of their parenting with me. I have to go to bed at X hours ...
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How to politely offer someone reward/compensation for a favour?

I have already reviewed this thread here, and while it's useful and kind of similar, it's a bit different and I think it deserves its own discussion. This situation is happening in Canada (if it helps)...
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How can I get someone to stop paying for my meal?

I have a good friend and every time we go out for a drink or dinner, he always insists on paying. That sounds good to have someone pay for you but it's actually not. For a start, it's kind of ...
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Buying an expensive item from an acquaintance — making an offer

I want to buy an item from an acquaintance---we work in the same field roughly and have hung out a few times, I might refer to them as a friend loosely. The list price at a local shop is $1,050 pre-...
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How to respond to an obviously unfair offer in a high-stakes negotiation without offending the other side?

Background A relative of mine, whom I'll call Tania, owns the larger bedroom of a two-bedroom apartment in Moscow, Russia, while the other bedroom is owned by a guy completely unrelated to her, whom I'...
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Wife does not work but wants “own” money/allowance

My wife and I have been married 4 years (United States). We had a baby 6 months ago and 8 months ago my wife quit working, it started to be to much on her physically and now we both like that our ...
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I accidentally mentioned my hourly salary to my hairdresser, is that bad? [closed]

During small talk with my hairdresser I was talking about an upcoming job interview (which was the reason I went to the hairdresser), and then I accidentally mentioned what I was going to earn per ...
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Asking housemate’s partners to contribute toward bills during pandemic?

I share a 5 bedroom house with 4 others. We all get on and they are nice people. As the Coronavirus spread in the UK I was put on furlough (temporary leave paid for by the government, as long as I ...
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How to prepare for a hurtful confession

Suppose at the beginning of dating, I lied about my income to be much higher than actual. With us becoming closer, I need to be honest and tell her the truth. I'm not in any financial trouble, just ...
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Who is expected to pay for birthday trip accommodations? [closed]

So I asked my friends to go to Vegas for my birthday, am I expected to pay for all of their rooms? It would be around 3 rooms I would have to pay for. I am the one planning it and I did invite them.
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How to get friend to pay me back a small amount of money?

I invited my friends to an event. It was sort of like a TED Talk. I bought all of our tickets and they agreed to pay me back. Unfortunately something came up at work and I was unable to attend. I was ...
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When someone complains about not being able to pay for something, are they asking me to pay?

I have a lot of friends that complain a lot about their troubles paying off student debt and struggling to make ends meet on unexpected bills (flat tire, injury, pet is sick and needs life saving ...
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How to politely ask a parent to not say something about me in public?

On three occasions (so far) my father has blurted out a phrase along the lines of "my son works as an X. he makes really good money. Tell him/her how much you make", then he looks at me. The first ...
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How to deal with financial inequality in a relationship?

I am in a relationship with a partner who is significantly better off than I am, and I am struggling to come to terms with the financial differences. To set the scene with some of the issues: She is ...
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How do I tell a friend I can't afford her wedding?

TL;DR – How do I tell a childhood friend (who has been spoiled her whole life) that both my parents and I most likely cannot afford to travel for her wedding (to which I am to be a bridesmaid) without ...
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Bringing up financial concerns with partner’s parents

My partner’s family has been financially struggling a long time (way before I even entered the picture). Their parents frequently ask for money (which at times can be their entire weeks paycheck). ...
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Etiquette for Cancelling Abroad Trip

A friend and I were looking at flights to Japan from our home city for a week or so back leading up to this year's Black Friday. Typically flights range from $1000-$1600 round trip, however during ...
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How do I give money for the tickets to the girl that I'm seeing?

I've been out with this girl a couple of times already, we're going out again soon and once more after that to a concert. I couldn't buy the tickets online, so she did. I've been brought up in a way ...
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How do I tell my new boyfriend that I make a lot of money?

I am usually very secretive about my income. No one really knows how much I make and I was taught to never talk about money to friends. I make about ten times what my boyfriend does. He's also a ...
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How to politely get rid of someone soliciting donations at your door?

When people come to the door asking for donations how do you politely end the conversation and close the door? Some of the causes are very worthy but I don't have the money. I had jobs before where ...
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How to warn father about catfishing scams?

Due to my father's browser sloppiness, and in spite of my efforts to NOT see what he's doing, I know he is on dating sites talking to women. I was fixing something for him when a chat window popped up,...
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How to deal with complaints of favouritism from children (family friends)?

We have two family friends between 7-15, A and B. I (early 20's) have known since they were babies, when I was just a child myself. I wouldn't say we've 'grown up together' due to the age gap, but ...
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How to know how much money to give someone for a ride home?

With my work, we sometimes travel to different locations. At the end of the day, it's common for people to offer and ask for rides home. There was one person who lived relatively close to me. We never ...
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How to ask for my money back without damaging my relationship with this person?

This situation involves three people: Myself An online friend and artist (we'll call him Saxton) My SO (we'll call her Reva.) I don't know Saxton's age exactly, but I don't think anybody here is ...
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Asking for fees for an assumed free service

During my university years, I had designed and developed my department website. It's been many years since I graduated, however, the office IT staff still contacts me if something goes wrong. This ...
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Different budgets within roommate group

I'm a third-year student/ junior at a US university, and I'm about to move into an apartment with three friends of mine. The main reason I wanted to move was to save money, and I thought this was the ...
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How to convey to the people around me that I want to disengage myself from constant giving?

Once I’ve paid rent, bills, petrol, food, etc. I have a relatively small amount of money left over each month. I would get by just fine on this, if it wasn’t for spending the money on other people. A ...
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How to stop paying for my parent's poor financial decisions? [closed]

One of my parents decided to pay for and renovate an old house with all of their remaining money (inherited, not saved by them). When this decision was made, I warned them that I thought it was a bad ...
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How do I convince my dad to support my mom’s surgery?

Context My mom has been terminally ill for almost a year and my dad has been the primary care taker. I recently moved internationally back to my home country and have been the secondary care taker ...
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How can I email a former schoolmate who starred in porn if she needs my help, without being creepy or spooking her?

21 y.o. alumna from my nephew's high school starred in some porn last year. He overheard some ladies talking at supermarket, and didn't believe them – until he watched them online to verify himself. ...
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How to approach the topic of splitting a vacation rental bill by ability to pay?

I'm planning a trip with friends and I'd like to rent a house for the weekend. The bill for such rental, housing 8-10 people, is $800-1,000. I don't want to pay the whole cost myself, but I am happy ...
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How do I talk to my wife about unrealistic expectations?

I have been married less than a year and we are both quite young, which is partly why I'm posting on here for advice. My wife has recently been 'complaining' that she finds it difficult that she can'...
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How can I talk with these people that I owe money to solve the situation?

Background First, about me. I've got Asperger's and (social) anxiety. I started my first job after college a bit over a year ago and moved into a nice apartment with a fully furnished kitchen and ...
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How should I behave to assure my friends that I am not after their money?

I have some friends who recently came into a great deal of money. They have always been kind and supportive of me. I'd go so far as to say I owe them a great deal for the practical help they have ...
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Asking my new roommate for overdue payments

Before I get started, let me explain my situation: I live with two other students in a house Rent goes to the landlord individually Money for water, electricity, internet etc. goes to a bank account ...
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How can I get my wife to be less spendthrift?

I am married for 15+ years and working at an Indian technology company. These days, layoffs have been so frequent in my industry; for instance at my company they happened twice in the last three ...
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Warning someone that they have been suckered into a scam

A friend of mine (let's call her Anne) was recently drawn into attending life-coaching sessions, through an organization which is a scam based on the Lifespring model (tl;dr they give you a ...
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Money problems with close friends

Introduction I'm a male software developer at the age of 25 in Austria who started his career about 2.5 years ago. Before my "real" career I was quite a social loser, I screwed up in school ...
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How can I communicate to my wife my concerns about her spending habits? [duplicate]

Some context to begin with: My wife and I have been married for two years now. I earn around 2500€ after taxes, and she used to earn around 1500€ after taxes. We both share one bank account, by the ...
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How to politely turn down an offer from someone to join a pyramid scheme? [duplicate]

My girlfriend and I went out to eat with an acquaintance of hers and his wife. They were really nice people, but at the end of the dinner date, they brought up a known pyramid scheme that they're a ...
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Handling boss who doesn't pays salary on time

Asking this mainly for my wife, not myself. I'm also affected by it since we live together. Please note that I'm NOT asking for legal advice. Legally I would know how to proceed, unfortunately, it's ...
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Stepmother wants me to sign for life insurance without consulting a lawyer, how do I tell her that I will only do this after talking to one?

Background: I am a 20 years old male, living alone in Austria I have two stepsisters and a stepmother and my father is deceased I lived together with my stepmother for the last 10 years, but moved ...
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How to reply to “don't you trust me?” when asking to see bill?

I live in a shared house where the utilities are under the lease holders name (Bob). I have a written agreement with Bob where he said I can see the original bills for utilities. I don't know why, but ...
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How to insist roommate provides me with proof of utilities bill?

I live in a shared house with several other people. One of them (call him Bob) signed the master lease with the owner and his name is on all the utilities. I pay Bob rent and my utilities. I have a ...
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Leaseholder suddenly increased everyone's rent, saying when he renewed lease with owner, they increased it

I live in a shared household. One person signed the lease with the owner and we pay him money for rent. He gave postdated checks to the owner. The lease recently was up for renewal and the owner ...
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How to tell brother that not returning money when he has it is not cool

I lent my brother over 700€ more than a year ago because he needed it more than me (I needed it to because I was going to get married), he told me he was going to return them as soon as possible, a ...