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Questions involving money, either the giving of or or the receiving of it, or how to handle money as a group.

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How can I ask my girlfriend to share the cost of our dates rather than having to always pay for them myself?

I went for a drink with my girlfriend yesterday. I don't see her very often - it is a one-hour drive for me, she's coming to my town in a few weeks for her first time. I always spend around 15€ on a ...
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Stepmother wants me to sign for life insurance without consulting a lawyer, how do I tell her that I will only do this after talking to one?

Background: I am a 20 years old male, living alone in Austria I have two stepsisters and a stepmother and my father is deceased I lived together with my stepmother for the last 10 years, but moved ...
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How can I work with my friend to determine how much money he owes me? [closed]

A close friend of mine shares/shared a flat with me. I did not ask him for his part of the rent very often. Over time, he's been spending less and less time here and the current situation is that he ...
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How can I discuss payment for therapy with my mother without discussing the specifics of my mental health?

I am a college student who no longer lives with my parents, but lives in the same town, going to college. I see my parents a lot and have a good relationship with them, and they help me pay my rent, ...
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A friend gifted me a relatively expensive present, what present is appropriate for me to give him back [closed]

I've been given a smart-watch as New Year present by a friend. I didn't expect it and didn't think our presents are going to be in that higher price range. Now I'm conflicted about what to do. I hate ...
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How can I get someone to stop paying for my meal?

I have a good friend and every time we go out for a drink or dinner, he always insists on paying. That sounds good to have someone pay for you but it's actually not. For a start, it's kind of ...
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Letting a stranger know I may have dinged their car?

As I was backing out of my apartment's parking lot yesterday morning, I thought I heard something behind me but didn't pay it any mind (I was in a hurry to get to work after all). This morning when I ...
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How to talk to grandma about money she promised me

About one year ago my grandfather died of cancer. Now my grandmother lives alone and got rid of most of his things over time including a model railway. As a child, I spent many hours at my ...
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How do I confront my mother after she deceived me into giving her a substantial amount of money? [closed]

When my mother learned that I was giving my Gramma $35,000 so that she could move to Florida and put the money down on a house, she informed me that my brother had been arrested a year ago, lost his ...
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How do I ask for donations anonymously at a meeting? [closed]

I co-manage a group of about 20 people, most of whom I only see once a week. Recently my partner (the other leader) fell ill and has been hospitalized with a serious illness. She will be in the ...
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My cousin doesn't know that I know he received money that belongs to me - how do I approach him about receiving the money?

My cousin was supposed to receive money from a sale, keep a percentage and then send the rest over to me. I found out that not only did he receive more money from the sale of my item ($550 instead of ...
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How to approach my father about selling my brand new (expensive) laptop because it does not work the way I thought it would

3 months ago I was able to get a new laptop for school and work. I was able to choose between all laptops but I decided to buy a MacBook Pro 2017 because back in 2010 I had a MacBook pro as well and ...
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How can I politely ask my money back? [duplicate]

I lent some money to a friend two months ago, in order to help him start his own job. He asked me if I could give him 350€ to pay some workers that had done some wall painting at his place, and that ...
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How do I stop people from expecting me to reply to SMS messages?

In my country, voice calls and SMS messages can either be paid by use or be bundled in some monthly fee that includes a limited amount of free messages and voice call minutes. The first option is ...
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How to ask someone to pay fees on time

As a tutor I have to ask students to pay their fees. Most of them pay the fees but almost at the end of the course. None pay within the first month or so. Most students feel urging them to pay their ...
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How to implicitly remind an absent minded friend to return his debt?

About a month ago, my friend asked me to pay for his online ticket (which cost about 60 Euros) to temporarily move to the city I am living in. He couldn't pay himself as he needed a credit card for ...
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Asking my new roommate for overdue payments

Before I get started, let me explain my situation: I live with two other students in a house Rent goes to the landlord individually Money for water, electricity, internet etc. goes to a bank account ...
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How do I dismiss a stranger asking for money?

I'm not sure if the answers to Appropriate ways to dismiss street vendors? apply to this situation, as it is about people asking for money without a compensation. That's why I'm asking a new question ...
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Dealing with a colleague who never wants to pay when we eat out?

I work at an IT MNC. We have a large campus and many eateries. Whenever we go out for eating he stands away from the payment queue and just tells what he would like to have. At first I ignored it. ...
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Received a large monetary gift from an estranged grandparent - now what?

This afternoon my parents visited me. It was all pretty normal until just before they left, they told me that my estranged grandfather apparently suddenly felt the need to donate a large gift of money ...
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How to help my friend so he doesn't rely on me financially as much?

Context I have a really good friend of mine, who has fallen on hard times. He got screwed over by his old boss, which made him lose his job, house and girlfriend (within a 4 week period). He's an ...
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How to deal with wife's ex coming to our house over finances-related issues?

We live in Berwyn, IL, and commute to Chicago (well...my wife does, I work in Berwyn). I'm a transplant from Los Angeles, been here for 8 years now. Anyway, last Monday night, my wife's ex, a guy ...
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Should I monetarily reward the person who found my phone? [closed]

I just lost my mobile phone in the bus on my way to work (left it on the seat). I called from another phone, and someone answered me, telling me that indeed I had left my phone in the bus seat. We are ...
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How should I deal with a close relative that “uses” my possessions?

Anybody who has a sibling when growing up knows what it means to get his/her possessions taken without giving any permission, especially if they are the same sex and around the same age. This is ...
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How do I tell my new boyfriend that I make a lot of money?

I am usually very secretive about my income. No one really knows how much I make and I was taught to never talk about money to friends. I make about ten times what my boyfriend does. He's also a ...
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How should I handle disagreeing with my sisters cash cow milking? [closed]

Inspired by this question: How to avoid being seen as a cash cow by my family?, I wanted to ask how my own situation should be handled. We are not rich, but also not poor. My sister has two little ...
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Difficult family conflict about inheritance

My mother died 2 years ago and left a house to me and my two younger brothers. She wasn't very good with money and got herself in financial difficulty about 10 years ago and had to be helped with a ...
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How to avoid being seen as a cash cow by my family?

Situation I'm German, in my mid-20s and currently living together with my girlfriend without kids. I earn a fairly good salary for my age compared to other family members and was always a saver (...
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How to handle someone's getting angry over things I have no obligation to? [closed]

A continuation from Should I help pay for a traffic ticket someone got while helping me?. Despite what people answer in that thread "You are not obliged to pay the ticket", there's a chance he will ...
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Should I help pay for a traffic ticket someone got while helping me? [closed]

A couple of weeks ago, my brother-in-law helped me by transporting a piece of furniture in his car, as my car was too small. On our way home, with me following him in my own car, he ran a red light (...
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How to ask a friend to repay me?

I have one friend that always borrows money. He has been one of my closest friends for most of my life, and normally he's pretty trustworthy when it comes to paying me back. However, as of late, he ...
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How to confront friend who won't give back borrowed money?

My friends and I decided to buy a birthday present for a person. This friend, let's call him Bob, couldn't come with us to buy the actual present, so he asked me if I could pay for him, assuring me ...
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How to handle a manipulative person who owes me money

Background I broke up with my ex about some years ago. I've been through a lot all those (many) years I was in a relationship with her, due to the fact that she suffered from various disorders such ...
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Why are people unwilling to share information about their salary?

Reading this question I was surprised that it seems to be common sense that people do not want to share this information and might even get upset, if someone asks them how much they earn. Is this ...
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Should I ask my parents if our insurance covers therapy? [closed]

I'm a 21-year-old college student who's currently working almost 1000 miles away from home (From CA, currently residing in Seattle, WA) for an internship. I don't know exactly why, but I am extremely ...
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How to avoid giving my roommate a money loan?

I live in a hostel. My roommate is very disturbing. This is because he doesn't pay back his loans on time. But he pretends to be a good person to everyone by maintaining a good appearance and smile. ...
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How can I politely make an offer on a used vehicle?

This is the first time I buy a vehicle on my own, so I have no experience in this matter. Today I will be meeting someone who is selling their motorbike. I think he is asking too much for it so I want ...
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How can I politely tell someone I won't do my job for free?

I am a relatively open individual who is shy (for lack of a better word) around new people. One of my coworkers has a business and is asking for my help as a financial analyst outside of work, and ...
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How to respond when a friend mentions their financial issues?

I'm usually uncomfortable when a friend mentions her lack of money during a casual conversation. The topic of money itself doesn't make me uncomfortable, but the fact that I really don't know what to ...
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How inconvenienced will a server be if I ask them to split a check two ways? [closed]

I regularly go on dates with people where our dinner arrangement is to each pay for our own meal. When we ask a server to split the check (either by seat or 50/50 if there were multiple communal items)...
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How to politely refuse money from someone who is insistent?

This question is based in the UK, with no specific religious or cultural preferences Often after doing a favour, some people will offer me money to say "thank you" or as some form of compensation, ...
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Offering Payment for a Favour

In the United Kingdom or Ireland, when is it appropriate to offer payment to a friend who has done you a favour? For instance: a very close friend gives you a ride to a doctor's appointment. How ...