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Questions tagged [neighbors]

For past, present or future interaction with neighbours. Use this tag when related to dealing with neighbours, and setting boundaries or cordial relationship.

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How can I get my neighbor to stop disturbing me overnight? [closed]

I've been living at my apartment for a year now. Ever since we moved here, we've been having problems with our upstairs neighbor. We've tried lots of things to accommodate her; for instance, when she ...
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How to respond when person falsely claims I kicked their dog?

Back story I went on a short walk after getting home from work today and there was a small dog left unattended on a grassy area. The dog started barking at me and ran up to me. I stomped my foot to ...
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how to speak to neighbors that you know are not going to be open to any conversation? [closed]

I moved into a ground floor apartment a little over a year ago. No long after two young men moved in above me. Within the first week I was constantly being awoken by loud stomping, heavy items being ...
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How can I offer to take care of the dog of a stranger when he/she is not home?

I live in an apartment building and I can often hear a dog whining in the apartment above mine, presumably because the owner is not home. The noise is only a slight bother, I more so feel bad for the ...
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How to ask my neighbor who joined my sport club to play with other beginners?

I have been playing badminton doubles in a club for 2 years. I always play a good game and give a tough time to the players who were playing against me. In total we are 15 players in the club. We all ...
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Refusing food from a neighbour?

I have a very good relationship with my neighbour. She sent us dishes but none of my family member likes her dishes including me. I do not wanna say to her that "please do not send us dishes" but I ...
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How can I ask my neighbors - so that I will have an honest answer - who is the owner of this trespassing cat?

I know that this matter is not strictly "interPERSONAL", but that's the problem -- I know there's a cat but I don't know who the owner is. All I know is, the home owner association I live under is ...
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How to start the conversation with my neighbor [closed]

I'm a boy in my twenties and I'm living in my parent's house in the north of France. For more than one year we have new neighbors. Their daughter (who is about my age) is beautiful and I want to get ...
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Would it be appropriate to tell my neighbor's kids to quiet down when their parents are not at home? [closed]

For the past ten years, I have been living next door to a family with four kids and both of the parents work. They usually get home from work around 6:00pm on the weekdays. Their four kids are latch-...
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Etiquette regarding borrowing of power tools

Based on television shows, it seems borrowing tools from neighbors is a potential minefield. I need to power wash my front and back porches and the siding of my house. My neighbor has a power washer ...
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Accepted receipt of ‘deepest sympathy’ flowers for neighbour

I recently accepted receipt of some flowers for a neighbour who wasn’t home. We don’t know the neighbour at all (even to say hi on the street). The flowers are clearly for a death in their family. ...
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Neighbor is responsible for additional costs to construction of our house; how to convince them to pay?

Situation My girlfriend and I are in the process of building a house to start a family. We have hired a contractor that will arrange everything from start to finish to deliver a habitable house. The ...
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How to ask neighbors if they are bothered by someone's dog barking?

I live in a shared house and the landlord's dog barks frequently. This disturbs me day and night. I was very direct with the landlord and told them the barking is interfering with my ability to do ...
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How to try to get my neighbour to park their car in their assigned spot?

Situation I live in an allotment with a shared parking with assigned spots. One of my neighbours always parks their car in front of the door of my building instead of in their assigned spot. They ...
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My new neighbours have very nicely requested something that I find unreasonable, how should I proceed? [closed]

Background: We recently moved to a new neighborhood and it's rather dark at night (not many street lights). Most neighbors leave outside house lights on at night. Issue: About a month after we ...
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My new landlord tends to stay up late and make a bit of noise, my sleep is suffering

This woman bought the duplex we rent a couple months ago. We live in the upper, she lives in the lower. She and her girlfriend seem to sleep in the room directly below mine and I can often hear them ...
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How should I talk to my neighbors about using leaf blowers? [closed]

I live in an area with huge oak trees, so leaf blowers are a real labor saving device when used in the fall (i.e. leaf raking season). I don't have any issues when the blowers are used to move leaves ...
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Neighbours yelled at my wife for “telling their kids off” [closed]

In what has become an extension to Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys My wife has just called me in tears because two of my neighbours felt it appropriate to yell at ...
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I offered to help neighbor, how to discuss compensation?

I saw my neighbor post on social media that they wanted help with some computer related tasks. We have never met or had any interaction before. I offered to come help them for no compensation. They ...
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Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys

My neighbour came over yesterday and addressed me in a rather aggressive tone, he complained that 'kids will be kids' and that 'my bins shouldn't be where they are'. He has never mentioned the bins ...
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How to handle a social media response that is factually wrong [closed]

On the Nextdoor website, (a platform for physical neighbors,) I posted on a discussion requesting recommendations for a company to widen their driveway. I saw some contractors promote themselves ...
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How can I diplomatically ask my neighbor to move his/her patio off my garage wall to stop damp

I have just moved in to a new (to me. 6 years old) house and have yet to meet the neighbors. I have since noticed my inside garage wall was damp. Inspecting outside the dampness was caused by the ...
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What is the typical expectation for a gift to a male neighbour on his 60th birthday? [closed]

Apologies if it's a silly question but I am from a different country and therefore culture and so would be keen to learn about British gifts etiquette if there is one. In particular, a nice middle-...
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How can I extend an olive branch, but also reinforce that another's behavior is not okay?

Some background: I started a wood working hobby a few months ago of which the loudest tools are my stereo, a table saw, and a router. I've had some passive interest from neighbors as they drive by, ...
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I'm worried my neighbour drinks alcohol while driving, should I confront him? [closed]

I live in a condo and park next to my neighbour in the lot. On multiple occasions as I've gotten out of my car, I've noticed an open can of beer or cider in the the front cupholder of his vehicle. ...
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What’s the best way to decline sharing my WiFi network with neighbours?

Occasionally when we have friends who are neighbours over to visit we are asked for access to our wifi so their kids can watch videos on their phone or whatever. Since neighbours are very close to ...
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How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything?

I have recently purchased a new home and have moved into a neighborhood. I would like to introduce myself to my immediate neighbors and offer them my telephone number in case there is an emergency or ...
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How can I convince my neighbour to stop feeding my cat (I've already asked twice)?

I'm living in my apartment for 4 years with my cat and my girlfriend. I have a balcony and since I do I put my cat's litter in there, and I have always left the door to the balcony open so that my ...
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Convincing Neighbors to Train Barking Dogs [closed]

Common problem, about 5 months ago I moved into a new house with next door neighbors that have a loud barking dog (actually 2 dogs ones older though not as much of a problem). So here's the breakdown ...
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How do I deal with persistent and ill-behaved neighborhood children who are always coming over?

There are some neighborhood kids (3 to 4 children, ages 5-8) who are apparently bored after school and roam the block looking for people and things to play with. They recently found my home as my ...
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When should I tell others that I'm divorced/separated? [closed]

While at the moment I am technically still married, I have been separated from my ex for eight months or so, with divorce pending. In certain situations, I find myself unsure of when/if to tell ...
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Aggressive, cursing, unpredictable neighbor causing fear in community [closed]

I live in a small, quiet, and friendly apartment complex in a nice and fairly crime-free area of town. Recently, a middle-aged man moved into a unit near mine, living with his father, and has been ...
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How to politely inform university accommodation housekeeping that their morning chats are waking me up?

EDIT: I fear I've come across quite poorly. I get on well with these particular cleaners and none of the below is meant as a demand, but rather a favour. There are places to sit and talk just 5m down ...
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How to establish boundaries with a neighbour who breaches basic privacy?

We have a neighbour about a minute walk from our place. Our kids go to the same school/kindergarten, so we are looking forward to a very long relationship. The problem is that she is extremely nosy ...
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How to communicate with neighbour with banging door without making her uncomfortable

I live in Australia in a block of flats. We are the middle flat of three. Each flat has a front and back balcony. Due to the nature of the flats the back doors will bang in the wind if not secured - ...
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How to deal with neighbors making accusations but won't hear me out?

I recently received an angry knock on my door from a neighbor (renters) falsely accusing me of throwing an old newspaper into their front yard. I offered to pull my newspapers from the trash to prove ...
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Neighbors have loud doorstep exchanges in middle of the night

I have never met my neighbors, but I have been woken up by them many times as they talk loudly at their doorstep, laughing, sometimes a dog barking with them, usually around 2 AM. My house is a bit ...
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How to address awful smells from the flat above [closed]

Apologies for the large amount of run-up; the context feels very relevant: My wife and I live in a 1930s block of flats in London. We are on the ground floor, of a staircase of 8 flats, so we're at ...
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How do I politely explain to my neighbour that I don't feel comfortable being alone with her in her house while my kids play?

We recently moved into a new neighborhood, as did our neighbor, Jane. I have two young girls (4 and 5), and Jane has a boy and girl (7 I think?). My kids love to play with them, and her kids seem to ...
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How to deal with a noisy neighbor you're on friendly terms with?

We have a neighbor right next to our house with whom we maintain friendly terms. Whenever we see each other we exchange greetings from a distance. The walls of our master bedrooms are right next to ...
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How can I get my upstairs neighbors to stop stomping on my ceiling?

I've read about asking neighbors to be more quiet but none of the answers help my situation. I live in an older apartment building and my neighbor(s) upstairs tread very heavily when walking on their ...
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My dog and I offended a new neighbor. How do we make it right?

Things are hopping in the neighborhood with new neighbors and new problems. Some are hard to believe. With three dogs, the youngest (6 months old) with reactivity issues (which usually show up at ...
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How can I try to have my mom help me understand why she won't accept a sincere apology?

Background: About 8 years ago, we started having some serious trouble with a couple of neighbors (which slowly escalated to call-the-cops and get-a-lawyer kind of trouble). There was some property ...
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How do I reduce noise in a co-working space? [closed]

I work in a co-working space, and one of the other workers talks a lot, which is distracting and aggravating. What is the usual way to solve this problem? Should I directly ask him to use a meeting ...
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Uncomfortable With Neighbor Mowing Our Lawn

A couple of days ago we looked out our window and saw that our next-door neighbor was mowing our lawn. We have noticed her lack of interpersonal boundaries on several occasions since we moved in a ...
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How to ask a difficult neighbor not to play ball in front of house [closed]

My problem is with my next door neighbor. His grandson (approximately 5 years old) lives with him part time and they have started setting up one or two nets on the sidewalk and kicking a hard ball. ...
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How can we ask neighbours to be more quiet without escalating?

We are living in an apartment, so obviously there are a lot of 'living' noises surrounding us. Even though we don't mind the regular noises (someone listening to his music a little louder, someone ...
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How to tell my neighbour's child to stop throwing things at our window?

My neighbour's child, who is around 5 or 6 years old, loves to cause trouble. I have talked to our neighbours countless times to please watch their child, but they always get offended. Their child is ...
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How to introduce myself and my family to a new neighborhood?

In a few weeks, my family and I will be moving into our new house. I would like to have good relationships with my new neighbor, but I can't figure what is commonly accepted today for such ...
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How to persuade elderly neighbors to reconsider staying North this winter?

For many years, we have shared a 500-foot long driveway with people, whom I will call ON. ON, who are now 87 and 97, have been going South every fall and winter for nearly 15 years. This year, for (...