Questions tagged [neighbors]
Use this tag for questions where the primary interactions are between neighbors. Common scenarios involve setting boundaries and resolving conflicts.
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How to make clear to foreign neighbors that I can't help them?
My downstairs neighbors who don't speak Dutch or English, have water damage. They have a moist, smelly, moldy wall for over half a year now.
They think the leakage comes from my place. But I had a ...
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How can I ask my neighbours to refrain from using EV spaces?
My wife and I own a little electric vehicle, EV, and live in an area with many public EV charging points. Most of the time, our EV is fantastic; we plug it in when we get home, and then in the morning ...
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Avoiding condescension in gift giving
When I was shoveling snow recently, my neighbor made the stereotypical "how much to do mine?" joke. After chatting for a few minutes, it became very clear that she could not afford a shovel ...
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How can I ask the neighbors to control their daughter's noise level?
My neighbour has a kid who shouts and cries continuously whole day and makes strange noises like barking, howling, bleating, and others. I really admire the energy of the girl, the endurance of her ...
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How do I ask my neighbors when I can play a musical instrument? [closed]
I just moved into a new place. I want to continue practicing drums, but I know I should discuss this with my neighbors first. COVID makes this more difficult because it rules out just knocking on ...
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Turning down a request for help
I have a neighbor who volunteered to do a task to benefit the neighborhood.
The task is laborious, and I publicly thanked her for volunteering.
Now she tells me she can't do it because "she can't ...
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How to resolve a conflict with a noisy neighbor and a passive landlord?
(This is mostly a copy of a question I asked over at Law.SE. I'm reposting it here following the advice of a commenter to look for solutions with a more interpersonal appraoch.)
I have a friend who ...
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How to gently ask my neighbor not to use my bins for their waste?
In the past months, there were several occasions when I found foreign waste in my personal bins. I cannot say, that was my neighbor for sure as I never saw anyone. But the waste type and content made ...
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How to talk to my landlord about a playmate of his daughter stressing me?
Background
So I am living in a 3 party house, which was a generation house before 1 flat got free like 2 years ago and I moved in half a year ago (Might be relevant).
My landlord and his wife live in ...
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Giving feedback to someone behaving impolitely
I live in an urban area where there are not enough parking spaces for all the apartments, so residents need to use street parking. Street parking space is scarce and coveted. There's a guy on our ...
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How to deal with neighbor with vendetta [closed]
We've lived in our house for 11 years. The house to the south of us is a small rental bungalow while we live in a 3 bedroom obviously family home.
Shortly after the newest renter moved in, we got a ...
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How do I get my neighbour to stop disturbing with loud music?
I live in an apartment, and my neighbour who is retired, lives by himself, and partially deaf likes to play loud music most days per week (morning or evening). This completely stresses me out, and can’...
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Telling my neighbors to not blow his weedy lawn clippings onto my newly mowed lawn [closed]
I have new neighbors who are apparently not well versed in mowing their lawn, or neighborly manners.
When they first moved in, they did not have a working mower, only a very old push mower. After ...
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How to avoid a lengthy conversation with someone from the neighborhood I don't share interests with
I'm here on behalf of my neighbor, who we'll call Betty. She is a 40 year old woman and she has some issues dealing with one of her neighbors, also a woman, but who is 20 years old. Let's call her ...
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Discussing my noisy pet with the neighbors
My SO and I moved into a duplex house a few weeks ago. This past weekend we got a new pet, Finley.
When Finley doesn't like something we're doing, he'll scream. Loud. It's actually rather ear-...
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How to ask if I can mow my neighbor's lawn
My neighbor and I share a lawn. It isn't clear where the property line is without looking it up in an official resource since there are no physical barriers between us. His house is quite a bit nicer ...
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How to ask the reason of sudden unfriendliness of neighbours? [closed]
I recently moved to a new neighborhood where the houses are all pretty close. The neighbors were all pretty friendly at first, even helping with yard work, but suddenly became very standoffish. They ...
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My neighbour threatened to kill my cat. How to apologize and make sure he doesn't hurt my pets?
My old cat goes into the yard with me while I water (I don't leave him outside otherwise). Apparently he has managed to scale a 6ft fence and go into the neighbours yard, because I had a fairly ...
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Someone else using my cooler without my permission
This might be very intuitive for someone to suggest me to ask him to put it back. But please hold on.
I live in a hostel and changed room to the next room which had a cooler already (owned by my new ...
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How can I get my neighbor to stop disturbing me overnight? [closed]
I've been living at my apartment for a year now. Ever since we moved here, we've been having problems with our upstairs neighbor.
We've tried lots of things to accommodate her; for instance, when she ...
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How to respond when person falsely claims I kicked their dog?
Back story
I went on a short walk after getting home from work today and there was a small dog left unattended on a grassy area. The dog started barking at me and ran up to me. I stomped my foot to ...
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how to speak to neighbors that you know are not going to be open to any conversation? [closed]
I moved into a ground floor apartment a little over a year ago. No long after two young men moved in above me. Within the first week I was constantly being awoken by loud stomping, heavy items being ...
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How can I offer to take care of the dog of a stranger when he/she is not home?
I live in an apartment building and I can often hear a dog whining in the apartment above mine, presumably because the owner is not home. The noise is only a slight bother, I more so feel bad for the ...
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How to ask my neighbor who joined my sport club to play with other beginners?
I have been playing badminton doubles in a club for 2 years. I always play a good game and give a tough time to the players who were playing against me. In total we are 15 players in the club. We all ...
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Refusing food from a neighbour?
I have a very good relationship with my neighbour. She sent us dishes but none of my family member likes her dishes including me. I do not wanna say to her that "please do not send us dishes" but I ...
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How can I ask my neighbors - so that I will have an honest answer - who is the owner of this trespassing cat?
I know that this matter is not strictly "interPERSONAL", but that's the problem -- I know there's a cat but I don't know who the owner is.
All I know is, the home owner association I live under is ...
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How to start the conversation with my neighbor [closed]
I'm a boy in my twenties and I'm living in my parent's house in the north of France.
For more than one year we have new neighbors. Their daughter (who is about my age) is beautiful and I want to get ...
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Would it be appropriate to tell my neighbor's kids to quiet down when their parents are not at home? [closed]
For the past ten years, I have been living next door to a family with four kids and both of the parents work. They usually get home from work around 6:00pm on the weekdays.
Their four kids are latch-...
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Etiquette regarding borrowing of power tools
Based on television shows, it seems borrowing tools from neighbors is a potential minefield. I need to power wash my front and back porches and the siding of my house. My neighbor has a power washer ...
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Accepted receipt of ‘deepest sympathy’ flowers for neighbour
I recently accepted receipt of some flowers for a neighbour who wasn’t home. We don’t know the neighbour at all (even to say hi on the street). The flowers are clearly for a death in their family.
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Neighbor is responsible for additional costs to construction of our house; how to convince them to pay?
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My girlfriend and I are in the process of building a house to start a family. We have hired a contractor that will arrange everything from start to finish to deliver a habitable house.
The ...
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How to ask neighbors if they are bothered by someone's dog barking?
I live in a shared house and the landlord's dog barks frequently. This disturbs me day and night. I was very direct with the landlord and told them the barking is interfering with my ability to do ...
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How to try to get my neighbour to park their car in their assigned spot?
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I live in an allotment with a shared parking with assigned spots. One of my neighbours always parks their car in front of the door of my building instead of in their assigned spot. They ...
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My new neighbours have very nicely requested something that I find unreasonable, how should I proceed? [closed]
Background:
We recently moved to a new neighborhood and it's rather dark at night (not many street lights). Most neighbors leave outside house lights on at night.
Issue:
About a month after we ...
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My new landlord tends to stay up late and make a bit of noise, my sleep is suffering
This woman bought the duplex we rent a couple months ago. We live in the upper, she lives in the lower. She and her girlfriend seem to sleep in the room directly below mine and I can often hear them ...
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How should I talk to my neighbors about using leaf blowers? [closed]
I live in an area with huge oak trees, so leaf blowers are a real labor saving device when used in the fall (i.e. leaf raking season). I don't have any issues when the blowers are used to move leaves ...
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Neighbours yelled at my wife for "telling their kids off" [closed]
In what has become an extension to Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys
My wife has just called me in tears because two of my neighbours felt it appropriate to yell at ...
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I offered to help neighbor, how to discuss compensation?
I saw my neighbor post on social media that they wanted help with some computer related tasks. We have never met or had any interaction before. I offered to come help them for no compensation. They ...
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Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys
My neighbour came over yesterday and addressed me in a rather aggressive tone, he complained that 'kids will be kids' and that 'my bins shouldn't be where they are'. He has never mentioned the bins ...
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How to handle a social media response that is factually wrong [closed]
On the Nextdoor website, (a platform for physical neighbors,) I posted on a discussion requesting recommendations for a company to widen their driveway. I saw some contractors promote themselves ...
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How can I diplomatically ask my neighbor to move his/her patio off my garage wall to stop damp
I have just moved in to a new (to me. 6 years old) house and have yet to meet the neighbors. I have since noticed my inside garage wall was damp. Inspecting outside the dampness was caused by the ...
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What is the typical expectation for a gift to a male neighbour on his 60th birthday? [closed]
Apologies if it's a silly question but I am from a different country and therefore culture and so would be keen to learn about British gifts etiquette if there is one.
In particular, a nice middle-...
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How can I extend an olive branch, but also reinforce that another's behavior is not okay?
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I started a wood working hobby a few months ago of which the loudest tools are my stereo, a table saw, and a router. I've had some passive interest from neighbors as they drive by, ...
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I'm worried my neighbour drinks alcohol while driving, should I confront him? [closed]
I live in a condo and park next to my neighbour in the lot. On multiple occasions as I've gotten out of my car, I've noticed an open can of beer or cider in the the front cupholder of his vehicle. ...
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What’s the best way to decline sharing my WiFi network with neighbours?
Occasionally when we have friends who are neighbours over to visit we are asked for access to our wifi so their kids can watch videos on their phone or whatever. Since neighbours are very close to ...
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How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything?
I have recently purchased a new home and have moved into a neighborhood. I would like to introduce myself to my immediate neighbors and offer them my telephone number in case there is an emergency or ...
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How can I convince my neighbour to stop feeding my cat (I've already asked twice)?
I'm living in my apartment for 4 years with my cat and my girlfriend. I have a balcony and since I do I put my cat's litter in there, and I have always left the door to the balcony open so that my ...
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Convincing Neighbors to Train Barking Dogs [closed]
Common problem, about 5 months ago I moved into a new house with next door neighbors that have a loud barking dog (actually 2 dogs ones older though not as much of a problem). So here's the breakdown ...
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How do I deal with persistent and ill-behaved neighborhood children who are always coming over?
There are some neighborhood kids (3 to 4 children, ages 5-8) who are apparently bored after school and roam the block looking for people and things to play with. They recently found my home as my ...
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When should I tell others that I'm divorced/separated? [closed]
While at the moment I am technically still married, I have been separated from my ex for eight months or so, with divorce pending. In certain situations, I find myself unsure of when/if to tell ...
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