Questions tagged [neighbors]

Use this tag for questions where the primary interactions are between neighbors. Common scenarios involve setting boundaries and resolving conflicts.

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Aggressive, cursing, unpredictable neighbor causing fear in community [closed]

I live in a small, quiet, and friendly apartment complex in a nice and fairly crime-free area of town. Recently, a middle-aged man moved into a unit near mine, living with his father, and has been ...
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How to politely inform university accommodation housekeeping that their morning chats are waking me up?

EDIT: I fear I've come across quite poorly. I get on well with these particular cleaners and none of the below is meant as a demand, but rather a favour. There are places to sit and talk just 5m down ...
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How to establish boundaries with a neighbour who breaches basic privacy?

We have a neighbour about a minute walk from our place. Our kids go to the same school/kindergarten, so we are looking forward to a very long relationship. The problem is that she is extremely nosy ...
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How to communicate with neighbour with banging door without making her uncomfortable

I live in Australia in a block of flats. We are the middle flat of three. Each flat has a front and back balcony. Due to the nature of the flats the back doors will bang in the wind if not secured - ...
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How to deal with neighbors making accusations but won't hear me out?

I recently received an angry knock on my door from a neighbor (renters) falsely accusing me of throwing an old newspaper into their front yard. I offered to pull my newspapers from the trash to prove ...
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Neighbors have loud doorstep exchanges in middle of the night

I have never met my neighbors, but I have been woken up by them many times as they talk loudly at their doorstep, laughing, sometimes a dog barking with them, usually around 2 AM. My house is a bit ...
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How to address awful smells from the flat above [closed]

Apologies for the large amount of run-up; the context feels very relevant: My wife and I live in a 1930s block of flats in London. We are on the ground floor, of a staircase of 8 flats, so we're at ...
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How do I politely explain to my neighbour that I don't feel comfortable being alone with her in her house while my kids play?

We recently moved into a new neighborhood, as did our neighbor, Jane. I have two young girls (4 and 5), and Jane has a boy and girl (7 I think?). My kids love to play with them, and her kids seem to ...
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How to deal with a noisy neighbor you're on friendly terms with?

We have a neighbor right next to our house with whom we maintain friendly terms. Whenever we see each other we exchange greetings from a distance. The walls of our master bedrooms are right next to ...
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How can I get my upstairs neighbors to stop stomping on my ceiling?

I've read about asking neighbors to be more quiet but none of the answers help my situation. I live in an older apartment building and my neighbor(s) upstairs tread very heavily when walking on their ...
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My dog and I offended a new neighbor. How do we make it right?

Things are hopping in the neighborhood with new neighbors and new problems. Some are hard to believe. With three dogs, the youngest (6 months old) with reactivity issues (which usually show up at ...
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How can I try to have my mom help me understand why she won't accept a sincere apology?

Background: About 8 years ago, we started having some serious trouble with a couple of neighbors (which slowly escalated to call-the-cops and get-a-lawyer kind of trouble). There was some property ...
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How do I reduce noise in a co-working space? [closed]

I work in a co-working space, and one of the other workers talks a lot, which is distracting and aggravating. What is the usual way to solve this problem? Should I directly ask him to use a meeting ...
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Uncomfortable With Neighbor Mowing Our Lawn

A couple of days ago we looked out our window and saw that our next-door neighbor was mowing our lawn. We have noticed her lack of interpersonal boundaries on several occasions since we moved in a ...
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How to ask a difficult neighbor not to play ball in front of house [closed]

My problem is with my next door neighbor. His grandson (approximately 5 years old) lives with him part time and they have started setting up one or two nets on the sidewalk and kicking a hard ball. ...
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How can we ask neighbours to be more quiet without escalating?

We are living in an apartment, so obviously there are a lot of 'living' noises surrounding us. Even though we don't mind the regular noises (someone listening to his music a little louder, someone ...
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How to tell my neighbour's child to stop throwing things at our window?

My neighbour's child, who is around 5 or 6 years old, loves to cause trouble. I have talked to our neighbours countless times to please watch their child, but they always get offended. Their child is ...
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How to introduce myself and my family to a new neighborhood?

In a few weeks, my family and I will be moving into our new house. I would like to have good relationships with my new neighbor, but I can't figure what is commonly accepted today for such ...
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How to persuade elderly neighbors to reconsider staying North this winter?

For many years, we have shared a 500-foot long driveway with people, whom I will call ON. ON, who are now 87 and 97, have been going South every fall and winter for nearly 15 years. This year, for (...
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How to address rude behavior by unknown neighbor?

I live on the first level of an apartment building. There are two levels above me and the building is laid out such that when my car is parked in my space (in front of my garage) it is below the ...
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Co-tenants set up an inflatable pool outside my window. It's now breeding bugs. What can I do?

A few weeks ago, I moved into a single-person house across from a larger four-person house on the same property. We are all college students in a college town, in the US. If it matters, I'm two grades ...
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How can we get a landscaper to stop blowing leaves into our yard?

My parents live on a somewhat busy but narrow two-lane road. Across the street from them lives an old couple whom we're on good terms with; in the past, they've helped us out with things, and we've ...
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Do we need good fences to make good neighbors?

My suburban neighborhood has about 80% dog ownership, but most dog owners don't have fences. I don't either. My across-the-street neighbor "Abby" and I have been becoming friends. It started over a ...
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How can I get my neighbour's children to take care not to scratch my car?

We have just got a new car on a lease, so are liable for any repairs that go above and beyond the usual wear and tear. I noticed two deep big scratches within the first week. After the first scratch, ...
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How to ask a neighbor if I can replace our shared fence?

I recently moved into an older home with fences between my home and my neighbor's home. Based the way the fences are constructed, I believe that they are owned by the neighbors and not myself. One of ...
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How do I deal with a neighbor who stopped talking to me?

I recently moved from 20 years in an isolated location (no neighbors in sight) to a suburban neighborhood (we can all easily see into each other's windows.) This alone made me anxious; meeting and ...
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How to politely approach my neighbours about their excessively screaming child?

Context My neighbours have a child who is around 3 to 4 years old. The walls in my house are really thin, we can hear most things. Which is completely normal in an old terraced British house, but he ...

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