Questions tagged [online-interaction]

Questions related to interacting with others online, including via chatroom, social media, audio/video chat, or any other method of communicating online. Can also be used for long-distance-relationships, or just friends you have met online.

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On what to compliment someone with anorexia in order to improve their body image?

I'm in an online support group for people with anxiety, depression and these kinds of things (I already talked about it in this question). The other day, someone with anorexia (her words) posted a ...
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How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship?

I'm in an online support group for people with anxiety, depression and these kinds of things and, in this group, people would often post things about the difficult situation they are in. Recently, a ...
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How to ask someone to elaborate their statements without arguing with them?

It has happened many times to me. Also, but not exclusively, on *.stackexchange sites. Someone makes a statement. Often, but not always, they do this as a response to a question I asked. What they ...
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How to ask someone to not try to fix your issues

Sometimes, you talk to someone about a problem you are facing and what you want them to say is something like: Oh yeah, that sucks. However, the person might not get the hint and well instead tell ...
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How to address an online gaming community about our decision to allow back a player who used to be toxic?

There has been a very toxic person to the community of a multiplayer Minecraft server I'm a moderator on (I'll call them Mr Toxic from now on). Apart from using really irritating cheats (the cheats ...
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How to address a formerly toxic player in my community that we caught using a sockpuppet account?

There has been a very toxic person to the community of a multiplayer Minecraft server I'm a moderator on (I'll call them Mr Toxic from now on). Apart from using really irritating cheats (the cheats ...
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How do I set a meeting with someone who keeps rescheduling?

I met this girl at my university. We started talking and it went on for about an hour. The conversation was really good. Later, I added her on Facebook, she said "We should get a coffee sometime" (in ...
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How do I deescalate a situation in which two people are arguing, and other people are calling for them to be banned?

I am a member of a Discord server that was created as a place for a community to move to after the place where the community formed was shut down. (For some context, see here, although not exactly ...
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Contacting a friend when I haven't heard from them in weeks

Background Online I got some friends who I regularly play games with, these aren't just people on the internet you meet for me. I know a lot of things about them and we've been friends for a long ...
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How to politely ask my family to stop pressuring me to 'like' posts more on social media?

It happens fairly often: someone in the family buys a 'cool new thing', and posts pictures of it on social media like Whatsapp. Sometimes something interesting pops up that deserves a comment from me, ...
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Asking my coworker to get to the point without being rude

Background I have a coworker with whom I communicate online (slack). When this coworker has something to tell me, they always start by saying: Hello, how are you? Then they wait for me to answer (...
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How to handle someone who takes over and derails meetings?

Background I'm a software developer and recently the product owner on my team has been intermittently absent. Her direct boss "Joe" has started attending some of our meetings that she can't make it ...
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Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name

I don't like my name, I never had. Recently, I found myself a new name that I really love and I have started using it online. Now, the thing is that I just received a (nice) mug with my "new name" on ...
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How should I text a guy I liked on LinkedIn?

I have been co-workers with this guy for a little bit over a year but didn’t get to see him often except when we both showed up at company parties. He seemed to be interested in me. First approached ...
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How to deal with a friend that thinks he is always right? [closed]

I have a friend who I got to know through playing video games. I've known him for about 7 years now and have met him in person about 14 times. We've been actively playing together for 4 years and ...
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How can I better improve peoples views of me?

I frequent a chatroom with a small community. Many types of discussions occur that I don't usually join in on. It's partially because I often don't feel like contributing because what I have to say ...
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How can I tactfully point out that someone misunderstood me?

Yesterday at work I had the same misunderstanding with two different co-workers. I'm working on a website with both an English and Spanish version. I explained over Slack that I found the resource ...
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Get to meet someone from the internet without being pushy about it?

So I met this girl on Jodel (sort of like social media, but it's anonymous and you only can connect with people in your area) a few weeks ago and we have been chatting nonstop since then on Kik (...
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How to tell long distance girlfriend we both did wrong without her closing up again

I've been with my long-distance girlfriend for 8 months now, we are both in our mid-20s. Last weekend we had a disagreement in an online game session: Once she went online I asked her to play a ...
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How can I effectively use social media to become closer friends with people I don't see often? [closed]

There are some people who I want to get to know better, mainly childhood friends I've grown apart from, former co-workers and children of my parents' friends. I'm connected to them on Facebook but don'...
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My girlfriend keeps me out of her Facebook profile - how to understand why?

We have been together for 6 months. I met her family and she met mine. After about one month of dating she showed me some pictures on Facebook. After a while I thought I could add her on fb, and I did....
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What can I do to comfort an online friend who’s sibling just died?

I have an online friend whose little sister just passed away from congenital heart defects. I don’t know this friend in person, and she lives 4 hours away from me so I can’t hop in the car and go ...
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Saying thanks without making it sounds like “you are doing me a favor”?

I'm a 23 year old woman, working as a junior Q&A. Some time ago I asked the dev team (mostly men, all older than me) for something that I needed to do my job. They weren't really happy with my ...
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How can I correct text of another person during a chat without being pedant or making fun of the other person?

A written chat is not a good channel of communication for no verbal language, hence, is quite easy to make mistakes because each side might add different context to the sentences. This might cause ...
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Online conversation vs face to face interaction

There are a lot of articles out there about the dangers of internet and some of them talk about the fact that online interactions are nothing compared to face to face conversation. Those sort of ...
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How can I discourage constant messaging from online friend without raising it directly?

I am female and in a relationship with a wonderful man. I have an online friend, male and 10 years older than me, who lives on the other side of the planet and just seems to constantly message me day ...
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How can I point out errors to a teammate in a group project without being the “bad guy”?

I am working in a university coding project of 8 people. We're working on gitlab and every time someone does a merge request, at least 3 people need to look over the code and upvote the request, if ...
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Untangling the intersections of transphobia, fetishization, and reality

This is an issue that I've been running into quite a bit in the last year or so, primarily on an online image/meme sharing site. It usually pops up in the context of cosplayers' or animes' depictions ...
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How do I tell the creator of a Discord server that they're “formalizing” everything too quickly?

A few months ago, a Discord server was created for a site that didn't have its own livechat, but a lot of the members wanted one. So this one girl creates a Discord server, and invites a bunch of us ...
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How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum?

TL;DR How do I tell this Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum without being too intrusive? Background I have this Facebook friend that I care deeply about and with whom I ...
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Approach former date online without making it awkward

So there's this girl I was dating back in may I matched on Tinder. I was over that pretty quickly and I still don't have any romantic interest in her. At the time we were dating (and I'd bet long ...
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How to respond to someone who wants to know my dark side and wild things that I have done? [closed]

I met a person online. Both of us 35. After some conversation, I asked him the kind of books he prefers. He told me that he reads dark books which I won't like. I guessed "crime/ghosts", he said no. ...
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How to ask friend for their honest opinion about my sending messages?

I have a friend of opposite sex. We see and talk with each other about once a week. Every few weeks I initiate an unsolicited conversation online (private message on social media). This person never ...
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How do I approach my date about texting less?

I’m going on a first date tomorrow with a guy I matched with on a dating app a few days ago. In these past three days, I found him texting a bit more than I’m used to and it has caused some concerns ...
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How to set and enforce a divergent personal boundary for a single problematic person in an online group of people?

Background I have been playing an online mobile phone game for about 3 years now. The game is about building a castle, an army, and you go and attack either other players or computer generated ...
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How do I say no to a person seeking friendship that doesn't understand internet etiquette?

I posted a message in a very large Facebook group (~75,000 members) asking for specific information to help me in my internship. One person that speaks Spanish messaged me and asked me to be his ...
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Challenging someone's choice in username

I'm sure this is something most frequent internet users have seen at some point in some online interaction; some one pickes a handle, screen-name, or username that just seems to completely undermine ...
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How to recommend meditation to someone with anxiety? [closed]

I have a friend with anxiety and depression, let's call him "Bob". As someone who deals with anxiety as well, I found that mindfulness meditation has significantly helped me. It didn't solve all my ...
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What is the etiquette about how/when to Stop Conversation with other matches when dating online? [closed]

I don't believe this question or an answer is specific to OKCupid, but that's the particular platform I have been using in case there are any answers/advice that is specific to that site. In OKCupid ...
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How can I tactfully discuss the intentions of an online acquaintance before meeting?

I recently accepted the friend request of a guy on Facebook. We shared a couple mutual friends, so I assumed we had met at a college party somewhere in the last few years. As it turns out, we haven't ...
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How can I tell my closest online friend that I'm actually male?

Preface: Some folks will think I'm a terrible person after reading this, and perhaps they're right. In truth, there were several points early-on when I'd thought about breaking things off, but ...
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How can I decline an invitation and then go without them?

In 2016 I went to a comic con with a group of online friends, of which a couple of streamers with a decent sized community. F is in this community but nobody really speaks to him outside from what he ...
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Appropriate wait time before re-sending RSVP request? [closed]

My teenage son has sent out an e-vite (online invitation service) for his birthday party at a one of those bowling/laser tag/multi-activity places. He’s extremely excited about the event, but ...
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How to decline a help request (which suggests that I must do all his job)

In my class, everyone is looking forward to the presentation of our little project (programming with C#) at high-school. Most of my class doesn't even know how to code properly and, because of that, ...
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How to politely ask someone where they got the stated information from?

Someone posted a response to a question on a Q&A website known was Quora (you may have heard of it). The credentials on his profile indicate that he possibly may be a credible person. However, I ...
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Bad work results from voluntary co-worker

I am currently working on a voluntary translation project for a game. We're working in a team of ~5 people per language (3 active translators in our case) in a Smartcat project. However, one of the ...
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How can I politely ask a person why they did something, without coming across as being angry or expecting an apology?

Recently, I came across a person who keeps doing something I don't like them doing, for various reasons (though those actions are otherwise fine, just something I don't personally like). However, ...
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How could I convince women that I'm not trying to flirt with them but that I just want them to join a friendship group?

I like forming friendship groups with people from the internet, in friendship web pages or similar, and I like them to be mixed with a similar percentage of women and men. But there's a problem with ...
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Can I quote a private message in a public post?

In a public post in Reddit, I feel that the content of a private message sent to me is necessary to illustrate my point. I haven't asked them whether I should public it or not, but my reply on their ...
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How to make friends in an online math community (AoPS)

I am from a school in a city in Dallas, Texas and an math olympiad enthusiast, but unfortunately no friend of mine in my school/city is really interested in maths. And going to any math club is not ...