Questions tagged [online-interaction]

Questions related to interacting with others online, including via chatroom, social media, audio/video chat, or any other method of communicating online. Can also be used for long-distance-relationships, or just friends you have met online.

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How to politely notify in an online conversation that I am a woman?

Context I am a woman and I sometimes post things online, on Stack Exchange for instance. Usually, my posts are very neutral and do not provide any hint of my gender. It seems that most people assume ...
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How to let tech support subtly know that I am proficient without showing off?

I manage a couple of small websites for friends and family as their admin, ranging from installing wordpress to full-stack web development. In this position I often have to contact the support of ...
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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible “emotional affair”

Background: My wife and I have been together for about 8 years now (married for 6) and we have two gorgeous children. My wife, unfortunately, has been suffering from mild depression for quite a while,...
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How to politely handle support requests which lack some basic understanding?

So as a free software developer, I'm fond that there are users of my projects. However, from time to time, it happens that some people who are definitely not in the target audience for a piece of ...
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Politely telling an incompetent software project volunteer they are too inexperienced

I am currently the project lead of an online volunteer run software project. I originally created this and work on it my in free time. There are also a few other people who took interest in this ...
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In an online conversation, is it okay to use “guys” to address everyone? [closed]

In an online group chat, sometimes I say "See ya later, guys!". Of course, not all of them are "guys". Some are "gals". But for efficiency (read: lazy), I usually just say "guys". I wonder if this is ...
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How do I convince someone formalities between internet friends aren't necessary over a casual, informal text chat?

I have a friend of mine who absolutely refuses to begin conversations online by just asking me what they want, and instead insists on formalities that drive me crazy. We're online gaming friends, so ...
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How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am?

This is something I run into sometimes, as I'm 15 years old currently and a moderator on an online community. Sometimes, people will doubt my abilities, especially online, when they become aware of my ...
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How to make a gift without seeming creepy?

This month I'm going to visit London, how Pokémon fans knows for a very limited time in London will open a Pokémon center and I'll be there in that period. I'm very happy for what was a lucky ...
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How can I ask a possible long-lost relative to prove his identity?

I found myself in a peculiar situation yesterday. I was contacted via Facebook by a person (let's call him Bob) who claimed that he was one of my mom's cousins and hadn't talked to her in over 40 ...
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How to respond to an unfalsifiable accusation?

I recently shared a blog post I had written to a relevant subreddit. I've posted to this subreddit a few times and got good responses. My most recent post had a response on it when I checked it in ...
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How do I indicate sarcasm/irony online?

On the Internet, you don't have important visual and auditory cues from a person like tone of voice or facial expressions. Body language, therefore, is non-existent - yet this can be very important in ...
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How can I tactfully discuss the intentions of an online acquaintance before meeting?

I recently accepted the friend request of a guy on Facebook. We shared a couple mutual friends, so I assumed we had met at a college party somewhere in the last few years. As it turns out, we haven't ...
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How to refuse politely to play with someone as a streamer

I'm a new (game) streamer, I don't have a massive audience, and I find myself in quite a challenge. Often when I play, some viewers will ask if they can play with me (or us if I'm already playing ...
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How to respond to someone who wants to know my dark side and wild things that I have done? [closed]

I met a person online. Both of us 35. After some conversation, I asked him the kind of books he prefers. He told me that he reads dark books which I won't like. I guessed "crime/ghosts", he said no. ...
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How to initiate a conversation with a person who recently had transition but you were not in touch with them?

I had a family friend/classmate/neighbor who I have not been in touch with for more than a decade and we were never friends but on friendly terms in childhood. Two years back I got to know that she ...
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How to gently end involvement with an online community?

Since 2011 I'm a member of an online community for Animal Crossing players. Sadly many things are changing in gaming world and many of these changes combined with new interests which I have found in ...
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How to refer to someone by name in an online community?

Forgive me if this sounds stupid, but I'm not familiar with the "First Name" and "Last Name" system, although I know last name means "family name". Case 1 Suppose someone use his real name as an ...
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How to talk to a person not sticking to the rules of a secret santa and disappointing the receiver of their gift?

Time for a holiday-themed question. I lead a small online group in an MMORPG. For the holidays, we decided to exchange gifts ala Secret Santa. As leader, I took it upon myself to organize the whole ...
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How can I indicate that what I'm saying is not sarcastic online?

This question is the exact opposite of How do I indicate sarcasm/irony online?. Sometimes some of our words that are meant to be understood literally look like sarcastic. When we are indicating that ...
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How do I determine which name to use when meeting someone from a website for the first time in person?

I have many people I interact with on a daily or weekly basis on the web. Sometimes I get to know these people pretty well and, if I travel somewhere or they come to Austin, we decide to meet up. ...
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How to handle people who don't get along on Stack Exchange?

Active users of Stack Exchange tend to frequent multiple sites and chat rooms, so it means we will tend to bump into the same people in different places. People don't always click, and will disagree ...
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Will interacting on an electronic forum, tend to improve or deteriorate my real life interpersonal skills? [closed]

I spend a lot of time interacting with people online and only a small amounts of time interacting with only a few people in real life. Before the internet (I am an older introvert) I did not ...
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Is it rude to ignore everybody else in a chatroom and only talk with one person? [closed]

I've been a member of an online community that's mostly aimed at kids - although we've got members aged 8 to in their 20s - for almost four years now. There's a live chat available (with some pretty ...
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How do I decline contact with a previous buyer?

I recently sold my first car to someone. The sale went very fast, they test drove it, looked at it and signed over the car. This was about 3 weeks ago. All of a sudden I get a text message 'Can you ...
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How to respond to questions that make one uncomfortable?

I am a 24 year old Indian girl. A few days before, I got this message from one of my school friends in Facebook after a long long time. Back in school we were not that good friends or anything just ...
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How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum?

TL;DR How do I tell this Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum without being too intrusive? Background I have this Facebook friend that I care deeply about and with whom I ...
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How to deal with people whose English is not good enough to be understandable

So I develop plugins as a hobby for just over two years now (nothing professional). I've posted one plugin online on a forum for everyone to use. Note that this forum has a rule stating you should ...
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Negative feedbacks and “Language smoother”

I don't know what is the "scientific" term for that but I noticed that, when people give negative feedback, they sometimes use "tricks" to make their words less harsh. For example, they will use ...
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Pointing the index fingers to one another as a way to excuse oneself: is this a common gesture?

I grew up in Italy, and there is a gesture I use that I'm wondering whether is strictly Italian or is used/understood elsewhere. It means either of: "I know this may bother you, but I'd really ...
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How to ask someone not to lie?

A friend of mine asked me a question, which I answered. After 4 hours I got a message with "sorry I was busy doing homework, I'll come back to you tomorrow". While this on itself is not that big a ...
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How can I tell my closest online friend that I'm actually male?

Preface: Some folks will think I'm a terrible person after reading this, and perhaps they're right. In truth, there were several points early-on when I'd thought about breaking things off, but ...
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Is it rude to post on an English site when my English needs a lot of improvement? [closed]

I've been learning English on the internet for many years, but it is still very difficult to understand me sometimes. I know that using English daily is best, and especially on Stack Overflow. I've ...
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How to politely say, “I know, right?”

When chatting in Social Media or Stack Exchange chat rooms, I often see other users give some information which I already know. How should I reply? Some people use "I know, right?" or "ikr" in ...
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How to respond to a friend with little to no self confidence and often doesn't feel good about themselves

Often when talking to many of my friends, they often try to put themselves down by commenting that they are not "amazing" and that they are not good enough. Often persuading them otherwise is a futile ...
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How should I address scheduling phone or video calls with my long distance girlfriend?

Currently, I live about 10 miles outside Cambridge, UK. My girlfriend lives a similar distance away, but in the opposite direction. A journey to visit her is about 2 hours via public transport, which ...
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How can I convey to people that they spell my name wrong?

My name ends with a 'c', while in the country I live in it is much more often spelled with a 'k' at the end. When communicating verbally, this makes no difference as both names have the same ...
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On what to compliment someone with anorexia in order to improve their body image?

I'm in an online support group for people with anxiety, depression and these kinds of things (I already talked about it in this question). The other day, someone with anorexia (her words) posted a ...
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How can I explain why I declined someone's Facebook friend request without offending them?

Recently, I got several friend requests on Facebook from people I sort of knew in middle school. We went to different high schools, and so I haven't talked to them in five years, as I've just finished ...
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How to handle someone who takes over and derails meetings?

Background I'm a software developer and recently the product owner on my team has been intermittently absent. Her direct boss "Joe" has started attending some of our meetings that she can't make it ...
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My girlfriend occasionally blocks me on social media

We have known each other for almost a year, and have been dating for more than 6 months. Most of the time it has been going really well; we like each other and enjoy each other's company. For most of ...
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How to politely ask for a price for a commision, when I only intend to ask?

I wanted to ask for a price for a commission from an artist. However, my budget is lower than what I think the commission would be worth, hence I intend to only ask for the price and not buy the ...
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How can I politely tell a defensive Stack Exchange user to use proper punctuation? [closed]

On a Stack Exchange site I moderate, there is one user who repeatedly uses commas instead of other proper punctuation marks in posts, and often writes simple walls of text. At first, people edited the ...
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How to politely ask my family to stop pressuring me to 'like' posts more on social media?

It happens fairly often: someone in the family buys a 'cool new thing', and posts pictures of it on social media like Whatsapp. Sometimes something interesting pops up that deserves a comment from me, ...
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How to help a stranger (woman) in an abusive relationship?

I'm in an online support group for people with anxiety, depression and these kinds of things and, in this group, people would often post things about the difficult situation they are in. Recently, a ...
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How do I tell the creator of a Discord server that they're “formalizing” everything too quickly?

A few months ago, a Discord server was created for a site that didn't have its own livechat, but a lot of the members wanted one. So this one girl creates a Discord server, and invites a bunch of us ...
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What techniques I can use in conversations with my schizophrenic friend?

I have a friend who I've known for over forty years. Early on in our friendship, my friend was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has been on medication and psychiatric care ever since. There ...
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Get team member to participate in project

I am currently experiencing a very unpleasent situation. We are a group of 5, working on a software project for "professional school". We use Discord to organize us and to talk with each other. ...
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How do I set a meeting with someone who keeps rescheduling?

I met this girl at my university. We started talking and it went on for about an hour. The conversation was really good. Later, I added her on Facebook, she said "We should get a coffee sometime" (in ...
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How to tell a girl she can't “raid” with us due to previous bad performance?

I play World of Warcraft in a extremely nice guild for the better part of two months now. We are a casual semi-hardcore raiding guild, so raid performance is still rather important, and if someone ...