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Questions tagged [parents]

Questions involving someone's mother or father, either biological or legal, and interactions between them or also interactions between yourself and one of them. Can also be used for interactions with someone else's parents.

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How to “break up” with my toxic parents/family?

this is quite a long text but I think it is necessary to get an insight of where my motivation is coming from and why I want to "break up" with my parents. The Fight I A couple of months ago there ...
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How to stop dad giving me health issues from undercooking food

I am Chinese living in Bangkok Thailand since I was born. My parents are from country side Chinese in Thailand. They met each other in Bangkok and started living here. My dad is 67 years old. Retired ...
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Is it better to ask parents of a kid if they are OK with a gift I buy for their child?

I don't come from a western culture and I am not sure what the norms of western culture are. In western countries, when you plan on buying a gift for a kid who is not yours, do you consult with ...
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How to tell my mother the way she acts when upset or tired is unacceptable

My mother is a very busy person, which leads to her becoming stressed out and tired. Unfortunately, the way she deals with it is by lashing out at me and my siblings in unfair ways. For example, she ...
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How to voice my disapointment with my adult daughter's choice to own a fur-trimmed coat, without having a dispute?

My 24 year-old daughter lives apart from me with her father. A year ago she bought an expensive coyote fur-trimmed Canada Goose brand coat, knowing that it was coyote fur. At the time, I was unaware ...
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Talking to a parent about their mental health

I am worried I have a parent who exhibits signs of Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI), and I would like them to see a clinician. How can I bring up my concerns without running into the stigma around ...
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How to tell my parents I want to live in another city and ask them for their support

Background My parents want me and my fiance to move in city A My fiance and I want to live in city B I'm financially dependent on my parents, so they have the upper hand. Not totally dependent, but I ...
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How to talk to my parents about their excessive social media usage?

I've recently graduated from university and am now working full time, while living at home until I finish paying off my student loans and can save up to move out. While I'm still living at home, I ...
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How to tell to my mother that I don’t want to do certain things she requests me to do?

Context I’m 19 years old in Bucharest, Romania in high school at grade 12. Since I’ve been gifted with an iPhone, I kinda liked staying on my new phone. But, I couldn’t control myself. Now my parents ...
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How do I respond to a person that says they are everyone's scapegoat?

TL;DR: My dad is an un-diagnosed very likely covert narcissist and at the last counseling meeting, he declared that he felt that everyone made him the instant scapegoat. (which isnt't true, because ...
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How do I defuse a shouting fight about a bad test?

I have Chinese parents and the stereotype is 100% true in this case... I’ve recently gotten a bad score on a test, however I’m in double accelerated math. However, apparently that’s the standard for ...
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How do you ask your father not to get angry when he sees a male teacher is teaching his child?

Dealing with a father that gets angry when a man teaches his child in additional courses I’m 18 years male. Currently, I am pursuing 12th( the final year of High school) year education and very close ...
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How do I tell my my parents I want to switch schools from their alma mater to a new one?

I am an eighteen year old going to a 4 year university in the USA. This school was my number 1 choice going into the college selection process. I loved most things about it, and my parents met there ...
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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?

TL;DR When my mom bakes a cake for us (whoever is at home but it's usually me, my little sister, my father and her), she uses eggs (which are not vegan), even if I will be there. How can I tell her ...
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Making a (second) first impression on mother-in-law. How can I survive this?

My mother-in-law hates my guts and we haven't even met yet. This weekend, my wife and I will be meeting up with her parents for the first time after they kicked her out unexpectedly. This will be the ...
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How to ask parents to respect my privacy

So, just yesterday iOS 12 came out for Apple devices. All of my family (including me) use Apple devices faithfully. My dad has used a Mac since they were first commercially available for the public. ...
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How can I approach my dad talking to me about nothing but career and life choices?

TL;DR Strained relationship with my father, symptoms of which are: the only thing he can talk to me about are life choices, when I want to talk about literally anything else. How can I discuss this ...
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How can I tell my father I have traded in my car for leased car without checking with him?

I have recently decided to trade in my car for a leased car. So far no issues. The problem is that I usually pass through anything I want to purchase with my dad. I am 30 and admittedly this may have ...
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Should I leave my dad? [closed]

I'm 19, I just graduated in May. I'm planning on joining the Air Force soon but due to the state of my family, I feel some guilt about doing this and leaving my dad. My family has very strong ...
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How do I convince my parents and their employee to close their restaurant while they go on their trips

Background: my parents have been running a small restaurant which opens everyday with another employee for a couple of years now; things went okay so far, I don't hear much complaints. I've been ...
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How do I help my girlfriend get out of this dangerous situation with her parents? [closed]

Hello Interpersonal Stack Exchange, About two weeks ago I posted the question "How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?". I recommend reading that one first as it ...
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How can I convey to my dad that I like that he buys me things, but sometimes they are just not my taste?

I'm an adult male in his late 20's and have been living on my own for several years with a good job. My dad every so often will go to garage sales or the store and see something interesting he thinks ...
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How (not?) to talk with moms

One type of folks I am really, really annoyed with are the mothers talking about their first kids in their first years after birth. They virtually cannot talk about anything except their children. ...
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Asking dad to be more flexibile with his timing or to communicate it better [closed]

I find a lot of stress takes place regarding the logistics behind meeting with my dad. A typical example just happened: I was just stepping out the door and I check my phone and see a message from my ...
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How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?

Some Background My girlfriend's family moved to the US about 2 years ago to escape their home country (which is going through political and economic turmoil) to start over. Her mom sells insurance, ...
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What to do about parent suspecting another of a crime? [closed]

I come here out of urgency and anonymonity. Recently, I've learned that one of my parents suspects the other of, for lack of a better word, molesting me. He suspects that a few months ago on a trip ...
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How can I tell my parents I'd like to help them financially after getting a very well paid job?

My parents have been supportive of my education for my entire life. I lucked out and the field of interest to me just so happens to be a very high paying field. I recently finished my formal ...
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How to approach a narcissist parent about their unkind and unreasonable treatment of a sibling?

TL;DR: My dad is calling my sister an embarrasment while I'm the "golden child" that seems to do most things right in his eyes. My dad seems to not realize that me and my sister talk often, and she ...
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How can I get my mom to accept me being introverted?

I'm 21 years-old and still live at my parents' house. Like my dad, I'm pretty introverted. And we mainly like to do our own thing throughout the day. For me, that's playing video games, writing code, ...
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How can I properly express my true academic and career ambitions to my father?

I'm currently a junior/senior in High School, currently looking for colleges. My father has taken it upon himself to help me find a college that would best suit what he believes to be my ambitions: a ...
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What to say to steer passive-aggressive narcissist parent(s) away from saying guilt-tripping statements to me or other people?

My relationship with my dad has been rocky the past 9+ years. After divorcing my mom when I was 16, (I am 25 now) his passive-aggressive narcissist behavior has become more prevalent. For example, ...
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How to handle wife wanting inheritance when I have none [closed]

We live in a large and expensive city with really high real-estate costs. Both me and my wife are around 30 years of age. It's been over Four years into my marriage now. My wife is constantly worried ...
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How can I disprove a statement that self-validates when I try to disprove it?

Context: I'm bad at math. My dad makes me do extra math practice every day to catch up (he says that I'm "so far behind"). Problem: I'm honestly putting in my best effort. However, my dad doesn't ...
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Parents found out I'd bought herbal cigarettes. How could I have parents regain trust in me? [closed]

This is my first post. I'm new here, so tell me if I make a mistake. I'll be happy to follow. Here goes. So I'd tried buying these things called herbal cigarettes online. My parents didn't know. I ...
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How can I invite my daughter's friends over without being odd?

My daughter is turning 4 years old in August. She has been going to preschool since September. Her class is pretty small, with only 6 kids. She's good friends with most of them. She'll be joining them ...
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How to show my parents my maturity? [duplicate]

I am a university student. My mother is very secretive about me. She also restricts me going to friends' parties and going on summer trips etc. I don't know what the problem is. It is possible that ...
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How to establish boundaries with parent who is always negative

(In case it matters this question is made on behalf another person) I have a parent who seemingly lacks the ability to empathize with me. They'll never say things like "I understand you" or "I am ...
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How do I tell my parents I won't be able to help them?

My parents' health is deteriorating fast and it won't be long before they cannot look after themselves. We have no relatives or friends who could help them. I live clear across the country but the ...
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How can I handle my father challenging everything I say?

I live with my parents. My father likes to challenge nearly everything I say, up to the point of ridiculousness. I can prove many of the things he challenges but not immediately. In most cases his ...
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How do I convince my parents that I'm doing my best in class?

I'm in middle school, and by my school's standards, I get fairly high marks (90%, maybe a bit above or below). However, my parents believe that I'm not doing my best. I'm also undergoing exams, and ...
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How can I explain to a parent that my decision to not have children isn't an accusation that they've been bad parents to me?

I am fully aware that there is a similar question already on this site, but I need help with a specific issue. I brought up the fact that I have no intention of having children as an offhand comment ...
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How to deal with a friend mocking my family? [closed]

I am 21 years old and have these friends who went to school with me. They were my classmates back then. We were close during our school days, but departed in our own ways once the school was over. We ...
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Help my mother to understand my choice when it comes to having children [duplicate]

While my mother is usually extremely understanding of my choices in life, there is one choice on which she cannot agree, and it is my decision not to have children. Each time the subject comes to the ...
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How to make my mum stop making disparaging comments about my appearance?

My mum has always wanted me to have short hair - a short bob or a pixie cut. When I was little, I had little choice in the matter. The teachers at school addressed me as a male, classmates didn't want ...
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How can I deny a request from the mother of my girlfriend to tag along on our road trip?

Background My girlfriend and I are going on a holiday in her native country, about 800km from our current city. We planned this holiday months ago and we planned to stay for 2 weeks. Problem Today ...
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How can I have a relationship with my mother when I stand in moral opposition to what she believes? [closed]

I have spoken to my mother once in the past 8 months. She has done things which were disrespectful to my fiancee and her family, and she holds views which I feel are morally reprehensible. I want to ...
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How can I deal with my toxic mother? [closed]

I'm 24 years old (woman), pursuing my master's degree, with 2 part-time jobs and in a relationship since 1 year ago. Since I was a child my mom has been controlling me, I have never thought that was ...
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How to inform my parents that I didn't like their less than desireable response to my good news?

Some background: I've been trying to get into a particular overseas university for about 2 years now (applied twice before, both rejected), but I found out that I got accepted this time after a lot ...
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How to ask a parent to help with something they disagree with fundamentally?

For perspective, I'm a young man and I don't live with my parents nor am I dependent on them in any way. Recently, I've started to grow an interest in learning to ride a motorcycle. My dad has been ...
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How to deal with clingy mother pushing me to use social media?

I'm 20 and moved to Germany two years ago, moving out with 18 is rather uncommon in my country (Netherlands). About one year ago my mother became more and more clingy (my assumption is that she didn't ...