Questions tagged [parents]

Questions involving someone's mother or father, either biological or legal, and interactions between them or also interactions between yourself and one of them. Can also be used for interactions with someone else's parents.

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How can I ask my mother to give me privacy?

I'm a 19-year-old girl, who has a Facebook account. My mom respects my privacy most of the time, like she keeps out of my Instagram account, but always keeps logged in to my Facebook account. She ...
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Why did my dad leave me for his new girlfriend? [closed]

I'm 13. Just two weeks ago, my mom and my adoptive father broke up. He's been in my life since I was 3, and we have similar interests and get along very well. We used to always hang out. We were like ...
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How to convince my parents to let me study biotechnology instead of MBBS? [closed]

From my childhood, I haven't had any dream of becoming something but my parents always wanted me to study and become a doctor and that's why they enrolled me in Neet Coaching (The National Eligibility ...
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How to convince family to accept my choice?

My family and I live in a big crowded city. My dad has a little house with a big garden out of city (about 15 km away). At weekends my parents and my sister and her husband go there and stay for a few ...
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How to deal with Friends With Strict Parents?

I have a friend that I'm quite close to and I'm in danger of loosing her as a friend. Her parents are very strict and protective in spite of her being 19, they let her go out as often as my parents ...
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How to help my mother accept my relationship with a soon-to-be-divorced man?

My boyfriend is a 33-old, separated from his wife but not divorced yet and dad of 2 little girls. I am 25yo. Despite this particular family situation, our relationship has quickly become serious and ...
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How do I stop my mother from interrupting me every 5 minutes?

I'm exasperated by the behaviour of my mother and I don't know how to make her stop, please propose some solution... I'm a 21 year old student far from home most of the year, and I'm currently in my ...
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How to correct my dad's misconception of my partner?

My dad appears to have a long-standing misconception about my partner of nearly 10 years. He seems to believe she does very little to contribute, either in terms of labour or financially. Neither of ...
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How can I refuse to kiss my mother while minimizing the hurt feelings?

Note: this has nothing to do with the current pandemic. I don't like physical contact, especially kisses and especially when I don't fully trust the person touching me. Also, my current relationship ...
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BF (35M) wants to have a baby but I don't think he's ready. OP 35F - how do I communicate this?

My boyfriend wants to have a baby, but I don't think he's ready for one. He claims he wants to be the main caregiver but he is often emotionally unavailable, either playing video games or focused on ...
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How to make mom understand about my phobia

It might sound funny to some people but for me its the most horrifying thing ever. For any answers/comments don't use the word "li......" it just makes me feel like yuck. Please refer to it as "IT" ...
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How to stop reoccuring conflict in family home

Context: I am an early 20's British Male. I moved home after University and am suffering from somewhat severe depression. As I got towards graduating, my mother suggested I moved home instead of ...
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How can I ask my parents to stop calling me when I'm out or ask me where I'm going?

I'm 24 years old, have my own career, my own car but I live with my parents and my 2 younger brothers. I live my life quite independently. One of the problems I constantly face from my parents is ...
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How do I assuage concerns about working in the healthcare industry amidst the ongoing Coronavirus outbreak with my parents?

I live with my parents, and I work in the healthcare industry. I'd like to continue working in the healthcare industry, however there are some issues that I have trouble resolving. Specifically, ...
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How can I explain to my partner that the relationship with parents depends on cultural expectations?

Me and my wife come from different countries with very different social norms and expectations (Russia and Spain). We live in Germany and handle the differences between us rather successfully as we ...
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How to ask my mother to stop giving me unsolicited (health related) advices?

I have a lot of mental health issues and my mother tends to think that fixing my life is her duty. As such, she will often give me unsolicited health advice so that I could get "better". She would ...
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How can I get my mother stop making me apply to jobs that aren't a good fit?

I graduated from school a few years ago. I have had a lot of trouble finding a permanent job for what I went to school for. In general, my mother gives me a really hard time about it, we've gotten in ...
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How do I get my father back after an extended time of being estranged?

Long story short: my mother recently has been diagnosed with an inoperable malignant brain tumor and her biggest wish is for us to mend our relationship before she dies. My father and I have had ...
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How can I communicate to my mother that her complaints about me make me feel like I'm not enough?

(and never will be) I'm on the autism spectrum and often feel overwhelmingly fatigued and tired. My mother, on the other hand, has a lot of energy and is always doing a million things. From time to ...
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Bringing up financial concerns with partner’s parents

My partner’s family has been financially struggling a long time (way before I even entered the picture). Their parents frequently ask for money (which at times can be their entire weeks paycheck). ...
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How to tell a stranger that the way I wish to educate my child is none of his/her business?

Consider the following scenario: I'm taking my kid (5 years old) to a coffeeshop and we do some 'math problems'. By math problems I mean that I explain him about the numbers, addition, counting and so ...
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How to help an elderly paranoid parent? [closed]

My mother is elderly (pushing 80) but is generally is good shape, sound mind, is able to take care of herself and live on her own and so forth. She is able to drive except at night due to her ...
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How to warn father about catfishing scams?

Due to my father's browser sloppiness, and in spite of my efforts to NOT see what he's doing, I know he is on dating sites talking to women. I was fixing something for him when a chat window popped up,...
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Telling my mother that I have anorexia without panicking her

I have a lot of (mental) health issues and I know my mother is often worried about me. One of the things that worry her is how poorly I eat (I told her that I basically eat the same thing at every ...
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Best way to advertise an outreach event last-minute [closed]

I work for a consulting firm and have planned and organized an outreach event at the suggestion of the managing partner. It will take place in a public library, in a meeting room. This is a free event ...
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How to tell my mother not to visit?

I left my mother's home to live on my own 8,5 years ago. Since then, no one in my family has visited me once. Some years ago, my mother even dismissed my idea to visit me when I suggested to do so, I ...
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How to manage healthy relationship with traditional parents who do not like your partner?

I am from India, living in Germany for a long time now. I have liberal views, and most of my ideas align with the political left, here, in Europe. My parents, though, are from a traditional Indian ...
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How do I convince my dad to support my mom’s surgery?

Context My mom has been terminally ill for almost a year and my dad has been the primary care taker. I recently moved internationally back to my home country and have been the secondary care taker ...
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How do you ask your father not to get angry when he sees a male teacher is teaching his child?

Dealing with a father that gets angry when a man teaches his child in additional courses I’m 18 years male. Currently, I am pursuing 12th( the final year of High school) year education and very close ...
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Parents forgiven someone who insulted them - can I be angry at them? [closed]

My parents have a long history of forgetting things pretty quickly and forgiving people. It's a very good-in fact great—habit, but I at times disagree with them as "A Believer should not get stung ...
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How to voice my disapointment with my adult daughter's choice to own a fur-trimmed coat, without having a dispute?

My 24 year-old daughter lives apart from me with her father. A year ago she bought an expensive coyote fur-trimmed Canada Goose brand coat, knowing that it was coyote fur. At the time, I was unaware ...
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How to get my adult son to stop criticizing his Dad (me) [closed]

Here are three sentences describing what it is that I'm looking for help with: I'm looking for a way to get across to my adult son that I can no longer tolerate his abusive behavior (criticism/...
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How to handle the aftermath of a parent leaking information I want to keep private to family?

My parents have a 'bad' habit of disclosing information about any unfinished business of mine, or about other things I like to keep private for reasons, to people ranging from family to vague ...
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Explaining to a parent that they shouldn't yell ambiguous commands because you have misophonia?

Suppose there is a bottle of dried basil and a bottle of curcuma on the shelf, and your mother tells you to pass her the basil but points at the curcuma. You would be puzzled at whether to interpret ...
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Mom accuses dad of cheating

Recently, my mom, for whatever reason, has started accusing my dad of cheating or messaging this other woman. Initially, I tried to stay out of it but I couldn’t when I heard the “evidence” my mom ...
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How can I convey to my technologically inept parents that my IT job is mentally draining

To preface my question, I am an Irish 21 year old male currently on a college work placement. I work Monday through Friday from 7:30 AM - 5:00 PM as an RPA developer and Business Analyst. I commute ...
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Mediating Between a Parent with High Expectations and a Defensive Sibling

I have a father with high expectations who, I believe, genuinely wants my brother and me to succeed in life. He's a traditional man, and a bit conservative (firmly believing in the "Good ol' days . ....
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How can I refuse a dinner with my relatives? [closed]

I have never been close to one of my relatives. The only living thing I like is my dog. We are having dinner tomorrow with a bunch of relatives and friends. My dad will pick me up at 7 pm but I don'...
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Helping my mom accept that I can't be available as much as she wants

My mom moved to the same city as my wife and I about 5 years ago. It's always been a bit rocky, but there is probably one theme that comes up the most regularly. To put it simply, her expectations ...
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How to explain to mother that less support is better?

Life happens, and my SO broke up with me. I understand her point of view, I have my own, and I am kinda ok with what happened, although it is a bit hard on the feelings, but you just need to give it ...
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What to say to steer passive-aggressive narcissist parent(s) away from saying guilt-tripping statements to me or other people?

My relationship with my dad has been rocky the past 9+ years. After divorcing my mom when I was 16, (I am 25 now) his passive-aggressive narcissist behavior has become more prevalent. For example, he ...
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How do I inform my overprotective mother that my girlfriend isn't a distraction?

... And that she really isn't how my mother sees her? I have a girlfriend whom I love very much, we've been going out for quite some time but we kept our relationship a secret from my parents. My ...
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Re-Marriage of my father to his ex-Wife A-K-A my step mom [closed]

My father got married to my stepmother three years ago when I was in college. From the start, she mistreated me and my brother in every possible way, like sabotaging our possessions, breaking into ...
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How (not?) to talk with moms

One type of folks I am really, really annoyed with are the mothers talking about their first kids in their first years after birth. They virtually cannot talk about anything except their children. ...
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How can I disprove a statement that self-validates when I try to disprove it? [closed]

Context: I'm bad at math. My dad makes me do extra math practice every day to catch up (he says that I'm "so far behind"). Problem: I'm honestly putting in my best effort. However, my dad doesn't ...
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Talking to the parents of an adult autistic student

I have an adult, autistic student who I have tutored weekly in programming since about November. His parents would like this tutoring to result in him being able to work as an entry-level programmer, ...
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Parents fighting a lot recently, and aren't 'dealing' with the problem causing it to blow up next time - How do I get them to work it out?

My parents are the two best people I know. They both love each other, and wouldn't dream about even considering getting a divorce. But sometimes they lose sight of that. Recently, they've been getting ...
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how do I get back in touch with my estranged mother?

I'm aware of this question but I think my situation is different. I cut off contact with my parents 5 years ago after a physical confrontation with my father that continues to scare me. I ignored all ...
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How to “break up” with my toxic parents/family?

this is quite a long text but I think it is necessary to get an insight of where my motivation is coming from and why I want to "break up" with my parents. The Fight I A couple of months ago there ...
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How to stop dad giving me health issues from undercooking food

I am Chinese living in Bangkok Thailand since I was born. My parents are from country side Chinese in Thailand. They met each other in Bangkok and started living here. My dad is 67 years old. Retired ...