Questions tagged [parents]

Questions involving someone's mother or father, either biological or legal, and interactions between them or also interactions between yourself and one of them. Can also be used for interactions with someone else's parents.

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How can I convey to my technologically inept parents that my IT job is mentally draining

To preface my question, I am an Irish 21 year old male currently on a college work placement. I work Monday through Friday from 7:30 AM - 5:00 PM as an RPA developer and Business Analyst. I commute ...
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How can I handle my father challenging everything I say?

I live with my parents. My father likes to challenge nearly everything I say, up to the point of ridiculousness. I can prove many of the things he challenges but not immediately. In most cases his ...
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How to politely refuse telling your parents where you work?

While I don’t have a bad relationship with my parent who tries to find out, you could say that our relation is rather cold. I haven’t lived with my parents for about six years. Since I’ve already had ...
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Responding to my mom's remarks about my love life when she refuses to accept/acknowledge it

Background I'm the only child in a religious, conservative family. We do not see eye to eye on many current events, as they often only watch a single (biased) news source, and stand their ground on ...
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How can I tell my mom to not cause herself so much stress when I'm visiting?

Situation I visit my parents about one time per month, for one to two days. Sometimes I manage to visit them twice, in rare cases I have to skip a month. So we see each other in person regularly (and,...
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How to inform my parents that I didn't like their less than desireable response to my good news?

Some background: I've been trying to get into a particular overseas university for about 2 years now (applied twice before, both rejected), but I found out that I got accepted this time after a lot ...
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Can I correct other people's children in front of them?

I am a childless female 20-something who occasionally comes in to contact with other people's children. This happens anywhere really, at work, stores, museums, movie theatres, just around the ...
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How do I convince my parents that I'm doing my best in class?

I'm in middle school, and by my school's standards, I get fairly high marks (90%, maybe a bit above or below). However, my parents believe that I'm not doing my best. I'm also undergoing exams, and ...
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How can I invite my daughter's friends over without being odd?

My daughter is turning 4 years old in August. She has been going to preschool since September. Her class is pretty small, with only 6 kids. She's good friends with most of them. She'll be joining them ...
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How can I deny a request from the mother of my girlfriend to tag along on our road trip?

Background My girlfriend and I are going on a holiday in her native country, about 800km from our current city. We planned this holiday months ago and we planned to stay for 2 weeks. Problem Today ...
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How to say “I'm an adult now” to my parents?

I have an issue with my parents meddling in my personal choices. Let's say they are neutral habits, which means you can't say it's good or bad, like shaking my feet when I'm idle - note that this does ...
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How can I ask my parents to stop calling me when I'm out or ask me where I'm going?

I'm 24 years old, have my own career, my own car but I live with my parents and my 2 younger brothers. I live my life quite independently. One of the problems I constantly face from my parents is ...
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Telling my mother that I have anorexia without panicking her

I have a lot of (mental) health issues and I know my mother is often worried about me. One of the things that worry her is how poorly I eat (I told her that I basically eat the same thing at every ...
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How best to tell a parent I wish to stop tutoring her son?

I am a private tutor, and I'm tutoring students individually in mathematics & statistics at their place of residence. From time to time, I feel tempted to drop students for various reasons, ...
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How to ask parents to respect my privacy

So, just yesterday iOS 12 came out for Apple devices. All of my family (including me) use Apple devices faithfully. My dad has used a Mac since they were first commercially available for the public. ...
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How do I tell other parents that their child is a bully?

Our son is 6 years old. One of the other kids in his class is a bully. This other boy (we'll call him Walter) likes to sneak up on my son, and physically hurt him. Sometimes Walter will punch him in ...
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How to stop dad from telling the same jokes again and again?

Context: I am 23, studying in Switzerland. I have a really good relationship with my father. Often when I visit my dad(55) we go for a walk or just have a tea. We talk about all kinds of things and ...
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Talking to the parents of an adult autistic student

I have an adult, autistic student who I have tutored weekly in programming since about November. His parents would like this tutoring to result in him being able to work as an entry-level programmer, ...
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How do I respond to praise for trivial things?

I bet it's something many people encounter. In my case, my mother does it a lot. When I moved out and into another city, I got sick and needed a doctor. When I told my mom, she said "Ooh! I'm so ...
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How to convince the other party that I'm not going to do “the right thing” as the alternative matters more to me

I went on a vacation to a coffee plantation recently. After enjoying my stay there, on the last day, some of the kids of the coffee plantation workers played football (soccer) with my dad and my ...
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How to help my mother work through extreme anxieties?

My mom has had anxiety issues for as long as I can remember. It used to be sort of quirky and not disruptive of our lives, including (but not limited to): Touring each room of the house to make sure ...
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How do I encourage my family to talk more and watch tv less when I'm visiting?

My husband and I are visiting my family for Christmas. I moved out and have lived separately from them for 10 years or so. We're staying with my parents. The TV in their home is on all the time. We ...
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Help my mother to understand my choice when it comes to having children [duplicate]

While my mother is usually extremely understanding of my choices in life, there is one choice on which she cannot agree, and it is my decision not to have children. Each time the subject comes to the ...
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How to deal with highly superstitious and religious parents?

Here's my situation : I'm 16, I live with my parents. My parents are somewhat religious. That's completely fine with me, despite the fact that I am an agnostic atheist. My mother however, is ...
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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?

TL;DR When my mom bakes a cake for us (whoever is at home but it's usually me, my little sister, my father and her), she uses eggs (which are not vegan), even if I will be there. How can I tell her ...
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How do I help my girlfriend get out of this dangerous situation with her parents? [closed]

Hello Interpersonal Stack Exchange, About two weeks ago I posted the question "How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?". I recommend reading that one first as it ...
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How to manage healthy relationship with traditional parents who do not like your partner?

I am from India, living in Germany for a long time now. I have liberal views, and most of my ideas align with the political left, here, in Europe. My parents, though, are from a traditional Indian ...
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How can I communicate to my mother that her complaints about me make me feel like I'm not enough?

(and never will be) I'm on the autism spectrum and often feel overwhelmingly fatigued and tired. My mother, on the other hand, has a lot of energy and is always doing a million things. From time to ...
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How do I get my mother to use the bathroom?

Background My living situation is as follows: I live in a two-story house with my mother and no one else. Our Bedrooms are upstairs, together with a small bathroom without a toilet. The toilet is ...
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How can I help a close person that is toxic seek professional help?

The person I'm talking about is my own mother. She has depression and she's seeing a doctor. It is a little rough talking about your own kind like this, but as rough as it is, it's the truth. My ...
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How do I reveal to my father that his father is not his biological father?

I've been using DNA testing to supplement my genealogical research and have made the rather startling discovery that the man whom I knew as my paternal grandfather was not in fact my father's ...
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How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?

Some Background My girlfriend's family moved to the US about 2 years ago to escape their home country (which is going through political and economic turmoil) to start over. Her mom sells insurance, ...
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How do I tell my parents I don't enjoy their company?

I moved to a new country (Canada) for university about a year ago. I am doing well in my studies. I'm not so well mentally but that's always been an issue even back home. My parents often come to ...
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Parents forgiven someone who insulted them - can I be angry at them? [closed]

My parents have a long history of forgetting things pretty quickly and forgiving people. It's a very good-in fact great—habit, but I at times disagree with them as "A Believer should not get stung ...
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How do I tell my parents I won't be able to help them?

My parents' health is deteriorating fast and it won't be long before they cannot look after themselves. We have no relatives or friends who could help them. I live clear across the country but the ...
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How to warn father about catfishing scams?

Due to my father's browser sloppiness, and in spite of my efforts to NOT see what he's doing, I know he is on dating sites talking to women. I was fixing something for him when a chat window popped up,...
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Establishing expectations with my parents about visiting after I give birth

I'm 8 months pregnant. I'm also an introvert who really doesn't cope well with change and stress. My mom is very outgoing and I need to talk to her about expectations when she visits me at the ...
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How do I ask my Dad to finance my computer?

Firstly I'm not sure is this the right place to ask so please tell me if not. I'm a 16 year old male and I need some help with talking about money and borrowing with my parents. The Context: ...
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How can I get my mom to accept me being introverted?

I'm 21 years-old and still live at my parents' house. Like my dad, I'm pretty introverted. And we mainly like to do our own thing throughout the day. For me, that's playing video games, writing code, ...
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How to ask my mother to stop giving me unsolicited (health related) advices?

I have a lot of mental health issues and my mother tends to think that fixing my life is her duty. As such, she will often give me unsolicited health advice so that I could get "better". She would ...
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How to bond with my parents when I'm not especially open

I'm in my mid twenties, recently graduated (2 years ago), single, living alone, and working professionally. I am not a very open person. I keep my personal life, professional life, family life, and ...
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How to tell a stranger that the way I wish to educate my child is none of his/her business?

Consider the following scenario: I'm taking my kid (5 years old) to a coffeeshop and we do some 'math problems'. By math problems I mean that I explain him about the numbers, addition, counting and so ...
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How do I tell my mother that I am no longer interested in an activity?

The situation is that I spent about 12 years doing activity X. For a while, I really enjoyed it but about 4 years ago that stopped. I no longer got enjoyment from the activity itself, it took a ...
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How to explain to mother that less support is better?

Life happens, and my SO broke up with me. I understand her point of view, I have my own, and I am kinda ok with what happened, although it is a bit hard on the feelings, but you just need to give it ...
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How to tell my mother not to visit?

I left my mother's home to live on my own 8,5 years ago. Since then, no one in my family has visited me once. Some years ago, my mother even dismissed my idea to visit me when I suggested to do so, I ...
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How can I appropriately react to a death announcement?

My grandfather had become ill last month and it became clear he probably wouldn't recover. One day, my mother came to me and told me that he had died in peace and that there would be a funeral next ...
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How assert my wish of not being photographed to my mom?

When visiting my mom, there will be some moment when she wants to take pictures of me, even if I don't want her to. If I tell her directly, she will just put some excuse and ignore my boundaries. If I ...
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How to make my mum stop making disparaging comments about my appearance?

My mum has always wanted me to have short hair - a short bob or a pixie cut. When I was little, I had little choice in the matter. The teachers at school addressed me as a male, classmates didn't want ...
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How to ask parents to stop commenting about my weight?

I'm an Asian college girl. My university is abroad, so I only come home during long break e.g. summer. Every time I am home, my parents would be very critical about my weight literally every day. ...
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Trying to limit toxic relationship with family but keep getting dragged back in

This question focuses on my relationship with my mom. Most people who know her find her difficult to be around. She invites me to her place but there’s a 75% chance we get in a fight the first 15 ...