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How to ask a man to not take up more than one seat on public transport while avoiding conflict?

I live in a big city (in Paris, France) and take public transportation every day. I'm perceived as a woman and I will sometimes have to sit near people who spread out and take up more space than just ...
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How to interact with a person asking for change without giving them false hope?

I live in a big city with a lot of homeless people. When I'm on the subway, I will often see them going around asking for money, food or "just a smile." I know these people--like anyone--...
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Complimenting a complete stranger on public transportation

The other day, I was in the subway when I saw a bag with a very funny joke on it. The joke made me smile, so I wanted to compliment the person wearing it (my thought was that they brightened my day ...
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public transport: how to know (non-verbally) if someone needs a seat?

I'm someone who gets easily physically tired. This means that, on public transportation, I will almost always look for a seat. Some days, there are no seats available but I'm so tired that I will ...
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Requesting someone to give up their seat to me on public transport if I have an invisible disability?

I have an invisible disability. I do not really want to disclose what it is, but I have trouble standing up on public transport for longer than a few minutes. I would like to sit down. Now, the bus/...
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How do I deal with people being overly forward on the bus?

I take the bus a lot. (I don't own a car, it's not feasible for me to do so). Mostly, I sit in my seat and I read or I check my phone, people tend to leave me to do my thing. However, in the past ...
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How do I tactfully ask a flight attendant what's going on if I know my plane has a problem?

I think it's worth explaining that I fall on the autism spectrum, so certain answers that may seem extremely obvious to others are not at all obvious to me. So I was on a flight recently (let's say, ...
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How can I offer priority seat to a plus sized lady that I assume is pregnant?

Firstly, please do correct me if it is not right/respectful to use the phrase ‘plus-sized’ as I am unsure of how it would be taken as, in other countries/cultures. Sometimes I face the situation and ...
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How to Handle Openly Hostile Strangers On the Subway? [duplicate]

Three times on my commute around town on the subway, I've encountered people who are openly hostile for whatever reason, potentially drugs or alcohol or maybe just naturally violent. In two cases the ...
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How do I approach the issue of someone reading what's on my phone when I'm on public transportation with them?

This is a problem which I face when I travel using public transportation. I have a habit of checking my messages, call data or Stack Exchange stuff that I missed and other social media stuff while I'...
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How to approach incredibly rude persons on a train

Last weekend, I took the last train home. It was small (only one wagon), some people were drunk, which was okay, as they kept to themselves. I started listening to an audiobook and drifted off to ...
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How to acquire information from a confrontational stranger

I recently encountered a situation where I felt it was important to ask a stranger what they were doing/if everything was alright or prompt them to explain themselves, however, after they acted ...
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I want to sit down on the bus but someone's bag is in the way, how can I ensure this isn't the case when I lower my posterior onto the seat?

Background I travel on the bus a lot. Twice a day, 5 days a week, 52 weeks a year (minus a few weeks holidays) and I love it. It's a great time to unwind, to people watch, to lose yourself in thought ...
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How do I tactfully avoid interacting with a person I meet on the way to work every day, at a subway station?

This is not a question about how to say no to street vendors. I specifically want to know how I can avoid interacting with a particular person who just happens to be a street vendor. He could be any ...
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How to react to someone pushing me in public transport? [closed]

Backround Today I was on my way to work on a bus that was really packed. A woman boarded at some point pushing the people already on board and near the entrance (including me) really hard. My ...
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How to politely tell someone "No Smoking here"?

I am pretty allergic to smoking and often come across people in public, public transport and in gatherings, etc. who carelessly smoke without caring about their environment. This issue gets more ...
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Is it rude to offer my seat up on public transit to someone who is much older than me but not yet a senior? [closed]

I am in my mid-twenties and I frequently use public transit in my city. Sometimes I notice someone get on the bus who appears to be much older than me but still seems young enough to have no problem ...
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How to ignore someone who is stalking you?

I commute by train and lately, this woman is stalking me. Today she sat next to me and while I was reading a book she asked me which book was it, then she asked if I was married. To which I said yes ...
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What is the best way to put off a talkative fellow traveller?

Many of us have met them, those people in adjoining seats on a train or plane journey that just "have" to make small talk. It may be because they are afraid of flying, etc. Or it may be that since ...
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How to get a blind person's attention in a crowded public place?

A while back, I was sitting in a crowded train. Across from me was a blind individual with a guide dog. I noticed the guide dog was trying to eat a chocolate covered waffle and wanted to warn the ...
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How to deal with a dangerous, developmentally disabled person I can not avoid?

On my way to work, I cannot help but encountering a developmentally disabled person who harasses me and other women. How can I deal with him? Background I have been taking the same train to work ...
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When is it appropriate to look into people's eyes while walking on street? [closed]

Is it normal or recommended to look into stranger's eyes when walking on a street, especially when it involves the opposite sex? If so how long and how many times you look towards that person ...
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How can I ask reading people in public transport for the title of their book? [closed]

I travel with public transportation quite a bit, and I read a lot while commuting too. While I don't mind being asked what book I'm reading, other people might. I'm always on the lookout for new ...
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How to ask a large group of people to stop playing loud music on a train

Sometimes when my friends/colleagues (2-3 people) and I travel by train there is another group of people who play songs on their mobile phones without using headphones and on full volume. Many of us (...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

In the United Kingdom, when is it appropriate to offer your seat to someone on a train or bus? Okay, if someone is in distress by standing through disability or otherwise it seems clear enough. ...
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How to handle someone who puts their head on my shoulder in sleep while travelling

It happened to me many times. While travelling in Bus or Train, the person seated near by me may fall into sleep and slowly put his head on my shoulder. It is really unacceptable because I don't want ...
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How can I politely reject someone asking for WhatsApp number?

While travelling, sometimes I talk with people seated near me. The conversation is either started by them or by me. At the end, some people ask for WhatsApp number or mobile number or facebook id. ...
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How to get involved in a conversation happening on the seats across from you on a coach

Often on a trip, there will be an odd number of people from my school getting involved. As a result, one person will be left isolated on their own pair of chairs (chairs on coaches are pairs of 2 ...
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How to nicely reject someone who is hitting on you in the United States?

The other day I was on the bus and this girl awkwardly walked up to me and started talking to me. She then gave me her number. I wasn't really interested in interacting more with her, so I pretended ...
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What to talk about with a person you meet through a mutual friend on the bus? [closed]

It often happens to me, that I met some friend in the bus/tram/subway etc., but my friend is not alone, but with his/her friend (whom I don't know at all). We are talking about something, my friend ...
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