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How can I encourage cleaner habits to my partner?

Background I've been seeing my partner for a few years now. We are both young adults, have busy but stable jobs, and have our own living spaces. We have a very loving and supportive relationship. My ...
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How to handle being lied to? [on hold]

I read somewhere that the worst curse of being intelligent is that one can expose a lot of lies people tell you, which is bad if you want a nice social life. How do you cope with being able to see ...
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How to honestly answer questions from a girlfriend like “How did you find this place” without giving the impression I'm always talking about my exes?

I'm in my mid-twenties and I've always had more female friends than male friends. I was in 2 serious relationships (one 1,5 year long and the other one 3 years) and 4 or 5 small ones, but they can't ...
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How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity

I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. She is very intelligent and has a warm, caring personality. However, one thing I noticed is that she is somewhat reluctant to have her own opinions on a lot ...
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How to ask a girl out when my chances of doing it face to face are thin? [closed]

This girl is from the same University as me, and we've been talking for a while and had some really nice conversations, having both of us truly engaged, and I kinda started to like her. So I decided ...
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How to tell a girl with anxiety and OCD I'd like to date her without triggering her?

Background: I'm a college student currently at home on summer vacation. A few weeks before I left school, I was approached by a girl who knew me through a mutual friend. She suggested we hang out and ...
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How do I comfort someone I love after their dad died? [closed]

The dad of the girl that I love died some days ago. And I just want to make her feel better but I don't know the words, if I need to let her vent. I'm so cold talking with people about love because it'...
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How do I talk to my wife about unrealistic expectations?

I have been married less than a year and we are both quite young, which is partly why I'm posting on here for advice. My wife has recently been 'complaining' that she finds it difficult that she can'...
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How to tell my ex I'd like to get back together without hurting her feelings?

I broke up with my girlfriend 2-3 months ago, before that we've been together for almost two years. Before breaking up, the relationship was the best I ever had. We loved each other, loved each ...
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How to communicate to my spouse I can't stand unexpected touch without hurting their feelings?

TL;DR I've recently learned about my autism and still need to understand what it means. I have struggle being touched when I don't expect it and it hurts my spouse when I already tried to explain to ...
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How do I tell my girlfriend she's been buying me books by the wrong author for the last nine months?

Help! For the last nine months my girlfriend has been buying me books by the wrong author, fully believing that she's treating me to work by my favourite writer (who incidentally she believes is a ...
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How can I bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend?

This already seems like selfish post, but I'm wondering how I could bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend. For back story, we live together and I pay for most stuff. She shares some ...
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Becoming a better mentor [closed]

I'm looking for advice on mentoring others (or perhaps communication in general). I'm a newly promoted Senior engineer in my company and I'm managing a new hire for my company. It's been 2 months, ...
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How to reply to small talk/random facts in a non-offensive way?

I've discovered that when I have a conversation with someone, I sometimes answer in a somehow offensive way. For example: Person: I just read that actor is born in town X. Me: So what? You're ...
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How can I convince my girlfriend that relationship and her doctorate is possible?

Background I have been dating a Japanese woman in Japan for two months now. Until now we've regularly met each other on weekends and were talking during the week, mostly with instant messaging. I ...
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How do I talk with my girlfriend about her jealousy?

So I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year now and I've come to a point where I need to think about how jealous she is and if it's a natural amount of jealousy. So, for ...
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How to tell my ex not to expect sex

I'm a 25 year old man living in France. Last year I dated a 30 year old woman in the US, and kept things really casual (I knew she wanted to be more than dating but it was not reciprocal). Now she is ...
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How do I set a meeting with someone who keeps rescheduling?

I met this girl at my university. We started talking and it went on for about an hour. The conversation was really good. Later, I added her on Facebook, she said "We should get a coffee sometime" (in ...
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How can I deal with uncomfortable silence from my partner?

First of all, I want to say that I'm talking about when my girlfriend is silent, it's not 'silent treatment'. I don't feel like she has cruel intentions, or is intentionally trying to hurt me in any ...
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How to communicate to my wife the same thing which I already repeated her 100 times? [closed]

To give the cultural context, I am from South India and married for 15+ years. Ever since the beginning of our marriage, I keep saying the following items repeatedly to her ( let's call her Mohini). ...
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How can I communicate to my wife my concerns about her spending habits? [duplicate]

Some context to begin with: My wife and I have been married for two years now. I earn around 2500€ after taxes, and she used to earn around 1500€ after taxes. We both share one bank account, by the ...
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How do I safely ask my girlfriend about her past depression?

We became a pair of BF and GF recently, at which point we had already been university schoolmates for 2 years. At the very first few days of acquaintance, during a casual talk about our experiences ...
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How can I talk with my friend/co-worker about that fact that learning about his relationship upset me?

Background I am a male in my mid 20s. For about 10 years now I have been struggling with life and severe depression. I never had any friends, my family hates me and treats me pretty bad, my social ...
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How to motivate my lazy partner towards self improvement?

Background: I am 23, partner is 21. Been together for 4 years. We just moved in together a month ago while I am working abroad for a few months, to have a "trial" period of whether we're good ...
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Asking my sister to show less display of affection to her SO in public

Background I've always had a pretty great relationship with my sister. I would say that, growing up, we've been best friends, a lot of our close friends are mutual friends, we've been on holiday ...
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How do I talk to my partner who is still grieving her ex who committed suicide?

I am looking for some advice on a situation with a fairly new partner of mine. To set the scene: ~10 years ago she was dating someone, first love etc. I think he moved away so it ended. 2 years ago ...
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How do I inform my overprotective mother that my girlfriend isn't a distraction?

... And that she really isn't how my mother sees her? I have a girlfriend whom I love very much, we've been going out for quite some time but we kept our relationship a secret from my parents. My ...
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How can I ask my girlfriend to accept my choice of charity to support?

I support a charity based in my country that helps people escape a specific oppressive government and relocate to other countries as refugees. If I'm being completely honest, I don't really know why I ...
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how do I tell my friend how I feel in person without feeling embarrassed about it? [closed]

Context So I've been talking to this guy for nearly two years now and we both know we really like each other. When we first started talking, he told me that he liked me but I wasn't able to commit to ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to seek professional help

Background My now ex-girlfriend and I have dated for nearly three years (both nearly in our 30s). Up until some months ago, our relationship was the perfect one everybody is looking for. In short, we ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to delete nude pictures of us that she took?

An ex-girlfriend whom I used to date around two years ago is in town. We had broken up amicably and have kept in touch somewhat. We are planning to meet this week to catch up. Back when we were ...
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How to invite a significant other to spend the night without implying sex?

Some context: I started dating my boyfriend a few weeks ago. All has gone well so far but we're both new to this so we're taking it slow. The other day, we were with some of our friends playing a ...
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How can I break up with my girlfriend in the kindest way? [duplicate]

I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and she moved in with me about 2 months ago. Outwardly to my friends and family she is very sweet and kind, but they only know the person she appears to be. ...
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Communicating to my partner that I don't want to stop smoking

I (man, 30) have been smoking daily since 2012 (2 to 4 cigarettes/day). I do it only when there is no one I know around. I started dating a non-smoker (woman, 5 years younger than me) 6 years ago. We ...
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How can I help someone become more assertive?

My fiancee is what I would call "too nice". She's always trying to please everyone, which often leads to her taking a "grin and bear it" attitude when others expect too much of her. It doesn't matter ...
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How can I ask this girl out when she's giving me mixed signals (and other various obstacles)? [closed]

I'm going to try to make this short, but there's quite a bit of stuff to explain. Background information: Me: Male, 17, Junior Her: Female, 17 (assumed), Junior Situation: So, this girl moved ...
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How to open up a conversation with an SO about a possibly inappropriate action?

My husband and I are both white. My husband recently asked a black woman if he could touch her hair. She said yes, and he was delighted. This woman works at a gas station we frequent, so we have seen ...
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How can I lay out my reasons to my girlfriend for why we shouldn't get married?

My girlfriend isn't a citizen of the US and I am. We've also have only been dating for 4 months. So when we first started dating she said that if I wasn't ready for commitment in the range of 1-3 ...
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How to attract someone who doesn't love you anymore? [closed]

Everything was going wonders, we were together for 3 years and one day she was acting strange, she was not sending me cute and kinky texts anymore and she removed all my pictures from her instagram, ...
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How to confront roommate with an issue in sharing?

I live in a 2bed 2ba with my roommate. I cook more often than my roommate - once every day vs once a week. My roommate keeps eating my food (although not much) but never reciprocates. When he does ...
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Talking to your girlfriend about her personal messages you read by chance?

While using my girlfriend's laptop I happened to see a message notification from a guy she met on holiday just before we started dating. I was working and she was sitting in front of me using her ...
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How do I tell my gf to stop guilting me that I don't love her enough?

My gf and I have been together for several months and recently moved in with each other. To clarify, she moved into my apartment. I have a high paying job, in fact I make quite a bit more than her, ...
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How to tell long distance girlfriend we both did wrong without her closing up again

I've been with my long-distance girlfriend for 8 months now, we are both in our mid-20s. Last weekend we had a disagreement in an online game session: Once she went online I asked her to play a ...
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What can I do to improve my current marriage situation? [closed]

Since our son was born (almost a year ago) my wife isn't the same anymore - she is often angry at me and keeps blaming me for all kind of stuff. This has to stop - I can't take it any more. During ...
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How can I show someone that I am a good listener?

Scenario: I am a male and I have this female friend, who I consider to be one of my closest. She has opened up to me very slightly over the past year, telling me some deep things that have happened. ...
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How to invite a girl to talk and hang out without her inviting a friend?

I like her, she works in the office with me, and we've known each other for a month. I had already been hanging out with her and some friends. We have confidence, but I have not exposed my romantic ...
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Supporting depressed ex [closed]

Me and my ex had a long term relationship for 2 1/2 years. We were very close, and after we recently broke up we are still good friends. She has been diagnosed with severe depression, and was even ...
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Being told to get into a relationship despite state of mental health, how to ask why?

In spite of my current mental health, friends, family, and health care professionals* often tell me to consider getting into a relationship without telling me why I should get into one. As a ...
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How to talk to people at a singles mixer when you are an introvert? [closed]

I am going to a singles mixer in a few days. I'm an introvert and find it hard to make small talk with people I don't know. How do I make the most of a singles mixer (that is, meet people and have ...
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Worried about girlfriend lifestyle changes

My girlfriend has been experimenting with different lifestyle changes lately, which I think is not only amazing, but an important element in growth. I would like to support her through all these ...