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Questions tagged [relationships]

For questions about relationships involving a significant other or sexual partner. Not to be used for generic relationships.

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How do I safely ask my girlfriend about her past depression?

We became a pair of BF and GF recently, at which point we had already been university schoolmates for 2 years. At the very first few days of acquaintance, during a casual talk about our experiences ...
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How can I talk with my friend/co-worker about that fact that learning about his relationship upset me?

Background I am a male in my mid 20s. For about 10 years now I have been struggling with life and severe depression. I never had any friends, my family hates me and treats me pretty bad, my social ...
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How to motivate my lazy partner towards self improvement?

Background: I am 23, partner is 21. Been together for 4 years. We just moved in together a month ago while I am working abroad for a few months, to have a "trial" period of whether we're good ...
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Asking my sister to show less display of affection to her SO in public?

Background I've always had a pretty great relationship with my sister. I would say that growing up we've been best friends. A lot of our close friends are mutual friends. We've been on holiday ...
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How do I talk to my partner who is still grieving her ex who committed suicide?

I am looking for some advice on a situation with a fairly new partner of mine. To set the scene: ~10 years ago she was dating someone, first love etc. I think he moved away so it ended. 2 years ago ...
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How do I inform my overprotective mother that my girlfriend isn't a distraction?

... And that she really isn't how my mother sees her? I have a girlfriend whom I love very much, we've been going out for quite some time but we kept our relationship a secret from my parents. My ...
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How can I ask my girlfriend to accept my choice of charity to support?

I support a charity based in my country that helps people escape a specific oppressive government and relocate to other countries as refugees. If I'm being completely honest, I don't really know why I ...
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how do I tell my friend how I feel in person without feeling embarrassed about it? [closed]

Context So I've been talking to this guy for nearly two years now and we both know we really like each other. When we first started talking, he told me that he liked me but I wasn't able to commit to ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to seek professional help

Background My now ex-girlfriend and I have dated for nearly three years (both nearly in our 30s). Up until some months ago, our relationship was the perfect one everybody is looking for. In short, we ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to delete nude pictures of us that she took?

An ex-girlfriend whom I used to date around two years ago is in town. We had broken up amicably and have kept in touch somewhat. We are planning to meet this week to catch up. Back when we were ...
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How to invite a significant other to spend the night without implying sex?

Some context: I started dating my boyfriend a few weeks ago. All has gone well so far but we're both new to this so we're taking it slow. The other day, we were with some of our friends playing a ...
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How can I break up with my girlfriend in the kindest way? [duplicate]

I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and she moved in with me about 2 months ago. Outwardly to my friends and family she is very sweet and kind, but they only know the person she appears to be. ...
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Communicating to my partner that I don't want to stop smoking

I (man, 30) have been smoking daily since 2012 (2 to 4 cigarettes/day). I do it only when there is no one I know around. I started dating a non-smoker (woman, 5 years younger than me) 6 years ago. We ...
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How can I help someone become more assertive?

My fiancee is what I would call "too nice". She's always trying to please everyone, which often leads to her taking a "grin and bear it" attitude when others expect too much of her. It doesn't matter ...
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How can I ask this girl out when she's giving me mixed signals (and other various obstacles)? [closed]

I'm going to try to make this short, but there's quite a bit of stuff to explain. Background information: Me: Male, 17, Junior Her: Female, 17 (assumed), Junior Situation: So, this girl moved ...
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How to open up a conversation with an SO about a possibly inappropriate action?

My husband and I are both white. My husband recently asked a black woman if he could touch her hair. She said yes, and he was delighted. This woman works at a gas station we frequent, so we have seen ...
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How can I lay out my reasons to my girlfriend for why we shouldn't get married?

My girlfriend isn't a citizen of the US and I am. We've also have only been dating for 4 months. So when we first started dating she said that if I wasn't ready for commitment in the range of 1-3 ...
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How to attract someone who doesn't love you anymore? [closed]

Everything was going wonders, we were together for 3 years and one day she was acting strange, she was not sending me cute and kinky texts anymore and she removed all my pictures from her instagram, ...
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How to confront roommate with an issue in sharing?

I live in a 2bed 2ba with my roommate. I cook more often than my roommate - once every day vs once a week. My roommate keeps eating my food (although not much) but never reciprocates. When he does ...
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Talking to your girlfriend about her personal messages you read by chance?

While using my girlfriend's laptop I happened to see a message notification from a guy she met on holiday just before we started dating. I was working and she was sitting in front of me using her ...
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How do I tell my gf to stop guilting me that I don't love her enough?

My gf and I have been together for several months and recently moved in with each other. To clarify, she moved into my apartment. I have a high paying job, in fact I make quite a bit more than her, ...
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How to tell long distance girlfriend we both did wrong without her closing up again

I've been with my long-distance girlfriend for 8 months now, we are both in our mid-20s. Last weekend we had a disagreement in an online game session: Once she went online I asked her to play a ...
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What can I do to improve my current marriage situation? [closed]

Since our son was born (almost a year ago) my wife isn't the same anymore - she is often angry at me and keeps blaming me for all kind of stuff. This has to stop - I can't take it any more. During ...
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How can I show someone that I am a good listener?

Scenario: I am a male and I have this female friend, who I consider to be one of my closest. She has opened up to me very slightly over the past year, telling me some deep things that have happened. ...
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How to invite a girl to talk and hang out without her inviting a friend?

I like her, she works in the office with me, and we've known each other for a month. I had already been hanging out with her and some friends. We have confidence, but I have not exposed my romantic ...
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Supporting depressed ex [closed]

Me and my ex had a long term relationship for 2 1/2 years. We were very close, and after we recently broke up we are still good friends. She has been diagnosed with severe depression, and was even ...
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Being told to get into a relationship despite state of mental health, how to ask why?

In spite of my current mental health, friends, family, and health care professionals* often tell me to consider getting into a relationship without telling me why I should get into one. As a ...
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How to talk to people at a singles mixer when you are an introvert? [closed]

I am going to a singles mixer in a few days. I'm an introvert and find it hard to make small talk with people I don't know. How do I make the most of a singles mixer (that is, meet people and have ...
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Worried about girlfriend lifestyle changes

My girlfriend has been experimenting with different lifestyle changes lately, which I think is not only amazing, but an important element in growth. I would like to support her through all these ...
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I want to bring up birth control to my girlfriend without causing a fight

We've been together for a few months and only use condoms for protection. Recently there have been a few isolated signs of her being pregnant. I think I'm most likely just paranoid and that the ...
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How to discuss future with disengaged and possibly depressed partner?

This is my first question on the Interpersonal Skills StackExchange. I have browsed through a number of earlier questions regarding identifying and approaching depression but I have not quite found ...
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How do I tell a colleague that I won’t have an intimate relationship with her?

How do I tell a colleague that I won’t have an intimate relationship with her without hurting our work relation? Background We have been working together for a few years; she was single and I was not....
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How do I tell a friend that's trying to start another long distance relationship that it isn't a very good idea without hurting our friendship?

Context My friend (f) is trying to start another long distance relationship with a second person in our extended group of friends (I am neither of these people). The first relationship (w/ Person 1) ...
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How do I talk to my girlfriend about pitching in financially when we go out? [closed]

We have been together for 6 months. We are far away. We meet on the weekends. I have been to paying, but now I think it's time to share. We also talk about living together. How can I discuss this ...
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How to tactfully request girlfriend's family to give us more space?

I have been dating my girlfriend for about 1 year now. I love her for her caring nature, intelligence, and sense of humor. However, since I met her parents about some months ago, they have much more ...
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Asking my friend out even though I have a girlfriend

I am a 20 years old male from Canada. I have been with my girlfriend (also 20 years old) for about three months. When we started being in a relationship, we agreed that it was an exclusive one ...
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My girlfriend keeps me out of her Facebook profile - how to understand why?

We have been together for 6 months. I met her family and she met mine. After about one month of dating she showed me some pictures on Facebook. After a while I thought I could add her on fb, and I did....
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How do I apologize to my girlfriend after she said her heart is broken?

My girlfriend and I are in our 25's. We live in the same city in Indonesia. Recently, our relationship hit a problem. Last night, we were chatting about our goals. I would really like her to be my ...
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What would be the correct reaction in such situation? [closed]

First need to tell that I am an Arab muslim and I live and have a fiance in a European country. We've been dating for about 3 months. We have a really good romantic relationship, no conflicts have ...
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How can I reach out to a new guy I might have offended?

I met this guy last summer, we'll call him Chris. My friend was dating his roommate. All of us hung out in a group that night and I ended up sleeping at his and his roommates place just on the couch....
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Opening up a conversation channel with my fiancee

I've been engaged for 7 months with my girlfriend. We've been in a relationship for 3.5 years, we never got in a fight or went through a breakup, we had great compliance, I spoiled her with gifts, ...
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How to improve communication with my mother in law?

I've been dating my partner for almost 5 years and our relationship is very good! We're excellent at communicating our feelings and we figure out solutions when we have disagreements instead of ...
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My girlfriend wants to move in, but we're having issues

I've been dating a girl for about 3 months and for the past month she has basically been living with me. She has her own apartment, but since we live in different towns it's easier for her to stay ...
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How can I discuss beer without sounding like a snob?

I like beer. I like drinking it, discovering it, and I just recently started brewing it. Needless to say, one of my common topics of conversation is beer (of course there are plenty more, and beer is ...
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How to find out if my girlfriend secretly wants to get pregnant?

I'm dating an immigrant and there are many issues with our relationship due to her immigration status. Over the last month I have slowly started to suspect that she wants to get pregnant, to keep me ...
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How can I communicate to my girlfriend that I'm uncomfortable paying most bills without ruining the relationship?

My girlfriend is an immigrant and will soon have a job for a year. After that job she'll need to go to school to continue staying in the US. Our current situation She technically lives with me after ...
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How to know if you’re in an abusive situation? [closed]

Preface: I’m not looking for professional advice or service here; more so general guidelines based on life experience one can use to see if behaviors they’re currently experiencing in a relationship ...
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How can I talk about sex with my girlfriend without giving her an ultimatum?

I've been dating this girl for a few months and the sex is alright, but it's very vanilla. My concern is that I don't think that I will be able to continue being happy in bed if this is how it is ...
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What is an alternative to brutal honesty that doesn't involve lying?

I have been criticised on more than one occasion by friends and romantic partners for being "too honest". An example of this might be someone asking me if a dress looks good, and I will say if I think ...
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How to make my girl buy me gifts without sounding needy?

I've been with this girl for 2 years now. Got to say it's been great for me because I actually love her and I have a feeling she does reciprocate those same sentiments. We moved in together at the end ...