Questions tagged [relationships]
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Mutual interests and common values vs skills
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The introduction of this book claims:
What makes intimacy work? Some say it is the strength of your dream, the strength of your commitment to love itself. Others say it’s a matter of luck, the ...
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How can I communicate with my girlfriend about sharing the rent?
My partner is Ukranian and we met in Australia. She moved into my home, which I loved, however inevitably the conversation of rent came up.
I live in Melbourne which is a high cost of living area. At ...
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How to have "consent talks" with a partner who strongly dislikes such conversation?
I have read a lot about rendering sex more interesting by trying to avoid falling into an always-the-same-procedure routine. Likewise, I have read a lot about having conversations with one's partner ...
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How to politely tell my girlfriend to move out? (we hadn't actually agreed to live together)
I know the title sounds worse than it is, she's not that creepy to just move in with me out of the blue.
But the thing is, I live very close to where she works, so when the occasion came for me to go ...
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How do I help my wife to see her potential?
My wife comes from a background of a controlling, abusive mother who always told her that she was incapable, and then a controlling, abusive (now former) husband who always told her that she was ...
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How do I explain to my partner that often his unsolicited advice is unnecessary?
My partner and I have been together for 15 years and, in general, have excellent communication. However, I can't seem to get past a couple of issues with him. In this case, it's his continued ...
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How can I convince my husband to be polite on the internet? [closed]
My husband and I participated in a political movement. My husband believes that the movement's actions were ineffective and even counterproductive, that they failed to live up to their ideals, that ...
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How to tell a sister-in-law I don't like her how much personal content she sends me?
My husband is Indian and I am South American. We live in Europe and we deal well with our cultural differences, we talk and reach consensus most of the time.
It turns out that my husband's sister-in-...
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How do I find out if this girl has a crush on me, without asking her directly?
I am working in an IT company as project manager. I have met this girl who is a software engineer in a different team. We have known each other for one year now.
She likes to talk to me. She calls me ...
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How do I tell my online girlfriend that I'm actually a girl? [closed]
I met this girl on online a few weeks ago and we started dating two days after. She assumes that I'm a guy and I was going to tell her that I'm actually a girl, but then I felt bad because what I ...
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How to reassure my partner that I really do love them, despite being unable to show socially acceptable displays of affection in public?
I have social anxiety disorder (which my partner is aware of). I feel more comfortable being lovey dovey with my partner in private (such as holding hands, kissing hugging) than in public, despite ...
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How and when should I bring up to dates that I am a gun owner?
I am a licensed, responsible gun owner. I own one handgun that I use to shoot at the range. I keep it locked in a safe as required by law, and (although I am allowed to) I do not keep live ammunition ...
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Inviting a colleague to hang out without giving the impression I'm interested in something more than friendship
I have one collaborator from another country for whom I have great admiration. In fact I'm learning a lot with her and I think she is amazing both professionally and as a person, and I would like to ...
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How to exit toxic relationships without hurting friends
I've often noticed myself not being able to say no to things and I end up in toxic friendships where I get manipulated, and I'm too afraid to leave them because I don't want to hurt people.
All the ...
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Why is it considered bad form to break up with someone over written text?
I am autistic and, when I was a teenager (10 years ago), I had always heard that it was "rude" to break up with someone over text. However, I never understood why.
What's wrong with ...
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How to help a friend determine if they are happy or just settling in a long term relationship?
Through my years until recently I have had friends or just known people who have been in relationships that they generally considered long term and committed, but were open (at least to me) about the ...
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How to be supportive without lying?
My girlfriend said:
"Sometimes it is good to just be on the side of your loved one"
and I have no idea how to do that.
We've been together for a bit less than a year and it's my first ...
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How to communicate to my girlfriend that I'd like us to spend more time talking to each other?
I've recently (in the past two weeks) entered a relationship with a girl I've been dating for about two months. We, so far, seem to be pretty compatible with each other and I'm happy.
A little ...
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How do I respond when my partner shares a topic I can't relate to?
I (19 M) met my girlfriend (18 F) about two weeks ago, we quickly declared a relationship and it's the first time for both of us to have a romantic relationship.
She is into hobbies which I am not ...
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How do I talk about money with my partner when they get uncomfortable about the topic?
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My partner and I have been together for a significant amount of time, 8 years soon, and are planning to get married (within a few years due to busy schedules and graduate school). I ...
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How to explain to friends/family the status of a relationship when you're more than best friends with someone but not yet in an official relationship?
I have been looking for some terms or definitions of the following stage when two people are more than best friends but not in an official relationship. I'll delve into the grayness of "official&...
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How to show you're fine with being friendly, but don't want a relationship, when the other person might want a relationship?
During college there's a chance when I'm in conversation with people that they may be interested in me as a potential romantic partner. I'm currently in a committed relationship and many of these ...
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My boyfriend blocked me, I would like to make up with him
Background: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost four years. We are a long distance couple.
Basically my boyfriend blocked me on all social media because I have overreacted on him. That was two ...
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How to better handle my friends passive aggressive comments, preferably so there'll be less/none at all?
I'm a millennial and a lot (too many) of my friends were those who were of the opinion that, immediately following the 2016 election, the best way to demonstrate how much they value love, tolerance, ...
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How to talk to my parents about living abroad
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I'm 30, my parents are in their mid 50s, they are divorced and they both married after. I don't live with any of them (I'm in another city) and I visit them about once a month, also for ...
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How to make my relationship partner not get gradually lazier over time, without having to scare him with the idea that I might break up with him?
My boyfriend and I (age range 26-30, I'm the older one) have been together for two months now and for the most part it was great, we have similar interests, we do things together often, and we make ...
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How to gain trust after failing to support my wife in a difficult moment
We have been married for 15 years without big issues, but lately things have started to change. I'm not good with interpersonal relationships (sometimes too cold. I'm aware that I lack empathy), while ...
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How to ask for autonomy without coming across as rejecting?
I have been living with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we have an overall great relationship.
I work and he's currently unemployed. I used to ask him small services and be happy when he'd take ...
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How do I get a close female friend to like me romantically?
Let me give you as much information as possible so you understand how I ended up in this situation:
A couple months ago, on Valentine’s Day, I messaged my best friend who I’ve known for about two ...
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How to deal with an egoistic friend who only talks politics and religion?
I'm 27 M (living in India). I have this friend (say John). We were school classmates for 9 years. We shared a good relationship during school days but our mentality and perspectives to look at the ...
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What type of support should I offer my partner who clearly hates his job?
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I'm a 22-year-old and have a long-time partner, who I have been with since we met at university. We both live in the Midwest in the United States, and have been planning to move into an ...
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De-escalating perceived conflicts against spouse without "taking the other side"
My spouse recently wanted to know some details about an airbnb reservation my mother had made, which we will be sharing later this year. My spouse and I have formulated this post together. In my ...
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How to detect and counteract gaslighting
Gaslighting is one of those things that becomes a logical trap for both the abused (they can look deluded, without physical evidence, which can lead to further manipulation) and also for a falsely-...
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How do I approach feeling unappreciated for taking care of my girlfriend's niece for two months?
Spurred by the quarantine, girlfriend[27] and I[29] hastily moved in after two months of dating back in June. Around our three-month mark, her 12-year-old niece was subjected to serious trauma from ...
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How to reassure Significant Other that I am not trying flirt with other women - are there any reasonable solutions?
I have a good working relationship with my Significant Other, but today she and I decided we would talk to each other about what we feel should be improved on an individual basis in order to progress ...
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Handling an ex-girlfriends jabs in her responses to me?
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Last month, I broke up with my gf, 36, who I was with for over a year, for the second time. During the pandemic, I had broken up with her briefly but later got back together after we both ...
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How can I prevent my girlfriend from promising things out of obligation?
I've been in a loving relationship for over a year, but especially with coronavirus, my girlfriend is somewhat convinced that she is not meeting my needs since I feel lonely quite a bit. (It's not ...
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How to approach asking a longtime friend out?
Some context is due. We've known each other for more or less 9 years now, from our late teens and now nearing our late twenties. We both lead rather busy lives, so especially throughout the past few ...
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How to ask girlfriend to set healthy boundaries with her dog?
My girlfriend of eight months has a seven-year-old chihuahua mix that is extremely jealous, if not needy. When I first started dating gf, whenever we needed some cuddle time, she would have the dog ...
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How could I have communicated better to my wife that I don't like my toddler's shoes?
I have three toddlers whose shoes I have to put on and take off several times a day. Two of them have shoes that I can put on and take off very easily. The third has shoes I struggle with every day, ...
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How can I ask my crush if he’s part of the LGBTQ+ community?
I’m a 14 year old pansexual (or bisexual, I'm not 100% sure) girl. I've been talking to this guy for quite some time, who lives a bit further down my street and is 15. I’ve grown to like him as my ...
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How to find balance between sounding defensive and staying silent during an argument?
My girlfriend says I never accept mistakes, don't say sorry, always try to reason why I did something, get defensive, say same thing again and again to support myself during the argument after I mess ...
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Reassuring my wife being jealous of my close female friend
In short, I've made a mistake of being overly friendly and supportive to another person and can't deal with the massive backfire due to me being untrustworthy. More details below.
I met my girlfriend, ...
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Is another person's private object within your own personal boundary?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months.
Early one morning, after a conversation we'd had the previous night, she calls me to ask me if I own a very private object. Not wanting to lie, I ...
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How to encourage my boyfriend to sleep in the same bed as me? [closed]
My boyfriend moved into my house with me about a year ago, and for about 9 months we were sleeping in the same bed (the master bedroom). There is a similarly-sized guest bedroom that also has a ...
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How to encourage girlfriend to apologize more?
My girlfriend and I have been together for a bit more than 2 years now. At this point, our relationship is stable and we feel good about each other's company. However, there's one thing that really ...
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I suspect my wife is transgender. How can I talk best talk to them, and handle the possibilty if they are? [closed]
I've been with my wife for 10 years (married 2). I am a CIS male, and have suspected my partner (female sex, but agender) may be trans for a while now. They share a lot of similarities I've heard ...
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How to open up a discussion with my parents about their funeral and last wishes?
My parents are in their 80s with degrading health. Visits to the hospital for various medical reasons have been increasing. I absolutely hate to admit this, but at some point, they might not come home ...
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How to avoid conflict when telling your SO that you are going to start searching for work in another country?
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I've been in a relationship for the last two years, we are in our late 20's and during the last year we have had some talks about future, we have different views for the next five years, she ...
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How can I negotiate following a diet with a reluctant significant other?
I'm 30 and due to being very sedentary, especially with COVID-19, due to being on a medicine that affects hunger, I'm slightly overweight. I'm taking this very seriously as I've never been overweight ...
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