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My girlfriend is frustrated with me. She keeps insisting cannot keep her on her toes, she is simply wearing me down

What do i do when my girlfriend upsets me with her criticism and constant mood swings? She is temperamental ,i am simply walking on eggshells with her
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Dutch dating etiquette [on hold]

Since I am Japanese, English may be strange. Please ask if you do not understand the meaning. A while ago, I met a very nice woman at a bar, for the first time in my life, I took courage and ...
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How to tell about a deal-breaker without it sounding like an ultimatum

TL; DR My new date has a habit that is a deal-breaker for me. She knows it bothers me generally, but doesn't know it bothers me enough to break up with her. My questions is, how do I tell her that ...
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Possible Girlfriend in the ICU [on hold]

Long story ahead, you've been warned. Could really use sound advice here. Some background first, I'm terrible at reading social cues, to the point when I was younger medicos told my parents I might ...
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36y me, 30y wife, a screwed up life, low confidence, and heavy feelings for someone at work [on hold]

I need help. I don't know what to do. I'm 36, married, from India, recently moved to Sydney. I just wish there is someone out there, reading this, and wanting to help me. Below, is a big text, and ...
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Asking my partner why they don't want me to pleasure them

Whenever we are intimate, my partner never lets me pleasure them. If I try to continue after I'm done, they just shoot me down with something like "it's OK," or "you don't need to,", or "don't worry ...
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How to clarify to a friend-now-co-worker that I want our relationship to be less extensive?

I have known Bob for some five years - followed a few courses together, then worked closely together on a few projects, and now we share an office but work on largely separate things. Because we are ...
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How do I get my boyfriend to remove pictures of his ex girlfriend hanging in his apartment?

Background Information: We have been together for 2.5 years. We do not live together, but visit each others apartments around 5 times a week. He is in his early 30s and I am in my mid 20s. We live in ...
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How to help spouse improve her cooking, without making her feel overly criticized?

I'm at a loss here, I love my wife, she's a hard worker and a great support for me in basically everything. But when it comes to food I don't know what to do. I think she has the capacity to be just ...
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How to handle my ex touching me against my wishes when he is visiting our daughter?

I left my daughter's father during the pregnancy because we were having many issues and things with him were not changing. It's been a year since I moved back to my mom's and left him, and my daughter ...
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How to communicate better with my wife when she is in a bad mood and is slightly mean to me?

Long story short, I have depression/anxiety. Some days I’m in a low mood and am extra sensitive. My wife, like all of us, gets in her own moods, usually slightly aggravated, or snippy, or a little ...
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My best friend kissed me while I was half asleep. How can I bring this up and set boundaries, without making a big deal about it?

I am a 23-year-old woman and have been going through depression due to several life situations. I have a guy best friend (engaged) whom I am very close to. He has been acting as my support system to ...
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How and when do I tell a potential partner that I do not want more kids?

I am male and in my late 30's. About three years ago, my marriage failed and since then, my now ex-wife and I are going separate ways. To make things more complicated, I have a son who was born ...
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How to reassure my boyfriend

My boyfriend and I have been together 4 months and my anxiety is ruining our relationship. When we have a slight clash of opinions/different viewpoints it triggers my anxiety and it will turn into a ...
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Can I remain friends if my online relationship has become an emotional affair? [closed]

Why am I engaging in an online relationship when I'm married? I'm in a horrible predicament and I don't know what to do. I've been with my incredible Husband for 6 years. It truly is a beautiful love ...
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How to deal with a person who rejected you and work with on the same team?

There is this person that I like in my company. We've hung out quite a lot of times with our co-workers. I told my co-workers that I like this person and this person knows about it because our co-...
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How can I communicate my issues with a potential date's pushy behavior?

I’ve been friends with this guy for over a year and currently am testing the idea of dating him. He expressed interest in me a long time ago but I didn’t feel any physical attraction towards him at ...
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How do I tell the bride that her comments are insensitive as a bridesmaid?

I'm a bridesmaid for my friend's wedding. We have known each other for 12 years and I have been friends with her and her sister. I was not born in the country we are currently in and I have a ...
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How to make clear to my boyfriend that I simply don't have anything to talk about

I've been in a gay relationship with my boyfriend for about 12 year so now. About a year ago we had a small fight about the fact that I am not talking to him anymore. At first I didn't even notice ...
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My girlfriend occasionally blocks me on social media

We have known each other for almost a year, and have been dating for more than 6 months. Most of the time it has been going really well; we like each other and enjoy each other's company. For most of ...
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How to manage healthy relationship with traditional parents who do not like your partner?

I am from India, living in Germany for a long time now. I have liberal views, and most of my ideas align with the political left, here, in Europe. My parents, though, are from a traditional Indian ...
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How to start a friendship with a girl I have a crush on and rejected me, when we had a big fight and stopped talking

I have a crush on a girl. We've had a big argument recently. It was her birthday a couple days ago, so I wished her a “Happy Birthday!”. She thanked me and I started to talk to her, stuff as “Cool, ...
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How to counter/explain wife's double standards and avoid negativity [closed]

I have been married for almost 5 years. My wife and I have a son who just turned 3. At the beginning of our relationship things seem to be really on track but since our son arrived, i've been battling ...
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How can I encourage cleaner habits to my partner?

Background I've been seeing my partner for a few years now. We are both young adults, have busy but stable jobs, and have our own living spaces. We have a very loving and supportive relationship. My ...
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How to honestly answer questions from a girlfriend like “How did you find this place” without giving the impression I'm always talking about my exes?

I'm in my mid-twenties and I've always had more female friends than male friends. I was in 2 serious relationships (one 1,5 year long and the other one 3 years) and 4 or 5 small ones, but they can't ...
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How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity

I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. She is very intelligent and has a warm, caring personality. However, one thing I noticed is that she is somewhat reluctant to have her own opinions on a lot ...
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How to ask a girl out when my chances of doing it face to face are thin? [closed]

This girl is from the same University as me, and we've been talking for a while and had some really nice conversations, having both of us truly engaged, and I kinda started to like her. So I decided ...
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How to tell a girl with anxiety and OCD I'd like to date her without triggering her?

Background: I'm a college student currently at home on summer vacation. A few weeks before I left school, I was approached by a girl who knew me through a mutual friend. She suggested we hang out and ...
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How do I comfort someone I love after their dad died? [closed]

The dad of the girl that I love died some days ago. And I just want to make her feel better but I don't know the words, if I need to let her vent. I'm so cold talking with people about love because it'...
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How do I talk to my wife about unrealistic expectations?

I have been married less than a year and we are both quite young, which is partly why I'm posting on here for advice. My wife has recently been 'complaining' that she finds it difficult that she can'...
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How to tell my ex I'd like to get back together without hurting her feelings?

I broke up with my girlfriend 2-3 months ago, before that we've been together for almost two years. Before breaking up, the relationship was the best I ever had. We loved each other, loved each ...
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How to communicate to my spouse I can't stand unexpected touch without hurting their feelings?

TL;DR I've recently learned about my autism and still need to understand what it means. I have struggle being touched when I don't expect it and it hurts my spouse when I already tried to explain to ...
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How do I tell my girlfriend she's been buying me books by the wrong author for the last nine months?

Help! For the last nine months my girlfriend has been buying me books by the wrong author, fully believing that she's treating me to work by my favourite writer (who incidentally she believes is a ...
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How can I bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend?

This already seems like selfish post, but I'm wondering how I could bring up the topic of my birthday gift to my girlfriend. For back story, we live together and I pay for most stuff. She shares some ...
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How to reply to small talk/random facts in a non-offensive way?

I've discovered that when I have a conversation with someone, I sometimes answer in a somehow offensive way. For example: Person: I just read that actor is born in town X. Me: So what? You're ...
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How can I convince my girlfriend that relationship and her doctorate is possible?

Background I have been dating a Japanese woman in Japan for two months now. Until now we've regularly met each other on weekends and were talking during the week, mostly with instant messaging. I ...
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How do I talk with my girlfriend about her jealousy?

So I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year now and I've come to a point where I need to think about how jealous she is and if it's a natural amount of jealousy. So, for ...
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How to tell my ex not to expect sex

I'm a 25 year old man living in France. Last year I dated a 30 year old woman in the US, and kept things really casual (I knew she wanted to be more than dating but it was not reciprocal). Now she is ...
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How can I deal with uncomfortable silence from my partner?

First of all, I want to say that I'm talking about when my girlfriend is silent, it's not 'silent treatment'. I don't feel like she has cruel intentions, or is intentionally trying to hurt me in any ...
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How to communicate to my wife the same thing which I already repeated her 100 times? [closed]

To give the cultural context, I am from South India and married for 15+ years. Ever since the beginning of our marriage, I keep saying the following items repeatedly to her ( let's call her Mohini). ...
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How can I communicate to my wife my concerns about her spending habits? [duplicate]

Some context to begin with: My wife and I have been married for two years now. I earn around 2500€ after taxes, and she used to earn around 1500€ after taxes. We both share one bank account, by the ...
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How do I safely ask my girlfriend about her past depression?

We became a pair of BF and GF recently, at which point we had already been university schoolmates for 2 years. At the very first few days of acquaintance, during a casual talk about our experiences ...
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How can I talk with my friend/co-worker about that fact that learning about his relationship upset me?

Background I am a male in my mid 20s. For about 10 years now I have been struggling with life and severe depression. I never had any friends, my family hates me and treats me pretty bad, my social ...
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How to motivate my lazy partner towards self improvement?

Background: I am 23, partner is 21. Been together for 4 years. We just moved in together a month ago while I am working abroad for a few months, to have a "trial" period of whether we're good ...
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Asking my sister to show less display of affection to her SO in public

Background I've always had a pretty great relationship with my sister. I would say that, growing up, we've been best friends, a lot of our close friends are mutual friends, we've been on holiday ...
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How do I talk to my partner who is still grieving her ex who committed suicide?

I am looking for some advice on a situation with a fairly new partner of mine. To set the scene: ~10 years ago she was dating someone, first love etc. I think he moved away so it ended. 2 years ago ...
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How do I inform my overprotective mother that my girlfriend isn't a distraction?

... And that she really isn't how my mother sees her? I have a girlfriend whom I love very much, we've been going out for quite some time but we kept our relationship a secret from my parents. My ...
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How can I ask my girlfriend to accept my choice of charity to support?

I support a charity based in my country that helps people escape a specific oppressive government and relocate to other countries as refugees. If I'm being completely honest, I don't really know why I ...
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how do I tell my friend how I feel in person without feeling embarrassed about it? [closed]

Context So I've been talking to this guy for nearly two years now and we both know we really like each other. When we first started talking, he told me that he liked me but I wasn't able to commit to ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to seek professional help

Background My now ex-girlfriend and I have dated for nearly three years (both nearly in our 30s). Up until some months ago, our relationship was the perfect one everybody is looking for. In short, we ...