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What is an alternative to brutal honesty that doesn't involve lying?

I have been criticised on more than one occasion by friends and romantic partners for being "too honest". An example of this might be someone asking me if a dress looks good, and I will say if I think ...
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How to make my girl buy me gifts without sounding needy?

I've been with this girl for 2 years now. Got to say it's been great for me because I actually love her and I have a feeling she does reciprocate those same sentiments. We moved in together at the end ...
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How to stop a fragile friend from dumping their negative emotions on me?

This friend and I have a complicated history. We dated off and on, then decided to remain friends. When we talk about positive things, we have a good relationship. We're comfortable with each other, ...
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How to tell our friends unable to have children that my wife is pregnant again?

Background: In the group of our old friends there are around 30 people. We were all born around the late ‘70s to mid ‘80s. I’m actually 38 and my wife is 33. Some of us are still single, some are now ...
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Girlfriend say “yes” but doesn't do it

I'm in a long-distance relationship, fortunately we have plans to put an end to the long-distance. However something really bugs me, namely how whenever I ask something she says "yes sure I'm doing it ...
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How to say to my ex that I understand her? [closed]

Background 3 years ago I dated with Clara, my ex-girlfriend. Her situation (borderline personality disorder + Taoism + her own personality and ability) makes her worldview quite unique, and when I met ...
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How can I find out if my gf only wants me for a green card?

I'm a US citizen and I began dating a girl from an online website. We've known each other for a month and have been officially dating for about two weeks. She told me on the second date that she ...
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How can I express to my boyfriend that I don't feel comfortable with this situation without sounding like blackmailing him?

My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for a few years. I have known of this female friend ever since but have never met. She visited him once where he lives now and stayed over in ...
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How can I make sure that my ex's friend will help me to work out the situation? [closed]

Note: In this story, I will call my ex-girlfriend as Clara and her friend as Susan. 2 years ago Clara and I broke up because we knew that our situation couldn't maintain it. It was a ...
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How to tell someone you no longer wish to see them?

I currently have a friend that I’ve been talking to for many months. I find that it’s become draining on my emotional health to continue seeing them. In this case, I have developed feelings for them ...
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Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women

About the relationship My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years now and we have lived together for 2. We are both introverts, and we had some trust issues over two years ago, admittedly my ...
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How to have an honest discussion, when all outcomes are undesirable

Background: My partner and I have been together for 9 years, beginning in high school. Around year three we went through a rough patch where my partner emotionally abused me into consenting to sex, ...
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How to politely tell my girlfriend that I want to live on my own for some time

Background I am 24 and my girlfriend is 25, we have been dating for 4 years now. She is from a smaller town, moved to the city for study about 6 years ago, I've been living here for my whole life. ...
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How do I give money for the tickets to the girl that I'm seeing?

I've been out with this girl a couple of times already, we're going out again soon and once more after that to a concert. I couldn't buy the tickets online, so she did. I've been brought up in a way ...
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How to communicate your availability to relocate without sounding as a stalker?

I've recently met a person I am strongly attracted to. They rejected the idea of a date because "at the moment [they're] not emotionally available", since they recently came out of a long term ...
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How can I ask to continue a friendship after we accidentally took it to a romantic level?

Backstory I'm going through a difficult separation from my alcohol-abusing abusive wife and I've got custody of the children. Through the Q&A forum I met a woman who is in a similar situation, ...
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Stalking - I accuse a colleague to be a free rider. How can I ask him if he does that? [closed]

My situation: I am 35 years old, female, from Germany. I work at the university and I have a lot of male colleagues. Two years ago, a friend of mine (no colleague, living appox 500 kilometers away) ...
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Communicate to flatmates I want to clean less because I am never at home

I live in an apartment with 3 other people. Nice people and we get along pretty well. We have a cleaning rotation where everyone gets to clean a quarter each week which rotates. Which is fair a thing. ...
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How can I reject a second date idea without ruining the potential for a relationship?

I've had one date with a girl and we both agreed that we had a lot of fun. A second date was set up, but no plans were made. She just told me that her friend asked us to go to dinner, a bar, and a ...
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How to tell my SO to limit our phone conversations?

My girlfriend rings my phone each and every day, and I have to talk to her 30-60 minutes. I'm kind of sick of the phone as of yet. How can I tell her that without hurting her feelings? Additional, ...
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How to explain my SO a need for intellectual support?

So I'm in a very loving relationship, and it's wonderful. My SO is giving me all the emotional support I could possibly need, and never had, because everyone in my family including myself are more "...
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How to get my boyfriend to workout?

Even though I'm not a gym addict, I'm a very active person, who does regular exercise, walks a lot, etc. However, my boyfriend is extremely lazy (doesn't exercise, prefers driving to walking). I ...
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How to tell my parents I want to live in another city and ask them for their support

Background My parents want me and my fiance to move in city A My fiance and I want to live in city B I'm financially dependent on my parents, so they have the upper hand. Not totally dependent, but ...
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How to tell girlfriend that vague answers about her day leave a bad feeling in me?

First and foremost: I do have a really great relationship with my girlfriend. We trust each other blindly, never argue, almost everything is perfect and we are happy with each other. But one thing ...
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Could expressed attraction be an absolute prevention of someone feeling attraction to me?

For as long as I can remember having first experienced love I've had trouble finding a partner and building a strong relationship. More so, the only relationships I found, followed the pattern, that ...
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We moved together unexpectedly and early. How do I approach my boyfriend about arising problems?

Current Situation My boyfriend of 5 months is currently living with me in my aparment. He moved in about 2.5 months ago, because he was kicked out by his roommate with a 2 week notice and completely ...
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Showing someone you are interested in a relationship but not ready to send nude

I'm a male in my early- to mid-20's who has recently connected with a female close to my age by finding her on a dating app. She preferred to have conversations on a separate app, popularly used for ...
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How can I rebuild trust with my girlfriend while still hanging out with a friend?

Background I have been with my girlfriend for 5,5 years by now. We love each other, it was a really great time, but not without downs of course. And one of that downs happened 8 months ago. I think I ...
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How to confirm what my relationship with this person is

Background A little over a year ago, I met a nice girl (let's call her Alice) and we went on some dates together. Things were going well until she stopped talking to me, which I later found out (once ...
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Girlfriend has problems with kisses and physical contact. How should I react and how can I help her? [closed]

My girlfriend and I, both 17 years old, have been together for about two months now. Character-wise, we both are what you'd probably call a little nerdy; we want to make career and so we try to be ...
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How to avoid an argument over the phone with my girlfriend

Context I've been dating my girlfriend for the last year, but we became officially a couple 3 months ago, I'm 28 and she is 21. We do not live together and we see each other usually twice a week. The ...
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How to talk to my fiancee about automating our routine without it leading to an argument?

Recently I was watching a video of a popular influencer showing his morning routine. I was impressed by how much he had automated his morning tasks--turning his lights on via voice command, building a ...
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How can I help my friend accept that the relationship is over?

After 9 months into the relationship, my early 20's friend just got dumped. She thought he was the one. He'd say things like "I've never felt this way with anyone before," or "I could see myself being ...
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How to say that you are not interested in online dating?

In online dating, people often find themselves in a situation where they are in contact with someone but do not want to continue the encounter and need to terminate it somehow. Doing this in a good ...
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Is my overthinking bad or good? How to support an emotional girlfriend? [closed]

I'm sorry to give this exhausting question, but I want to be sure I state every important detail. This question has 2 parts, both, I feel, have something in common. To give some background about ...
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How to explain to my girlfriend that I enjoy certain video games?

I would like to ask for advice about my current situation, my girlfriend (26) and I (31) have been together for 2 months now and we really have lots in common and always have a great time together but!...
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How do I deal with some of my mean classmates? [closed]

Flashback Today when I entered in class, I came late due to the fact that I’m in flow that I stayed on telephone. And when I came to school, I asked Chemistry teacher to annulate my absence, and an ...
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Retorting to a lying person

Scenario When it comes to certain family matters, one of my cousins always lies to my mom. It could be from a simple occasion like where the family had gone for a vacation or a more serious one like ...
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How to start a conversation with an ex with whom the relationship ended in bad terms?

I am genuinely worried and would like to know how an old ex-girlfriend is doing. But it's been well over 2 years since she and I last talked and when we broke up, it wasn't on good terms. I DON'T ...
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How to handle emotional expectation about an animals death, I do not fulfill?

I just experienced a difficult situation and I did not know how to react. My SO and me have a pet hamster that showed some worrying behavior and might have to be put down. She is very attached to him ...
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How can I make peace with my younger brother

Personally, I am a 21-year-old male, and my family consists of my mum, dad and a younger brother aged 17. To provide an overall context of my family before I talk about the problem. Analysis of ...
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How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me?

Context My girlfriend (let's call her Claire) shares a flat with a couple (let's call them Bob and Alice). Bob is a close friend of mine, and I get along pretty well with Alice. The three of them used ...
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How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body

For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we're really close, especially when it comes to talking things over. We would both describe ourselves as nerds, and would ...
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How do I end a 30 year friendship with an alcoholic?

My close friend of 30 years (my best friend) is an alcoholic, and her alcoholism has progressed to the point where it's taken away her ability to be a friend to me. She has always been a heavy ...
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How can I tactfully ask this girl if she is ready for a new relationship?

There is this girl that I really like. Recently we have been hanging out together with some of my friends. She said she liked it and wanted to come the next time too. She also wants to come to other ...
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Would it be appropriate to tell my neighbor's kids to quiet down when their parents are not at home? [closed]

For the past ten years, I have been living next door to a family with four kids and both of the parents work. They usually get home from work around 6:00pm on the weekdays. Their four kids are latch-...
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Have I lost my best friend because I told him I liked him? [closed]

So I met a guy at work a nine months back, and over time we became really good friends. Initially, he had a huge wall up, and wouldn't open up at all, but over time, as he began to trust me, he let it ...
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Should I tell my partner my honest opinion about her career choice? [closed]

My partner and I are working in close but distinct academic fields as researchers. It turns out that my career is reasonably successful, without being stellar, but her situation is more complicated. ...
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How to tell my girlfriend I'm uncomfortable with her getting jealous when I look at other people?

So it's been 4 months since we started dating. I'm aware that she is insecure and jealous but it has been going worse since we started dating. At first she started complaining about me hanging out ...
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How to deal with unreasonableness

My attitude is that one cannot reason with someone who, for whatever cause, is being unreasonable. If that party has got it into their head that they are right, even despite blatant contrary evidence, ...

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