Questions tagged [requests]

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What is a good way to ask a tech retail worker tips on how to apply for a job where he works at and how the job is like with salesmanship tips?

I moved with my family to enter university in Eastern Turkey from the west coast and I decided to try working in a place since I couldn't join the classes due to certain reasons. I first worked at a ...
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How to ask 'why?' without implying I'm asking them to justify themselves?

So, as part of my job, I sometimes get requirements from users without any context. This context can be useful for reasons above and beyond justifying the requirement itself. These come from fellow ...
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How can I ask my parents to stop calling me when I'm out or ask me where I'm going?

I'm 24 years old, have my own career, my own car but I live with my parents and my 2 younger brothers. I live my life quite independently. One of the problems I constantly face from my parents is ...
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How do I politely tell a stranger to stop making annoying noises I can't name?

Background I've encountered this problem several times and under different circumstances. It really annoys me when people constantly make noises with their mouth. Now, I can't name them and they come ...
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How can I ask my uncle to pay for my ADHD medication?

Like most people with ADHD, I suffer from constantly changing jobs and financial problems. I'm trying to get a prescription for ADHD medication. so I can have a stable career. There are a couple of ...
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How can I ask (or determine) if someone on the phone is human without offending them?

I recently saw a doctor about a minor medical problem. This is the first time I saw this doctor . After the appointment I asked my doctor a follow-up question via my insurance company's website. I got ...
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Ask one of my solicitors to call the other

I am currently getting a divorce. I have two solicitors. One dealing with the family side and one dealing with the business. The one dealing with the business side is doing a lot of it as a friend. ...
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Classmate is being deported - how could I politely offer to buy their furniture?

My classmate is being deported from the U.S. due to visa issues and has no intentions of returning in the coming years - they plan to join a lab at university in their home country. They're really ...
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How to ask ex-girlfriend to delete nude pictures of us that she took?

An ex-girlfriend whom I used to date around two years ago is in town. We had broken up amicably and have kept in touch somewhat. We are planning to meet this week to catch up. Back when we were ...
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How to get housemates to be quieter when video-chatting?

I live in a large shared house with international people. I noticed it’s natural to speak a bit louder than a normal voice when video-chatting (because the microphone isn’t right beside your face). I ...
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Asking a previous manager to sign a form at a group dinner

I organised a catch up with my ex-colleagues and I’ve also invited my former manager, and I wanted to ask her to sign a form for my professional certification. I’m concerned that she might think that ...
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How do I make my dad respect my opinions?

This has happened time after time. When making a decision together with dad, he always goes behind my back and ignore my opinions, which is really frustrating and even infuriating some times for me. ...
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How to politely ask for a price for a commision, when I only intend to ask?

I wanted to ask for a price for a commission from an artist. However, my budget is lower than what I think the commission would be worth, hence I intend to only ask for the price and not buy the ...
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How can I more clearly ask people to accommodate for my autism?

I've got autism. This isn't always clear to people*. Sometimes I need accommodations for a sensory issue to participate in a normal way. One time, there was a colleague with a strong aftershave, for ...
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How to ask a friend why they unfriended me on Facebook, and not make them feel cornered?

I know being friends in social media don't equate to real friends in life. However I noticed a trend. Several people I hangout with on a regular basis unfriended me on Facebook. I can't help but ...
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How to make sure to get non-alcoholic beer at a bar? [closed]

Sometimes I have to drive by car after going to a bar. Hence at these times I don't want to drink alcohol (even though driving after drinking a modest amount of alcohol is allowed where I live, I don'...
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A coworker mumbles to herself when working. How can I ask her to stop?

My coworker, who sits right next to me, keeps mumbling to herself when she types or reads. It is a not-too loud, low-voice mumble that I can hear without understanding words. It really irritates me ...
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How can I ask someone I've never met to type quieter?

I'm working in a co-working space, and today a new guy is working at the same table as me. His typing (on his laptop) is quite intense, which makes a lot of noise. In addition, the table is not too ...
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How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food?

I host regular game and activity nights at my house. I have a somewhat open group of friends that I invite, and these people are welcome to bring an additional friend as well. I want everyone, ...
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How can I ask reading people in public transport for the title of their book? [closed]

I travel with public transportation quite a bit, and I read a lot while commuting too. While I don't mind being asked what book I'm reading, other people might. I'm always on the lookout for new ...
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How to try to find out who stole a valuable item in a social situation?

I was recently at a friend's birthday party and at one point in the event he told everyone that an electronic gadget was missing and that no one would leave until he found it. It was an embarrassing ...
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Being asked to lend a cigarette to someone who has had a stroke

I am currently on holiday and met an older married couple here. I had a little talk today with the husband, and he told me that his wife had a stroke and just started smoking again. And he is ...
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How do I diplomatically get someone to hurry up and make a trivial decision?

This question was initially triggered by an incident with a houseguest a few months ago. Earlier in the day, he was tossing up whether to join a group of us who were going out for a drink in the ...
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How do I ask my friend for some of his water on a long bicycle ride without offending him?

When I ride my bicycle I often drink a lot of water because I get thirsty and like to keep hydrated, my bicycle can only fit a single bottle holder because the front derailleur is mounted in such a ...
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How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather?

My grandfather (85 years old) is affected by Alzheimer disease, and although it is still a mild form, it is now visible in the conversation as he often struggles to remember a name or loses his train ...
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Asking a retired soldier about their experiences

I know an elderly guy through a volunteering program that helps charities. He seems rather kind but I don’t talk to him often. I know when he was younger, he served on the American forces and helped ...
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Asking not leading questions without sounding cold and/or detach

Following this question about not asking leading questions, I tried to apply the advice in my day to day life for all kind of situation (including online conversation). However, I find that I am now ...
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Asking an update from a friend who agreed to help me but who didn't respond me last time

I have a friend who agreed to help me on something half a year ago. Around the winter holidays, last time we chatted, I told him I was ready to implement my plan but he told me that he was upset that ...
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How do I tell my boss that I cannot learn the way he wants me to? [closed]

I'm currently in a new area of the business in what is somewhat a career change (from support to development). I have been in this position for just over a year now, and when I started my boss wanted ...
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Asking my friend out even though I have a girlfriend

I am a 20 years old male from Canada. I have been with my girlfriend (also 20 years old) for about three months. When we started being in a relationship, we agreed that it was an exclusive one ...
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Does including a reason when making an assertive request make it more effective?

I need to make an assertive request to my neighbours about making noise outside my bedroom early in the morning. I am ill at the moment, and being woken up early is more than just an annoyance, it ...
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Knowing when you should send message instead of asking in person

In my day to day life, when I have a question, I like to ask the person who has the answer in person (instead of sending a slack message). One of the reasons for that is that, most of the time, I can'...
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How to receive a direct answer from a request?

Background Earlier today my poor car decided to utter its last few combustion cycles. It’s the day before I usually purchase groceries for the week. Waiting a few days for repairs has me stuck in a ...
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How to not be "this annoying nitpicking Quality Engineer"?

I am a 23-year-old woman who was hired 2 weeks ago. As a Q&A engineer, I have to ask developers to change the way they are coding in order to improve the code's quality, maintainability, and ...
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How to "nudge" a client to email me back without seeming rude

First, some background knowledge: I'm currently building a video game for a client, mostly for a bit of practice. My "client" isn't paying for the game to be made, since I had just started programming ...
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How to ask my friend to tell her support group she was sexually assaulted?

Preface For the sake of my friend, I want to convince/ask her to talk to her extended support group about the situation. This is a decision she has to make herself and I really think that it’d help to ...
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Brother thinks no one wants to hang out with him

Two quick notes about my brother, 21M: His personality type is stubborn and borderline obnoxious at times He will help anyone with very little notice or thought The root of the problem is he ...
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How do I get my landlord to show some consideration without souring our relationship?

I've been living at my current address for just under 3 months. I'm not renewing the lease for another year after this one is up, so my landlord has just started to take viewings for the property. So ...
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Cellphone-obsessed friend (and driver)

I have a good friend who, in my opinion, uses his cell phone too much while we are hanging out. When we do things like go to dinner together as a group, he is often not paying attention, engrossed in ...
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How to ask a host to fix something, they consider due to their lacking knowledge, not flawed?

I am living for 2 months now in a pension and will probably stay there for 3~4 more months. The host provides WLAN. Sadly the WLAN is blocking some websites and a vast amount of ports required for ...
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Rude behavior in canteen

In our work place there are around 1100 employees. Majority of them collectively gather in factory canteen during break and take their lunch.This canteen consists of a big hall with hundreds of ...
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How to convince a group of friends to drop a topic that's making the group uncomfortable?

My close friend is a very dominant (DISC) person. Last time, he bashed my ex-high school when we hang out with some friends. He had valid points, and I had admitted it, but nevertheless, I asked him ...
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How can I tell my friend to take her medication?

I have a friend who takes medication for anxiety and depression. When she forgets to take her medication she has very specific behaviors, some of which include tantrums, panic attacks, and ...
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How to get hosts to split invitations to parties between ex-partners

My Ex and I recently broke up. There are a lot of very negative feelings on my side due to things that happened during the relationship and after the breakup. It is still hard for me to be in her ...
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How could I ask a stranger to take a photo of me while traveling?

I always travel alone, so it is not possible to take a photo of myself except selfies. Some of my friends also travel alone, yet they frequently upload non-selfie photos of themselves on SNS. I asked ...
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How to ask someone to not leave their pee on the floor when they use my bathroom?

I have a male nurse who comes to my house every so often to give me medication and observe me all day for any reactions. When he is here, he leaves pee puddles on the floor in front of the toilet (...
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Communicate to flatmates I want to clean less because I am never at home

I live in an apartment with 3 other people. Nice people and we get along pretty well. We have a cleaning rotation where everyone gets to clean a quarter each week which rotates. Which is fair a thing. ...
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How to ask people to speak softer?

I am suffering from a medical condition called hyperacusis, which makes normal levels of noise painful (and potentially damaging) for me. I have found ways to cope with this condition in my daily life,...
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Requesting someone to give up their seat to me on public transport if I have an invisible disability?

I have an invisible disability. I do not really want to disclose what it is, but I have trouble standing up on public transport for longer than a few minutes. I would like to sit down. Now, the bus/...
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How can I ask a new date to not smoke around me?

I can't stand smoking, like, at all. I get repulsed by someone's smoking nearby or coming close to me after smoking. It's purely due to the smell, which I find about on par with eating foods I hate ...