Questions tagged [roommates]

For questions pertaining to people who share accommodation, whether a room or a house, but without necessarily being in "a relationship."

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How do I get my flat mate to clean up after herself?

I can't live with this situation any more. Every Morning I enter the kitchen there is a huge mess. Dirty pots, plates and food leftovers. I am really not that fussy but I appreciate a general ...
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Roommate demanding security deposit before leaving the room

I signed the lease for a small 2 bedroom apartment. I have had four roommates in the span of three years. The three previous roommates left because they moved out of town. The current roommate started ...
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Communicate to flatmates I want to clean less because I am never at home

I live in an apartment with 3 other people. Nice people and we get along pretty well. We have a cleaning rotation where everyone gets to clean a quarter each week which rotates. Which is fair a thing. ...
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How to ask my roommate to move out?

Background I know it sounds selfish but here it is. From the past 3 years, I have been living alone in a rented room. 6 months ago, I had to change the city due to a new job. The rent here is a bit ...
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How to turn roommate down politely?

My potential roommate and I planned to lease a flat for the last of our university time. However he plans to live in the flat even between semesters (not returning home) so that he can get a job to ...
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How to tell the leaseholder I won't cover a kicked-out roommates rent

Last month I moved into a shared house. There are 6 people living here. The primary leaseholder told me he had told another tenant to move out because he was always late on the rent. I never met this ...
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Going to live in someone else's house--how to ask for rules?

Background I have found a new job in another city. While I'm looking for an apartment I will be living in my cousin's house. I have never lived in her house before (and I have been at her house for ...
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Roommate on my wifi

I'm living in an apartment with a roommate. When they first moved in they didn't have a router and therefore could not connect to the internet. I offered to let them connect to my wifi until they were ...
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How can I tell my roommates they are being too loud at night?

Background: I'm a university student (USA) that currently shares an apartment with 5 other people, 2 people to each room. Typically, I have to get up early to go to work and then go to school after ...
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How can I communicate I need to be told specific rules that they consider Christian values?

My lease is ending and I need to find a new place to live. After moving out of my parents' place I have always lived with roommates. I am not yet able to financially afford my own place by myself. For ...
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How to deal with annoying Room mate? [closed]

I live in a three bedroom apartment with three of my former colleagues. Two of us have a room of their own, while I share my room with P(his initial name). P is also the most outspoken and social ...
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My roommate is making me pay too much for rent. How should I confront him?

I just moved to a new city for my master studies. I met a man via a social website who is already living here and he offered to rent me his two room apartment for a year while he was studying abroad, ...
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How to involve the law with minimizing feelings of threatening

Basically I have to give someone I live with notice I will start legal action against them. A roommate's dog will not stop barking. I told her it affects my ability to work and sleep and she said ...
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How do I deal with my roommates wanting a lower tier of internet service? [closed]

I live with 2 roommates and we are students. We are really good friends, we have each other's back but you know, there are going to be problems too. I study Computer science, the other roommates study ...
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How to ask my roommate/good friend if they are unhappy because I did not meet their expectation of me (as a roommate)? [duplicate]

The Story To give a bit of background, me and my good friend of almost 7-8 years have been attending the same university. After our first year, both of us, along with two mutual acquaintances, chose ...
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Roommate's dogs won't stop barking [closed]

I moved into a shared house where the landlord lives with us and is one of the roommates. She had some dogs that wouldn't stop barking. Generally speaking communication has not been good but for ...
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Roommates complained to landlord before talking to me

I moved homes a few months ago. I’m living with roommates: 1 couple and the landlady. I’m not sure if the landlady is currently living in the home as I haven’t seen her for several weeks. This ...
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How can I ask a stranger who I'd be living with if he believes in weird things?

I'm a master student (20+) that for the last 6 months has been renting a room in an older woman's (50+) house, that is we're living in the same house (just two of us). Unfortunately, I didn't have a ...
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Roommate says she won't/can't take out trash. How to ask for compensation?

I moved into a shared home where the landlord is also one of the people living in the suite I share. After moving in she told me she can't take out the garbage or recycling. I don't know why she can't....
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How to express worries about lifestyle without being perceived as denigrating? [closed]

I was considering to join a colocation I found on the internet with an advertisement. For practical reasons (waiting for the rental agreement) the possible roommate proposed me to move in as a guest ...
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How to talk to someone about work after their significant other passed away

I recently moved into a shared home where my landlord is one of the roommates. Shortly after her husband passed away. Understandably she’s been upset and stressed. Also I was told it was the husband ...
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How to deal with someone who belittles you in social situations

I've been living with my housemate for just over 3 years (June was the 3 year mark). She's female and I'm male. We haven't had any issues living together up until her and her boyfriend broke up in ...
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Letting roommates know I put up with them more than they put up with me

I recently moved into a new apartment with 2 other roommates. Both of them are around 4-5 years elder to me, if not more. They do treat me as a younger colleague. I would have expected that this ...
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How to negotiate with landlady in a shared home who flat out says “no”?

I moved into a shared home with roommates. The landlady and her husband are two of the roommates. I've been having issues with storage space. Today she was cleaning up and she was about to throw out (...
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Roommate Upset I Woke Him Up [closed]

I encountered a strange situation with my roommate and I'm not sure if I'm the problem and need to change, or if he is just being unreasonable. The context is this: We are living in a house which ...
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How to tell my roommates that I want to move out ASAP when they say they rely on my rent?

I recently graduated from college, out of state from my hometown, and got a job here. A friend of mine and her husband offered to let me stay with them for very little rent until I could find a place ...
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How to get across to flatmates the reason behind not wanting to live with them again?

Some Background I am a 21 year old female, House mates ages: Alice is 21, Beth is 20 and Katie is 19, Obviously, the flatmates names have been changed to protect their anonymity We lived in a student ...
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How to answer why I didn't join a party, I was not invited to?

I'm living in a flat with another guy. We are both in our mid 20s. He recently invited a few people over. While I know, that I could always join, I didn't feel comfortable doing so without getting ...
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Getting yelled at by (adult) roommate [closed]

I rent a room in a large shared house. There have been some problems (see all my other questions) but last night I felt a line was crossed into disrespectful. Two weeks ago I heard music coming from ...
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How to politely renege on an offer for a room?

A bit of background: I recently responded to an online ad for a room in a shared home in a city close to me. The poster and I spoke back and forth a bit, and I ended up taking a look at the house. ...
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How can I tell my roommates I don't want to live with them anymore

I currently live with 3 roommates. Two of them joined last year and the other one has lived with me for 4 years. The problem is that I don't feel really comfortable living with them anymore and I want ...
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How should I ask a roommate who's planning to move out before their lease is up to continue paying their portion of the utilities?

I have two roommates, both of whom are moving out this month, though our lease is up at the end of July. We split the rent/utilities three ways, and Roommate A, without being asked, told me he'd ...
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Asking landlord to stop letting himself in the house

I live in a large house shared with several other roommates. The landlord has been letting himself in, often without a clear reason. This is illegal where I live. Sometimes I do not see him myself, ...
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Bringing up concerns when it's hard to address them in the moment

Background info: I live in a large shared house (more than 10 people). Honestly I would like to move but given my lease we're stuck together for a few more months. The company that rents the house ...
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How to ask roommates not to use so much of common spaces for personal meetings

I live in a large shared house with with several roommates. The company that owns the house tries to rent it out to international people (however I am not international myself). Many people I live ...
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How do I tell my roommate that I feel treated unfairly by their SO?

I have a roommate I allowed to sublet with me. I have allowed their SO to move in with them. Currently I'm not receiving rent from the roommate, and that's an entirely different problem of my own ...
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How to ask if people are gambling for “real money” with leaving possibility not to join?

I don't normally gamble. On the rare occasion, if asked by a group of friends, I may consider it if it's not for much money. (for example it's possible everyone is given chips for free and return them ...
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How to explain my friend that my gaming is not interfering with my life and I enjoy it?

Context I'm 26, born and since living in Barcelona, I share house with 2 other guys, lets call them Bob and John. Bob is my best friend since 7 years ago and John is a friend I knew 2 years ago ...
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How to get housemates to be quieter when video-chatting?

I live in a large shared house with international people. I noticed it’s natural to speak a bit louder than a normal voice when video-chatting (because the microphone isn’t right beside your face). I ...
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How to get roommates to speak same language

I live in a large shared house. I had to move out of my old home on short notice and as such my new one isn't really a good fit but I'm trying to make the best of it until I leave. The house is rented ...
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How to establish boundaries with a roommate without confrontation?

For some context - this is my first semester in college where I'm having a roommate, and there have been several complications. It's off-campus housing and we don't attend the same university. My ...
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Very moody gf not helping in household

My GF and I split the cost of our rent with the promise that she pays less and does the household instead. She only works 80%, I do 100%, thus we decided that I pay 60% and she 40% of the rent and she ...
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How to convey interest while someone tries to engage me in small talk?

My problem When I discuss things with people, I rarely bounce on what they say until something hits me because I just don't know what to say. I listen to them carefully, but since I'm not answering I ...
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How to let someone know he hurt me without spreading negative feelings

I am living in a flat with 3 other persons, 2 females and 1 male. I am a 25 year old male too. I have some romantic feelings for one of the female flatmates, Alice, but we have never spoken about it ...
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How to tactfully ask a housemate to leave

Background: Me and my fiancée have been living together for three years, two in our actual residence. Half a year ago we invited a friend of mine, who was coming to the city we live in to study, to ...
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How do I tell a roommate I'm not renewing his lease?

I'm currently renting a house and am subleasing rooms to three other people. I had signed a lease with the property owner, while the other tenants signed individual leases with me. One of the ...