Questions tagged [rudeness]

For questions where rudeness is pertinent to any party of an encounter. The questioners own rudeness or the questioner being subject to someone else's rudeness or the questioner observing someone being rude to a third party. For question regarding how to be polite, use the "politeness" tag.

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How can I politely tell someone I won't do my job for free?

I am a relatively open individual who is shy (for lack of a better word) around new people. One of my coworkers has a business and is asking for my help as a financial analyst outside of work, and ...
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How do I respond when an acquaintance asks if I'm smart?

I recently graduated college and I am now working as a programmer at a startup tech company for a year. I'm a competent programmer, but I'm definitely not a rock-star. When I'm meeting other young ...
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How to helpfully react to a male coworker's sexual comment about a woman

I'm a 29 year old male. Sometimes find myself in a situation with a male coworker who I've just met, or a male stranger who I'm talking with (at a bus stop, for example), and they make a comment about ...
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How to tell someone that they are eating with their mouth open?

I'm from France and I've been educated with "eating manners" I consider "normal" (chew with your mouth closed, don't put your elbows on the table, wait until everyone is served before starting to eat.....
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Is it rude to drive at the speed limit on dangerous roads when another driver wants to go faster? [closed]

Each day, I drive through a heavily wooded area in a nature reservation (in the United States). The roads have many twists, turns and hills, and the speed limit is 25 miles per hour. Cars going much ...
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How to explain to coworkers that being vegan does not mean I know everything about it?

The other day, I was in a company meal with ~20 coworkers and someone offered me wine before adding: "At least you know this is vegan." (because I'm vegan). I don't like alcohol so I politely refused ...
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How to approach my spouse about their weight gain?

My spouse is and has always been quite overweight. From the beginning it was no problem for me, I just don't mind. Yet, since we've been living together, my spouse somehow put on a lot of weight (...
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How do I politely end a cold call I've received?

I've kept my phone numbers out of the public domain now, as I really do not like being cold called by businesses or charities. I have found that I used to try and be polite, but then the person ...
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How to stop constantly correcting everyone and everything?

I'm 23. All of my life, I've had a strange need to correct things. It doesn't matter how pointless, mundane, or unimportant something is; I need to correct it. And this isn't a simple habit. If I ...
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Is it rude to answer someone's question before they finish the question?

Some people can be a bit predictable and longwinded and it's very easy to guess what they will say, it's like playing chess and guessing a few moves ahead. It happens often that a person only ...
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Is it rude to ask if a pregnancy was planned? [closed]

When someone tells you that they (or their partner) are pregnant, is it rude or impolite to ask if the pregnancy was planned? I imagine it depends on how close one is to the couple or one of the (...
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How to respond to a joke insult that was unintentionally really offensive?

As friends you often throw (what you believe to be) harmless insults at each other, nothing meant to hurt each other's feelings just something to get a laugh out of each other. Typically when my ...
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How to get a close relative to stop disrespecting LGBT people in random conversations without starting any argument/fight?

I have a close immediate relative who has a habit of making derogatory/sarcastic/rude remark about LGBT people. He doesn't say this to their face but behind their back or makes remarks about LGBT ...
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How to communicate to someone at work that they are overstepping boundaries

My manager at work will frequently ask personal questions that I feel are none of his business as my manager. The questions are of a very personal nature. Asking about my parents, or what I am doing ...
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How can I politely avoid answering questions on which university I attended?

Without evading the question (e.g. by abruptly changing to another topic) or directly refusing (e.g. 'Sorry, but I don't wish to answer.' or 'This is a personal question.') that would seem strange ...