Questions tagged [social-event]
For questions about issues that take place in a situation where there are many other people around, ranging from strangers to close friends.
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How to look after a partner at a party?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months and enjoy going to parties together. We both always have a great time and are comfortable doing things together and splitting off to do our own ...
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How to avoid awkwardness with an ex-acquaintance
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I have this acquaintance I have known for quite some time (approx. 2 years) over that time and he has grown to hate me. I have personally reached out to him to know what's wrong and he ...
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Who is expected to pay for birthday trip accommodations? [closed]
So I asked my friends to go to Vegas for my birthday, am I expected to pay for all of their rooms? It would be around 3 rooms I would have to pay for. I am the one planning it and I did invite them.
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How to get somebody's confirmation when they say "I'll check my schedule"?
I put together a lot of events among my friends, and so I invite a lot of people to things. One of the responses I get a lot when trying to invite people to things is "I'll check my schedule." This ...
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How to tell a colleague to lower down her Christmas spirit in office event organising?
I am part of a Fun committee in office and have the responsibility to organize the office events related to proceedings festivals. It's a secular company so we usually cover a variety of festivals - ...
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How can I reject volunteers that aren't a great fit for the job?
I am involved with a local SF con, and I will be running the Info Desk, which has been defunct for a few years. (Volunteer Desk guy would try to handle questions while doing everything else he did, ...
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Raising the stakes in a game without sounding eager or greedy
I was playing cards with some friends. The game was based on points, which we could use for bidding, hence winning or losing them. The game seemed to go well, until I had the impression that the ...
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How to try to find out who stole a valuable item in a social situation?
I was recently at a friend's birthday party and at one point in the event he told everyone that an electronic gadget was missing and that no one would leave until he found it.
It was an embarrassing ...
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How to respond to discussions about joint activities that never result in an invitation?
I don't know how to respond to something that is going on. I don't even know if I should respond.
My girlfriend's daughter's husband, let's call him Bill, and I often get paired at family gatherings. ...
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How can a poor and socially handicapped person socialize with wealthy people? [closed]
The question I want to ask is this:
Can you please provide effective ways or best practices on how an individual from one socio-economic background can train himself/herself as quickly as possible to ...
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How to politely ask someone to stop air-conducting
I regularly host chess evenings, where I and a couple of contemporaries gather to play chess. We listen to (mostly baroque) classical music. Recently, one of the group has started 'conducting' along ...
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How to stop friends giving me burnout at social events?
I care about my friends, and I believe it's mutual, but I've noticed a trend over the past couple of years.
Nowadays we generally tend to visit each other's homes rather than go out to bars or ...
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How to jump into a group which is standing in a circle? [duplicate]
OK, so I just moved to a new town, and I want to make some friends.
I am Christian, so I expect that I should be able to just jump into a church and meet all kinds of people there. After church ...
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Explaining to my boss that I didn't attend a company social event due to tiredness issues
TL;DR: I didn't participate in the Christmas work meal, how to say that it was because I have tiredness issues without sounding like a bad recruit?
I'm newly hired in a company and I'm still on ...
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What should one do when occasionally meeting an acquaintance of theirs with other people being with any of you, potentially unfamiliar with others? [closed]
If you stumble upon an acquaintance, then it is normal for you to have a short conversation, or perhaps even spontaneously plan to do something together right away. But if there are people with you ...
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How to explain that I rather do something else than go to a social event?
I hate all forms of social gatherings (Parties, Weddings/Receptions, etc).
A perfect day for me would be to avoid all human contact (unless it's absolutely necessary, for example, your life is in ...
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How do I tell my aunt that I need some time off?
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I'm someone that isn't really social and social gatherings tend to be very tiring for me (this is at least partially due to the fact that I'm on the autism spectrum).
I have noticed that ...
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When trying to break into a new social group, how can I gently dissuade someone in the group from isolating me and asking me question after question?
I went on a social outing to a pub. I signed up to this social outing because it was in my area and I thought it would be fun and maybe I could make some friends. This person messaged me through the ...
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How to get over anxiety for an upcoming Christmas lunch at work? [closed]
Long story short, I have anxiety when in groups of large people, unless I know them all very well. Each year everyone at my work (about 20 people in total) goes to an office Christmas lunch. This is ...
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How can I work with my family to respect my boundaries when it comes to event planning when my husband is in town?
I'm in a long distance marriage right now - my husband is American, I am Canadian. He comes to visit me periodically (and I him), and when we do visits here, my family is very insistent that we do ...
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How to tell people that you will not go to their party without them taking it personally?
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Being around people is tiring for me (the more people, the worse it is, especially if I don't know them well). It also often causes me anxiety. When I'm really too tired, I just want to ...
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Dealing with small crimes as a volunteer
Every now and then I volunteer for an association, organizing big role play events in my country (by big I mean several days with between several hundred people, so nothing at the national scale, but ...
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How can I decline an invitation and then go without them?
In 2016 I went to a comic con with a group of online friends, of which a couple of streamers with a decent sized community. F is in this community but nobody really speaks to him outside from what he ...
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How to inform guests when you don't have enough food for everyone? [closed]
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I volunteer as an apartment group leader at my apartment complex. Every Monday, I'm in charge of organizing an activity (up to $20) for my fellow roommates and neighbors.
Recently, we had ...
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How to be a good host of a party? [closed]
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I have decided to make a barbecue and invite my closest friends, my childhood friends and college friends, about twelve people in total. I would like to talk and have fun with all of them ...
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How to "Read a room" and quickly perform an assessment of the mood, group dynamics or tension?
During a course on interpersonal skills, we did several exercises to help us assess our own abilities. I realised that while I do fine with assessing mood, reaction and engagement in one-on-one ...
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Politely rejecting unwanted attention at a nightclub.
I am in a happy relationship, so when I go to a nightclub with friend(s) I am not looking to pick anyone up, or dance with anyone other than the people/person I came out with.
When I go out to a ...
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How can I question someone without being offensive?
I joined some friends one night for a dance social. After the lights came on and the social was closing up, I was put in charge of making sure one of my friends made it home safely since he'd been ...
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How do I answer a question about not enjoying a party without revealing sensitive information?
I don't go to parties often; in fact, I actively avoid them as much as humanly possible. Still, sometimes social obligations get the better of me and I begrudgingly attend.
Most of the times I get ...
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How avoid a question about women being loyal housewives?
I was in a country in Eastern Europe. I went to a practice-public-speaking event, as a visitor (to see if I wanted to join the group). After the event, all of us went to a small restaurant close to ...
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How can I address a man talking inappropriately about women? [duplicate]
Source is this twitter thread: https://twitter.com/MalwareJake/status/976848126987374593
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She said that the guy who appeared to be the unofficial group leader started talking about one of ...
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How can I politely end a conversation started at a nightclub?
How can I politely end a conversation with a stranger whom I don't want to speak to? Particularly one that seems to interested in sparking some romance?
This happened to me last weekend and it's ...
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Comforting a friend who misses a social event for medical reasons
TL;DR I organize a social event within a group of friends. One of them cannot come for medical reasons. Can I do anything to comfort him?
We are a group of about 30 people aged 19--40 who got to know ...
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How do I ask why they think I was being creepy?
I don't have the best social awareness, though I try to compensate, so occasionally after a party, or just time around people, a friend will message me to let me know that I was coming off creepy ...
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How can I tell my aunt that I won't be 'Santa' next year
My family has a very large Christmas get-together every year in which there is a tradition where one of the cousins (aged 20-30) will dress up as Santa (Edit: "Santa" for this is very gender neutral - ...
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How to tactfully give someone a chance to leave without compromising the conversation
At social events I have found I am some-what guilty of getting into in depth discussions that may occasionally drag the other person/s away from the main group. Most of the time this is fine, based ...
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How do I tell my guests that I need time alone?
My husband and I live alone and are very introverted. We have very little social interaction apart from each other and often will go days without talking to anyone else because we work from home.
As ...
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How best to conduct myself if bringing my significant other to a party where they do not know anyone?
If I am bringing my significant other (SO) to a party where they do not know anyone, and also, the people in attendance all have something in common and are gathering for a common reason - in this ...
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How to join in when people are gossiping?
I have been struggling with this for quite a while now. Sometimes, I have to interact with people whom I did not choose as friends (read: family and neighbors). After the last event (a neighborhood ...
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How to deal with a casino night-out [closed]
My friends and I are planning to go on a casino night-out.
We are generally ok with gambling; we have no gambling addictions and we just have fun when we win and, why not, slightly make fun of ...
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Can I give flowers to a feminist as a present for hosting a party? [closed]
My wife and I are going to a social event to the house of a (not so close but still) friend who is a self-declared and active feminist (e.g. she blogs about it). For such social events, we normally ...
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How to avoid an embarrassing story from past on reunion?
This question came to my mind when yesterday my students were telling their 4-years stories and there were some very embarrassing ones from early semesters and still got the "victims" hiding their ...
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How can I politely ask my audience to not use their cellphones when I am giving a talk?
As a scientific researcher, I occasionally find myself giving scientific talks in the conferences, universities, and colleges. I try to make my talk as entertaining and understandable as possible so ...
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How to enter a group conversation with relative strangers?
Imagine you're at a party or a networking event, or something along those lines. You're confronted with a large room full of people all talking in small groups. You know nobody or next to nobody here.
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What is the most respectful way to respond when invited into a prayer circle or other religious activity I don't believe in?
I live in a part of the United States where Christians are a strong majority.
I frequently find myself in social situations that involve everyone being asked to join in prayer. I'm not religious, ...
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Dealing with somebody who's ignoring my very existence
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I have a group of friends, and we've known each other for about 7 years now. We once all were colleagues. One of these friends, Alice, has an autism spectrum disorder. This friend got ...
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How to survive as a notter where it is not the norm?
I am a serial and consistent "notter"¹: I do not drink (alcohol or coffee), smoke, do any form of drugs, I'm a vegetarian, etc.
All of these things have been consistent for me for a decade or more.
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What should I do to appear less 'creepy' to people?
I'm a 21-year-old black male who is 5ft 4in (165cm).
With my stature described, my physique appears relatively 'soft' compared to the average adult, however, I think my personality or behavior along ...
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How to arrange house parties with limited social group and people keep backing out?
I'm not the most social of people, but I have a small number of friends and acquaintances. I've been wanting to hold parties at my house for some time, I have a wood-fired oven and would love to make ...
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How to approach a strategy game against a 5-10 year old child you don't know?
I saw a related question on Parenting, but this one is different, since it's a) about older children and b) not your own child.
Disclaimer: This is based on the experience of a friend - I will call ...
