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Questions tagged [socializing]

For questions about socially mixing up with others, or make someone behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.

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How do I deal with this kid who is really creeping me out in class? [on hold]

For reference, I am a 17 y/o male in my Junior year of HS. So there's a kid in my class, not sure the age but I know he's a Junior (looks like a Freshman though), let's call him Andrew. Andrew ...
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How can one recover from a bad joke?

We've all been there. You tell a joke and it just lands flat. It just wasn't funny. (Maybe no one got it, but that doesn't matter anymore.) Now you are in a socially awkward position and conversation ...
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How to talk to people at a singles mixer when you are an introvert? [closed]

I am going to a singles mixer in a few days. I'm an introvert and find it hard to make small talk with people I don't know. How do I make the most of a singles mixer (that is, meet people and have ...
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How can a poor and socially handicapped person socialize with wealthy people? [closed]

The question I want to ask is this: Can you please provide effective ways or best practices on how an individual from one socio-economic background can train himself/herself as quickly as possible to ...
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How to proactively include myself in extrinsic ethnic family?

Background I come from a mixed heritage; half is white and the other half is Latin-American (I’ll refer to now as ‘ethnic’). I’ve grown up mainly around my white side of the family and only on rare ...
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Dealing with language barrier in social gatherings

I moved to a new country last year for the end of my studies. The local language is English, which I can read, write, speak and understand without too much effort... at work. I have absolutely no ...
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Where do adults make friends outside of work? [closed]

Outside of work it seems like some adults have no social life. Can someone tell me where and how adults make friends outside of their work place?
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How to incorporate unannounced visits [closed]

The age of the doorbell appear to be over. Even phone calls seem odd if not planned. A recent interview made this clear to me. I really enjoy the idea of “just stopping by”. How can I do this in today’...
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How to compliment a woman’s makeup?

Situation: Yesterday I was instructed to go to a small conference several of my colleagues were attending. It was short in duration and gave everyone the opportunity to socialize a bit after it was ...
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Difficult friend refuses to compromise regarding social outings [closed]

I have a pair of friends who I like to hang out with a great deal. We like to go out once a week. However, one of these friends refuses to go to any bar more than a few miles from his house. I end up ...
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Answering “how did you make this dish” questions

I love cooking. I especially enjoy making complex dishes that require days of preparation and hours over the stove. Nothing that requires a Michelin Star chef, but it does require time, patience and ...
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How to tell a friend that she is too loud when she speaks without offending?

My partner and I hang out with another couple. We share many interests, have children of the same age, and are fairly compatible in many aspects. So all is fine for spending several hours together ...
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How to ask a girl from my class to invite me also for next party?

I’m asking this because today a girl, whom I like her very much, invited some of my classmates to a Halloween party, but not me. I wished for long time to go to a party, because I never been to one ...
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How to deal with someone attempting to “push buttons” and pick fights during casual social gatherings?

So the context of this question is as follows: I attended a friend’s art opening a week or so ago. It was a pleasant, low key affair and a few of the people in attendance tangentially were connected ...
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How to get a friend with Asperger's to engage in more of a mutual conversation

So I've known this girl as a stranger for years and this past week we actually interacted and chatted for an hour. She told me a lot about herself, and expressed interest in hanging out the next time ...
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How do I appear more friendly when I have a fierce-looking face?

I was born with a naturally fierce-looking face. Piercing blue eyes, heavy brow, downturned mouth. All due to my genetics. In addition, I tend to scowl when I'm worried or thinking deeply. I can ...
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Is it OK to engage in strangers' conversation during a break in a lecture?

I was recently on an public meeting with 2 famous journalists. As it's usual, firstly there was an organized discussion lead by the host, after which there was a space for questions from the audience. ...
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How can I (an introvert) convey to extroverts that I need time to rest/recover after talking?

I'm a really introverted person and conversations can quickly feel quite exhausting and mentally draining for me. Of course I like to have a social life and enjoy it to have nice chitchats with ...
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How to address fallout from my meltdowns and to avoid ruining social relationships

The problem While I am a very high functioning autistic and can act "normal" most of the time. Most people don't know I have autism, esp at work or other controlled situations so it's not a problem ...
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How do I make it known to a group of friends that I need a little more patience to communicate with?

I am the kind of person that is quiet until I feel welcomed in a group of people, and even then, I still am relatively quiet until spoken to. Important information to consider: I am deaf with ...
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How can I handle a co-worker awkwardly forcing herself into conversations?

Background: I've recently started working on a new project, in a team of around 10 people. I'm the only female on that team, but the guys are awesome and it's a great, fun group of people to work ...
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How should I approach a situation were I said something wrong and somebody else reported it? [closed]

I'll clarify my question right away: I'm 20, from France. While drunk at a party organized at a friend's house, I was with 4 friends in a room when somebody joked about a girl I brought: "Hey, you ...
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How to let acquaintances know I'm not interested in them romantically

I am new in the town and I am currently looking for a new job, so I am trying to meet as many people as possible. I attend different business and hobby networks and meet people there. Sometimes after ...
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Frequently rebuffed when trying to initiate or join a conversation [closed]

I moved to Germany about six months ago to take on a new job. Being new here, I've been trying to socialise and build up some new friendships. A recurring pattern when I attempt to join in a ...
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How to tell employees that I don't mean my insults seriously?

I am the manager of a small team of programmers. I usually have a hands-on approach. I tell, they do. Often there are problems and I have to fix things they can't handle or I have to tell the higher-...
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How can I tell my friend to stop telling me so many details on a subject?

I have a friend, "Alice"- I've been friends with her for over 12 years. Met in middle school, still friends as adults. We're both kind of socially awkward and quirky. What happens a lot is that she ...
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Parents found out I'd bought herbal cigarettes. How could I have parents regain trust in me? [closed]

This is my first post. I'm new here, so tell me if I make a mistake. I'll be happy to follow. Here goes. So I'd tried buying these things called herbal cigarettes online. My parents didn't know. I ...
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How do I tell my friends that I want to be included in activities beyond our gaming sessions without alienating them?

I'm approaching a social situation now where I'm straddling the line of authority figure and friend, and while I think I have a plan set to address this, I'd like some input from others, get some ...
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How to be a good host of a party? [closed]

Background I have decided to make a barbecue and invite my closest friends, my childhood friends and college friends, about twelve people in total. I would like to talk and have fun with all of them ...
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How do I avoid giving off “creepy” vibes in a group exercise class?

I'm a male in my mid 20s. Over the past year, I've started working out to try and get in better shape (I've always been overweight), and discovered that I love group exercise classes. I've found ...
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How to deal with situations where Asian girls don't like me (Asian male) but want to talk with White guy I'm with?

I'm an East Asian guy living in East Asia (multiple countries), and sometimes when I'm with a white guy, lets' call him Bob, for example in a cafe, canteen, or even on the street, a few girls approach ...
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How to handle a partner trying to control whom I follow on instagram?

So this is the age-old situation with a modern take on it, my girlfriend is asking me to stop following certain girls on instagram. It just happened like this and I'm scared this becomes a slippery ...
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How to know whether or not to say hi to someone? [closed]

So Im a pretty introverted person, but when I moved out to study about a year ago I initially met a lot of new people. Mostly at parties and other social events arranged for students to get to know ...
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How do you greet people you barely know?

I often find myself in situations, where I'd love to greet someone that I barely know. For example: when I'm doing my workout routine in the gym, I see a person that I once helped to e.g. lift ...
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How can I say I want to be left alone without having to explain myself or lie about it?

In all my jobs so far I have had coworkers who spent their lunch breaks together. At my current job there are a lot of restaurants close and everyone goes there during their break. I'm a very ...
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Is using profanity only around some people considered two faced? [closed]

From my perspective, profanity "is what it is", I don't use it frequently but I have no real issue with it. Though, I do understand that some people do have issue with profanity. Because of this, ...
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How to “Read a room” and quickly perform an assessment of the mood, group dynamics or tension?

During a course on interpersonal skills, we did several exercises to help us assess our own abilities. I realised that while I do fine with assessing mood, reaction and engagement in one-on-one ...
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Appropriate response when someone announces pregnancy?

When someone tells me that they or their partner are pregnant, my typical response is "Congratulations!" But I have found out that this remark is not always appropriate- notably when the pregnancy is ...
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How to politely inform others that I don't drink?

I don't have a "good reason" for not drinking.I'm not religious, I don't have medical issues, a few family members are alcoholics but most of them don't abuse alcohol, I'm not conscious about what I ...
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How do I talk to my friend without offending her?

I have a friend that I don’t know too much about, despite being friends for a while. I don’t have too many friends around where I am because I am very introverted, so usually people will come to me ...
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Co-worker is too aggressively trying to make friends

We have a new colleague. He comes from another region (same country: Germany) and is rather outgoing: He talks a lot (sometimes too much), is generally very friendly and is rather cheerful. He moved ...
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How to say hello without asking “how are you going?”

I try to say what I mean, and mean what I say. Sometimes I just want to say "Hi" or "Hello" without asking the person how they are going. I like to ask how they are or how they are going only when I ...
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How do I approach maintaining a friendship with someone I used to date, who now has a significant other?

Background: I'm a single 20-something man living in a major city who is actively dating. I met a woman about 5-6 months ago on a dating website, let's call her Alice. Alice and I hit things off ...
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Are there any ways to avoid unwanted approaches when not wearing a wedding ring?

I am happily married man and have no interest in engaging in a relationship outside of it. I have heard that wearing a wedding ring alerts women to the fact that I'm married and not looking for ...
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How do I politely indicate that I want to go home?

Situation: I hang out with A for a while. Having lunch together, shopping for a bit. I now feel tired and I want to go home. I don't dislike the person and I don't want to give them the impression I ...
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How to reinitiate conversations online with stranger taking long to answer my mail

Initial question For my first work, I recently moved from the town I studied in. As I currently don't know many people of my age in my new town, I joined a group on a social network where new ...
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How can I transition a conversation about Taylor ham, with a girl, into other topics [closed]

Background: I recently met a girl in Manhattan, near where I live. As I got to know her - we both happened to be getting late night food at the same place - she taught me about something called "...
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Socializing at workplace [closed]

I am a kind of a reserved person who minds her own business at the office. I do not socialize much at the workplace and feel it awkward to talk about the daily soaps or interfere in one's personal ...
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How do I answer a question about not enjoying a party without revealing sensitive information

I don't go to parties often, in fact I actively avoid it as much as humanly possible. Still, sometimes social obligations get the better of me and I begrudgingly attend. Most of the times then I'll ...
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How can I help a close person that is toxic seek professional help?

The person I'm talking about is my own mother. She has depression and she's seeing a doctor. It is a little rough talking about your own kind like this, but as rough as it is, it's the truth. My ...