Questions tagged [socializing]
For questions about socially mixing up with others, or make someone behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
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How to ask a girl from my class to invite me also for next party?
I’m asking this because today a girl, whom I like her very much, invited some of my classmates to a Halloween party, but not me.
I wished for long time to go to a party, because I never been to one ...
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How can I do mirroring online, similar to my mirroring in person?
TLDR: I'd like to be able to use mirroring online, similar to how I do this in person, and change my communication style online so that it will be more well-received by people, and be more similar to ...
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How to tell employees that I don't mean my insults seriously?
I am the manager of a small team of programmers. I usually have a hands-on approach. I tell, they do. Often there are problems and I have to fix things they can't handle or I have to tell the higher-...
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How do I answer a question about not enjoying a party without revealing sensitive information?
I don't go to parties often; in fact, I actively avoid them as much as humanly possible. Still, sometimes social obligations get the better of me and I begrudgingly attend.
Most of the times I get ...
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How to tell a friend that she is too loud when she speaks without offending?
My partner and I hang out with another couple. We share many interests, have children of the same age, and are fairly compatible in many aspects. So all is fine for spending several hours together ...
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How do I lovingly end conversations without being rude?
I get overwhelmed with social interaction very quickly and can only handle so much at a certain time. Is there a socially appropriate way to initiate a conversation with a time limit?
When I'm ...
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How to handle a partner trying to control whom I follow on instagram?
So this is the age-old situation with a modern take on it, my girlfriend is asking me to stop following certain girls on instagram. It just happened like this and I'm scared this becomes a slippery ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?
Many people who contact me on WhatsApp send me (too) many messages. Most of those messages are pointless, some are useful and few are important. I usually make it a point to reply to the important ...
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What can I do when classmates don’t stop recording me after I ask them to stop?
I’m 18 years old in grade 11 in a high school in Bucharest.
Some of my classmates wanted to make photos and videos of me and I hate that. I tried to tell them “enough!!” but they don’t listen.
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How to contact a girl classmate, being a boy, whose number I got from her school friend? [closed]
I am a 15-year-old schoolboy. This year a new girl took admission in my class.
More than often, in the beginning, I saw her staring at me. Sometimes even I gave a look to her. This happened for many ...
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How to handle seemingly friendly questions from stranger in social situation that ask you where you work etc?
Background : you are at a bar or some similar social place, where people gather and meet, and someone has struck up a friendly conversation with you, talking about the game playing on TV, etc, and ...
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How to support a friend with an 'insignificant' problem?
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So the story is that I've been through stuff in my life, good and bad, a lot of bad. Sometimes I'm bitter and jealous of people who in my opinion have an easier life.
During a discussion ...
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What concept was my teacher trying to explain when someone might not answer my question unless I answered the same to them?
When I was eleven years old, my speech language pathologist and I did a role-play session where they'd be the other student, and I'd be asking them something like this:
Me: Hi, what's your name?
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How to get a friend to stop acting like a therapist?
I suffer from Bipolar Disorder. I suffered from a depressive episode last year. A friend of mine feels I'm too negative. He constantly prods me in social situations -- "What's going good Bob?&...
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In group discussions, how should I deal with a person who frequently participates in the discussion with incoherent comments?
Context: I'm a student who is in a philosophical discussion group which meets weekly and discusses readings and thoughts about a particular topic. It's hosted by an organization so I don't have ...
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How to encourage conversations beyond small talk with close friends
I had 2 friends in high school, and we were quite close. Then college life started, and we went to different colleges. One of them went to a college out of state. And so there was no physical contact ...
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How do I recover from my social awkwardness being pointed out?
I am shy, introverted, and have social anxiety, so chatting with people I don't know is usually very uncomfortable. I've gotten better at it, but it's still a struggle. On a few occasions it's been ...
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How do you greet people you barely know?
I often find myself in situations, where I'd love to greet someone that I barely know. For example: when I'm doing my workout routine in the gym, I see a person that I once helped to e.g. lift ...
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How can I be left alone during the work day without looking awkward or offensive?
I am not a total introvert, as I am very social and stuff but when I am working during breaks or on transportation I want to be like an introvert. I guess there is a word for that which is ambivert. ...
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Why do (half-)strangers say "I'm sure you'll love it" when they don't know my interests?
Sometimes a complete stranger, or someone I've only known very recently, will recommend something to me, saying: I'm sure you'll love it!
Why would they say that? They can hope, and perhaps expect ...
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How do I become more sociable with someone I've only spoken to over text? [closed]
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I've been talking to this girl a lot over text and she's really nice, however we are hanging out soon in person and I need advice about how to maintain the type of communication we have over ...
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How to get over nervousness and prepare for meeting significant other's parents?
I am the kind of person that is a little shy/awkward when first meeting people, but get better over time, the longer I have to warm up to them. The problem is that this initial nervousness is quite a ...
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How can I deal with a large age gap between me and coworkers?
How can one handle age discrepancy between a local clique and self?
For background, this is well pre-COVID-19 situation, so it does not include the pandemic as a factor.
Around two years ago, I worked ...
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How can I convincingly communicate to a friend that I don't have a 'personal' mobile number?
I dislike telephone communication in general, compared to face-to-face interactions. I am not interested in communicating with anybody with mobile phone, for socialising or professional purposes. I ...
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How to tell (presumably) straight men who are flirting with me that I'm male, but GNC without "miseducating" them?
CW: potential transphobia
I'm a cisgender bi male, but I identify as broadly speaking gender non-conforming (GNC) and often dress in more effeminate men's or often outright femme-presenting outfits. I ...
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I accidentally mentioned my hourly salary to my hairdresser, is that bad? [closed]
During small talk with my hairdresser I was talking about an upcoming job interview (which was the reason I went to the hairdresser), and then I accidentally mentioned what I was going to earn per ...
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How to let acquaintances know I'm not interested in them romantically
I am new in the town and I am currently looking for a new job, so I am trying to meet as many people as possible. I attend different business and hobby networks and meet people there.
Sometimes after ...
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How to appear less insensitive when texting with women I would like to date?
I am a male student who has been an introvert almost my entire life, and not having many female friends. Currently, I’m in college and due to the nature of my course, I did not have the chance to meet ...
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Is it appropriate to ask "when do you sleep normally" to a new friend? [closed]
A and B are from America and new friends to each other. They met in an online chat room in the evening and talked for a while. B worried about it's a little late and asked
when do you sleep ...
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How to tell other video game players it's not okay to ask for certain items repeatedly?
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In a certain video game, people can trigger a certain event, using items they have to work for to get (It is considered a moderate deal to get the items.) The event is wanted by all people,...
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How to determine if someone is busy or just doesn't want to spend time with me?
A friend of mine, Tim, is often busy. I've been trying to make plans with him to go out for drinks, but he seems to be busy every time I make this offer. This happens fairly often so I have a slight ...
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How can I relax and stay natural around other people?
Usually, when I am by myself, I am a very calm and peaceful person. I can easily just be where I am and enjoy what is happening, maybe the sun shining, the air being especially clear or my room just ...
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Figuring out interesting questions in friendly or romantic conversations
How can I figure out which questions are interesting and will be pleasant for the person to whom they are addressed to answer?
I am a person who has an extreme problem conveying what he wants to ...
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How to Resolve Underlying Tension with my Best Friend
I have a friend, that we'll call Alex, who I've been friends with for years. He's a good guy and our relationship is generally pretty good, but over the past few years there's been a kind of ...
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Is it rude to ask someone where they are from originally? [closed]
Introduction
This question is different from this excellent one, since it is not about tourists. The differences will become clear later on, I hope.
I will, as usual, use fake names (Alice and Eve ...
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How to handle someone making a scene in public?
So I've run into this now and then when there might be
a disagreement with girlfriend or ex
political issues with some friends
The other person flares up in a public or just crowded place and ...
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How can I (an introvert) convey to extroverts that I need time to rest/recover after talking?
I'm a really introverted person and conversations can quickly feel quite exhausting and mentally draining for me. Of course I like to have a social life and enjoy it to have nice chitchats with ...
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How can I keep acquaintances interested in my work without spending too much time
I am a music and video producer half of my time, not an hobby though, since I am released, make a bit of money, and have my work reviewed in online and paper magazines.
The thing however is that ...
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How to socialize at pubs/bars when you are alone?
Near my town there's a nice pub which is the only place in a big radius which offers live rock, metal and acoustic music (other venues offers DJs which puts reggaeton, hip hop, trap and EDM) and a ...
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How do I interact with a person at a bare minimum level without seeming excessively rude?
How do I interact with a person at a bare minimum level without seeming excessively rude?
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I had an incident a couple months ago where a friend of mine told me that a person Yanny from our ...
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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?
I will sometimes ask a friend how their day was or another question via chat message. Sometimes the message will be marked as read but then they don't respond for a few day or even longer (6 months). ...
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How to find friends as a programmer (teenager)? [closed]
First, I want to apologize if I'm posting this in the wrong site, but I hope this is the right one.
My question "how to find friends" might be very unclear at the beginning, but it's very common in ...
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Mansplaining in an academic context [closed]
I am a math grad student, who was recently accused of mansplaining by a female grad student. As I tend to be left leaning, this caught me by surprise. This question is an attempt to perhaps learn more ...
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Appropriate response when someone announces pregnancy?
When someone tells me that they or their partner are pregnant, my typical response is "Congratulations!"
But I have found out that this remark is not always appropriate- notably when the pregnancy is ...
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How do I approach maintaining a friendship with someone I used to date, who now has a significant other?
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I'm a single 20-something man living in a major city who is actively dating. I met a woman about 5-6 months ago on a dating website, let's call her Alice. Alice and I hit things off ...
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How to deal with coworkers making comments on my dietary/lifestyle choices
I work at an office where I'm the only vegan in the company and a I choose to eat a lot healthier than most people in the company.
People find it necessary to make comments about my lifestyle choice. ...
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How to refuse to shake hands without offending the other party?
TL;DR: I don't like to shake hands and I'm looking for suggestions about how to turn people down without seeming rude or stand-offish; or how to prevent a handshake gesture from being initiated at all....
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How to reapproach a girl that I liked when last conversation did not end well?
Today I talked to this girl that I liked for the 3rd time (the previous conversation ended fast and awkwardly). The conversation was going quite well (she likes dark chocolate!) until some of my idiot ...
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How can I help talk a close friend out of religiously radicalizing? [closed]
I have a close friend that I grew up with that has begun to show signs of radicalizing in his religion. I do not share this religion but we are close friends. He has many friends, very educated, a ...
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How to listen to music without looking antisocial?
A lot of people wear headphones or earbuds, often with no music playing, as a sign that they don't want to be bothered. But maybe I want to listen to music when in public, perhaps simply for the fact ...
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