Questions tagged [socializing]

For questions about socially mixing up with others, or make someone behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.

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How to respond when people mock a skill or talent they just found out you do/have?

I am a fairly high level, long time practicing martial artist. Generally when talking to people I don't know, if the subject comes up I get (almost invariably) one of two reactions from people that ...
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How to interact with a colleague if you understand only 5% of what he says?

I work in a big company, I have a colleague from another sector, who (I think) has some kind of problem in speaking. I really can't understand what he says and every time he talks to me, I just keep ...
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How to get over nervousness and prepare for meeting significant other's parents?

I am the kind of person that is a little shy/awkward when first meeting people, but get better over time, the longer I have to warm up to them. The problem is that this initial nervousness is quite a ...
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How to use book knowledge in casual conversation?

I'm an avid reader of non-fiction. Most books I read are very relevant to the real world (topics such as psychology, history, various religions, parenting, racial tensions in America, etc.) Quite a ...
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Should I pursue a friendship with a classmate or let it be?

I started talking to this guy in one of my classes, and he asked me out for a date a couple weeks ago. After that our communication sort of stalled, and I figured he wasn't interested anymore. But ...
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WhatsApp: read and not reply without sounding rude?

Many people who contact me on WhatsApp send me (too) many messages. Most of those messages are pointless, some are useful and few are important. I usually make it a point to reply to the important ...
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How to maintain friendships with women, while discouraging romantic feelings? [closed]

I have a recurring problem in my life. I try, but I can't have female friends. It is hard for me because I love to have conversations with them and I have problems with guys because they act like ...
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An old friend can't hold a conversation with me anymore, what do I do? [closed]

I've had a friend for a while now, 5 years to be precise, and we used to be able to talk for hours with each other. Getting specific, both of us at one point were huge video game fanatics. We would ...
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Inviting colleague from work to hang out outside office hours

Background: I started a new job about two months ago in a new city. I've been getting to know people decently, I suppose. There are a couple people whose company I really enjoy, though I don't know ...
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Is it rude to ask someone where they are from originally? [closed]

Introduction This question is different from this excellent one, since it is not about tourists. The differences will become clear later on, I hope. I will, as usual, use fake names (Alice and Eve ...
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Why do (half-)strangers say "I'm sure you'll love it" when they don't know my interests?

Sometimes a complete stranger, or someone I've only known very recently, will recommend something to me, saying: I'm sure you'll love it! Why would they say that? They can hope, and perhaps expect ...
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I build walls towards everyone, everything and want to overcome [closed]

I don't know why but with years I create more distance in my relationships. I have suffered from this situation a lot and that's why I am here for some advice. For example, I have a problem accepting ...
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How to have a casual conversation with new colleagues?

I've recently started working with a new company, and it's great. Every few months, they'll organise for everyone to meet-up in a pub after work for drinks. There's a meet-up coming soon which I'm ...
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What to do when a group conversation is not interesting?

Here's a little background on what type of people I'm dealing with: They're all in the same university that I go to. It's a faculty of engineering that has the most strict entrance exam in my country,...
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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?

I will sometimes ask a friend how their day was or another question via chat message. Sometimes the message will be marked as read but then they don't respond for a few day or even longer (6 months). ...
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Impact of the internet on people's high self-opinion?

I spend a fair amount of time perusing the internet blogs, twitter, etc. In general it feels that most people are very confident of the correctness of their view of reality, right, and wrong. This ...
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How can I gain an "acceptable" personal space talking with a "close talker"?

I'm frequently in a situation where the person I'm talking to stands so close to me that I feel their breath on my face when they are talking. For me, this is uncomfortable and I consider too close. ...
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How to create a mindset which promotes fluid and spontaneous talk

I often find myself having issues having "smalltalk" or talks which are not directly aiming for some kind of solution or end, but are rather for amusement and as a pastime. When talking with people, ...
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How do I recover from my social awkwardness being pointed out?

I am shy, introverted, and have social anxiety, so chatting with people I don't know is usually very uncomfortable. I've gotten better at it, but it's still a struggle. On a few occasions it's been ...
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What should I do to appear less 'creepy' to people?

I'm a 21-year-old black male who is 5ft 4in (165cm). With my stature described, my physique appears relatively 'soft' compared to the average adult, however, I think my personality or behavior along ...
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How to arrange neurodivergent vs. neurotypical social needs? [closed]

Around 8 months ago I met a friend who has a very similar perception as I have in regards to having autism and Asperger's. Since this friend was multiple years ahead therapy-wise, I learned a lot from ...
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Why don't people initiate conversations with me? [closed]

I don't really understand why no one actually initiates conversations with me, they always just seem to talk to someone else near me but not actually me. All of my friends start discussions with my ...
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It's my birthday! How do I tell people who don't know, who might want to know, without being awkward?

It's my birthday*! It's a rather important birthday. There are a lot of people who might want to know such a thing, because of social customs or friendliness or something. One of those things. ...
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When should I pay for dinner or drinks? [closed]

Too often I've been out with friends and one determines they should pay for the group. However, I've never actually done so. This usually happens when I'm out for a drink with one friend. When should ...

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