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Questions about trust with others, whether it has been betrayed, gained, or not given.

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Trust issues with male friend: how to make him understand I can't tell him about everything?

I have recently become close friends with a male classmate in my college. It started with simple straightforward discussions about academics. Then we have grown closer as friends and we daily exchange ...
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How to gain trust after failing to support my wife in a difficult moment

We have been married for 15 years without big issues, but lately things have started to change. I'm not good with interpersonal relationships (sometimes too cold. I'm aware that I lack empathy), while ...
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How to better explain to my wife that I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it was irrelevant?

Background: I try to avoid shopping while hungry as I make bad decisions but I wasn't expecting we'd be dropping by the store when my wife and I were out on a walk. She asked if I intended to share ...
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How to tell my friends to forget all our past conversations and trust me from now on?

I am 21 years of age and I've been a stupid teller of lies in my past. I've almost never lied in situations where it can be hurtful or destructive. I usually have had spun yarns about past life ...
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Helping friend with project, how to tell him I'm not comfortable using my info for registering something? [closed]

My friend wants to make a website and I would like to help him do this. He asked me what free hosting to use and I suggested one. Part of the registration process is to upload photo ID. My friend ...
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How to reveal you're not being your true self

A friend of mine got into a relationship after a long drought. Her partner is very sensitive and would react badly to many of her mannerisms - jokes, sarcasm and some ways of saying things that she ...
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What techniques are proven ways to fix an unbalance between levels of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust?

In my latest answer, I explained the concepts of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust: Intentions are more important than honesty for building benevolence-based trust. So, a pro-social ...
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Confront mentor on unwarranted remark

My meditation mentor is convinced that I do not practice at home, while, in truth, I do practice regularly. Her argument is that, in her eyes, I have not improved my attention span, nor my ...
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Non-tech savvy roommate thinks I hacked into his computer because when he scans wifi it shows my printer connected

My roommate is a bit paranoid about security and privacy. He’s also not very good with computers. He told me he got a message that his gmail account had been compromised, and recently his laptop has ...
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How can I rebuild trust with my girlfriend while still hanging out with a friend?

Background I have been with my girlfriend for 5,5 years by now. We love each other, it was a really great time, but not without downs of course. And one of that downs happened 8 months ago. I think I ...
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How to explain to someone that I'm not who I said I was?

Background I have an alternate personality. Not like a medical disability (though it could be argued that the paranoia that started this is a problem), but like a fake life story I use when I need to ...
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How can I talk to my boyfriend about how often he looks at girls online around me? [closed]

We have a relationship of five years, he before being with me was a promiscuous man however he had no serious relationship so let's say he had the freedom to be. In our relationship has not given me ...
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(ex)friend scammed me and is trying to discredit me in group of friends. How can I proactivley let them know what happened?

A close and old friend of mine said he knew someone who wanted to hire me to make a computer program. This "someone" provided me with fake id and never paid me. I eventually traced my stolen program ...
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Friend owes me money - not giving it back [closed]

I lend my friend about 95$. I considered him a relatively close friend. I've always been a little forgetful, so after I lend him the money, it took some time for me to contact him about the exact ...
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How to convince parents I'm trustworthy?

Right now, I'm a 15 year old student who lives in Australia. In the past I've had a history of not managing my time well, often slacking when I was supposed to study or finish my homework on my laptop....
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How to deny food in the pool as a lifeguard

For the summer when I was 16 I decided to work as a lifeguard since the pool was located close to my house and it was very convenient. I eventually got used to denying certain items such as tubes and ...
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Trust issues with live-in girlfriend

My girlfriend and I have shared an apartment together for several months now. We get along great for the most part, however, there are things about her past that I find concerning. Early on in our ...
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Dismissing a stranger asking for help without being dismissive of their possible situation?

For some background into the layout of where this situation takes place, my apartment complex has it's own dog park. Within a few hundred feet of the dog park is a large and spacious public park, ...
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Should I object to my best friend's wedding? [closed]

I'm the best man at my best friend's Floridian destination wedding. We've been friends since middle school, and in general, we can confide in each other just about anything. Over the course of the ...
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How can I politely ask my money back? [duplicate]

I lent some money to a friend two months ago, in order to help him start his own job. He asked me if I could give him 350€ to pay some workers that had done some wall painting at his place, and that ...
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Girl keep testing my commitment even when its been a year since we got together. How do I convince her?

I have been with this girl a year now. She is well behaved, caring and all. But every once in a while she try to test my commitment. For example she if I come up with some plans for weekends, she ...
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How to confront friend who won't give back borrowed money?

My friends and I decided to buy a birthday present for a person. This friend, let's call him Bob, couldn't come with us to buy the actual present, so he asked me if I could pay for him, assuring me ...
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How to convince people I'm not stealing their food?

I am living in UK university accommodation where everyone has their own room and about 8 or so of us share a kitchen. Over the course of the year food (including mine) was going missing and because ...
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Bringing up mental illness to dates?

I have bipolar disorder. It is under control, but I read that my children might inherit it and my medicines might affect unborn children. But, I'd like to get married and have children. After ...
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How can I make sure my friends keep secrets?

I told my friends some secrets today... I'm not sure I meant what I even said, as the secret was about a person I did not like very much, and it was rather unpleasant. My friends had asked me why I ...
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Confronting a friend about a betrayal of a confidence

I had, what I thought, was a close friend. I told her something in the strictest of confidence and made it clear that it was personal and not to be repeated and that I had told no one else, which was ...
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