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How do you tactfully write that someone's reply doesn't truly answer your question?

I need to email someone that his reply doesn't truly answer the questions in my original email. 1 below appears too brusque, and would insult and offend: Sorry, but your reply doesn't appear to ...
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How to handle being at the same events as my partner's ex-lover?

10 months ago I was out of the country for a period of three months for work reasons. During this time, my partner cheated on me with one of his friends, who is also one of his colleagues. This person ...
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What should I do with a short, unintentional eye contact? [closed]

Sometimes while walking past people, or because you thought you heard them say something (but they didn't), you look at people for a second. Sometimes your eye wanders when you're lost in thought. And ...
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How do you politely deal with someone who avoids written communication?

My cousin wrote a complaint to the tax department as her tax was wrongly calculated, but the department replied by telephone. As every employee with whom she has spoken all gave conflicting and ...
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How to politely inform somebody that they are in your personal space

This is similar to the question here: When in queue at the supermarket, how do I get my personal space? However this question is mainly focussed on somebody being in an area they should not be in the ...
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How to sway someone to stop repeating something, especially when telephoning or emailing?

Presume her repetition as the only snag, not any tacit hesitancy or aversion to referring as some input beneath wrongly suggested. In telephone calls and emails, my relative told her barrister that ...
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How do you politely stand your ground against authority who repeatedly press a question that you declined to answer?

This questioner is positioned with authority and power in a professional context. Background An elderly relative's mental illnesses cause stuttering and awkward behavior that probably explains her ...
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What ought I say, if latecomers are silent about their lateness and don't apologize? [closed]

This involves only latecomers in professional contexts like a physician, and differs from this. I don't believe in saying nothing, as they may judge my silence as condonation of their lateness. I ...
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How to stop buying presents? [closed]

How do you stop buying presents for someone (and their child) you don't know very well, when you have to see them and are giving other people presents at the same time, without appearing rude? The ...
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I want to sit down on the bus but someone's bag is in the way, how can I ensure this isn't the case when I lower my posterior onto the seat?

Background I travel on the bus a lot. Twice a day, 5 days a week, 52 weeks a year (minus a few weeks holidays) and I love it. It's a great time to unwind, to people watch, to lose yourself in thought ...
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How to clarify how to pronounce someone's name when you've just met

I've recently transferred colleges, so I don't know many people here. I'm fine with introducing myself and I'm generally quite outgoing. However, an issue that I have encountered is that I cannot ...
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How to effectively dismiss persistent sellers in situations where you can't or don't want to walk away

The Situation Twice this week I have been bothered by persistent individuals looking to sell or market something, but in neither occasions has it been possible to simply walk off. The first took ...
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How to ask if someone has suffered a bereavement?

I have a work colleague who I was expecting to be at work today but they haven't shown up. I know that they are currently going through issues with their Father's health and may have to take some ...
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Will an hour's drive place too much of a barrier on a relationship? [closed]

Yes, I've heard of the stories of people from different US states having long-distance relationships and eventually flying to each other and meeting up that way. But I get the feeling that this is ...
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How to convince someone to share the free weights at the gym?

How can I make someone give me the weights they're not using at the gym? Last night I went to the gym and there was one of the regular guys there hogging about 8 different sets of dumbbells and two ...
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How should my wife handle an engaged admirer and his fiancee?

My wife is currently attending university (final year) and, over the course of our 8 year relationship, she has inadvertently drawn the attention of a number of individuals who seek a relationship ...
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How to sign off an e-mail after finding out a work contact is out of the office due to a family emergency?

Background I am liaising with a client about a project. My main contact works off-site a lot but is fairly responsive with e-mails. She e-mailed me with a status update of a pending task and when I ...
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Is negotiating a price perceived as rude in the UK culture?

I am looking to buy used car components on eBay from the UK, I found a good deal, the seller put together a nice kit but I feel a 15% discount would better align the item to the market price. I might ...
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How to apologise/thank college for being flexible with accommodation?

I'm going into my 4th year of University. I lived in college-owned accommodation for the first 3 years. I balloted in January for a college-owned room for 4th year, but this summer (June) I signed a ...
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How to handle friends who can't let small things go?

I have a close friend who I'm on very good terms with, and have no desire to lose them as a friend. He's fun to be around and we spend a lot of time together either gaming or just chatting via IM. But ...
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How to respond to someone when they ask “How come you're still single?” [closed]

I've been asked this question several times this year, mainly from family members but also from long-term friends. I don't feel uncomfortable being asked but I also don't feel comfortable with where ...
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Can I give flowers to a feminist as a present for hosting a party? [closed]

My wife and I are going to a social event to the house of a (not so close but still) friend who is a self-declared and active feminist (e.g. she blogs about it). For such social events, we normally ...
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How to deal with a friend I live with who doesn't want to pay bills when he's not there?

I have a friend; let's call him X. My girlfriend, X, and I have all lived together (on paper) for about a year and a half. About 6 months ago he got a girlfriend who lives a few hours away. For the ...
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How to phrase tactfully 'to escalate/to be referred above someone'? [closed]

How'd you diplomatically phrase/word a request to escalate you above someone specific (call him/her Jr. for Junior)? I to Jr: 1. I request to be escalated above you. I to Someone else (e.g. ...
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How should I address scheduling phone or video calls with my long distance girlfriend?

Currently, I live about 10 miles outside Cambridge, UK. My girlfriend lives a similar distance away, but in the opposite direction. A journey to visit her is about 2 hours via public transport, which ...
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How to tell my friend I don't want to talk religion every chance he gets?

A close friend of mine has converted to Buddhism (a few months back), he's obviously very excited about the revelation he is having in his life (and it's a highly positive change). My feelings about ...
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Am I expected to bring a wedding gift if only invited to the evening reception?

A work colleague invited me and my partner (we live in London) to her wedding evening reception (starting at 7pm). We are French and this will be our first English wedding. We are not invited to the ...
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How to deter busybodies when polite deflections fail, without revealing their questions to bother you? [closed]

Question What are cleverer retorts than 1 and 2 below? 1 and 2 don't deflect busybodies; revealing that busybodies' questions bother you, can incite them to interrogate further. I'd prefer not ...
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How to persuade someone who never replies promptly to email you, if they need more time? [closed]

Assumptions You can interact with only this person (e.g. a client, or the most senior person at a corporation who can help) whom I abbreviate CP (for counterparty). CP can't easily be telephoned, or ...
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How to help my friend so he doesn't rely on me financially as much?

Context I have a really good friend of mine, who has fallen on hard times. He got screwed over by his old boss, which made him lose his job, house and girlfriend (within a 4 week period). He's an ...
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What is the etiquette for asking a dog owner before I pet their dog?

Dogs are what I see mostly out on my day to day activities and I see some tied up outside shops and I'll pet them, I'll also pet some in passing i.e. just stroking them as I walk past and sometimes as ...
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How to socialise with large groups of speakers in another language

I am an English guy, teaching at an educational camp in Poland, which is hosted for Poles, Czechs, Slovaks, and Hungarians. Everyone seems to be able to speak English well enough to have a ...
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Should I monetarily reward the person who found my phone? [closed]

I just lost my mobile phone in the bus on my way to work (left it on the seat). I called from another phone, and someone answered me, telling me that indeed I had left my phone in the bus seat. We are ...
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How can I ask a possible long-lost relative to prove his identity?

I found myself in a peculiar situation yesterday. I was contacted via Facebook by a person (let's call him Bob) who claimed that he was one of my mom's cousins and hadn't talked to her in over 40 ...
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Why do (half-)strangers say “I'm sure you'll love it” when they don't know my interests?

Sometimes a complete stranger, or someone I've only known very recently, will recommend something to me, saying: I'm sure you'll love it! Why would they say that? They can hope, and perhaps expect ...
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How do I tell my new boyfriend that I make a lot of money?

I am usually very secretive about my income. No one really knows how much I make and I was taught to never talk about money to friends. I make about ten times what my boyfriend does. He's also a ...
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How should I address a drag queen?

I've been invited to a night out with a few friends and we're going to a drag show! Something that I've never done before but I am excited about. I believe that there will be other drag queens ...
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How to overcome a fear of seeming intrusive when asking even mildly personal questions?

I am not shy or introverted when it comes to discussing the majority of topics. However, I tend to dislike questions that relate to my friends and family. I don't like giving out information about ...
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My friend doesn't react well to my sexuality

I am an openly gay teenager who lives in the UK. I recently came out to one of my childhood friends, after having very positive responses from my current friend group and people my age. However, that ...
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How can I get through to my close-minded elderly relatives?

My InLaws are very predisposed towards dismissing new ideas, I find it very difficult to discuss new ideas or suggestions with them. A suggestion is usually met with stubbornness, refusal, sometimes ...
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How can I get my neighbour's children to take care not to scratch my car?

We have just got a new car on a lease, so are liable for any repairs that go above and beyond the usual wear and tear. I noticed two deep big scratches within the first week. After the first scratch, ...
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How to reduce the risk of people interpret me implying things, when I never intended to?

I have Asperger's Syndrome. I'm an aspie. I am naturally inclined to say things literally and take things literally, but I have learned most neurotypicals communicate differently, and as a minority, ...
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How to tactfully ask if someone is from the same ethno-religious group as I am?

I am an ethnic and religious member of a certain ethno-religious group. (You can probably guess which one, but I thought the question might be broad enough to apply to other ethnic/religious groups ...
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How do I avoid / minimise hurtful reactions when revealing information at work?

I work in office environments as a web developer. I also perform as a drag queen as a hobby and spend time advocating for LGBT rights. On past occasions, usually to direct lines of questioning that ...
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How to survive as a notter where it is not the norm?

I am a serial and consistent "notter"¹: I do not drink (alcohol or coffee), smoke, do any form of drugs, I'm a vegetarian, etc. All of these things have been consistent for me for a decade or more. ...
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How to ask my housemate to take better care of his pets?

We have three kittens (around 16 weeks old) and a bearded dragon in our household. The kittens are well fed and looked after because I look after all three of them. I have no qualms with that at all. ...
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How do you deal with someone using hands or wrong utensil in buffet line?

This is one of several buffet etiquette questions which came up on a recent holiday. When in a buffet queue (line) how should you respond to someone in front of using their hands or a serving spoon ...
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Is it rude to refer to someone as “he” or “she” in their presence? [closed]

I always feel like it's rude when someone refers to some as "she" or "he" in their presence or when I've done it in the past. But I'm not sure what etiquette says to this in UK culture. Friend is ...
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How to have a casual conversation with new colleagues?

I've recently started working with a new company, and it's great. Every few months, they'll organise for everyone to meet-up in a pub after work for drinks. There's a meet-up coming soon which I'm ...
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Why is a 'good' handshake important?

When preparing for job interviews in the past, my recruiters have told me to ensure that I greet the interviewer with a "good firm" handshake. Even so, outside of the work environment when I've ...