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How does a single person influence the team towards consensus and a positive change in team culture?

Background I am a software developer in a small team of half a dozen people. I am the member that has joined most recently (around 18 months) but am somewhat older than most of my colleagues. We work ...
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How to politely repel a flattering comment

Working in an average university, it's pretty common to get flattering comments from students (who more often than not pass it just to please the teacher), but recently I am facing a new problem of ...
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How to politely repel negative suggestive comments about the work morale or atmosphere?

I am part of a group of software developers who work remotely in different parts of the world. Some of us work in the U.S. and some in 3 other countries. The colleagues that work outside of USA are ...
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How to tactfully respond to compliments when I don't feel I deserve them?

I'm the most senior developer on my current team, and I often get asked for help by my teammates. Sometimes when they ask for help, it's with something that I think is fairly obvious or easy to do. ...
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How do I tell a co-worker that just because something is a hobby doesn't mean I want to do it for free?

I enjoy baking, and on a number of occasions have baked cakes or other desserts for people in the office to celebrate their birthday or a work-related milestone. I've done this of my own accord, ...
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My co-workers keep calling me a robot, how can I resolve this?

There is a running joke in the office that I am a sophisticated humanoid-like robot, who has undergone thorough AI-learning to reach the state that I am now at. This originated when a co-worker ...
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How can I do mirroring online, similar to my mirroring in person?

TLDR: I'd like to be able to use mirroring online, similar to how I do this in person, and change my communication style online so that it will be more well-received by people, and be more similar to ...
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How to tell employees that I don't mean my insults seriously?

I am the manager of a small team of programmers. I usually have a hands-on approach. I tell, they do. Often there are problems and I have to fix things they can't handle or I have to tell the higher-...
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How can I carefully inquire if I would be welcome to join a group of colleagues at their regular social event?

I have learned that a group of colleagues sometimes meet after work for a social activity. I might be interested to join them, but they have not invited me. How can I carefully inquire if they would ...
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Dealing with a white lie that caused problems

So we have a new intern in the office. They are entirely unpaid and only really here because their university makes it mandatory. Boss welcomes the free labour as there are plenty of small spare ...
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How do I nudge my coworker to reframe his mindset from 'me' to 'we'

I just joined a new company. My immediate coworker, who's also been assigned at my line manager, takes a lot of pride in the work he's done. Even when it came to my onboarding and in general, I notice ...
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How to ask a female colleague to spend time with me?

Background I met this colleague (let's call her Alice) at my new job that I started recently. We work in different teams, so I don't get to meet Alice every day, although I do see her in the corridor ...
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If I know my interlocutor native language, it is approprieate to respond them using it? [closed]

I got an email in English from a staff member, and it turns out that he speaks the same native language as me (which is not English). Would it be rude/appropriate to respond to the email in our native ...
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How to thank someone for her kindness in welcoming you publically?

I am in a formal setting whereby my superior pleasantly welcomed me in an email (tricky to say it is non-formal, it is formal but in a nice way) among other members. I want to reply to her via email, ...
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How to tell my senior friend stop talking me about the life's experience?

I have a senior friend (colleague) who keeps talking to me about her experience even something it costs me a lot of time (one or two hours per time) unnecessarily. She may want me to be better or else ...
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How do I determine my boss's position on transgender rights?

I am a transwoman. I am in the closet. I am starting to transition so staying in the closet long-term isn't an option. Before I come out of the closet I would like to gauge how I think people are ...
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What statements or actions should be avoided while quitting or being fired from a job? [closed]

There is a large body of information specifying what types of statements should and should not be made during encounters with the police, as these interpersonal communications have the potential to ...
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How to get rid of (my own) dominant behaviour in the work place?

(I'm told that) I'm a rather dominant person in a work environment. This is a known and outspoken issue since my superior is a distant but long term friend of mine (20 years plus). From time to time I ...
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Love Confession by Personally Handing Over Handwritten Letter

There is a person I've met at the workplace who I've become interested in since I was introduced to on my first day at work. The development of our relationship was slow due to being in a different ...
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How to stop a colleague from talking to me about work when I'm on my lunch break?

More often than not, I eat my lunch at my desk. There aren't any shops or cafés nearby, so this suits me just fine. I usually put my headphones in and browse the news or SE to take a break from work. ...
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How to communicate to a new coworker that I am not comfortable being touched?

Last week a new coworker joined our team, and yesterday we were both invited to eat lunch in the work cafeteria with some other colleagues that I have known for around a year and a half. As he, ...
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How can I be left alone during the work day without looking awkward or offensive?

I am not a total introvert, as I am very social and stuff but when I am working during breaks or on transportation I want to be like an introvert. I guess there is a word for that which is ambivert. ...
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How to decline after-work meeting requests from my manager, after setting a precedent of accepting them if pushed long enough to do so?

I am working for a client, fulltime, on another company's behalf. I have a manager on the company side that's fond of organizing 'extra-curricular' activities: Meetings organized outside of work hours ...
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How to apologize after unwanted sarcastic comment while giving feedback?

A colleague of mine sent her thesis to me to give comments on it. I really liked the work. So I replied saying it was an interesting study and nice attempt. Wished her all the best. I later realised ...
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How can I interact smoothly with a manipulative person?

I have a colleague (from now on called C) that I voluntarily work with (in a non-corporate environment) because we could get some work done that could be generally beneficial, including to both of us (...
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How to ask subject of call to recruiter?

I finished an interview process with a company, and today I received an email from my recruiter regarding a quick call. However, I was not aware of this stage and don't know what is the focus/subject ...
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How do I regain respect and professionalism in the face of petty criticism, while learning from said criticism?

Background I am a high energy person and do tend to snap easily when I have a perfect storm of tiredness, constant work pressure, lack of human interaction due to COVID, and simultaneously spending a ...
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Boss tells me to face him when talking [closed]

So I was talking to my boss in the hallway today. During part of the conversation I turned to face somewhere to the left side of him for ~ 20 seconds, I think I got restless/bored from standing still....
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How to address a Korean co-worker?

My current employer is a global software company with offices in several continents. The company tries to maintain a culture of conviviality. Our main communication medium is text chat in English ; ...
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How do I make sure I don't get credited for other people's work?

At work I have a co-worker who frequently gives me credit for the accomplishments of my female colleague. I am acting primarily as a consultant on the project where as she and her team are the ones ...
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How to address a Chinese co-worker?

Question similar to How to address a Korean co-worker? When interacting in direct chat messages in English with co-workers (software developers like me) from Chinese offices ; is it rude to address ...
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How can I deal with a large age gap between me and coworkers?

How can one handle age discrepancy between a local clique and self? For background, this is well pre-COVID-19 situation, so it does not include the pandemic as a factor. Around two years ago, I worked ...
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How to get coworker to stop saying clearly offensive stories when I can hear

I have a coworker (call him Tim) who says disgusting things and tells disturbing stories. I'm trying to think of a non-confrontational way to get him to stop. Often times he's not talking to me, but I ...
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Disagreement with friend over game server decisions

My good friend of a few years, who for privacy's sake will be referred to as Jim, and I are resurrecting a game server that went bust and the owner quit, leaving us as managers the option to piece ...
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How can I tell someone that possibly unwanted body skin is showing?

So the title sums it up, but let me provide an example so it has a bit of context. I am living and working in California in an accounting office, so lax business casual is the usual attire. I am a ...
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Helping with Business Grammar

We have some employees who frequently communicate with customers. These employees are native English speakers and yet somehow their written communications come across as though they really struggle ...
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How to tell the secretary that some of their emails are not needed?

My office is doing teleworking. My team's secretary is forwarding every day several (5 on average) emails that I already received through a general mailing list. I want to tell them that we already ...
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How do I deal with a client who doesn't respect me?

I've been freelancing for 8 years and have never had a problem with a client like this one. I take a lot of pride in my work and take a lot of care to ensure that the client and I are on the same page ...
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How to ask a C-level executive to fix their smoke detector?

A c-level executive at my company (US, ~300 employees) has a low battery in their smoke detector. While this person is on calls the periodic beeping is extremely distracting and annoying to me. There ...
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How do I assuage concerns about working in the healthcare industry amidst the ongoing Coronavirus outbreak with my parents?

I live with my parents, and I work in the healthcare industry. I'd like to continue working in the healthcare industry, however there are some issues that I have trouble resolving. Specifically, ...
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How to get recognition for the cleaning I do?

I live in a shared house with several other roommates. One of them signed the lease with the owner, and thus has authority to kick anyone out. Call him Dylan. Another roommate, Bob, is very outspoken ...
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How to work with a friend without damaging friendship?

Context Recently, I had meeting with my bosses to discuss my performance. At the end of this meeting they asked if I could help them by "putting out feelers" for a possible replacement for someone ...
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Confronting an Inconsiderate Co-Worker

A little background: I am very conflict averse. I go out of my way to be friendly and accommodating. Recently I was promoted at work, but I am in a different group. I used to be in a technical ...
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Refusing to let people in

I work in a facility where it is open to the public except for a small section. I work in this section and this section requires an access card when entering the door (anyone can buy one, but it is ...
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How to get an employee to think more independently?

I have an employee (my first), and I give them tasks to do. However, often they will do the task in a way that officially meets the description I gave but doesn't exactly do what I want, because I ...
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How to talk about ongoing nervous behaviours with boss without being offensive?

I am working an office job under a manager who I like and trust. He's very competent, a good person, a hard worker and generally open to feedback. This is his first leadership role (about 2 years in ...
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How to politely tell someone to clean their nose? [duplicate]

Today at work one of me colleagues was talking to me but I had no concentration on what she was saying because there was something on her nose and I was thinking about "how am I supposed to tell her?" ...
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How to politely decline a personal service without offending the servicer?

Background I am blind. I work as a software developer in a company. I hate all kinds of gatherings. If I have a choice, I would spend my time alone with a computer. Situation I was attending my ...
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How can I politely tell a colleague that mocking someone's clothes in front of everyone is rude?

Context We are working in a open space, in France, for a big company and there is this colleague that has been working here for 15 years that enjoy mocking everyone for everything. It seems that he ...
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Asking to be made aware of a surprise because of anxiety issues

I'm on the autism spectrum and I have anxiety issues. Doing unknown things in an unknown place terrifies me. From time to time (~twice a year) my workplace would organize a "team-building" ...

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