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Who should say "hi" first if walking into a room or office?

When entering an office who should say "hi"? Should the person walking in "announce" their entrance or should the person already in the room greet the person coming in. For example ...
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Venting: What function does it serve? How is it beneficial? Can it be effective as a coping strategy? [closed]

Scenario: a friend comes to you to vent or complain about a situation and all they want you to do is to listen. My current view: except for situations that are completely out of their control (e.g. ...
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My sister treats me badly, I vented to her but she ignores my efforts [closed]

My sister treats me really poorly, is condescending, talks behind my back, and just tries to get me down. One day I cracked and I explained how I felt (I did this through text) but she now calls me a ...
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Girl is looking at me but dont talk with me [closed]

There is one girl at my university, we have some lectures together. I really like her. She is sitting in front of me and she looks at me a lot, every lecture, turning at me. When I look at her too, ...
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How to react to coworkers making sexist/objectifying (and sometimes racist) statements about female customers? [closed]

I just got my first job at a pet store as a 17-year-old. Our store specializes in aquariums and fish, it's one of the best in South Florida. The workers treat me and my mom well when we shopped there, ...
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How to appropriately express my apology to my ex-wife's boss after I offended him? [closed]

My ex-wife tried to present me to her boss on an unformal occasion, which was a few days before we offically got divorced. I hadn't receive any notifications before we met, I only knew the man was her ...
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How to handle overly praise for superficialities that make me look better off than the other person?

So I met this person (opposite gender) online and we were just getting to know each other. I noticed I am struggling a lot with talking to someone who may think themselves - at least on a superficial ...
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What is a good way to ask a tech retail worker tips on how to apply for a job where he works at and how the job is like with salesmanship tips?

I moved with my family to enter university in Eastern Turkey from the west coast and I decided to try working in a place since I couldn't join the classes due to certain reasons. I first worked at a ...
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How do I ask my online friend if she wants me to give her space? [closed]

I am a man who has been in contact with a woman I met online a few months ago. We have been talking every day since we first established contact. Yesterday she told me that she wanted to be away from ...
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How can I manage to work with 2 different groups of colleagues without picking a side or alienating one?

TL;DR How can I communicate to both groups that I need (or want) to work with each of them without picking a side or alienating one? Background: In my workplace, there are at least 2 niche of ...
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How to request someone assisting me to not to involve others right away without offending?

I approached someone regarding a work opportunity through email and they gladly provided me the information I had asked for. Furthermore, they asked for some more details about what I am interested in ...
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How to help a friend determine if they are happy or just settling in a long term relationship?

Through my years until recently I have had friends or just known people who have been in relationships that they generally considered long term and committed, but were open (at least to me) about the ...
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Getting family to understand the difference between helping and meddling

My personal definitions of these are: Helping is when someone asks you to assist them, or asks for your opinion or expertise, and you give it to them, keeping their interests and goals in mind at all ...
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How to become a closer friend with someone of the opposite sex

Context A couple of months ago, I (24 M) moved into a new country and a new job. I didn't know anyone over here but I met quite a lot of good people at work. One of those people is a girl (23) who's ...
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How to communicate the difference between advice and trying to "change someone"?

We all have different levels of stubbornness I suppose, and different levels of willingness to learn and adapt outside of our comfort zone. I am a big fan of learning and making improvements so I tend ...
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How to handle being laughed at in a room full of people in a foreign country?

Note: It has been well over 10 years since this happened, but I think about this more often than I am happy to admit. Background Story: When I was 15 I went for an exchange year in the US. I was a ...
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How to make aquantainces into friends - same gender [closed]

I (w24) do have friends but all of them are men. I have aquaintances who are women and I would really like to be friends with some of them. If I ask them to hang out, they never reply or have time - I ...
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How to thank someone for her kindness in welcoming you publically?

I am in a formal setting whereby my superior pleasantly welcomed me in an email (tricky to say it is non-formal, it is formal but in a nice way) among other members. I want to reply to her via email, ...
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How to be supportive without lying?

My girlfriend said: "Sometimes it is good to just be on the side of your loved one" and I have no idea how to do that. We've been together for a bit less than a year and it's my first ...
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How to ask friend not to leave so quickly, or at least let me know if he doesn't plan on staying very long?

I have a friend who often leaves early and abruptly. He does this in many different situations. Here is one common example: we met for coffee. After about 30 minutes he said he had to leave in 15 ...
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In online dating, how do I ask a date why she seems so disinterested?

I (male) contacted a woman (19 years old) through an online dating service. We have been exchanging messages for three weeks now. She lives not far across the border in a neighboring country, but ...
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How can I avoid opening up further to my friends without jeopardizing the relationship?

I gravitate towards being an INFJ. I had a romantic relationship for a few years. A few weeks ago I was completely devastated when I was on the receiving end of a heartbreaking breakup. So I talked to ...
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What concept was my teacher trying to explain when someone might not answer my question unless I answered the same to them?

When I was eleven years old, my speech language pathologist and I did a role-play session where they'd be the other student, and I'd be asking them something like this: Me: Hi, what's your name? ...
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How to address the topic of seeking professional help with a narcissist?

I have a friend where I have strong indications that she has (Narcissistic personality disorder) NPD. For the answer please assume that she has NPD, is unaware about it, that I am able to shield ...
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Decline giving personal information to salespeople [closed]

My country is full of pushy salespeople who are asking for a phone number, name or email in scenarios where they are not warranted. Scenario 1: Cashier at a pizza shop asks for my phone number before ...
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How do I confront my college classmates who ostracize me because I grew up as a latchkey kid? [closed]

I do I confront my classmates that it’s unfair that ostracize me as a result of the fact I grew up as a latchkey kid who was never driven to sports practice every day after school and does not have ...
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How to communicate to my girlfriend that I'd like us to spend more time talking to each other?

I've recently (in the past two weeks) entered a relationship with a girl I've been dating for about two months. We, so far, seem to be pretty compatible with each other and I'm happy. A little ...
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Me and my close friend often have phases when we do not talk to each other

This is very repetitive. We are very close friends, probably the only close friends of each other. But still, this happens again and again. For example, last time I was traveling, my close friend did ...
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How do I respond when my partner shares a topic I can't relate to?

I (19 M) met my girlfriend (18 F) about two weeks ago, we quickly declared a relationship and it's the first time for both of us to have a romantic relationship. She is into hobbies which I am not ...
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A friend always talks in dry-professional language even though being very close to me for years

It is strange that one of my close friends, who I know for years and have spent a lot of time in recreational activities, talks to me in very dry-professional language. It is a very minor thing, but ...
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How do I talk about money with my partner when they get uncomfortable about the topic?

The Background My partner and I have been together for a significant amount of time, 8 years soon, and are planning to get married (within a few years due to busy schedules and graduate school). I ...
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How to politely say we won't be inviting family friends to our wedding?

My Fiancee and I are getting married next year, and we're currently in the process of sending out the save the dates. I was chatting to my parents about this, who then asked if I would be inviting ...
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How to pay back a friend who refuses to take money?

Due to some uncertainties in my housing situation my friend let me couch surf at his apartment for two months. I've found an apartment now and will be moving out soon. I keep insisting to let me pay ...
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How to get a friend to stop acting like a therapist?

I suffer from Bipolar Disorder. I suffered from a depressive episode last year. A friend of mine feels I'm too negative. He constantly prods me in social situations -- "What's going good Bob?&...
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How can I avoid misunderstanding in this case? [closed]

I was dropping off a gift for my friend yesterday. When we talked about where I could meet her, she suggested a place where it's easier for me to find, but I actually know the entrance of the building ...
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In group discussions, how should I deal with a person who frequently participates in the discussion with incoherent comments?

Context: I'm a student who is in a philosophical discussion group which meets weekly and discusses readings and thoughts about a particular topic. It's hosted by an organization so I don't have ...
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How to better react/respond to a friend who rejects your advice but skill keeps asking for your help?

I find that it’s particularly hard for me to help someone when they want my help but I disagree on what’s helpful? Especially when I’m seen as an expert. Instance: Friend for years messages me, By ...
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How to say no to my brother while avoiding him thinking I no longer support him?

Background: My brother has a manipulative wife, which has essentially turned him against our mother. I want to keep the story short and won't go into too much detail. Essentially, his wife has ...
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How to reach out to an estranged coworker without coming across as nosy?

I have worked with Alice for five years, and we had a pretty standard work relationship, not really friends, but appreciated each other. We did not talk since I left the company two years ago. I had ...
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How to explain to friends/family the status of a relationship when you're more than best friends with someone but not yet in an official relationship?

I have been looking for some terms or definitions of the following stage when two people are more than best friends but not in an official relationship. I'll delve into the grayness of "official&...
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How do I tactfully ask an ex-supervisor to approve a reference letter that I have drafted without changing anything in the main body?

I am currently in the process of my immigration application, and I need employment reference letters from all my previous employers. I worked at a job for 20 months. It's been 5 years since I left. I ...
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How to show you're fine with being friendly, but don't want a relationship, when the other person might want a relationship?

During college there's a chance when I'm in conversation with people that they may be interested in me as a potential romantic partner. I'm currently in a committed relationship and many of these ...
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My boyfriend blocked me, I would like to make up with him

Background: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost four years. We are a long distance couple. Basically my boyfriend blocked me on all social media because I have overreacted on him. That was two ...
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How to ask 'why?' without implying I'm asking them to justify themselves?

So, as part of my job, I sometimes get requirements from users without any context. This context can be useful for reasons above and beyond justifying the requirement itself. These come from fellow ...
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How do you tactfully suggest that someone would benefit from making their accent more clear?

I was recently trying to help someone to identify skills that would help them to find a job. This individual is very technically capable so is seeking a technical role. They learned English as a ...
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How to better handle my friends passive aggressive comments, preferably so there'll be less/none at all?

I'm a millennial and a lot (too many) of my friends were those who were of the opinion that, immediately following the 2016 election, the best way to demonstrate how much they value love, tolerance, ...
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Does Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" actually help us find people more interesting?

I'd bought Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People at a used book store years ago and later read it. The message I took away from it was that if we lead people to believe that we find ...
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What is the maximum interaction where saying goodbye is unnecessary in the US?

Often when you meet people on the street you may opt to say "Hi" and then be on your way. To my understanding this is not considered a rude behavior. It is also common to greet someone have ...
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How to start the interaction in one online meeting in a friendly manner?

I have always had some issues to start interactions. Things usually go smoother when the other person starts talking. But there are times I need to start the interaction and I often end up doing it in ...
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How can I initiate a chat but avoid being a Q&A session?

I had a nice zoom chat with my friend yesterday; we are both college students. We haven't met each other for a while and we were both excited to share some updates of our lives. However, after the ...

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