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What could I be needing when I am judging someone as fake and self-important/attention-seeker? [closed]

Context I am practicing the exercise from the book Non-Violent Communication, which wants you to identify how you judge people and determine what needs are not being met when you make that judgment. ...
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Why is my partner amazing at customer service, but terrible at keeping friends? [closed]

My partner has worked in customer service for over 10 years. I have seen him speak with customers and he is amazing. He gets so much positive feedback in customer surveys on how helpful and caring he ...
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How to better explain to my wife that I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it was irrelevant?

Background: I try to avoid shopping while hungry as I make bad decisions but I wasn't expecting we'd be dropping by the store when my wife and I were out on a walk. She asked if I intended to share ...
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Why do people get together when they don't like each other? [closed]

I will never understand this. Over and over and over again, I keep hearing about this and that "ex wife" or "ex girlfriend" who was oh-so-horrible and they couldn't stand one more ...
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How can I tactfully inform my sister's employer that she's sick, and shouldn't work? [closed]

Call my sister Ann. Ann's extremely meek and timid. Yesterday, her rude boss told her to return to work. But I advised her to tell Boss that she's sick, even if she doesn't know if she got COVID. She ...
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How to deal with an egoistic friend who only talks politics and religion?

I'm 27 M (living in India). I have this friend (say John). We were school classmates for 9 years. We shared a good relationship during school days but our mentality and perspectives to look at the ...
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What type of support should I offer my partner who clearly hates his job?

Background I'm a 22-year-old and have a long-time partner, who I have been with since we met at university. We both live in the Midwest in the United States, and have been planning to move into an ...
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How to offer my availability ( time and date ) when I ask for interview?

For some research I have to interview expert in the field.I try to it via LinkedIn, so the people I approach have never met me in person. I can easily approach them and convince them for an interview. ...
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Why do I lose my temper more easily if one of my own has been wronged than if I'm the one that has been wronged?

Interpersonal conflicts inevitably happen in life, under one form or another. As I'm being confronted by more conflicts as I grow older, I keep learning how to react better. In conflicts where ...
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How to stop my mother from questioning my decisions out of selflessness?

Quite often (say, 3-5 times a week), my mother will ask me something, I will answer, and she will question whether my answer is legitimate or whether I'm just answering what I think she thinks she ...
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How to tackle the excuse of “ I don't remember I said that, you remember it wrong.”? [closed]

Situation: You talked to someone on the phone and he would promise to get something done for you that you deem to be important. He doesn't do it by the time he promised and when you call him back he ...
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How do I effectively challenge the teacher's bias without coming off as a jerk to the rest of the class?

In my situation, our school had us talk about racial justice and the teacher asked everybody to be respectful and have an open mind. He then presented a slideshow (Fairly sure it wasn’t made by him), ...
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Dealing with a problem Forum user without driving them away

I'm one of the moderators of a users forum (Forum X) dedicated to a single software product. We have 5 moderators; and 2 of us including me are also Forum Admins. (I'm also a moderator of a Stack ...
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How to offer financial support to acquaintances?

I have two kindergarden age children and the acquaintances are parents of the other children. I frequently meet them on the playground and there is friendly chatter. People talk about life and their ...
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How to provide feedback when my mother tries new recipes, in a way that doesn't upset her but still allows for honesty?

This has been a thing since I was a kid, but I experienced it again tonight. My mother has always done the cooking at home, it's also something she won't give up. She's the kind of person that would ...
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Which behaviour should I have? [duplicate]

When my direct superior is angry, he is nervous and not patient, so he explains me an information, but bad... I can't understand, he chews his words, should I insist over him to have the required ...
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De-escalating perceived conflicts against spouse without “taking the other side”

My spouse recently wanted to know some details about an airbnb reservation my mother had made, which we will be sharing later this year. My spouse and I have formulated this post together. In my ...
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What is the proper etiquette for when someone you're not very close with is dealing with a terminally ill family member?

I'm currently enrolled in graduate school. I've been having a lot of trouble getting in touch with my advisor recently. He finally responded with apologies that he has been dealing with a terminally ...
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How to ask parents to stop screaming at other sibling?

There is a large age-gap between my younger sibling and I (it's just the two of us). I am a college student (at home due to the pandemic), while she is in middle school. More often than not, I find ...
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How to talk to my brother, who has mental health issues, about my frustrations with him?

I live with my parents while I finish up my degree. A couple of months ago, my brother got out of a long, toxic relationship. He has since moved back in with my parents. The relationship ending caused ...
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How to help a close friend seek help with possible early onset dementia

I have a close friend who is genetically predisposed to early-onset dementia. My friend is relatively young (mid-30s), but has been having concerning unexplained behavioral shifts, such as: ...
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How to detect and counteract gaslighting

Gaslighting is one of those things that becomes a logical trap for both the abused (they can look deluded, without physical evidence, which can lead to further manipulation) and also for a falsely-...
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Respectful way to stop connecting with a friend?

Recently I have realized that my interaction with a friend has exhausted itself. They are not a boy/girl-friend and there's no third person involved. We have been closely connected in the past, but ...
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How do I let someone know I'm coming to their party?

This is something that I have never done before. It might seem trivial but I'm an overthinker. I heard about this gathering my friends are having and one of them said I should come. So I asked the ...
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How to avoid being a wallflower in a group conversation

Is there anything I can do to avoid being the only person who doesn’t say anything in a social group setting? The obvious answer is to talk, but I find it difficult to (i) find the right time to ...
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What are the practical ways to minimize dead-naming of someone behind their back?

I see from social media that a former colleague "A" (whom I'm not close to and haven't spoken to in years) now has a differently-gendered name, look, and pronouns from what they had when I ...
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How to let people know I am fine?

When I'm sitting by myself, people sometimes come to talk to me or ask me if I'm okay. I suspect this is because when I'm not controlling my expressions, it looks like I'm scowling or frowning, and ...
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How to proceed after being ignored on Dating app?

Events: I matched with a woman on Facebook dating, had a short chat with long delay between messages, but all seemed very enthusiastic. In the end she agreed to have a beer with me, I suggested a day ...
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Is apologizing counter to non-violent communication?

So I've been looking into non-violent communication (NVC) lately and I came across the following: Jackal Parent: Say you are sorry Jackal Child: I’m sorry Jackal Parent: You’re not really ...
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How to make eye contact while talking with more than one person?

My question looks similar to this question but in my case, I am the one doing the talking and not the listening. So, in an office environment or while talking to friends, when I am talking and two or ...
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How do I approach feeling unappreciated for taking care of my girlfriend's niece for two months?

Spurred by the quarantine, girlfriend[27] and I[29] hastily moved in after two months of dating back in June. Around our three-month mark, her 12-year-old niece was subjected to serious trauma from ...
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How can I ask my uncle to pay for my ADHD medication?

Like most people with ADHD, I suffer from constantly changing jobs and financial problems. I'm trying to get a prescription for ADHD medication. so I can have a stable career. There are a couple of ...
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How to argue motivation for feelings while still validating the feelings itself

I've been having a lot of arguments with my partner lately. The details do not matter, but the gist is that she doesn't feel special. She states that she feels this way because of something that I did/...
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How to tell a doctor or nurse to speak to me in technical details without being rude

I have regular appointments with nurses and doctors due to a long term but not serious health condition. It's often a new doctor or nurse I see each time so I have to try to judge how best to ...
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How to reassure Significant Other that I am not trying flirt with other women - are there any reasonable solutions?

I have a good working relationship with my Significant Other, but today she and I decided we would talk to each other about what we feel should be improved on an individual basis in order to progress ...
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How can I talk to my friend in order to make sure he won't stay more than two weeks?

I recently bought a 3 bedroom house as a single male and as a result I have more than enough space for myself. My close friend has contacted me saying that his landlord wants to evict him and if he ...
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How to decline after-work meeting requests from my manager, after setting a precedent of accepting them if pushed long enough to do so?

I am working for a client, fulltime, on another company's behalf. I have a manager on the company side that's fond of organizing 'extra-curricular' activities: Meetings organized outside of work hours ...
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Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?

I grew up in a pretty religious (evangelical) family. Naturally, I believed what I was taught: the actual religious stuff like love your neighbors and enemies, be humble and kind, and so on. But also ...
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How to apologize after unwanted sarcastic comment while giving feedback?

A colleague of mine sent her thesis to me to give comments on it. I really liked the work. So I replied saying it was an interesting study and nice attempt. Wished her all the best. I later realised ...
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How to ask subject of call to recruiter?

I finished an interview process with a company, and today I received an email from my recruiter regarding a quick call. However, I was not aware of this stage and don't know what is the focus/subject ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

For the past few months, I've been participating in a group on MeetUp.com. This particular group holds a weekly social event on Zoom and plays online games together every few days. (The issues below, ...
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How to stop coworker from tuning me out

Issue One of my coworkers has a habit of "tuning me out" while I am talking. This involves completely ignoring me and working on something else. In Person This has happened before the ...
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How to ask someone to respect others' beliefs or please leave the forum

For context, I personally am religious and am a practicing Christian and I love learning about other belief systems. Because of this, I joined a forum on Disqus focused on open discussion of religion ...
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How do I convey to a family member that the deadline for moving out is non-negotiable when they responded emotionally to a previous attempt?

Summary Over Christmas my spouse and I took in a family member who needed somewhere to stay temporarily. They contacted us because we were (and still are) the only family who had a spare room and, ...
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How to talk about my life without showing off?

As the title says, how to talk about myself without showing off? when I was 21 years old and I was still studying, I was hired by an IT corporation and I had a good income. Now I'm 24 and my income is ...
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How to ask an otherwise helpful person who often reacts rudely to my questions to stop?

A while ago I joined a Discord server for a team (2 vs 2) chess game called bughouse, owned by a guy who I'll call Jake for the sake of anonymity. As I got more interested in the game, he and others ...
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How many “bise” (kisses) should I give?

Context Let's assume we are in a COVID-free environment. In France, depending on where you are, we give different amounts of "bises" (kisses on the cheek) in greeting. For example, we give ...
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How can I support someone I don't really know through a divorce?

A person I know online from a writing site recently had her parents get divorced. I first messaged her about a month or two ago, probably mid December before Christmas. As far as I can tell, which isn'...
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How can I change the relationship better with my mom, if she feels happy that I fail?

I had some arguments with my mom before, such as, when she invested in stocks, she just guessed and listened to the radio, or watched TV. And then I asked her, if she knew what P/E ratio was, so that ...
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Handling an ex-girlfriends jabs in her responses to me?

Background Last month, I broke up with my gf, 36, who I was with for over a year, for the second time. During the pandemic, I had broken up with her briefly but later got back together after we both ...

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