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Avoiding condescension in gift giving

When I was shoveling snow recently, my neighbor made the stereotypical "how much to do mine?" joke. After chatting for a few minutes, it became very clear that she could not afford a shovel ...
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Dealing with Extremely Chatty Housemates

I am a graduate student at the moment and sharing a house with undergraduate students. What I've noticed is that a lot of undergraduate students who are studying let's say relatively soft subjects ...
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What skin tone emoji should I use in Slack reaction? [closed]

There is a feature in Slack called emoji reactions. It allows users to respond to any message on Slack with an emoji reaction. (source: slack.help) Also, you can choose a skin tone for your emojis: (...
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How can I convince my sister's husband to switch to boxer shorts?

At a recent family gathering, my younger sister asked me for help. She and her husband have been trying to conceive a child but have been unsuccessful. After going to a fertility doctor, they got ...
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How could I have communicated better to my wife that I don't like my toddler's shoes?

I have three toddlers whose shoes I have to put on and take off several times a day. Two of them have shoes that I can put on and take off very easily. The third has shoes I struggle with every day, ...
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How to tell my wife about a (possibly romantic) relationship with another woman?

I am happily married male, mid-thirties, Central Europe, two nice kids. With my wife, we have a great relationship and no big issues, just the normal ones (if she only didn't burn the meal that often :...
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How to deal with a person that does something wrong like littering or hitting a dog and yells at you when you tell them that they did something wrong?

In my life I come across people that do things that are wrong (and most of the times illegal) like littering, hitting animals, parking on the pavement without leaving an inch for pedestrians to pass. ...
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How to communicate about not giving a wedding gift to friends who haven't held their party yet?

We are a group of close friends. Two months ago, two of our friends got married. Usually we give a gift to them when they hold a party. But, because of the coronavirus, they didn't hold any party, ...
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Showing a homeless person that you care about their well-being

Every day, when I go to work, I pass by a homeless person. At first, I just waved hello to them, but now I shake hands with them and, when doing that, they will start asking me questions (like "how ...
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Repel flattery used to start conversations

I get annoyed with this. People start conversations with flattery like: you have got this, you have got that you cover 360 degrees. which I know is flattery with ulterior motives. I get irritated ...
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personal attack because of a political comment

We're 5 couples that known each other for many years and we decided to have a breakfast in a nice park. During the breakfast we spoke about the US election on a very intellectual level and one of the ...
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How to deal with non-answers to simple, direct questions, from people doing their job

Background I've read this question and this other one. My question is about a different situation, because it's the other party's paid job to answer customer questions. Examples (over email/text) Me: ...
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How to deal when you are too excited about someone you just met?

I just met a girl through a friend and so far, we haven't stopped talking not even for a second. Even though I'm really excited, she is friendly with everyone. Like really friendly. To understand a ...
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How to tell a professor that I don't mind if he is busy?

Sorry this got a little long... I am self-studying a course. Two years ago I began to use some lectures by a professor from the United States (I'm from a different country). He is retired now. While ...
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When should I make eye contact with someone I intend to walk past?

I am an adult male living in the US, in case it matters. Anyway, there's something I do when walking past people on a (not too busy) sidewalk or in a hallway, where I will make eye contact with them,...
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Apologizing when you've hurt a stranger's feelings badly

Yesterday in vocational school I (mostly inadvertently) hurt someone's feelings very badly. In our IT class in vocational school, there is just one girl. She's pretty overweight. I don't know her ...
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Best way to respond to continue possible friendship

I am taking an online course. Two days ago, the instructor organized a meeting of all the students. I liked one of them – he is senior to me, and seems like a nice sort of person, friendly-like – and ...
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My mom won't let me handle my money, what can I say?

Background I'm 18 and I live with my parents, I also have two younger sisters. Ever since I was younger until now nothing changed in terms of their parenting with me. I have to go to bed at X hours ...
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What's the etiquette for addressing a friend's partner or family in a greeting card?

I'm sending holiday greeting cards for the first time to friends, among whom some live with their partners (unmarried). I am not friends with their partners but consider myself on good terms with them,...
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What is the proper etiquette with regards to reciprocating Thanksgiving dinner invitations?

A little bit of background: I am an international graduate student at a university in the US. A domestic friend invited me to his apartment to celebrate Thanksgiving Day and we had a great time on ...
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Dealing with a Colleague who never stops eating

At the moment I am working with one other person in an office. I have no complaints about him, but he eats continually and quite loudly. The problem is he mostly eats bags of snacks and nibbles so it ...
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Is it customary in the US not to say “bye” after a phone call? [closed]

I am French and we end our phone conversations with the equivalent of a "bye". I noticed however that in most of the US movies or TV series (especially the police/action ones), the callers ...
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How to encourage conversations beyond small talk with close friends

I had 2 friends in high school, and we were quite close. Then college life started, and we went to different colleges. One of them went to a college out of state. And so there was no physical contact ...
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How to politely offer someone reward/compensation for a favour?

I have already reviewed this thread here, and while it's useful and kind of similar, it's a bit different and I think it deserves its own discussion. This situation is happening in Canada (if it helps)...
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How to gain group respect in a workplace setting?

This question is posted as first person but on the behalf of another person. Some details might be lacking. I work in a nursing home, as a full time employee since two weeks. My contract is for a ...
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How can I convey to my dad that I like that he buys me things, but sometimes they are just not my taste?

I'm an adult male in his late 20's and have been living on my own for several years with a good job. My dad every so often will go to garage sales or the store and see something interesting he thinks ...
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How can I better handle 'bad-news' talks about family members I don't care about?

There are a few people in my life that I can't avoid because they're family, but that I do not care about at all. Yet, from time to time a parent or grandparent will start sharing things about these ...
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How can I ask (or determine) if someone on the phone is human without offending them?

I recently saw a doctor about a minor medical problem. This is the first time I saw this doctor . After the appointment I asked my doctor a follow-up question via my insurance company's website. I got ...
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Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women

About the relationship My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years now and we have lived together for 2. We are both introverts, and we had some trust issues over two years ago, admittedly my ...
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Dress code due to worry about staining lounge and homeware for casual get together

My friend is worried about potential staining and marking of her white and bright expensive lounge and other homeware goods. She is hosting a casual get-together with close friends at her home so she ...
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How can we get a landscaper to stop blowing leaves into our yard?

My parents live on a somewhat busy but narrow two-lane road. Across the street from them lives an old couple whom we're on good terms with; in the past, they've helped us out with things, and we've ...
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How can I get my mom to compromise and not use her total authority?

I am a 19-year-old autistic male that currently works as a Software Engineering apprentice. I live in a small village in the middle of Bavaria. Even though I got officially diagnosed - secretly - as I ...
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How to keep offering support to someone in grief

A bit of history to explain our current relationship: I met a person recently over a dating app, talked a bit and then met for a date which ended just as a friendly chat, and due to distancing there ...
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How to start a conversation with a 'stranger' from school?

After the summer holidays, I'll be a senior in high school. My year consists of about 100 people, and I approximate that I've never had a word with 30-50 of them. It's not that there were no occasions ...
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How can I get someone to stop paying for my meal?

I have a good friend and every time we go out for a drink or dinner, he always insists on paying. That sounds good to have someone pay for you but it's actually not. For a start, it's kind of ...
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What to do when someone serves chicken after you told them you are vegetarian? [closed]

This question opens a broad spectrum of sub-questions such as religious standards (halal, kosher); health-related (gluten intolerance); and lifestyle/ethical questions (vegetarian). Therefore, I will ...
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How to get close to a old friend, who dosen't look that good now

I had a really good friend (let's call him X). We were the kind of friends which teachers would call inseparable. We went to the same school, the same private tuition and then hung out for some time. ...
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Could keeping score help in conflict resolution?

TL;DR: We've all heard that you shouldn't keep score in a relationship. It leads to misunderstandings and arguments. But here's the thing - we already have a lot of arguments. Could keeping score at ...
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Native english speaking project partner writes in broken english

Issue I'm doing my capstone course for an engineering diploma program One of my partners is a native English speaker, but has severe issues in their writing In conversation she is fine, but has an ...
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Telling shy person about discomfort during sex

I’ve recently become more sexually active and have found myself in a difficult position. I’m currently in a “friends with benefits” type of relationship and have found my partner to be quite shy and ...
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How do I become more sociable with someone I've only spoken to over text? [closed]

TL:DR I've been talking to this girl a lot over text and she's really nice, however we are hanging out soon in person and I need advice about how to maintain the type of communication we have over ...
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How to tell a parent to stop spamming?

Background: My father and I live in different countries. I moved a few years ago on account of my job. My father is a curious person who likes to read and understand whatever he can find. He retired a ...
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How do I deal with my girlfriends anxiety affecting my relationship with my friends

My girlfriend has anxiety issues for which she currently is prescribed medication. The medication helps but she still struggles with social occasions, especially when she does not know many people ...
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How to get over nervousness and prepare for meeting significant other's parents?

I am the kind of person that is a little shy/awkward when first meeting people, but get better over time, the longer I have to warm up to them. The problem is that this initial nervousness is quite a ...
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How do you point out major design flaws gently?

I left my old uni society for a year to work in industry, and in that time the team that succeeded me have designed and built most of the aircraft I was working on. Had it not have been for the ...
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How to reply to a message or email after a long delay?

I have a habit of taking a very long time to reply to emails and messages. Since some of these are from friends with whom this is my main form of contact (i.e. unless it is organised via messages and/...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

This is something I've noticed with older people, mainly men - the desire to do e.g. household or other maintenance-type tasks themselves, without explaining how to do it, even preferring that I'm not ...
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How do you respond (in a reasonable manner) when a less-educated friend suggests reasons for your current psychiatric disorder?

My friend suggested that a recent and ongoing flare of my autoimmune disease was causing my ongoing depression. She is a very close friend, and I love her dearly, but she is much less educated than I ...
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My fiancée is addicted to a “free-to-play” (pay-to-win) game

My fiancée and I have been living together for exactly 4 years as of today. She and I have always loved video games, we both own several consoles (PS4, Nintendo DS, Nintendo Switch etc), we actually ...
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How do I politely turn down requests to show wedding photos?

I got married recently and have changed my name at work. People have noticed and are now asking for wedding photos. How do I tell them politely that no, I'm not going to show them? Lying and saying I ...

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