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How do I regain respect and professionalism in the face of petty criticism, while learning from said criticism?

Background I am a high energy person and do tend to snap easily when I have a perfect storm of tiredness, constant work pressure, lack of human interaction due to COVID, and simultaneously spending a ...
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How to find balance between sounding defensive and staying silent during an argument?

My girlfriend says I never accept mistakes, don't say sorry, always try to reason why I did something, get defensive, say same thing again and again to support myself during the argument after I mess ...
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How should I ask people to stop over explaining things?

Most people that I interact with on a daily/regular basis seem to need to over explain and qualify every statement. An example would be: I'm heading out shortly and your car is blocking the drive. ...
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How to deal with close relatives not taking COVID-19 seriously?

Context I live in an Eastern European country within the EU where COVID-19 has created relatively few victims due to the lock-down being put in place quite quickly in the spring. However, as the ...
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How to support a friend with an 'insignificant' problem?

Background So the story is that I've been through stuff in my life, good and bad, a lot of bad. Sometimes I'm bitter and jealous of people who in my opinion have an easier life. During a discussion ...
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How can I tell someone that their teasing is hurting my feelings?

There are times and situations that teasing someone can create a bond of friendship and that the bond created is a result of a well-meaning intention to prepare a person for what they might encounter ...
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Reassuring my wife being jealous of my close female friend

In short, I've made a mistake of being overly friendly and supportive to another person and can't deal with the massive backfire due to me being untrustworthy. More details below. I met my girlfriend, ...
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How do I tell my PhD supervisor I want to drop out?

I am going to start my PhD degree this week and I realised that, for personal and professional reasons, I don't want to do it. Personal reasons: I live in a foreign country and I don't like living ...
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What if I could prevent a conversation from turning into pure guesswork?

I've had some serious stuff to handle over the last month or so. And it sadly wasn't the stuff you could keep easily quiet. To make things worse, the main actor that created this mess has apparently a ...
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How to convince family to accept my choice?

My family and I live in a big crowded city. My dad has a little house with a big garden out of city (about 15 km away). At weekends my parents and my sister and her husband go there and stay for a few ...
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How do I communicate to my husband that I don't like oral sex?

I am newly married 27 year-old lady from India. My husband really likes oral sex, but I hate it... It is really uncomfortable for me and I feel like it is disgusting and I don't know that it is ...
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How can I politely tell parents of kids to stop playing with my son's toys/equipment to give him and his friends a chance?

Quite often we go to the park, or host a party and we have a few things like Stomp Rockets or Jumpers or other such things/toys. There are quite a few kids who look at longingly and want to come over (...
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How to tell my mother not to visit?

I left my mother's home to live on my own 8,5 years ago. Since then, no one in my family has visited me once. Some years ago, my mother even dismissed my idea to visit me when I suggested to do so, I ...
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How to get my parents to take my Mother's cancer diagnosis seriously?

I'm a 35y/o male in Canada. My parents are in their mid-late 60s and live in the UK. I have two older brothers also in the UK. My mother has been diagnosed with cancer, though the full diagnosis is ...
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How do I progress a newly formed friendship into a romantic relationship?

I am 27 and don't have any experience dating. My problem is that I have been totally an introvert for the past 10 years, especially with girls, so I don't have much experience when it comes to girls. ...
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What to do if my name means something inappropriate in another person's language?

My first name is relatively common and normal for a country A where I'm from. Currently I live in a different country (B) and recently started working with a lot of people from some other country C. ...
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Dealing with a new clique

My research group has a new member who is more outgoing than anyone else and draws a lot of attention to himself. He likes socializing a lot more frequently than I prefer to and has a more-the-...
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How, as in “what way”, am I expected to go about using a dating app correctly?

A bit of a weird question, I know, but I feel I need this spelled out. When a person sits down and logs onto an app like Tinder, what exactly, more or less step by step, does Tinder expect them to do? ...
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Boss tells me to face him when talking [closed]

So I was talking to my boss in the hallway today. During part of the conversation I turned to face somewhere to the left side of him for ~ 20 seconds, I think I got restless/bored from standing still....
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How to avoid awkwardness with an ex-acquaintance

Background: I have this acquaintance I have known for quite some time (approx. 2 years) over that time and he has grown to hate me. I have personally reached out to him to know what's wrong and he ...
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How to address a Korean co-worker?

My current employer is a global software company with offices in several continents. The company tries to maintain a culture of conviviality. Our main communication medium is text chat in English ; ...
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How to stop divulging information that I don't want to share?

My cousin asks me things that I don't want to share, yet I share details with her because I don't know a polite way to tell her that I don't want to share. From time to time, she asks me about my ...
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How to politely address the rude accusations being thrown your way?

I don't know if the title of this post is explanatory and descriptive or not, but I shall be giving a detailed insight of my problem below. Situation: So there is this committee in our college who ...
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How can I ask the neighbors to control their daughter's noise level?

My neighbour has a kid who shouts and cries continuously whole day and makes strange noises like barking, howling, bleating, and others. I really admire the energy of the girl, the endurance of her ...
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How can my cousin restore harmony between his Indian mother and American mother-in-law?

Someone asked me in a comment, what is my role in all this? Good question. I am not at all close with Aunt but I am close with my cousin (son of Aunt) and he needs help to keep his mother and mother-...
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How can I convince my 'cousin sister' that the man she loves is of 'bad character?'

I did use the India tag as a matter of course, but as always welcome answers from members all over the world. Why? Because some of the most helpful answers to my previous India-tagged questions came ...
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My grandmother doesn't talk or communicate any more. How can I be good company to her?

My grandmother is over 90 years old, and lives in a retirement home. She can't do anything alone anymore, almost not even move, and basically she is in bed all day, almost only sleeping. There are ...
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How to ask to join friends to vacation?

I recently overheard two of my friends, that they are planning to go on vacation next year together with another two or three friends of us. Well, overheard may be the wrong word in this context, they ...
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How do I make sure I don't get credited for other people's work?

At work I have a co-worker who frequently gives me credit for the accomplishments of my female colleague. I am acting primarily as a consultant on the project where as she and her team are the ones ...
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How should I continue working with this client without engaging much personal or mindless chit chat?

I have this client that really likes to have some personal conversation during our 'work' calls ( I work as a freelancer). I've obliged and shared some personal thoughts/talks as well to appear polite....
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I have trouble making new friends

I take art classes non dedicated to school and there are a lot of other teens there but I have trouble making friends because everyone is doing their thing and I don't know when is the right time or ...
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How to deal with my grandma and aunt's hurtful behavior towards my family? [closed]

I am an unmarried 22 year old girl in college. I have a mother, father and brother who is also doing his masters in college. We live in India and all stay together in a flat. I'm the youngest in my ...
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How to encourage my boyfriend to sleep in the same bed as me? [closed]

My boyfriend moved into my house with me about a year ago, and for about 9 months we were sleeping in the same bed (the master bedroom). There is a similarly-sized guest bedroom that also has a ...
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How can I tell a friend they need to help with what they promised because what they promised can't wait?

Situation My boyfriend, John, has a female cat. He's had her for a long time. He also happens to have a friend, Lily, who loves cats. Over time, Lily went from being a cat lover to being a cat ...
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How to respond to a particular aspect of Indian culture?

In my line of work, I spend lots of time meeting people from various companies. Often, especially when the companies are tech companies, my counterpart will be Indian. One useful skill in working with ...
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How to encourage girlfriend to apologize more?

My girlfriend and I have been together for a bit more than 2 years now. At this point, our relationship is stable and we feel good about each other's company. However, there's one thing that really ...
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How to address a Chinese co-worker?

Question similar to How to address a Korean co-worker? When interacting in direct chat messages in English with co-workers (software developers like me) from Chinese offices ; is it rude to address ...
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How do I encourage my literature penpal to share her opinions more?

My penpal and I have become great friends. We email about every three days, sometimes more, and in just a few months she's turned out to be one of the most positive relationships in my life. She's ...
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How to open up a discussion with my parents about their funeral and last wishes?

My parents are in their 80s with degrading health. Visits to the hospital for various medical reasons have been increasing. I absolutely hate to admit this, but at some point, they might not come home ...
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I suspect my wife is transgender. How can I talk best talk to them, and handle the possibilty if they are? [closed]

I've been with my wife for 10 years (married 2). I am a CIS male, and have suspected my partner (female sex, but agender) may be trans for a while now. They share a lot of similarities I've heard ...
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Is it appropriate to ask someone just met have they ever been somewhere? [closed]

Is it appropriate to ask someone just met have they ever been somewhere? Is it possible to embarrass them by asking that kind of questions in America. I went to Paris last summer. Have you ever been ...
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When hosting a gathering, how to decline to answer the question “who else is coming”?

I'm having a celebration soon. I invited some guests from different friends groups. Some are asking, "Who's coming?" I actually find this question a bit annoying because it's like their ...
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How can I ask my mother to give me privacy?

I'm a 19-year-old girl, who has a Facebook account. My mom respects my privacy most of the time, like she keeps out of my Instagram account, but always keeps logged in to my Facebook account. She ...
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How to get my younger brother to respect my boundaries

A year ago I finished my education and moved back in with my parents. My brother is 14, 10 years younger than me. He annoys me quite a bit and I'm having difficulties dealing with him and don't know ...
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How to politely deny service in barbershop from specific barber? [duplicate]

I'm really having hard time here. There are three barbers working there and there is no reservation possible. People go inside without an appointment. One of the barbers is really skilful however the ...
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How can I deal with a large age gap between me and coworkers?

How can one handle age discrepancy between a local clique and self? For background, this is well pre-COVID-19 situation, so it does not include the pandemic as a factor. Around two years ago, I worked ...
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Buying an expensive item from an acquaintance — making an offer

I want to buy an item from an acquaintance---we work in the same field roughly and have hung out a few times, I might refer to them as a friend loosely. The list price at a local shop is $1,050 pre-...
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How do I stop a person I am not interested in being friends with from contacting me?

There is a middle-aged Scandinavian educated chap (similar age) neighbour who befriended me (I am male too), even though I never wanted be anything more than neighbour or associate at best, but he is ...
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How to better understand the experience of transgender people? [closed]

I completely respect and support transgender rights from a rational perspective. I can see that it is something that 1) doesn't significantly affect other people so other people shouldn't be able to ...
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How can I politely explain that I don't want corrections on a Chinese short story I wrote and want to share?

I wrote a short story in Chinese, which is a language I'm learning. I want to share it with my friends (here in China, on Chinese.SE, and on Facebook) for people to enjoy (and hopefully inspire me to ...

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