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How can I help a hoarder friend while I worry about the health of her cats I need to feed?

One of my best friends, "Anne", has mental health problems for a long time. She's very closed off, just like me, and never responded much to my offers of help. I still tried to help her any ...
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How to Apologize to a Professor After a Falling-Out? [closed]

Some background: Our falling out occurred when I wrote a letter to the department chair, complaining that her communications triggered an anxiety episode on a few occasions. This letter was prompted ...
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How to deal with sibling who has had a grudge against me for 6+ months over a minor issue?

I have a younger brother who is 19. We don’t have anything in common. I’m a quiet person and don’t like to talk about irrelevant things. My brother doesn’t understand that I’m different, he thinks I ...
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How to make amends with someone that I had a fallout with, after talking about a sensitive topic?

I have an acquaintance, John, that I have known for a number of years. John and myself are both a part of a social media group made up of a number of friends and mutual friends. Recently I had a ...
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How to quickly tell if someone is an asker or guesser?

I realised that most of my interpersonal conflicts arise when I (an asker) ask a guesser questions that they find uncomfortable answering. To overcome this, I am thinking that when I meet a new person,...
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Are parents controlling when they tell their 24 year old adult child they can’t drive? [closed]

It’s been 3 years I had my license and I live under my parents roof. However, they won’t let me drive, yet they let my other older siblings drive when they were 16-17. I have no bad driving record and ...
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How to give a gift that was declined on the basis of welfare of the gifting party without being rude?

I am attending the wedding of a very close family member soon (45 days). This family member and their fiancé need new phones, their current one doesn't seem to last 30 minutes of use with a full ...
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How do I break a promise to a friend? [closed]

I'm friends with 2 brothers who like playing pranks on each other. One of the brothers is 19 years old and the other is 12 years old. I'm 14 years old so I have more in common with the 12 year old and ...
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How to respond to someone who wants to know my dark side and wild things that I have done? [closed]

I met a person online. Both of us 35. After some conversation, I asked him the kind of books he prefers. He told me that he reads dark books which I won't like. I guessed "crime/ghosts", he said no. ...
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What statements or actions should be avoided while quitting or being fired from a job? [closed]

There is a large body of information specifying what types of statements should and should not be made during encounters with the police, as these interpersonal communications have the potential to ...
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What do people mean by “lowering your standards”? [closed]

I've never had a girlfriend. Been desperately lonely and sad all my life. In my mid-30s now. Have given up entirely on the whole concept of finding anyone online, and the few times an attractive ...
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How do I get my friend to stop singing along when I'm trying to listen to the music? [closed]

I have a friend who has an absolute tin ear... could not carry a tune to save her life. But she is a genius with lyrics. Because of this, she loves to sing along to things. It is almost as if she is ...
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Dealing with drunken guy who keeps harassing us and cops not intervening? [closed]

Recently me and my fiance have had a drunken guy kept coming to our house harassing us and shouting anti-mask arguments - he's come wearing a bikini and claiming: Joe Biden is a clinically obese ...
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How to talk to my wife regarding educating children about religion?

I was raised Roman Catholic, however I don't really follow any organized religion. I have my own beliefs regarding Deity, but don't attend a recognized (or unrecognized for that matter) religious ...
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How can I politely decline to guide a student?

I am a lecturer in a department in which undergraduate students have to do a final-year project guided (= supervised) by a faculty member. Faculty members do not have to guide students: those who do, ...
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Is silence an effective method for dealing with openly aggressive/confrontational individuals?

I would like to know more about whether there are methods or techniques relating to the use of silence when dealing with openly aggressive or confrontational individuals. In the past I have found ...
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How to get rid of (my own) dominant behaviour in the work place?

(I'm told that) I'm a rather dominant person in a work environment. This is a known and outspoken issue since my superior is a distant but long term friend of mine (20 years plus). From time to time I ...
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How to decide whether or not to be persistent in pursuit of a relationship?

I am trying to create some lines through this gray area. I feel that there are times when being persistent and showing someone you are interested is attractive since to varying degrees people like ...
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How to look after a partner at a party?

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months and enjoy going to parties together. We both always have a great time and are comfortable doing things together and splitting off to do our own ...
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Dealing with noisy people in a classroom in absence of adult supervision

I was put in a top performing batch in my high school after management saw my academic performance. We are left to study on our own in a classroom. Most students in the classroom are noisy; they keep ...
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How do I recover from my social awkwardness being pointed out?

I am shy, introverted, and have social anxiety, so chatting with people I don't know is usually very uncomfortable. I've gotten better at it, but it's still a struggle. On a few occasions it's been ...
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How to ask for autonomy without coming across as rejecting?

I have been living with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we have an overall great relationship. I work and he's currently unemployed. I used to ask him small services and be happy when he'd take ...
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How do I get a close female friend to like me romantically?

Let me give you as much information as possible so you understand how I ended up in this situation: A couple months ago, on Valentine’s Day, I messaged my best friend who I’ve known for about two ...
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Ways to mitigate a recurring argument between Alice who avoids and Bob who seeks resolution

Alice and Bob have a recurring argument. Alice says something that confuses Bob. It can be an unqualified pronoun, an unsignaled change of topic, a lack of context, etc. With some difficulty Bob ...
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How to open up to someone about loving them, when you don't know if they love you back?

I feel attracted to someone. I did have a relationship with her before (we were little children at that time, 5-7 years old), but we couldn't continue because of age and distance. We are both ...
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How can I let a TikTok creator know that their content is revealing their home address without being creepy?

Tina There is this TikTok* creator that I follow, her name is Tina*. Tina is creating workout videos as well as more personal content where she is telling jokes, talking to her siblings and parents, ...
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How do I tell a friend I can't afford her wedding?

TL;DR – How do I tell a childhood friend that both my parents and I most likely cannot afford to travel for her wedding (to which I am to be a bridesmaid) without making her angry/defensive? ...
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How can I survive in a 'guess' culture?

Recently I read an article on 'ask' and 'guess' culture1, and it brought me a lot of clarity. It explains the reason behind many of the interpersonal conflicts that I faced during the past 10-20 years ...
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Love Confession by Personally Handing Over Handwritten Letter

There is a person I've met at the workplace who I've become interested in since I was introduced to on my first day at work. The development of our relationship was slow due to being in a different ...
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Helping daughter deal with overwhelming 'friend'

My step-daughter is very tolerant of other people, and kind-hearted. She is also quite mature for her age (11) and is not emotionally volatile like some of the other children in her class. I don't for ...
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I have a co-worker from India, who has lost several family members to covid. How is it most appropriate to express condoleances?

I am an academic in a US university. My co-worker is a more junior academic who grew up in India and has family in New Delhi. Today I learned that he has lost several family members (uncles, aunts, ...
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How to nicely reject someone who is hitting on you in the United States?

The other day I was on the bus and this girl awkwardly walked up to me and started talking to me. She then gave me her number. I wasn't really interested in interacting more with her, so I pretended ...
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How to respectfully reject invitation to joint work from a colleague?

A colleague of mine is inviting me to meetings with them "to do joint work". The colleague is new, so the "joint work" is more a competence transfer. I fully embrace the idea that ...
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Not able to get a telephone call from my GP

For some time we have always been able to ask for our GP to call us at home to discuss a problem. The last 3 times I requested a call everything was fine until I declined to give any personal ...
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How to stop my mother from questioning my decisions out of selflessness?

Quite often (say, 3-5 times a week), my mother will ask me something, I will answer, and she will question whether my answer is legitimate or whether I'm just answering what I think she thinks she ...
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Offering help to an online friend who just lost their parent

A friend I met a few months ago over online classes recently (this morning, a few hours ago) lost their father. I live around 12+ hours away from them, so as much as I would like to I cannot go and ...
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How to deal with an egoistic friend who only talks politics and religion?

I'm 27 M (living in India). I have this friend (say John). We were school classmates for 9 years. We shared a good relationship during school days but our mentality and perspectives to look at the ...
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How do I get to the point of asking questions and getting answers?

No matter what I say or do, I am truly just always asking questions about what I do not understand to people who are capable of helping me understand what I need to know about that topic, and no one ...
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How do I effectively challenge the teacher's bias without coming off as a jerk to the rest of the class?

In my situation, our school had us talk about racial justice and the teacher asked everybody to be respectful and have an open mind. He then presented a slideshow (Fairly sure it wasn’t made by him), ...
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How to better explain to my wife that I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it was irrelevant?

Background: I try to avoid shopping while hungry as I make bad decisions but I wasn't expecting we'd be dropping by the store when my wife and I were out on a walk. She asked if I intended to share ...
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Dealing with a problem Forum user without driving them away

I'm one of the moderators of a users forum (Forum X) dedicated to a single software product. We have 5 moderators; and 2 of us including me are also Forum Admins. (I'm also a moderator of a Stack ...
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What type of support should I offer my partner who clearly hates his job?

Background I'm a 22-year-old and have a long-time partner, who I have been with since we met at university. We both live in the Midwest in the United States, and have been planning to move into an ...
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How to talk to my brother, who has mental health issues, about my frustrations with him?

I live with my parents while I finish up my degree. A couple of months ago, my brother got out of a long, toxic relationship. He has since moved back in with my parents. The relationship ending caused ...
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How to enforce a “No Shoes” policy in my apartment?

I like to keep my apartment floor clean, as I enjoy walking around with bare feet after a shower without having to worry about them becoming dirty. As such, I don't like shoes beyond the doorway in my ...
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How to offer my availability ( time and date ) when I ask for interview?

For some research I have to interview expert in the field.I try to it via LinkedIn, so the people I approach have never met me in person. I can easily approach them and convince them for an interview. ...
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How to ask parents to stop screaming at other sibling?

There is a large age-gap between my younger sibling and I (it's just the two of us). I am a college student (at home due to the pandemic), while she is in middle school. More often than not, I find ...
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Why do I lose my temper more easily if one of my own has been wronged than if I'm the one that has been wronged?

Interpersonal conflicts inevitably happen in life, under one form or another. As I'm being confronted by more conflicts as I grow older, I keep learning how to react better. In conflicts where ...
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For the girl of my heart? [closed]

I am a 20 yr old university student, pretty much matured. The story begins 2 years ago when our uni new admissions was started, at that new batch I saw a girl and I've found her so attractive that I ...
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De-escalating perceived conflicts against spouse without “taking the other side”

My spouse recently wanted to know some details about an airbnb reservation my mother had made, which we will be sharing later this year. My spouse and I have formulated this post together. In my ...
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How to provide feedback when my mother tries new recipes, in a way that doesn't upset her but still allows for honesty?

This has been a thing since I was a kid, but I experienced it again tonight. My mother has always done the cooking at home, it's also something she won't give up. She's the kind of person that would ...

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