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How to enquire about someone after they learned bad news?

I learned a few hours ago that a friend's dad and step-mom had a life-threatening motorcycle accident. I enquired about his state through SMS (I'm in another country right now) as I think I would ...
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Offering Payment for a Favour

In the United Kingdom or Ireland, when is it appropriate to offer payment to a friend who has done you a favour? For instance: a very close friend gives you a ride to a doctor's appointment. How ...
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A casual acquaintance keeps offering me gum

Someone I run into occasionally, when we meet, they always takes a pack of gum out of their pocket, takes a piece for themselves, and offers me one. I am not sure if they think I have bad breath and ...
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How to discourage missionaries? [closed]

There is a knock on the door, I answer it to find a missionary who wants to teach me about the "one true religion". It is obvious very early that we have differing views about what the real "one true ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?

When at a party with my partner, someone was flirting with him and kept putting her hand on his leg. I found myself becoming very jealous, but didn't say anything, and got more and more angry, as he ...
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How do I avoid saying anything that comes to mind? [closed]

Just as the title suggests, I tend to say the first thing that comes to my mind. It's not really that I talk too much, more that some things I say appear to be 'random' or a bit offensive/awkward, ...
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What does one do at a dance without a date? [closed]

Connected to my previous question, what do you do at a dance where you know very few of the participants and you have no date? What I ended up doing was mostly standing next to the DJ and modifying ...
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How can I politely tell a defensive Stack Exchange user to use proper punctuation? [closed]

On a Stack Exchange site I moderate, there is one user who repeatedly uses commas instead of other proper punctuation marks in posts, and often writes simple walls of text. At first, people edited the ...
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What's the difference between being introvert and being shy?

I noticed some people in chat saying there's a big difference between shyness and being introvert: I am both extremely outgoing and extremely introverted. shyness definitely isn't the same thing as ...
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How to deal with someone accidentally spitting in my food while dining out

This is a true story. I was dining out with a friend and an acquaintance (who was close friends with my friend). Back story: the acquaintance was jealous of how well her friend and I were getting ...
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How to politely convey that you don't want to be tagged in irrelevant social media posts?

Some people have the habit of mass-tagging people on irrelevant posts. Mostly they don't have bad intentions but it's really noisy and I would like it stopped. How to tell these people not to tag me ...
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How can I politely reject someone asking for WhatsApp number?

While travelling, sometimes I talk with people seated near me. The conversation is either started by them or by me. At the end, some people ask for WhatsApp number or mobile number or facebook id. ...
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How to ask for personal space from a new friend without hurting their feelings?

Sometimes you make a new friend who has more free time on hand than you, so the other person will expect more time from your side so asking for more space might be considered as rude or showing fake ...
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How can I respond to a false statement when the other person doesn't give me a chance to talk?

Sometimes it happens to me that I am having a conversation with some acquaintance that gets a bit out of hand or unpleasant due to a random comment. Say I am meeting a friend of a friend. I may say ...
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How can I follow up if a polite request to follow the rules has been declined?

How should I follow up if a polite request to adhere to the rules is ignored or declined? An Example Dutch trains have special silent compartments (Dutch: stiltecoupé), where people are supposed to ...
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As an outsider to Korean culture, how do I work within the age system?

My understanding of Korean culture is that everyone basically knows everyone else's age. This is essential when speaking Korean because the language changes based on your social status. As an ...
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How to accept an apology, without implying that there was no problem?

An older man barges into me. While I think he could have prevented that, I don't assume he had any bad intentions. He then apologizes and I want to accept the apology, but how? Just saying "It's OK" ...
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How to get involved in a conversation happening on the seats across from you on a coach

Often on a trip, there will be an odd number of people from my school getting involved. As a result, one person will be left isolated on their own pair of chairs (chairs on coaches are pairs of 2 ...
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Politely ask friend to turn down car radio [closed]

I frequently ride with a friend with whom I get along quite well, except for one thing, and that is that it seems that his radio is always way too loud. I know he enjoys having the sound turned up, ...
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How to develop romance in a casual, interrupted relationship? [closed]

I was in a relationship with a woman, went out on several dates (more than 3), but, nothing exciting happened. We didn't break up, we just kind of stopped talking to each other. About a year later (...
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How can I distinguish between a person being humorous and non-humorous?

I have a situation where a person is telling many jokes, but the problem is it is hard to tell when they are serious. How should this situation be handled? They are an acquaintance that I work with. (...
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How can I explain my reduced social activity when depression is stigmatised?

I lost my job a few months ago, and was struggling to find a new one with no success. This led me to becoming less motivated each day, until the point that suicide slipped into my mind - which I ...
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How do I indicate sarcasm/irony online?

On the Internet, you don't have important visual and auditory cues from a person like tone of voice or facial expressions. Body language, therefore, is non-existent - yet this can be very important in ...
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How to politely decline an opportunity to be involved in a pyramid scheme?

I have a friend who is involved in a Multi-Level Marketing scheme (which sounds a lot like a pyramid scheme). She often invites me to events where she sells things. When we meet outside these nights, ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?

I'm a shy person, and tend to be the last to speak in a discussion or meeting. But I noticed that in my group (a hobby group), most people are quiet too, and also passive when taking turns in ...
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How can I politely tell someone that they should take a shower?

When I was in college, myself and a few friends gathered weekly to play D&D together. One friend had weekly track & field sessions scheduled prior to our meet-ups. Usually, this wasn't an ...
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How can I prevent an appearance of micromanaging someone?

I have a personality trait (desire to understand details and confirm them) that very often can be mistakenly perceived by people as micromanaging them (even though my intent in what I ask/say is ...
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How do I make friends with service staff at restaurants/bars?

There are people at my local brewery I enjoy chatting with casually during down time. We've had some good conversation and things have gone great. My problem is how do I go about inviting them to ...
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How to nicely reject someone who is hitting on you in the United States?

The other day I was on the bus and this girl awkwardly walked up to me and started talking to me. She then gave me her number. I wasn't really interested in interacting more with her, so I pretended ...
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How to converse about a topic you don't like or know about?

I have friends who will engage conversations with me about topics that either I know nothing about or that I just don't care for. For example: My closest group of friends (which include around 6 ...
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What to talk about with a person you meet through a mutual friend on the bus? [closed]

It often happens to me, that I met some friend in the bus/tram/subway etc., but my friend is not alone, but with his/her friend (whom I don't know at all). We are talking about something, my friend ...
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Talking to the parents of an adult autistic student

I have an adult, autistic student who I have tutored weekly in programming since about November. His parents would like this tutoring to result in him being able to work as an entry-level programmer, ...
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How to continue a friendship, which was lost years ago [closed]

I lost many of my friendships when I completed my high school and joined college. It happened more than 4 years ago. Now I would like to continue the friendship with few friends (say 2 to 3). I have ...
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Managing a bad temper in close relationships

I've always had a short fuse. I've been quick to rise and lose my temper, but on the flip side I'm quick to get over it when others lose their cool. The problem is that others usually are not, ...
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When is it more suitable to say “no problem” versus “you're welcome”? [closed]

Most times, when I am thanked - I respond using no problem rather than saying you're welcome. I find it more habitual for me to say the former than the latter. In terms of a societal standpoint, are ...
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What is the politest way to follow up on an ignored email?

I send a lot of emails - some important and some not. I often get replies for the important ones promptly, but the less important ones can often be forgotten. I understand this - I'm sure I do the ...
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What to do when meeting an online friend in real life for the first time? [closed]

In a few weeks time, a friend from the Netherlands is coming over to spend a week with me in the UK. She is female (and I am male), we are both the same age, and are friends (there's nothing special ...
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What impact does “mirroring” have on other people?

Mirroring is mimicking the body language of the person you are talking to. It is sometimes recommended for people to help "break the ice." But how does it create a positive impression? What do ...
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How to apologize to a person whom I scolded, long after the fact?

I scolded a fellow college student of mine based on a misunderstanding. Later on I realised it wasn't his mistake. Since we kept a not-bad friendship for more than 3 years, I would like to solve the ...
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How to handle limited time with an unwelcoming group

Sometimes I get myself in situations where I'm introduced to a group and we are going to spend a limited amount of time together, such as a party. While some people and/or groups are incredibly open ...
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Will interacting on an electronic forum, tend to improve or deteriorate my real life interpersonal skills? [closed]

I spend a lot of time interacting with people online and only a small amounts of time interacting with only a few people in real life. Before the internet (I am an older introvert) I did not ...
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What methods help to avoid “that awkward silence”? [closed]

Introverted people tend to become embarrassed either when approaching someone or when a certain topic in a conversation runs out. It is often followed by apparently "losing the ability to find a new ...
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When should I use Mrs. or Ms. in emails?

When I am writing emails, I prefer to use either Mr., Mrs., or Ms. when addressing the recipient's name. When I am addressing a woman, I may not always know their marital status and don't know whether ...
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How can one handle an encounter with a beggar/homeless person? [closed]

I used to work in Downtown Orlando, which is notorious for its amount of people walking the streets no matter if it's day or night. I worked Downtown for about six months, and I started to notice the ...
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How can I notice if someone is speaking with sarcasm or irony?

I ask this question from a European country; consider your answers this way. Some people are unable to differentiate serious talking, jokes, and irony or sarcasm. Specifically for the latter, as it's ...
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Should I ask about a colleague's obvious problem, even when I don't care much? [closed]

A colleague has returned to work after spending several months away to take care of her ill child. During this time, I took over some of her duties. She has returned and responsibilities have ...
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How to react to an excuse if it wasn't “Ok”? [duplicate]

I was walking down the street, when a rushing older man just barged into me. He very politely excused himself for that. So I wanted to accept that excuse, but since he could have prevented it from my ...
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Joining an existing group of friends

Many times we try to blend in with some friend's friends. However, being accepted into that group of friends is not so simple, for a few reasons. While hanging around that group does allow someone ...
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How can I get someone to say their first name without letting on that I've forgotten?

I often face the problem of forgetting the name of a person who I last met a while ago. This can lead to an awkward situation when asking what their name is. How can I elicit them to say their name, ...
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How to handle accidentally bumping into a drunk person while walking?

Yesterday when I left my office, I bumped into a drunk person while walking. I didn't notice him, since I was walking while checking my WhatsApp messages. Then, since he was drunk, he started ...

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