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How can I try to get my coworkers to stop their jokes on LGBTQ+ people

Context

I have been in this company for 5 months now and I'm sharing an office with four males (35 to 55 y.o.). They all are white, heterosexual men. For the record I'm a white, 22 y.o., heterosexual female and I consider myself a woman1.

There's been a viral video in France in the beginning of July where a bunch of people discuss non-binary and LGBTQ+ discrimination. At the beginning of the debate the facilitator address these people as gentlemen, to which one of them responds:

What makes you think I'm a man?

Problem

Since this video was released my coworkers are making fun of them and making jokes about non-binary. I do not want to repeat them here, but they are deeply offensive and spreads threats towards LGBTQ+ people. It goes very far most of the time.
They joke about it during work time, in the office, twice a day (and for 30+ minutes) since last week. Most of the time I put my earphones on not to have to participate2 (because I am shy and I struggle to be heard in debates and every time I confront them, they laugh at me and tell my opinion is stupid), but this week they called me to get engaged in their LGBTphobic conversation and jokes. It seemed like they wouldn't listen to me when I insinuate it's offensive and makes me uncomfortable (because I am a hetero cis-woman), and I really want them to stop spreading those awful jokes while at work (at least when I'm nearby).

Question

What can I do to try to get my coworkers to stop their LGBTphobic conversation during work time?
I would like to avoid confrontational suggestions if possible, since I'm here for a while and would like to maintain a cordial atmosphere despite our differences of opinions.

Edit

They often start debates (most of the time on topics involving racism / homophobia / rape apology / ...). I'm bothered by the fact they do this during work time but mostly by their opinions themselves.


1: I made the precision for my own mother is a female, but considers themselves neither a woman nor a man. I have little knowledge of LGBTQ+ culture hence I'm not at ease with using the right terminology.

2: They often call debates on controversial topics. For instance when the verdict of the La Meute trial went public, they said it's normal for a woman to be abused of when talking to men in the streets.

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