What I do in those circumstances is to point out the stuff I see that are "boring". Last time we had a get-together, the dude forgot to put some music on, so I pulled him to the side and said: > "Hey man, could we maybe get some music pumping ? Been wanting to show > you X or Y artist". > > "Sorry bro my speaker is broken" (he never had a speaker) ",but nextime Ill >remember that" > > "So when's the next one gona be ? My place or your place ?" > > "Bla Bla Bla" > > "You bet, Ill be going then, Good Night Josh" This is what I found that works the most while providing feedback, most extreme reaction I had was someone telling me that If I wanted to order pizza I would have to pay myself cuz they couldn't. And you know what ? It was perfectly resonable.