**Background**

I have been living with my boyfriend for three months. Both of us are working as trainees in different companies, but while he has 2 hours of daily commuting, I can reach my workplace within 15 minutes with my bike. Regarding this disparity, we decided that until we go back to school (i.e. in two weeks), then I would do the cooking. I totally agreed on this because I come home 1 hour earlier than him plus I love cooking, while it's just another chore for him (he wouldn't mind doing it though, it's just that he's not interested in). For the other chores, we shared them in a more or less fairly way (we did almost all chores on weekends, so I'd say I was doing 60% of the chores). 

**Situation**

A week ago, his sports training began (2 hours three times per week, so one thing leading to another, he gets home 2h30 later than before). He has no choice in the date and time of his training, but I do have for mine (I train at the gym 4 times per week, 1h30 each workout), so I adjusted my trainings on his, but I still come home an hour earlier than him. Naturally, I pursued on cooking our meals. The problem is that since he gets home later, he does less household chores than before. For example, now I always am the one sweeping the floors, cleaning the windows, ... While we used to share these tasks before. 

Last weekend, he said he noticed than I cleant the whole flat while he was on a holiday with his family (I also had a party this weekend with my friends who moved to another city. I woke up earlier on Sunday before joining my friends to do the householding so as when he gets back after so many hours on the road, he finds a clean place). He thanked me, and said he was sorry that he didn't do that much for householding the week before. I said it was ok, but we're now in the middle of the week and he's still doing few chores. Yesterday I did the householding and let him 3 fast and simple things to do for when he comes home, but he's so much longer than me to do them so I wanted to help and he got mad. In the end I stopped helping him and he did not do one important task I asked him, though I know that if I had done it, he would have remembered and maybe again tell me that it was its job. I feel guilty about this.

**About us**

He never refused to do any chore, in fact he's willing us to fairly share the load. He never takes any initiative though. On the other hand, I'm the "if there's a chore to do which is not part of my job but I have the time to do it, I will take care of it" kind of person. Not really because I don't like living in a dirty place, more because I don't want to bother others. Just for the record, this is not a relationship problem, **I used to act the same with my former flatmate.** 

When we moved in together, I suggested that we do a scheduling of the chores: who does what and when, but the idea fell by the wayside. To add further details, we earn the same wage (to be precise, he earns 20% more than me but I have equivalent benefits in kind) but we do not have a joint account. We pay 50% of the groceries each.

**What I want**

For now, I don't care doing almost all the household (90%). What I am afraid of is that it becomes an habit that I handle it all on my own, and I do not want this, because I'm afraid I get exhausted and we fall into a huge fight - *he never refused to help after all!* I think that sharing the load more fairly is the only way to avoid this problem. 

How can I politely tell him we need to organize for doing the householding ?
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We're a couple from Western Europe, both in our 20s.