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Addressing arrogant attitude from a coworker as a teamleader
As a "recovered arrogant person," I may be able to weigh in with a bit of experience. It's in my nature to be a hopeless prima donna, and I am happy to say that I have learned -- for the most part, ...
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How to tell a lady that she is doing wrong by inviting/feeding street dogs?
the dogs are getting mad, and bite kids and elderly people
This sentence alone means that the time to be nice is over. I have children and was faced with a similar situation before.
First, call the ...
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Etiquette at communion for someone who is not religious
Both a preacher's kid and seminarian here.
A lot of this depends on the denomination in question. Catholics and some Lutherans practice what is called "closed communion" where only those practicing ...
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How to stop an unofficial housemate from leaving cigarette ends in our plates and cups?
I realize this answer may be more of a 'hack' than what we typically want in an answer for IPS but I was in a very similar situation and this worked wonders so I really wanted to write it.
Buy a ...
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How to tell a lady that she is doing wrong by inviting/feeding street dogs?
If they are dangerous
If the dogs are truly a danger to you or anyone else contact the building manager or the tenants council (the people who live in the building that manage affairs) and have them ...
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How to tell a lady that she is doing wrong by inviting/feeding street dogs?
As you mention you all have had the Rabies Vaccine I assume you are in India. There are some significant cultural challenges.
I suggest rather then trying to keep her from "helping" the dogs get her ...
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How do I approach telling someone that they are not invited to an event that I am having?
Let him participate, but have a talk with him beforehand.
My advice is to have a chat with him about the event. Set up expectations and ask him if he thinks he can reign it in for an afternoon. If he ...
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Addressing arrogant attitude from a coworker as a teamleader
The points are:
you hired him.
you're the leader.
your boss knows about his attitude and supports you.
coworker is arrogant / "too smart - smarter than everyone one else".
In a case like this, I ...
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How to make my friend realize he is a toxic person and he really has to change?
I agree with the other answers that changing his behavior is extremely difficult and probably beyond your power.
The underlying principle of this problem is your friends positive reinforcement of ...
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Letting roommates know I put up with them more than they put up with me
No one will look out for you except yourself.
Especially in a situation where you're living together, if you don't speak up, everyone is going to assume everything is fine. Your roommates probably ...
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Etiquette at communion for someone who is not religious
I grew up Catholic and had the full suite of religious education that goes with it. I suspect that the rules vary by Christian denomination. The headline answer to your question for a Catholic service:...
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How to ask someone to pay fees on time
The key here is to flip the embarrassment around. Nobody ever wants to admit they need to be paid. We all like to pretend we are independently wealthy and don't have to worry about petty stuff like ...
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How to talk to friend about changing his behaviour towards his girlfriend?
she is at wit's end and I am one of the few persons, Bob takes advice from, I feel obligated to help her and him
Listening to your advice is an additional advantage that his girlfriend may have lost ...
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How to avoid endless corporate evening pubs but still have nice relationship with the colleagues?
You live in a wonderful time to be an 'out' introvert (even if you're not, really).
In some settings, it's traditionally been very difficult to get people to understand that you're truly wired ...
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How to stop an unofficial housemate from leaving cigarette ends in our plates and cups?
A few things to get in mind:
As a paying tenant you have as much right to be there and to have a say as any of the other paying tenants. Doesn't matter that they have been there longer.
Sarah is not ...
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How to tell a lady that she is doing wrong by inviting/feeding street dogs?
Short of bringing in some variant of force (law enforcement, animal control, etc) or threat thereof, as several of the other answers suggest, you're going to need finesse and time.
Before you get ...
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Addressing arrogant attitude from a coworker as a teamleader
First of all - the main problem with such arrogant person is that they may not want to learn. Be it learning new things needed for work or how to act around other people.
There is saying: "If you ...
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How to deal with a toxic group leader?
Well, I have learned a lot about friendships in my life. Sometimes they are lasting and sometimes they are not. I also have a lot of experience in groups, both in person and online, and for this ...
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How do I tell my sister that her daughters should not use their smart phones in church?
How do I talk to my short-tempered sister (who has always gotten very defensive when anyone has criticized her kids about something) about her daughters using smart phones in church?
To summarize the ...
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How to handle situations which demands odd behavior
Your two statements:
How do I handle situations like the second one which need some sort of indecent or rude behavior?
and
How to handle such situations effectively being not rude, not loud, ...
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How to make my friend realize he is a toxic person and he really has to change?
It's really difficult to get people to change their behavior, especially if there's been a long pattern of toxicity. You have more control on your reaction to this behavior.
One thing that stuck out ...
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How to tell a lady that she is doing wrong by inviting/feeding street dogs?
If there are laws in your country about stray dogs, then you should be able to contact your local authorities, and insist that they are removed.
You could perhaps point out to this lady, that if she ...
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Etiquette at communion for someone who is not religious
Note: I'm French, I have done my first and second communion in a Catholic church (but I now consider myself agnostic).
In France, we have a saying: "In Rome, do as the Romans". It means that, when ...
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How do I tell my sister that her daughters should not use their smart phones in church?
Coming in with a bit of a frame challenge answer:
Your sister may not be raising her children to be (as) devout Christians like you. And they aren't your children.
Given that you've stated she has a ...
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How to bring a student back to studies?
Thank you for the question. As it shows you care about your students. Instead of turning it into an argument, why don't you just sit and ask her what she likes or would like to do in future? Maybe it'...
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How to ask someone to pay fees on time
Welcome to Business 101. :-)
And the first thing to get clear in your head is that you are running a business.
As a tutor I have to ask students to pay their fees. Most of them pay the fees but ...
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How do I approach telling someone that they are not invited to an event that I am having?
It seems from your question that you are not at all judgemental of this person. You already have a good understanding of why this person behaves as they do (their background, culture etc) and your ...
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