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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

"I am too old for her" is a decision, and not one that's yours to make. "She is too young for me" is your decision to make, but it doesn't seem to worry you at all. So assuming you don't want to make ...
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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

It’s not much of an answer—Kate Gregory’s is much more useful—but it’s “answer-ish” and I don’t think it’s appropriate for a comment, so: You are blowing the age gap out of proportion I am thirty, and ...
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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

Some questions which I feel will answer your question You don't know her age. She may look young like you. How do you know she's early 30s? Why does age matter to her if she didn't ask you? Why would ...
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How to tell an older colleague that they are not superior to me?

This is going to be tricky. First of all, it is important to recognize that she presumably thinks she is helping you, showing you the ropes, etc. And, to some extent, she may be right. It is very hard ...
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How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office

It's not your job to tell someone how to dress for the office, unless it is. As in, if you're this person's direct supervisor, or human resources person, you may have to address the situation ...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

It's entirely down to personal preference. Yes it is generally acceptable to offer your seat to an elderly or disabled person (there are even some seats in places where you must give up your seat if a ...
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How should one deal with overly familiar serving staff?

Times they are a changing.... This isn't as culturally specific to the UK as you might think. The US had very similar conventions, and still does in certain places. Working in the service industry, ...
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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

Please, do not be concerned about this! Do something to get to know this lady and see if things can work out between you two. I am a nearly 30-year-old woman, very much in love with a man who is 20 ...
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How to tell an older colleague that they are not superior to me?

To me respect is earned, not given. I would ask her (as nicely as possible) if she knows you're actually working at the same position regardless of your past experience, and whether she likes it or ...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

In the UK on much public transit, you may see a sign like this near the entrance of the vehicle: The text reads: Priority Seat for people who are disabled, pregnant or less able to stand The ...
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How should one deal with overly familiar serving staff?

Today's teens are more egalitarian than their elders. While this is a good thing in many ways, it is a bit disconcerting to people who are now middle-aged (or older). I remember people of my age ...
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How to decline answering the question "what age are you" without making the conversation awkward

Two approaches: First, expanding on Scoots' approach of gently deflecting with humo(u)r, and taking note of your comment about how you drew a blank when the question came, the key is to have your ...
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How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office

I am a senior manager in an office environment with a relatively strict dress code, which is related to the work we do and exists for a good reason,and I have in the past spoken to people about their ...
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Addressing conflict in interaction with old grandmother

Setting senile dementia aside (which may as well be the case here, but I'm no doctor), she may also be depressed (or distressed). You cannot do much about her behavior if she suffers from Alzheimer's ...
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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

I think Kate Gregory's answer is very good. Another thing you could try if you don't want to disclaim your age by a personal anecdote for whatever reason, you could also use cultural patrimony which ...
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How do I tell an older coworker I would like to become friends with him?

I'm aspiring to become like him Seems that he did a very good job :) As a teacher, I always do my best to help my students. Amongst other things: be patient, fair, help them understand and improve, ...
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How to tell an older colleague that they are not superior to me?

Having read both your questions, here is how I would handle this: Talk to her, in private, and explain things. If this continues, take it to your manager. Start by taking her aside, preferably just ...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

If even offering a seat seems awkward, there are other things to try. This may be more how than when. Also, I am in Chicago, but I think these techniques don't seem specific to Chicago. When I'm on ...
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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

Don't worry. The difference between your and her physical age is about ten years. What really matters is difference between your mental ages. maybe you are little younger and she is older making the ...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

Making an older person change his ways of doing things is quite difficult. It's better if we just accept that this is how it's gonna be. We want them not to do something risky? We can't do that. All ...
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How do I tell a love interest I'm probably too old for her?

I am very concerned she might feel deceived and lose interest or something when she finds out about the difference. You can either tell her about it now and risk losing a potential relationship, or ...
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How do I effectively explain to my colleagues that they should wish me a happy birthday on a different date?

First - I really feel for you. I think all people have a need to know certain basics to feel connected to life - like, who your parents are and when you were born. It helps us understand our ...
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Addressing conflict in interaction with old grandmother

Your grandmother is in a time of her life when things get very scary. Her body no longer works the way it used to, she's starting to forget things and more likely than not she's afraid that since she'...
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As an outsider to Korean culture, how do I work within the age system?

The first thing you need to know early on about "age" is that you should be thinking in terms of age brackets. Before we go into the nuances of the next paragraph, you should not be worrying about ...
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How to decline answering the question "what age are you" without making the conversation awkward

A bit of humour can sometimes get you out of answering a personal question you don't wish to answer without coming across as confrontational. My personal favourite for "how old are you?" is ...
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When should I offer my seat on public transport?

One should offer one's seat to people who are clearly "weaker" (or in a weaker position) than you are. These include 1) pregnant people, 2) disabled people, and 3) older people (unless you are in one ...
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How do I tell an older coworker I would like to become friends with him?

This is based on your entire post and not limited to the following two sentences, but when you say: I have a strong fear of rejection and I really, really look forward to becoming friends with ...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

This is something that definitely happens in my family. So I can only offer an answer within the family scenario. In my family it happens because it seems to be easier and faster to do it themselves ...
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How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office

I am going to give an answer even though the OP is long gone from the site and it is probable that they are never going to read it. Other answers have covered concerns about authority and the ...
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How do I effectively explain to my colleagues that they should wish me a happy birthday on a different date?

In Australia, the Queen's birthday is celebrated on different dates in different states for historical reasons. This can generate some interesting discussion, but there is no animosity or awkwardness ...
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