Skip to main content
69 votes

Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?

First of all, it's not your father's decision - it's yours. Your father made a demand of you, but the choice rests with you. You organize the wedding, you're paying for it, you get to decide. From ...
Magisch's user avatar
  • 10.7k
40 votes
Accepted

How to help my mother work through extreme anxieties?

Wow, this is a difficult question, and I hate to say "There's nothing you can do," but that's about what it will boil down to. I can say, sit down and have a rational discussion about everything that'...
anongoodnurse's user avatar
39 votes

How to hide panic attacks?

Just to clarify: You have panic attacks when you think your friends are ganging up on you This is because they have actually ganged up on you before and admitted it All these interactions are online ...
Astralbee's user avatar
  • 27k
27 votes
Accepted

How do I recover from my social awkwardness being pointed out?

About feeling socially awkward You mentioned that you're uncomfortable telling the other person that you have social anxiety. That's perfectly understandable. Although the other person might very ...
RaceYouAnytime's user avatar
27 votes

Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?

I got a message from my father telling me that it's my wedding, but he feels I must invite that branch of the family anyway, because it's just 2 more people. [...] It's totally unfair for her, and I'...
LinuxBlanket's user avatar
  • 9,763
26 votes
Accepted

I am very close to breaking up with my girlfriend for selfish reasons; how do I talk to her about our relationship?

Disclaimer: I don't have Asperger nor autism, but I do have emotional dependency, PTSD, anxiety attacks, social anxiety and depression. This may seem blunt, but you can't really help her. ...
Rose's user avatar
  • 556
23 votes

How can I calm myself down when giving a presentation?

I too am a verified geek. I even went through high school with a briefcase and pocket protector. To compound the problem my family moved very frequently (attended 13 public schools, from 21 addresses, ...
User 27's user avatar
  • 2,695
21 votes

How to deal with anxiety/control issues in relationship

...she is very afraid of upsetting me. And I cannot hide the fact that I am upset. ...such things do cause me crippling anxiety (e.g. quite vigorous physical shaking, racing heartbeat, and inability ...
anongoodnurse's user avatar
16 votes

How to hide panic attacks?

I'm really sorry that you're experiencing anxiety in this way. Panic attacks can be really difficult to cope with and it seems like your 'friends' aren't being very supportive. From all that you've ...
Sophie's user avatar
  • 405
15 votes

I'm very introverted and only have one friend, do I ask too much of him?

By common everyday standards you do appear to be over-attached to your friend. Not necessarily that you're asking too much of him ... it sounds more like you're simply suffering in silence instead. ...
akaioi's user avatar
  • 5,965
15 votes
Accepted

How do I tell my roommate that I feel treated unfairly by their SO?

Lazy people often take advantage of the good nature of hard-working people. From the details you give it sounds like you initially had some confidence in your original roommate working and ...
Astralbee's user avatar
  • 27k
15 votes
Accepted

How can I deal with uncomfortable silence from my partner?

If her quietness is a symptom of her anxiety, it is possible that there is no perfect communication that would allow her to entirely change her behavior, just like I imagine that there is no one-time ...
Meg's user avatar
  • 4,899
14 votes
Accepted

Asking an over-anxious friend to stop flooding me with negativity

Back in high school I had friends that were highly depending on talking to me about their everyday issues. I'm not saying they didn't have reasons to feel bad: one of them had to deal with their ...
avazula's user avatar
  • 14.3k
14 votes
Accepted

How to decline attending a funeral

Personally, I think that this is a sign of a much larger problem in your life that should be dealt with. I have a relative who decided that, for him/her to heal, he/she needed to cut the family out ...
baldPrussian's user avatar
  • 32.4k
12 votes

How to help my mother work through extreme anxieties?

Most of the answers seem to be suggesting that your mother should see a therapist. If your mother is willing and is responsive to therapy than that would definitely be the best long-term solution. ...
SyntheticAbyss's user avatar
9 votes
Accepted

Anxious during conference calls

So, I do not have hearing problems myself, but a co-worker has. Just as you, he relies heavily on watching faces/mouths when having a conversation, which makes having a conference call hard for him. ...
Tinkeringbell's user avatar
  • 33.9k
9 votes

How to deal with social anxiety that gets worse with practice?

I think you should aim to internalize the idea that nobody cares very much about you. Okay, that sounds kind of harsh, but its a true idea. Your failures on a daily basis, even in social contexts are ...
David 's user avatar
  • 91
9 votes
Accepted

How do I deal with my girlfriends anxiety affecting my relationship with my friends

First of all, you sound very thoughtful. Acknowledging the issue and understanding that this is a challenge for her is a great first step. Some people are introverts and the way their social world ...
Benjamin Gruenbaum's user avatar
8 votes

How to help my mother work through extreme anxieties?

However, over the years (especially since I have moved out) this behavior has escalated. Her old behaviors still persist, but there is a new behavior which (I feel) is inhibiting her ability to live a ...
Giacomo1968's user avatar
  • 1,378
7 votes

How can I calm myself down when giving a presentation?

On top of other answers that give great advice like practice/rehearse in front of friends, here's what I started doing when I had to talk in front of people... When I first had to give a presentation ...
OldPadawan's user avatar
  • 22.2k
7 votes
Accepted

How to avoid sounding unfriendly when talking fast?

I think that to find a way to achieve this you first need to understand why it is that people find fast talking to be unfriendly. From what I gather it seems that you did not give these people ...
rustypaper's user avatar
7 votes
Accepted

Tactfully telling someone that they are the reason for your anxiety

I recommend acknowledging the situation, de-personalizing the issue, and deflecting with an observable effect which I present as trivial. I have OCD, and am compelled to carry out some bizarre-seeming ...
Upper_Case's user avatar
  • 16.4k
7 votes
Accepted

What is a good way to ask a tech retail worker tips on how to apply for a job where he works at and how the job is like with salesmanship tips?

I don't know if it is common in Turkey to ask an employee if you can work there, but I know that this would seem odd in the USA. For the most part, it is not the employee's job to handle applications ...
Flats's user avatar
  • 238
6 votes

I'm very introverted and only have one friend, do I ask too much of him?

I'm very introverted and only have one friend, do I ask too much of him? I had a somewhat similar problem with my wife back when I was still married. We were both introverted and aspie. So we ended ...
apaul's user avatar
  • 54.8k
6 votes

I am very close to breaking up with my girlfriend for selfish reasons; how do I talk to her about our relationship?

Building on excellent answers above, I think another important question for you to ask is what you want. You can’t change someone when they refuse to change. But you can, and only you can, decide ...
Storm's user avatar
  • 973
6 votes
Accepted

How to tell a girl with anxiety and OCD I'd like to date her without triggering her?

The truth is, you can't really predict what any other person will think or feel, and there is no perfect 'speed' at which to start a new relationship. All you can do it be attentive to the other ...
Meg's user avatar
  • 4,899
6 votes

How to decline attending a funeral

(My answer is quite along the line of @baldPrussian's answer, consider this an addendum) Stop arguing, and start saying Is a sentence I use a lot. I work a lot with group and team dynamics at work, ...
Stian's user avatar
  • 1,594
5 votes

How to deal with social anxiety that gets worse with practice?

I'm familiar with this feeling. Negative interactions are your fault, but positive interactions are because of something else (the other person has good people skills, you got lucky, etc). In your own ...
methodofaction's user avatar
5 votes

How do I recover from my social awkwardness being pointed out?

Well, it will take a frame shift for you, but it would be better for all parties if you took this to be useful feedback. I have a co-worker at my office who is smart, capable, and incisive. But in ...
Curt's user avatar
  • 1,104

Only top scored, non community-wiki answers of a minimum length are eligible