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In my experiences, testing someone usually ends up upsetting the person. When they tell you something and hold you to it, they expect you to fulfill that desire until they’ve let you know they’re ready. Not kissing you was a boundary your girlfriend had set between you and something she held as important. When you asked to break that, she could’ve felt as ...


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Let's take a quick look at some of the things that happened and their inherent implications to your situation. . . . and confronted her in front of all her friends . . . This was a big mistake. You made a personal situation between you and her a situation with everyone. This is going to severely upset and likely embarrass her. Understand that what you ...


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I had a "falling-out" with a close friend due to distance/life as well. We used to hangout and talk often, and we were even getting groceries and dinner together every Wednesday for a few months! But they moved and stopped responding as often to me until eventually I stopped hearing from them. I'm on your friend's side of things though. While the few ...


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Argh... I must say, I totally feel with you on this. This kind of personality Tom has is the most toxic one an aspie can have in their surrounding. I faced such people in my past a few times already1. And it doesn't really matter what is the best way to give such an apology. I would advice you for the current situation to simply apologize any inconvenience ...


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In the given case that you prime goal is to let your cat stay alive, I wouldn't go into any details about the threatening he did. Saying he is a very impulsive person, He is very likely to just curse around when seeing something like this, confronting him with that, will most likely not come over like a real excuse, but rather like criticism and no matter if ...


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I don't really have experience with reconnecting with friends, so my answer won't really be complete. However, I am non-binary and I also do have experience with unexpectedly reaching out to someone in order to bring them joy. I write about such a reach out in another answer here so my post will partially be based on that (and another reach-out that I also ...


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Respond with Empathy ...because we had been planning for months and I decided two weeks ago to invite the boy, and I chose him over her. Whether intentional or not, you've made your priorities clear: the boy is more important to you than your friend. Your friend is seeing this and reacting. This isn't necessarily a good or bad thing. To respond, I'd ...


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I was pretty nervous around girls in junior high and high school, so I can certainly sympathize with your situation. A very similar situation happened to me once (though I was just making conversation for practice in a situation that arose randomly, and had no expectation of or plan for dating that girl). And, based on that experience, I think that there are ...


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First, don't worry too much (yet). Many people use death threat as a general insult (even at their own children), without even the slightest intent to actually do it. I would come personally to the neighbour and apologise, saying something like "It seems that my cat accidentally went into your yard. Please, if it bothers you, I will make sure it won't ...


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Decades ago, I have been that "introvert brat" that could be carried away with people, thinking he's nice and funny, but annoying or hurting peolple; and realizing he's done big mistakes, but too late... Then, either you get a chance or not. But when it happened, I felt soooo ashamed to face that person again that I would always keep a low profile. What I ...


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I encourage something simple, without excuses. Something like: Hi [their correct name*]. Sorry about my rather slow reply. How are you? Just take it from there, and basically act as you normally would (i.e., be the same person). I remember when I transitioned, people would be afraid of saying the "wrong thing", and for this reason avoided me; it felt ...


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I would assume that your family knows about your mental healthy issues. If you really feel that you are prepared to have them close to you, you should try to speak first with the first member that you mentioned, tell her/him that you were in a tough situation and you didn´t know how to handle it, that you are sorry about it and that you will be very happy ...


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I'm am sure this has been a difficult process for you. Your decision to withdraw from those you loved had to be hard on you as well as confusing for them. A wise person once told me the most important thing to aspire to in life was to keep my side of the street clean. They went on to explain the idea of each relationship in life as a neighbor across the ...


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If a friend of mine does not answer a message, I assume they're not really interested to get in touch at that particular moment. If after a certain time they just write to me I would be happy to hear from them. I think this should be as simple as that. Tell them you are sorry, and then invite them to resume the contact with a face to face meeting. My ...


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You made plans with your friend, and (regardless of the reason) you are unable to keep those plans. This happens. I can understand why your friend is disappointed, as this was obviously something she was looking forward to. In this situation you are best of re-arranging these plans with your friend, explaining to her that this time with her is important ...


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