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I had a "falling-out" with a close friend due to distance/life as well. We used to hangout and talk often, and we were even getting groceries and dinner together every Wednesday for a few months! But they moved and stopped responding as often to me until eventually I stopped hearing from them. I'm on your friend's side of things though. While the few ...


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I don't really have experience with reconnecting with friends, so my answer won't really be complete. However, I am non-binary and I also do have experience with unexpectedly reaching out to someone in order to bring them joy. I write about such a reach out in another answer here so my post will partially be based on that (and another reach-out that I also ...


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Given that this question was asked nearly two years ago, I assume you've already taken some sort of action. However, I have been on the other side of an eerily similar situation about seven years ago, so perhaps I can provide some insight into how your friend may (have) respond(ed) to the apology. Note that my situation is idiosyncratic, just like all ...


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Respond with Empathy ...because we had been planning for months and I decided two weeks ago to invite the boy, and I chose him over her. Whether intentional or not, you've made your priorities clear: the boy is more important to you than your friend. Your friend is seeing this and reacting. This isn't necessarily a good or bad thing. To respond, I'd ...


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First, let me explain why A thought your behavior was (perhaps bordering on) a personal attack. You're using a particular style of argument, where you get someone to imagine something that is very clearly awful in order to show them why something else is at least a little bit bad. Therefore you are both saying this person is wrong, and trying to upset them. ...


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I encourage something simple, without excuses. Something like: Hi [their correct name*]. Sorry about my rather slow reply. How are you? Just take it from there, and basically act as you normally would (i.e., be the same person). I remember when I transitioned, people would be afraid of saying the "wrong thing", and for this reason avoided me; it felt ...


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I have personally had difficulties with relatives in the past, and I have found the best way is to try and not repeat past mistakes, which you seem to be working on already, and also to "clear the air" about an old situation you may think to still be affecting your relationship. If possible, try and make plans with the person for coffee or lunch. I find that ...


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If a friend of mine does not answer a message, I assume they're not really interested to get in touch at that particular moment. If after a certain time they just write to me I would be happy to hear from them. I think this should be as simple as that. Tell them you are sorry, and then invite them to resume the contact with a face to face meeting. My ...


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You made plans with your friend, and (regardless of the reason) you are unable to keep those plans. This happens. I can understand why your friend is disappointed, as this was obviously something she was looking forward to. In this situation you are best of re-arranging these plans with your friend, explaining to her that this time with her is important ...


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