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Your fiancé sounds a lot like I was. I was engaged and my partner thought I should have therapy. I resisted because there was nothing wrong with me, right? What does a woman want to do when she finds the perfect man? She wants to improve him, right? So I discounted her views. I'd had therapy before and it had ranged from a waste of time to doing me more ...


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Disclaimer: I use stronger words and controversial simplifications not to offend anyone but to emphasize nuances in details that softer words may cover under one word. I kindly ask careful reader to downscale the strength of the words while maintaing the difference. Background: I am from Czech Republic and I live here. The society here seems a bit behind so ...


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Disclaimer: I'm not going to try and say do this or do that and it'll work; unfortunately it's not that simple. I myself have personal issues to say it in kinder terms. I am familiar with personally saying that I'm this or that and I don't need therapy. Critical point to understand The first thing you have to understand is this: if someone does not want ...


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as soon as I mention "therapy", he says he is fine and shuts me down That is to be expected. "Therapy" is a very strong word, with bad connotations - hospitalisation, medications, etc. Few people would freely and easily admit that they need therapy. Especially when the therapy is mental. From my point of view, therapy is one of the last steps. Until there, ...


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I have a significant other who was bullied at school, was beat at least once by his father, had abusive previous partners, and lost his mother. In general, a life that you could euphemistically call tough. Over time, he developed defense mechanisms that weren't necessary and a bit awkward, like talking about difficult, intimate subject in public in order to ...


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I have depression and anxiety. I had it for years and it took me a very long time for me to finally be able to reach out and see a therapist for help. First of all, you need to know that only one conversation probably won't make your SO willing to see a therapist. There is a lot of stigma around therapists and mental health and it won't go away overnight. ...


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When you say that you'd be uncomfortable in the same situation reversed, would you be willing to sacrifice your personal comfort to show support for the friend who's leaving? If not, I don't see why you would impose that on her. I agree that you should not let previous romantic relationships affect your relationship with a current friend. Assuming that you ...


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From what I understand you exposed your arguments, she heard them and didn't change her mind. At that point, being willing to change her decision would not be respectful. You understand her and may want to help her to feel better about the issue, but as you already said, her feelings are beyond your reach to change. You express anxiety about loosing ...


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