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How to ask your girlfriend to pay her share of the rent when she moves in?
There is possibly a bigger issue here. If the question is literally "How to ask girlfriend to pay rent..", then you've almost, already, done that.
A more diplomatic approach could be just starting a ...
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How to ask your girlfriend to pay her share of the rent when she moves in?
The key word in your question is "invited".
(update: It was. Question has since been edited to remove that word. Skip the next paragraph to get to the actual answer, I leave it as this was the ...
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How do I politely end a cold call I've received?
One of my roommates, when I was younger, worked in a call center... Believe it or not, the people calling you hate doing it more than you hate being called. He didn't last long working there, but came ...
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How should I approach a situation in which I made a female roommate uncomfortable?
I, too, found your name telling (yes, actually, though most likely a joke, it's telling.)
I'm sure you meant it as a joke. That doesn't mean it isn't offensive. I take it you're a male.
You might ...
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How to ask your girlfriend to pay her share of the rent when she moves in?
Seldom I've seen a question that is so well separated into two worlds.
I think that you can settle this by dividing the risks and possibilities, and manage expectations with precision.
Your ...
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What is the etiquette regarding ordering food at a restaurant if someone is late?
Exact time is somewhat dependant on situation, but if everyone is there and one person is 20+ minutes late, you should just order. If you want to be nice about it you can call them and say something ...
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How do I get my neighbour to stop disturbing with loud music?
I once had a noisy neighbour who was very inconsiderate like yours. Talking to him, knocking on his door and writing him letters didn't help. You should look up the bylaws in your city and see if your ...
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Using reserved "disabled parking" with a disability people cannot see
It is rude and presumptuous of them to question whether you have a disability, especially since your car was marked. This is something I understand happens to a lot of people with invisible illnesses ...
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How do I convince my parents that I'm doing my best in class?
My best friend had something similar happen to her. Her mother wanted her to be the best. She pushed her to always study, get the best grades, get into the best university, graduate with honours, get ...
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How can I politely refuse to help classmates with their work?
I had to face the same problem with my classmates in my university often. After 2 years I decided to be clear about it. What I did was:
Do my work without telling them that I have already done it.
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What is the etiquette for smalltalk in a workplace when the context and person is always the same?
What is the standard/polite etiquette for 10 seconds of small talk in a workplace when you repeat the exact same process with the exact same person every single day?
I don't know if there's exactly a ...
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How do I politely end a cold call I've received?
The cold caller is working through a list, not trying to establish a relationship with you (other than getting your money). In that situation, "no thank you, I'm not interested -- please put me on ...
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How to ask your girlfriend to pay her share of the rent when she moves in?
The way you phrased your question, it sounds like you've asked your girlfriend to uproot her life and move 1000k, not out of love, but because you need someone to subsidize your rent. Now that might, ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
If possible, something should be done while it is happening.
Move. If you are sitting, ask him to get a you drink (or some other request that will allow you both to move). Then, while he gets up and ...
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How to acquire information from a confrontational stranger
What you said in the comments is relevant for my answer:
Directly asking the girl shows the group that i suspect everything IS NOT alright, and that puts the group in an opposing position to me and ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
Ideally you want to have conversations about this subject before it happens. Realistically, unless you want an awkward situation in the moment, you need to clarify expectations in advance.
Talk with ...
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How can I tell my aunt that I won't be 'Santa' next year
Try to evoke her sympathy
So this is a great Christmas get-together and everybody should have a good time. This is hardly something she could argue against. Try to evoke her sympathy by making clear ...
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How to ask your girlfriend to pay her share of the rent when she moves in?
You don't!!!
I mean you are moving in together. If she is actually your girlfriend and someone you care about, then you prepare yourself to support her. If you can't do that, then you have no ...
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How can I tell my aunt that I won't be 'Santa' next year
This feels like an XY problem... (not saying this question is an XY problem, just the situation that prompted it)
Your aunt is upset about her daughter and rather than addressing that, she had drinks ...
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How to start a conversation with an introvert/nerdy classmate?
Your approach might work if she has noticed you and is also interested in you. However, if she hasn't noticed you or she's noticed and isn't interested, then such a blunt approach is likely to make ...
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How can I politely refuse to help classmates with their work?
Realize that you are also saying no for their own sake.
To me, it seems that you are not at all unwilling to help. You will definitely help them if they face an actual difficulty. What you are ...
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How do I politely end a cold call I've received?
It's like they have a plan of pitch depending upon which responses of rejection they receive.
Yes. They usually have a script to follow.
In the late '90s, the Dutch privacy artist EGBG (real name ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
Apart from the aforementioned discussion with your partner, a very simple, subtle, non-confrontational approach is to ask for an introduction.
Something along the lines of:
"Hey, honey¹ why don't ...
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What is the etiquette regarding ordering food at a restaurant if someone is late?
For a big group, I think waiting is expected. How long, though, is dependent on a lot of things.
Is the person habitually late? Is the restaurant filled to capacity? Do some members of the party have ...
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How to deal with someone who won't leave me alone?
I experienced almost the exact same thing when I worked in a small shop some 26 years ago. Over the two years I worked in there on minimum wage there were a few 'customers' that would come in several ...
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Managing a bad temper in close relationships
One strategy for coping with these kinds of issues is meta-talk. Much like SE sites each have an associated meta site, take a moment when you and the other person are both calm, and talk about how ...
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How to manage someone flirting with my partner at a party?
There are good answers here already about how to directly either get out of that situation or address the issue with your partner, but I'm going to take a different approach and suggest a shift in ...
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How do I get my neighbour to stop disturbing with loud music?
From your post, at least to me, you've tried almost everything a civilized person can do.
Time for action now! As what I'm thinking right now isn't per se an IPS solution, I'll focus on another way to ...
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